Acmepreneur:

He's a billionaire in his head and the job is too small for him

why casting him

We all know dat is true and mind u he is working oh

Acmepreneur:

Hmmn
I think I will just look for a fine guy to give birth for. And take it that men are useless, and thus there won't be any fight. My beautiful children would be my happiness. I can't date any guy again and be witnessing rubbish. I don't have heart to argue or anything.
If I go into labour, then I'm doing that to give birth to a beautiful baby,so that it worth is very well.

you just open this thread to bash men.

Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect [/quote]

Already you have made it clear that 95% of men are dishonest so I don't think you are going to get a honest advise here.

So I advise you go to the 100% honest women forum to get honest advise.

Beatswim:
aunty the way u are going.. U will marry late oo.. Why not support him in his chosen career both financially and prayers or better still if your aspirations are bigger than your spouse, u will still end up in divorce nooni.. because the way i see u, u want a perfect financial life in marriage.. Pls just think about what u first.. Are u ready for your perfect life without him or imperfect life with him

don't mind her
If she knows dis,does she know dat?
She 4got dat once God pick a man's call even if him no wear jarsey,he go play d match.

Acmepreneur:

I don't earn anything substantial for now. I don't work. But I do teach online and earn little PayPal through my online skills, and I am building some business underneath which I plan to launch. I'm also applying for scholarships for my PhD, applying for jobs, and processing Canada

so u even have a masters? What has that done for you yet. Sister village pple are still talking about your matter, dont teach sucess to someone if ur not sucessful yet, as far as am concern, ur boyfriend is a genuis wey u are

My sister breakup. Buy clay mould your husband and put functions in him. Lorbish

Godoverevery:

leech mentality...why not encourage the lady to go make money instead of complaining of her bf money.
she is insecure.....dat why I hate nairaland ladies....bunch of jobless leech.

imagine her analysis her bf take home.....what is she bringing to the table financially

she should run and find another guy she can leech on...... rather than getting her lazy ass to work.


ladies that are millionaires with there sweat have two head.

she thinks she is smart

Acmepreneur:
This my guy is not serious at all.

I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people.

When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all.
My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot.

I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams.

My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all.
I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc

Our fight now

Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla

Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc.

Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless.

Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it.

My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university.

So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born.

Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass.

He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla

He will not apply for better jobs as well
He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools.

So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it.

He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs.

The problem
1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest

2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky.
His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate.

3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends

4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care

5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car,

6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship

7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night

Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect

Wow it seems you're a young, driven and ambitious lady. The type that will. Make a king out of a man.
Biko DM me I have very very useful information for you. I'm not joking o.

elektra:
You have dream, you have dream.

What are you doing about your own dreams

Abi your work is to be dreaming up and down?

She has a dream, a masters, and soon a PhD with several awards as best student BSc and MSc but no shi shi. So the business an is for the guy while she sits in front of the car and answer Mrs. [color=#990000][/color]

Tripitaka:
"I told him to"
"I want him to"
"I warned him not to"
"I advised him to"
"He wouldn't listen to me" and all the other stuffs.

It appears to me that you are foisting your opinion, choices and wishes on your partner. You want him to live his life your way, pursue his dreams following your chart and run his race with you as guide. Perhaps you want to be the Kapellmeister while you lead the orchestra that is his life.

If he were to follow your advise and it backfires or doesnt yield the expected fruit, who would take responsibility? There is something some of us do not acknowledge which is that not everyone wants to be wealthy, some people just want to be successful at what they do, some people just want to lead a simple and fulfilled life.

I also find your intentions questionable. Do you have all those "nice thoughts" for him because you love and wish him well, or because you want him wealthy enough to marry you next year and give you "the life"? Its a shame that you say you're not proud of someone ou claim to love and painting him as some loser.

There comes a time in the life of a man when he wants to do things his own way, steer his own ship, make his own mistakes and celebrate his own little victories.

I would have asked you to talk to him, but I believe you guys have talked about this over and over. So, the choice is yours to walk or stay

One bottle of beer for you.

