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Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by maduxs: 5:56pm On May 19, 2020 |
Do you know the sacrifices his family made on his behalf ? Go and sit down 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Sarang(f): 5:59pm On May 19, 2020 |
He is very unreasonable The people he is sending money to have built their houses and he is still renting.. Is this not wickedness To commenter above, has he not paid enough for whatever sacrifices? If he happen to die tomorrow now his kids will start suffering and forgive me when I say his siblings would probably not give a shit! 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Dollabiz: 6:00pm On May 19, 2020 |
really |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by poshestmina(f): 6:01pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e: I'd advise you don't tell him. He might end up frustrating your efforts . And buy any landed properties in YOUR name. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by akanbiaa(m): 6:02pm On May 19, 2020 |
ProfAmaben:I understand your point now, you are a believer in empowerement such that only the lazy sibling not willing to work will be left alone but the serious ones will get your help and when in need you will try to connect then to get job to do. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Nobody: 6:05pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e:Don't waste your energy not including his name, by the law of marriage, once you get married you lose the right to own property in your name. What this means is that, if there is a need for divorce the property will be treated as marital assets and split between the spouse. It doesn't matter whose name is on it. Goodluck 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by gabicon: 6:09pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e: This real problem here is not that your husband is giving his money to his family, the problem here is that your family doesn't have a financial plan. If there is no financial plan there is no budget and if there is no budget monies will find their way to whatever calls it. I will suggest you guys go see a councillor to help you through this, normally family financial plan ought to be created before you wedding day, the longer it takes to create one the more difficult it is to adapt to it. Get help and get it fast. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by izubext007: 6:13pm On May 19, 2020 |
what you would do is to buy the land with out his knowledge, since he is yet to mature and leave his father's house to clich with his family. he his still a toy boy in his family hands. lastly be prayer full it could be voodoo powers that they are using on him, because ,may be, they never wanted him to marry you at the first place. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Chukspaul78: 6:15pm On May 19, 2020 |
Don't go and buy a land without ur husband's name written in the paper or documents make him the head in everything u do, I believe he's a very nice man that forgotten about his own future and family to that of his siblings get the land made him start investing on it. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by flakesy01(f): 6:15pm On May 19, 2020 |
Yabaleft: This one Odikwa serious. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Chimasoka: 6:16pm On May 19, 2020 |
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Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by katheeroh: 6:17pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e: my dad is also like your husband .....may God punish them. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Briller: 6:18pm On May 19, 2020 |
STARGREEN: I pray you don't find yourself in her position. You would do even worse. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by TruthDefender(m): 6:20pm On May 19, 2020 |
Most people keep commenting : ' When he dies, you and the kids won't get anything from his family" etc or something to that effect . I notice even misguided men without much life experience are echoing these sentiment. Question : What makes y'all so sure the husband will die first ? Why not give your advice with an open mind ,one way or the other without mentioning his imminent death. You are not God. The female may end up dying first. What the happens to the man and his kids,that she claims he's neglecting. Think outside the box while giving your opinions.. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Briller: 6:21pm On May 19, 2020 |
bukatyne: She might not call them that if he were responsible enough to provide for her and the children. There's absolutely nothing wrong in giving, but don't do that at the expense of your immediate family. It hurts badly. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Snaagg(m): 6:23pm On May 19, 2020 |
pocohantas: But you don't have a husband though Single ladies in their 30s always form bravado online but in reality, na your type dey mumu for husband pass 10 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Chimasoka: 6:29pm On May 19, 2020 |
[quote author=Anni3e post=89699273]Hi, I have been married for 9 years now, the problem I have with my husband is that his family members keep sucking him dry and the way he neglects us his immediate family. He is the first child of 7 children, his siblings even the married ladies keep asking him for money. He keeps spending money on them and their husbands. His brothers keep crying they are broke, they keep leeching off him. His two junior brothers that always ask him for money, one of them built a house in Port Harcourt and the other one built a big house in the village. Still they won't let him rest. His married sisters are the worst. If they cough they would call him to send money, every minor thing they would expect money. Just this evening his sister called him to ask for money. We don't have a house of our own, I keep telling my husband to stop giving in to all their demands and invest the money on something, he would say I am turning him against his family. We have 2 kids and I have told him we need to start saving for their future, I pay the electricity bill, foodstuffs, and most times the children school fees, he pays the house rent and rarely keeps money for home upkeep, he sometimes drops two thousand and that's it for the whole week. He always complains he has no more, but once his family calls him he sends money immediately. I have saved enough to buy a land and I am not planning to include his name in the property. I don't know what to deal with, his family entitlement mentality or the way he neglects the kids and I and treat us like outsiders. I am really pissed off and tired. Sorry for the long post. Addiction Took Over My Marriage 5 Things That Will Ruin Your Marriage https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4u95_hDd-eU |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by crackland: 6:34pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e:All this hyperventilation because you're not sharing bills with your husband. How is that my fault? If you were really a provider and not one of the cave women, I see no reason why you should feel insulted by my comment. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by hennylove(f): 6:36pm On May 19, 2020 |
