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Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by ApostleAnarchy(m): 3:51pm On May 25, 2020 |
Good day people. I have really wanted to share my life-threatening weakness with someone but unfortunately, i have no one.. let me begin We all have some imperfections/weaknesses, some might be physical disabilities, hair baldness, mental disabilities etc. It can come in any form as long as its something that you see and regret in yourself everyday you wake up. I am 20 and i discovered mine when i was 16.. On entering university, i discovered i couldn't really communicate with anyone in school and i detested public places, people hated me naturally and never came close to me.wherever i went, people talked silently about me. Whenever i tried going against this weakness to try and kick off any conversation whatsoever, physical symptoms like; sweating, shaky limbs,loss of words, uncomfortability etc manifested.. After few weeks in the university, i lied to my parent that i hated my course and that i couldn't cope.. In summary; I dropped out just like that After staying idle at home for years, i got a decent job which i really cherished, i worked for about a month there, trying my best to hide my weakness but on entering my second month of work there, things changed and my weakness made me quit. Beginning of this year, i noticed that it has also began affecting my relationship with close relatives and most have begun moving away from me. They say i am immature and a snub. They don't want to have anything to do with me anymore. My parent is threatening that i need to leave his house very soon as i am now a man but my weakness makes me so weak.. I am not bad looking but due to this weakness, i have never had a girlfriend. I push all the girls that want to know me away with this weakness.. Parents Should not only give their kids food and put them in schools, they should also communicate deeply with them. I was a victim of a broken home and i stay with my abusive father. As a child, i suffered from neglect because no one cared about me and now, its threatening my existence on Earth. Whenever i remember how lonely and empty i am, i weep cos i am not equipped to stay alife. Please advice me because am tired. I have tried being social but my weakness always destroys everything. I feel hopeless |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by KingSatan: 3:52pm On May 25, 2020 |
My boy, your current predicament gives credence to this statement, "When the marriage fails, the children suffers". I am so sorry you are going through all these. You have lost your self esteem due to the situation surrounding your birth and your father's attitudinal changes. I believe he flogged and scolded you into introversion. He totally destroyed your self esteem. If you were in Abuja, I would have refered you to my NGO. We help depressed people and others with mental challenges free of charge. But I want to tell you something son, you are close to healing. I have seen your case over a million times but for you to SPEAK UP, then you are close to healing. You only need follow up. One thing that happens is that you cannot talk to anyone about your problems because those close to you are the major reason why you developed that problem. Now that you have spoken up, i wish someone here could take it up as a responsibility to call you, while another visits you and rebuild that self confidence. Don't give up son. You are close to winning the fight. I love you. "Addendum" I challenge some people here to call this young man and encourage him just for humanity sake. To you my son, if you don't mind, please drop your phone number (Temporary) and geographical location. Someone close might visit you (Must be a public place for a start) and build a relationship with you. You need all the help and support available now. 14 Likes |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by reubenobi(m): 3:59pm On May 25, 2020 |
Sorry about your predicament. You really have to overcome such fear, it's hindering you. |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by Oluromantic: 3:59pm On May 25, 2020 |
My colleague. I hail you cus I know you will overcome like me too. I'm also from a broken home and I lived with my abusive mother who also neglected me. For so long I was timid but when the boldness came, ppl started becoming scared of me that I had to watch it so as not to misbehave against superiors or scare great friends and girlfriends away from me. Even my mom is now afraid of me. I'm core introvert and mildly extrovert. My advice for you is... stay strong and stop thinking of suicide. You're still young, you're 20, you will overcome it in due time that you'll even have to be watchful so as not to become overbold. You can tell any snr friend of yours who you think is enlightened enough to understand ur psychic.. that's if there is, but if there isn't, it will be a matter of time for you to overcome it. 2 Likes |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by cyndylove64(f): 4:00pm On May 25, 2020 |
My dear,try to do wat makes you happy.it is said a broken home & abusive father affect one self esteem# try to speak up #also get a job that will make u stay away from your father#if he don't see u everyday he can't hurt u#read novels,listen to music watch movies#above all keep your self happy# nobody can make u happy # always remember there is a bright light shinning for u 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by IceLip: 4:00pm On May 25, 2020 |