My dear sister its better you move forward than keep roaming in the same spot cos you getting older and more ova getting into another relationship u will need to studies each other before you get married to another man so pls move on cos of your age unlike men that even get married to young girls

Acmepreneur:

Hmmn
I think I will just look for a fine guy to give birth for. And take it that men are useless, and thus there won't be any fight. My beautiful children would be my happiness. I can't date any guy again and be witnessing rubbish. I don't have heart to argue or anything.
If I go into labour, then I'm doing that to give birth to a beautiful baby,so that it worth is very well.

You don't need advice.

You are a damaged piece of shît.

Now, you can run along and save the life of that poor boy.

Acmepreneur:
This my guy is not serious at all.

I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people.

When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all.
My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot.

I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams.

My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all.
I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc

Our fight now

Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla

Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc.

Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless.

Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it.

My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university.

So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born.

Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass.

He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla

He will not apply for better jobs as well
He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools.

So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it.

He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs.

The problem
1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest

2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky.
His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate.

3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends

4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care

5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car,

6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship

7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night

Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect

There is a price for every desire. If you want honesty at all cost and he is honest then consider other things you are not comfortable with as the price you pay for having the honesty you so much crave for. You can't have all in one.

Leach and parasite..

funmisticqueen2:
this is why I say it's not good to date men with potential. Many of them are unserious. By their actions you will know them.


Breaking up with him is a good decision. Wear your high heels sisi. Better men areout there

Omobola121:
No girl! you're pushing him too hard. This your attitude is liken to some of our Nigerian motivational speakers who are just full of "talks" and audio money, plans etc. When advising someone, you don't force the person to take your advice rather, you allow them to decide on which ways they want to go.

I understand you're trying to secure your future but what's stopping you from making the money too? There is nothing bad if you're the one with the money.

You keep on talking about you're the best bla bla, babe, that your mentality is not needed in the street world. Your certificates doesn't mean it will bring you millions of naira immediately. And if you're that good, your schools would have retained you by now coupled with the fact that you're young.

I'm a female like you, will be 26 by August and I graduated as one of the best students in my department. When I graduated, I had the intention of furthering my education quickly but along the line, I decided to delve into some business just to have the feelings of the real world.

During my service year, I ventured into so many businesses ( yam business, palm oil business, rice business etc). There was a post I made on Yam business here some years ago and I am glad I was able to help some people who called. Along the line, I took form for my masters and I was given admission but I rejected it because I didn't want to leave my business ( it needed my full attention) and it might affect my program too.

Few months after my service, I got a state job in one of the state polytechnic and I applied for my masters again. Now I'm done with it and getting prepared to take PHD form. And for the record, I don't deals in thousands now,I'm beyond that.

The essence of my story is this, you don't motivate people with ordinary words of mouth but you motivate people with results.

You are there talking about big plans here and there( my dear, you no get plans reach me o) and you are not making effort to be better financially. I'm a realist too and I believe in seeing result.

All these talks will be given the poor guy headache. Stop disturbing him, work and focus on yourself. He will be intimidated when he sees you going far.

Thumbs up. Pls quote her so she can see what it means to dream big. She's going for PhD without a job that brings 20k in a mth. Has big ideas that are sexist as in only man can do that biz. Bla Bla Bla.

If the guy sees result from her and doesn't change then his village ppl really dey ontop his matter.

Millenniumlady:
Girl this is 2020 and if a man ain't ready to do all you want then boy bye.

Na so u go talk bye till d whole male population in Nigeria bangs u..

Madam! Ur problem is almost irredeemable... And if u continue like this... U will be very devastating... Change o

Your relationship with him is problematic and nothing to write home about. And also, try as much as you can to improve your English.

Your self esteem is damn low... Work on it!

Tripitaka:
"I told him to"
"I want him to"
"I warned him not to"
"I advised him to"
"He wouldn't listen to me" and all the other stuffs.

It appears to me that you are foisting your opinion, choices and wishes on your partner. You want him to live his life your way, pursue his dreams following your chart and run his race with you as guide. Perhaps you want to be the Kapellmeister while you lead the orchestra that is his life.

If he were to follow your advise and it backfires or doesnt yield the expected fruit, who would take responsibility? There is something some of us do not acknowledge which is that not everyone wants to be wealthy, some people just want to be successful at what they do, some people just want to lead a simple and fulfilled life.

I also find your intentions questionable. Do you have all those "nice thoughts" for him because you love and wish him well, or because you want him wealthy enough to marry you next year and give you "the life"? Its a shame that you say you're not proud of someone ou claim to love and painting him as some loser.

