I ended a long term relationship with a lady who should be a "9" to many and for many reasons, I still can't explain why. I said we were incompatible, but deep down, I just wanted to be single. I don't like the tag and responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. While dating, there were times I would just be with friends or alone doing research etc but will forget to call or text.. etc. I honestly didn't care. I do like things done a certain way, also the fact that I have to always be the "rock", handling tensions or situations, isn't something I saw much gain from. It got to the point the nagging increased, then would look like sex was hung over my head as a reward. I didn't care. I then broke up.

At this point, I don't think I will commit unless I want to get married.
My ex calls me cold from it, however, I still don't feel a thing, I pretend to care, but I actually feel relief. This is the 2nd person it is happening with. Is this normal?

So you like self satisfying

I like your honesty.
Peer pressure is far from you.

Also had another girl who we got along, but had to end when she asked for a relationship. I think part of me questions all the stress a guy has to go through to be in a relationship. To add to it is the constant worry if she will cheat if you fail to meet her needs. I think I d rather not take that responsibility

we all say that, once in our life. being single is never good but is better we remain single than in a relationship with the devil.
we sometimes can't know an angle when we d'nt try to date. and when we date, we always meet different type of devils and angles along the way of dating.
Most time we discard the angles in our life because of so many reason best know to us, not knowing no body is perfect we are just working to a life of perfection, most times after leaving such angle we tend to regret afterwords.
For those that did not miss the opportunity of identifying the angle in their life on time, wife or husband such individual and try to move themselves to a life of perfection.
while we that never really tend to know what we have onstill we lose it by testing the waters of time, are either leaving a life of regret or managing the devil we are with now (half bread is better than none) or have decided to leave a lonely life which is against nature itself, nature knows what best for the universe that why every thing in it comes in two.
now the devil makes our life a living hell, eating up our finances or our emotional life or our self esteem or our ability to reason in the right direction. after successfully running us down in all or some ramification they leave us to suffer our losses along .
suffering our losses along tend to affect us in different ways, some people d'nt really show this physically and that is the most dangerous kind of lost suffering, that many occasions leads to sucide while some repress it physically by turning into the devil which once made them this way.
the strong once move on(not easy) and they either d'nt date again or keep testing the waters.
Relationship is a very huge part of our human life, it tends to make 60% of what we achieve and what becomes of our life in the nearest future. we have to be very careful when choosing a relationship partner.
a survey was carried out and it was discovered that the best relationship or marriage is one with friends.. because most times being friends with an opposite sex make one to discover the flows in human.
you as an individual have to discover your own flows, work on them or find someone that has the ability to leave happy with you with does flows of yours and vas via sia. being along is not and never a good thing, you are upsetting the balance of the universe.
make I come they go

I don't like being single. it's tiring. I want to mingle.

WhiteJacket:
I ended a long term relationship with a lady who should be a "9" to many and for many reasons, I still can't explain why. I said we were incompatible, but deep down, I just wanted to be single. I don't like the tag and responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. While dating, there were times I would just be with friends or alone doing research etc but will forget to call or text.. etc. I honestly didn't care. I do like things done a certain way, also the fact that I have to always be the "rock", handling tensions or situations, isn't something I saw much gain from. It got to the point the nagging increased, then would look like sex was hung over my head as a reward. I didn't care. I then broke up.

At this point, I don't think I will commit unless I want to get married.
My ex calls me cold from it, however, I still don't feel a thing, I pretend to care, but I actually feel relief. This is the 2nd person it is happening with. Is this normal?

So you think marriage would be any better with your selfish state of mind? Lolzzzz

You made the best decision
Now you just successfully minus liability from your life

Same here, i can't chase any girl for sex(that's what most relationships amount to), I'd rather buy it, if i date again its for marriage

WhiteJacket:
I ended a long term relationship with a lady who should be a "9" to many and for many reasons, I still can't explain why. I said we were incompatible, but deep down, I just wanted to be single. I don't like the tag and responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. While dating, there were times I would just be with friends or alone doing research etc but will forget to call or text.. etc. I honestly didn't care. I do like things done a certain way, also the fact that I have to always be the "rock", handling tensions or situations, isn't something I saw much gain from. It got to the point the nagging increased, then would look like sex was hung over my head as a reward. I didn't care. I then broke up.

At this point, I don't think I will commit unless I want to get married.
My ex calls me cold from it, however, I still don't feel a thing, I pretend to care, but I actually feel relief. This is the 2nd person it is happening with. Is this normal?

You feel at peace when your single.

It’s a good thing you broke up and didn’t extend her misery.

If you had stayed on, that would have been really toxic.

It's good to know yourself.

AfroKnight:
It’s a good thing you broke up and didn’t extend her misery.

If you had stayed on, that would have been really toxic.

It was almost getting there.. I was just acting along. But couldn't keep on. I sometimes feel the tag adds too much expectations on a guy

SweetCunt97:
So you think marriage would be any better with your selfish state of mind? Lolzzzz

I know I will have to change all of this then, it's why it's at the back end of my mind right now

I hate being single. Loneliness is not good at all