KingSatan: |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by cyndylove64(f): 4:05pm On May 25, 2020 |
Remember we love u here on nairaland# u have families on nairaland waiting for ur success story# people who are proud of u.I love u 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by DanseMacabre(m): 4:08pm On May 25, 2020 |
Try and seek professional help from a psychologist. Otherwise it might end in tears. |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by adontcare(f): 4:10pm On May 25, 2020 |
This world is survival of the fittest. Dust urself up and pick up ur pieces. U will make it if u choose to |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by DanseMacabre(m): 4:10pm On May 25, 2020 |
KingSatan: How you expect to be taken serious by right-thinking individuals with your moniker is mindboggling. 2 Likes |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by KingSatan: 4:16pm On May 25, 2020 |
DanseMacabre: A right thinking individual who is not lost to religious bigotry and truly educated would take me serious. Everybody doest have to be a CHRISTIAN, MUSLIM, HINDU, BUDDHIST, SHINTO etc. If you are truthful to yourself, you will realise that those who practice your chosen religion have done you more harm in life than others who don't practice that religion. Stop being stupid on the internet my son. Open your mind to new knowledge. Ask questions if you are confused and make your choice based on conviction. Have you seen me attack any Christian or Muslim before? There is no need for that. I read the Bible, Quran, Hadith etc 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by Nobody: 4:22pm On May 25, 2020 |
You can bounce back Meanwhile read and believe this 3 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by KingSatan: 4:22pm On May 25, 2020 |
Moderator OAM4J and Mynd44 save a life by sharing this post to the frontpage. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by DanseMacabre(m): 4:24pm On May 25, 2020 |
KingSatan: Lol I don't know what you wrote up there. I'm just saying that it will be difficult for an average Nigerian to trust to meet with you or someone from you, just as you asked the OP. I don't have any problem with your posts, in fact they even 'contradict' your moniker. Good day. |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by Apination(m): 4:27pm On May 25, 2020 |
ApostleAnarchy:Listen to this song "Drop it at my feet" by Frank Edwards and then seek Jesus. You cannot help yourself,neither can anyone here on nairaland for the void you feel can only be filled by the Holy Spirit. This isn't a case of being an introvert, Do not give up, your destiny is yet to be fulfilled and I know it's bright. The battle you are fighting is not yours it's the Lord's. 4 Likes |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by chucks185: 4:28pm On May 25, 2020 |
I think you re introvert and a large number of people are like that. the difference is, a good number of them have learnt to manage being introvert. you'll be better as you grow older. the hack is for you to stop giving a Bleep if people like you or not. and start being yourself. people hate you because you hate yourself. people will definately like you if you start liking yourself 4 Likes |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by KingSatan: 4:32pm On May 25, 2020 |
DanseMacabre: Well, i understand you now. I have done business with many Nairalanders (I buy from them) but they don't know it's the Kingsatan they always criticize ![]() Anyway, i was only going to give him the address to my facility. He wouldn't be meeting me but other professionals who will attend to him. An Average Nigerian is either Christian or Muslim and they both have one thing in common. A Satan that causes misfortunes. ![]() ![]() Meanwhile within their folks, they still kill themselves and as usual, they blame it on "Satan". It's extremely dificult to reeducate an Average Nigerian. Especially on religious matters. So it's best to live and let live. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by KingSatan: 4:37pm On May 25, 2020 |
Apination: This is not a case of "Being an Introvert" ![]() ![]() ![]() You cannot help yourself, neither can anyone here on Nairaland ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Can you hear yourself talk? If only you realise that your pastor, imam, religious leaders also seek medical advice and treatment both here and abroad, you will weep for how many years you lived in ignorance. No one on Nairaland can help him but you ran to Nairaland believing that someone here can help you with a job. How you religious folks think is something i cannot comprehend. Cheers 2 Likes
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Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by Godlovesyou28: 4:40pm On May 25, 2020 |
Hello, you are really not alone in what you're going through; but the key here is the knowing that God loves you more than you will ever know and more than any human being could ever love you. I grew up under almost similar but worse environment but got all my positive affirmation from God not anybody else; I almost dropped out from school too but I trusted God to the point that today I can't believe how far he has brought me to a place of complete independence. People like you are usually very gifted but the devil strikes early in their lives to corrupt their foundation and plant his evil seeds in order to destroy your future. Everyday is a battle and You can be equipped with the weapon to excel... Send me a message and I'll be out to give you the assistance you may need; many people at one time or the other have been beaten to the point of contemplating suicide but its the worse decision with very eternally grievous consequences. Stay strong... Help is on the way. 3 Likes |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by Apination(m): 4:48pm On May 25, 2020 |