There comes a time in the life of a man when he wants to do things his own way, steer his own ship, make his own mistakes and celebrate his own little victories.

I would have asked you to talk to him, but I believe you guys have talked about this over and over. So, the choice is yours to walk or stay

God bless you. you just said my mind

Op. You are a frustrated, narcissistic, controlling delusional person. Enough of your braggadocio.
You don't sound intelligent, probably may be bookwise which translates to nothing in the real world. You are not a realist, you are just a frustrated dreamer.

Overall, you haven't seemed to bring into reality your so called plans and dreams, yet you whinging on how you expect your bf to get rich. You really disgust me.

So much noise on how intelligent you are yet you can't write to pass GRE or common IELTS. Intelligent people don't go on about telling the whole world how intelligent they are. It reflects in everything they do, their thoughts and actions. Yours is the opposite, probably telling us for self aggrandisement.

You are also a desperate person so much so that you have to transfer the agression on your bf most definitely as the last resort to your survival since your own so called plans or dreams not materializing.

You have lost hope in yourself, reason your bf has to be the one to make it by your means. Like your survival now depends entirely on him.

Nothing stops you from getting a menial job, making your own money. If it's that easy to do so. You have nothing and yet you are not proud of your bf let alone getting him to meet your "pseudo billionaire" parents who looks down on struggling men yet they can't fund your multi- billion dollars plans and dreams.

I blame your bf, for keeping you all the while when you got no job and being a broke ass. He should be the one thinking of dumping your broke ass. Why has he even introduced you to his parents? Knowing fully well that you are a jobless broke ass . Yet you can't do same.

You can see reasons now why I said you disgust me. I usually don't write long text. Your write up has prompted me to do so. Get a life and stop dreaming. Realist my ass. Shame.

Davidoff2000:


This is the part i was looking for since.. I just saw on page 3.

You are jobless, earn nothing, gallivant about posturing that you teach online, online enterpreneur, meanwhile thats just to make u seem like a serious person, with a job.

Just from reading your post, i just knew your situation- a woman with no tamgible.value asides what she feels is advice or psychological support.

This is not even a crime, except that you are so entitled and narcissistic. Only few have seen through you.

Why havent you put all this advice on yoursef in making yoursef better asides been a jobless masters holder with a boyfriend who ahe hopes to be her meal ticket?

All that whole advice use it for yourself na. You, you cant get job? Is it not.your mates that are working for MTN, GT, UN, Gates Foundation.etc? Dem get 4breasts?

You like developing innovations, big plans,ambitious etc. Which innovation you don ever develop, even if its just an app that recharges fones from with nepa meter. Or a water and sanitation (WASH) solution for impoverished communities.

Nonsense and ingredients. Looking for a meal ticket or a man to save her from generatiomal poverty.

Your boyfriend get enough fvk ups on his own, but you are his major fvck up sef.

Go hustle o, no be every problem, nyash go solve this year

Yeye dey smell

1. I'm developing an app already
2. I have solved many community problems, both during NYSC and after
3. I'm currently leading a whole senatorial district on a problem now.
I'm hustlinglol

MrDebonair:
Op. You are a frustrated, narcissistic, controlling delusional person. Enough of your braggadocio.
You don't sound intelligent, probably may be bookwise which translates to nothing in the real world. You are not a realist, you are just a frustrated dreamer.

Overall, you haven't seem to bring into reality your so called plans and dreams, yet you whinging on how you expect your bf to get rich. You really disgust me.

So much noise on how intelligent you are yet you can't write to pass GRE or common IELTS. Intelligent people don't go on about telling the whole world how intelligent they are. It reflects in everything they do, their thoughts and actions. Yours is the opposite, probably telling us for self aggrandisement.

You are also a desperate person so much so that you have to transfer the agression on your bf most definitely as the last resort to your survival since your own so called plans or dreams not materializing.

You have lost hope in yourself, reason your bf has to be the one to make it by your means. Like your survival now depends entirely on him.

Nothing stops you from getting a menial job, making your own money. If it's that easy to do so. You have nothing and yet you are not proud of your bf let alone getting him to meet your "pseudo billionaire" parents who looks down on struggling men yet they can't fund your multi- billion dollars plans and dreams.

