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TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by farem: 7:04am On May 23, 2020 |
A MAN NOW SUFFERS FOR DENYING HIS WIFE A REGISTRY MARRIAGE “I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and then the issue of marriage came up. I wasn’t working then. He told my family and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no reason. _ My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged him severally to legalize his marriage with me but he stood his grounds not to wed me in a court. _ I involved his family members to help me beg him but they said, he’s old enough to make his decisions. _ He even refused to do a white wedding either because my church requested for a court certificate, so we ended up doing only traditional marriage. _ I later got tired and gave up on the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to marry him like that just to save myself and my family the shame of having a baby outside wedlock. _ My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to see me a successful and independent woman with or without him. _ After I gave birth to my baby, my dad helped me secure a job with a multinational company and things started to turn around for me. I could now take care of myself and secure a future. _ Though I married my husband, but I never forgave him from my heart and it made me not to do anything in my husband’s name. _ We currently have three kids together but all my properties are in the name of my children. I never used him as my next of kin either. _ Just last month my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the company is willing to pay for my entire family to relocate with me. _ My husband’s business is not doing too well and he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal certificate to show that we are married. Now he wants us to go to the court to legalize our marriage and I have said “No” My dad has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him to court. _ He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family also. His family members have been calling me trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old enough to make my decisions also and I have stood my ground just like he did to me nine years ago.” _ What is your advice for this young mother? Copied 1 Like |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by seunlayi(m): 7:07am On May 23, 2020 |
Hmmmmm, this is deep but it is happening all over to women as well as men but with time, their use to be a noticeable improvement/acceptance on the relationship. Firstly, The woman should sit her husband down and discuss with him, telling him about her grievances against him starting from the wedding issue and listened to what the husband will have to say about it, I am sure there was something about it. Secondly if the meeting is successful, she can go ahead and have another meeting with her dad, remembering him what she went thru, acknowledging her dad efforts towards her success, tell the father about the husband side and how she has forgiving her husband while informing her dad about positive changes noticed in the man...... Thirdly, she should proceed to beg the dad to have mercy on the man, to forgive him for her sake and that of the children. I m sure something positive will come out, her dad will reason.. Lastly, she should arrange a meeting with her dad and her husband to mark as a reunion and allow her dad to make more suggestions that will solidify the relationship against all unforeseen stormy weather. God bless your home 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by Davash222(m): 7:12am On May 23, 2020 |
So, Churches now request for court certificates before wedding ![]() 1 Like |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by Nobody: 7:34am On May 23, 2020 |
Davash222: Yes oooo..... some church are now asking...is it not the law of the land that authorized churches to carry out and issue papers of union....it’s just to give people their freedom of religious expression.... The truth is certificate from the church does not carry any weight...it’s just formality.... it’s not recognized for any official arrangement....so why would any sane person want to marry for ordinary paper if not to for easy exit when he needs to commit bigamy.... |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by jaeyking(m): 7:40am On May 23, 2020 |
Ave seen this story before. well I Ave always said I will bring up my daughters in such a way that they would see marriage as a mutual stuff and not as an achievement in life 1 Like |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by farem: 7:43am On May 23, 2020 |
Davash222: It has been like that for a long time. If you go for any Church wedding without a legal backing, you are not different from the status of traditional marriage. So if any Church conducting wedding without legal certificates, that church is either strangely igninant or the operator plainly deceitful |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by adebayour26: 8:29am On May 23, 2020 |
Sorry to say this, he messed up though, but from the way you've decided to purnish him, it doesn't look like you cherish your marriage. It looks to me that you're just in it because of your children and this is solely because you're now independent. That husband of yours too acted stupid then, ode ni. He acted as if he's not educated and doesn't know the legal implication of a court marriage, olodo 2 Likes |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by Mindlog: 8:53am On May 23, 2020 |
adebayour26: He did not act as if he is not educated nor not knowing the legality a court marriage confers but was well thought out as he didn't want to be legally tied down to the woman so that it will be easier to leave the union when he is no longer interested and easily remarry then the woman will less likely contest property with him even provisions for the children will be dependent on his moods. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by Nobody: 9:50am On May 23, 2020 |
How many times will this story be posted on this section? Mtcheeew. 2 Likes |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by cococandy(f): 10:00am On May 23, 2020 |
Well you already know what to do. Chances are he will get there and go crazy over light skin girls like he’s never seen a woman in his life before. Treat people how they treat you. He probably thought court marriage will give you a leg to stand on legally in case he wants to do you dirty. And he didn’t want to give you that. Turns out he did himself dirty. 7 Likes |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by FlutterDollar99(m): 1:39pm On May 23, 2020 |
Well |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by FlutterDollar99(m): 1:45pm On May 23, 2020 |
jaeyking: Women are wired to think that way. Read the story from start to end, they feel entitled to marriage and they will always feel entitled till the end of the world. The guy even did traditional marriage to please her, but now she feels he did her wrong because he wasn't capable of a court wedding then. 1 Like |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by luvmijeje(f): 1:49pm On May 23, 2020 |
Forgiveness. She must forgive him. An eye for an eye makes the world goes blind. He is still his husband. He is still the father of his children. He is still his lover. |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by MummyIMadeIt: 2:05pm On May 23, 2020 |
Woman what if it was the other way around, would you husband do the necessary thing to take you and your children along as a family. Anyways this story is half baked, as the lady doesn't state any other reason for her grudge except her man not wanting to follow the right procedure. 1 Like |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by fELiscatus: 2:16pm On May 23, 2020 |
Lol, I love this story I am sure the mumu husband denied her legal marriage because he wanted to have upper hand over her in case of when he wanted to either end the marriage or if he wants to marry another wife. Serves his wicked ass right 1 Like |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by Sixfeetbelle: 3:03pm On May 23, 2020 |
seunlayi: She should not accept the man or listen to his reasons or any of that crap you wrote up there. He had his reasons for his actions back then and he should reap what he sowed. There was a thread sometime ago about the wusdom of court marriages. Right there, 95% of the men were strongly against court wedding, citing issues that favored only them just because they didn't want to share their stupid properties with their wife as if marriage was an individual race. This man is among that statistics and should lay on the bed he made. Nonsense. 5 Likes |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by doitforyou(f): 3:10pm On May 23, 2020 |
cococandy:LMFAO 2 Likes |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by doitforyou(f): 3:14pm On May 23, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:Chances are he will make her life difficult in Texas. He should sit his ass in Nigeria. 8 Likes |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by Sixfeetbelle: 3:21pm On May 23, 2020 |
doitforyou: Exactly. Men who only warm up to you when they need something from you. Trust me to say that if his business was flowing, he'd be against this move. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by mignone(f): 5:05pm On May 23, 2020 |
She should think it through cos a man who cld be adamant to legally marry his wife of nine yrs&with three kids cld be dangerous. Who knws his reason? Now he's d one seeking what he'd sworn nt to do nw that he sees an opportunity in d same woman. The woman had better be very tactful. |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by mignone(f): 5:20pm On May 23, 2020 |
FlutterDollar99:Capable u say? Doesn't going to a marriage registry cost less than d trad? |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by frozen70(f): 7:54am On May 24, 2020 |
farem: At times, men who claim to be hard take decisions that affects them on the long run He deserves whatever decision you will be taking Your idea of getting properties on your children names was a good one because he was behaving as if he has another plan You can still travel without him, but if you wish to travel with him, you can do so He is already what he made himself |
Re: TRUE LIFE STORY: What A Man Went Through In Life for Doing This To His Wife by Nobody: 6:35pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
False story. |
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