KingSatan:He never said he had medical issues, he spoke of neglect and a lack of love from childhood which ultimately made him go into his shell and withdrawn. Even an extrovert under such condition could end up in such a state, and talking to a doctor or seeking whatever medical advise isn't an assurance that he will feel any better. You didn't suggest any possible or workable solution on the issue but like a rabid dog high on shit looking for who to attack went on to quote me. You need to take to the medical advise you are proposing first because it's obvious you are psychologically imbalance ![]() And you had to make reference to my thread on my job hunt as though it's out of place or related to the problem discussed. You really need help, because you are sick ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by KingSatan: 4:57pm On May 25, 2020 |
Apination: What do you know about human psychology and psychotherapy? What do you know about depression being a mental disorder? Obviously your mind is limited within the bounds of religion and your immediate environment. When you have financial and employment challenges, you leave the church and run to Nairaland. But when faced with a minor or major mental disorder, you encourage the vicitm to listen to "Frank Edwards song". No doubts, there are special songs for this kind of challenge, but not the one you recommended. I wont engage you further. You will be alright someday. Cheers |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by Apination(m): 5:04pm On May 25, 2020 |
KingSatan:Stop throwing that illiteracy word around because it's obvious you have zero idea of what it means. Human knowledge is very limited, so stop priding yourself in it, and it's not as if you are an authority in the said field you are making reference to. There are things you would never understand no matter how hard I try to explain it to you because you have subscribed your mind to the feebleness of empirical knowledge ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by KingSatan: 5:06pm On May 25, 2020 |
Apination: You can cry me a river if that will help your present mental state. Cheers. |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by lightangel65i(m): 5:12pm On May 25, 2020 |
I had this when I first entered uni, but not as severe as yours, I hated school because I didn't want to be around people, I don't talk and I got feverish when I talk or am close to someone, I basically sat at the back to avoid people. But I later had a friend and from there things were a tiny bit better, but it doesn't ever really fade 2 Likes |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by DammyLucy(f): 5:45pm On May 25, 2020 |
don't ever think of taking ur life |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by Nobody: 6:20pm On May 25, 2020 |
You lost a job to your weakness. That is when you should have brought up this topic. |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by Pathokpo: 7:04pm On May 25, 2020 |
ApostleAnarchy:My broda I understand your situation very well. I understand what it feels like not knowing what to say and even when you do not knowing how to say it. Thus, deciding to keep quiet but people around think you are just being a snub. I understand what feels like when everyone around you see you as being insane and starts avoiding you ( this act by odas gradually affects you mentally). I understand what it feels like when everyone around you turns out against you. I understand what it feels like not having someone to talk to because you think they would use your predicament against you. I understand what it feels like not fitting into any group. I understand what it feels like losing ones happiness and drifting into the highest state of depression (feeling like a walking corpse). I understand what it feels like feeling like an empty vessel and wishing for the cold hands of death to take one away. I understand what it feels like seeing oneself as the worst of creatures and regretting ones very existing . Anyone that has never been in this situation will never understand fully. 3 Likes |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by VicM6: 8:56pm On May 25, 2020 |
let me ask again, what exactly is ur weakness op?. |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by Nobody: 9:08pm On May 25, 2020 |
ApostleAnarchy: DM me bro if you can. We are here for you. |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by Numero9: 9:28pm On May 25, 2020 |
You're weak!
Physically! Mentality, Spiritually.....ete
You're very weak!!! Too much Indomie and Egg causes this! |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by Ayoleeboy007: 9:35pm On May 25, 2020 |
ApostleAnarchy:just stop masturbating and you will be OK. #fact |
Re: Here's My Plight. Thinking Of Suicide by Cladez(m): 9:39pm On May 25, 2020 |
You can start by talking to objects around you......see them as humans and practice how you are gonna interact if they were human...(note: don't do this too long else you might go awoof ![]() Go out and interact with people on petty talks especially the sales rep in a store or supermarket.....this should help build your esteem and confidence. Lastly go for counseling |
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