I blame your bf, for keeping you all the while when you got no job and being a broke ass. He should be the one thinking of dumping your broke ass. Why has he even introduced you to his parents? Knowing fully well that you are a jobless broke ass . While you can't do same.

You can see reasons now why I said you disgust me. I usually don't write long text. Your write up has prompted me to do so. Get a life and stop dreaming. Realist my ass. Shame.

Lol, you are so pained,sorry ehn

MakyavelitheDon:



Wow it seems you're a young, driven and ambitious lady. The type that will. Make a king out of a man.
Biko DM me I have very very useful information for you. I'm not joking o.

I laugh in Swahili

FGonline:
you just open this thread to bash men.

Yes now, 95% of men are useless except my BG and father

eduwizard:


Wow! This is my dream girl. This is the type of woman I've been looking for. Babe, if you're reading this kindly reach out to me. If your boyfriend hasn't got big dreams and lacks acceleration, another guy does. And I am serious.

But you smoke, I don't like males that have account on NL, most of them smoke.

My sister, the only thing you have as a problem is low self esteem. You have portrayed yourself as being smart but you are not wise or do I say intelligent as much. I kind of understand your condition and situation owing to ur background, I as a guy face a similar issue, most times I think it is money that can solve problem, I want to satisfy my family, make my people happy and proud of me. I once had a girlfriend more like your guy but no matter how much you love him, its either you choose love over your dream and ambitions, but I bet you, a person of ur aspiration will regret choosing love. Work on yourself, make yourself that thing you want him to be, build a business for him and tell people he owns it. That way you will satisfy people that you want to , the only issue is will you be ok with yourself ? If not the problem is not about him! Its about you! You are someone with low self esteem with greedy nature who just try to make up excuses of fearing poverty and using his family background.We help who we claim to love, you havent helped him in anyway to become who you want him to be , you want a ready made man and just like that marry him and start living your dream.
My sister, what are you sacrificing? , Stop trying to use this gentle man!

Nat404:
Your relationship with him is problematic and nothing to write home about. And also, try as much as you can to improve your English.

Lol, Ode

Acmepreneur:

1. I'm developing an app already
2. I have solved many community problems, both during NYSC and after
3. I'm currently leading a whole senatorial district on a problem now.
I'm hustlinglol

How much has this brought to ur pocket upto 90k.
Lol, do something real my sister!

@OP you said you are broke and still have the effrontery to nag a young hustling manager to hustle more for some unborn children, you and his siblings. You are so cold hearted and that guy needs to put you in your place.
Call your mum in Texas to send him 2m naira and guide him through, until then dey your dey.

Ysquare98:
My sister, the only thing you have as a problem is low self esteem. You have portrayed yourself as being smart but you are not wise or do I say intelligent as much. I kind of understand your condition and situation owing to ur background, I as a guy face a similar issue, most times I think it is money that can solve problem, I want to satisfy my family, make my people happy and proud of me. I once had a girlfriend more like your guy but no matter how much you love him, its either you choose love over your dream and ambitions, but I bet you, a person of ur aspiration will regret choosing love. Work on yourself, make yourself that thing you want him to be, build a business for him and tell people he owns it. That way you will satisfy people that you want to , the only issue is will you be ok with yourself ? If not the problem is not about him! Its about you! You are someone with low self esteem with greedy nature who just try to make up excuses of fearing poverty and using his family background.We help who we claim to love, you havent helped him in anyway to become who you want him to be , you want a ready made man and just like that marry him and start living your dream.
My sister, what are you sacrificing? , Stop trying to use this gentle man!

This your comment and that of others strengthen my believe that many people in this part of the world ear A and their Braun call it B, which is the reason people are going through divorce so much today, because they tell those they are not supposed to tell their problems.
Anyway, I don't have low self esteem at all, in fact, my self esteem is extremely high, I have many goodies around me except money though. As far as smartness is concerned, maybe it's just coincidence and luck that made me always be the best in my classes till post graduate level, and won many awards since you think I'm not smart nor intelligent. Mumu people

Op. You have just confirmed to me that you are not as smart as you think or as intelligent as you claim to be.

Why would I be so pained when I can change your life for good. Arrant nonsense. Your life.... Your struggle not mine. I only said you disgust me.

Your lackadaisical behaviour could be reason why you are still the way you are with all your so called qualifications. Please don't be incorrigible.