vickydevoka:we do share bills but I only concentrate on feeding totally which you know it's expensive. What is good man does it mean if I am not working he will not do these things? I want him to grow up and learn how to do things like a man should do. He has a lot of misplaced priorities which is making me do too much that I forget to take care of my personal needs. I have talked for over ten years and decided to start acting. For the first time we couldn't pay rent at the right time because he was waiting for rent from me as usual while he has been sending bulk of his money to his people instead of thinking of rent. I have over tried and made him too nonchalant. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Briller: 6:36pm On May 19, 2020 |
mrblessed: This is the dumbest response to this thread. You obviously have no experience whatsoever in matters of marriage. I have seen it happen over and again. It has nothing to do with the woman's approach. It stems from the unrealistic Messiah ship attitude of some of these men, trying to prove to the world that they have arrived and nice Meanwhile, most of them cannot as much as provide ordinary meal to their immediate family. Just imagine, giving her #2000 as upkeep. That's callous and wicked. Is that the division you were referring to that she brought with her into the marriage? Anyways, I am consoled by the saying that what goes around, comes around. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Snaagg(m): 6:39pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e: So uncouth! Have you ever stopped to think that maybe your husband's behaviour is as a result of your bitter and nasty attitude? Perhaps he sees his family members as a more viable investment over you.. Please go ahead and secure your own future and that of your kids.. because I'm sure that nigga is planning his own without you. 8 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by OVB123: 6:42pm On May 19, 2020 |
If u have a son for him, they is no need not to include his name in the landed document u want to buy because @ d end d house/land will b c as a family house. God forbid even if he dies 2moro d land or house aumatically become d first son inheritance. Pls, because of ur children, don't buy any land without d consent of ur husband. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by 2ScrewsLoose: 6:45pm On May 19, 2020 |
STARGREEN:Very bad woman 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by ProfAmaben(m): 6:45pm On May 19, 2020 |
akanbiaa:Exactly!!! |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Cj4charles(m): 6:45pm On May 19, 2020 |
STARGREEN:my broda i think say na only me see that part, and was Wondering if it's N2000 he gives her that she used in getting such## let's be truthful for once 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by pocohantas(f): 6:47pm On May 19, 2020 |
Snaagg: Of course, it hurts you that some women do not carry your matter for head. This gives credence to my point. Sisters, don’t kill yourself over man troubles, they like it ooo!!! The ones that have horseband, how far? Everyday thread for Nairaland. So much for being antagonized for not having one. Looks like no woman must escape the hell you all bring. Hahahahahaha! 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by DanjaNinja(m): 6:53pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e: Madam please dont listen to these people, they have never been in your shoes. I have an uncle who was exactly like your Husband. He was one of the biggest Shell contractors in Delta State. in the 90's. Growing up, this man's house was like Mecca. Every morning, you would find all kinds of people going there to ask for money. My uncle never said no. He gave, gave and gave. This man lived in a rented 3 bedroom apartment and sadly failed to build his own house due to bad financial planning. There was this incident i would never forget - I had gone to spend the holiday with this my uncle. On that fateful morning i was outside sweeping the compound when a lady approached and asked to know where a certain man lived. I told the lady the man she described was my uncle and this was his apartment, the lady refused to believe me and instead told me that the man she was looking for (my uncle) was not poor and would never live in such a place. I was only 9years old but i understood what she meant and it was hurtful. Today, my uncle has a stroke and is disabled. He is being sustained by the wife and kids. Till today, this man never built a house and has no meaningful investment. None of the people he helped has come to his aid. They all deserted him. So please, buy that land. Don't even involve your husband as he may squander your cash. Never put his name in any property you buy as his family members may take those properties in the event of his passing. Be very careful and smart about your finances, think of you and your kids First! If your husband is not interested in investments, invest by yourself. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by pocohantas(f): 6:56pm On May 19, 2020 |
crackland: She simply said you should shut up more, that is if being objective is so hard. Your reputation precedes you. You actually feel triggered by every thread, why? Are you not really a man? Why do you also see the need to be everywhere? Your answer is the same reason she replied you. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by DanjaNinja(m): 6:57pm On May 19, 2020 |
DBestDoc: God bless you for running sis. I had an uncle just like this. It ended in tears. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by ghettochild(m): 6:57pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e:Give me ur husband num. Make I swear for am.. And mind u.. Jejely build ur house ooo n don't include him n don't even let him know.. This is for ur own sake n for ur kids.... A wise wife knows the right to do.. Since ur husband is foolish n doesn't want to build his own home... And still wouldn't listen to u his wife.. Maybe they have jazzed him. Anyways if na jazz sef him eye for Don clear.. But it appears ur hubby loves his bro n sis more than himself.. Las Las just build ur own house jejely jejely 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by soderican(m): 6:59pm On May 19, 2020 |
ProfAmaben:Pls how does this program work? Would like to do the same for my kid bro. Any information will be helpful |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Kenstufez: 7:00pm On May 19, 2020 |
You're so much on point! eazzzy1: |
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