CsRockefeller:
I have this female friend from school, I was a year ahead of her. We were very close because we worked together in running a school association for 2 years. She studied Bio- something.

Since I left school, we hardly communicate, our communications are just formal whenever we do; how are you? Congratulations on your new job (LinkedIn) how is work? She is my friend on LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook and watsapp.

Recently, she just checked up on me and that was very noble, I really appreciated her gesture given that people only check up on you when they want something these days. Upon enquiry, I found out that she is job hunting, I encouraged her and wished her well.

Last week, a colleague in a subsidiary of my company told me to help him look for a fresh graduate as his assistant, I quickly contacted another lady but she wasn't done with service so I remembered this my school friend and recommended her.

Initially, I didn't tell her I work with the said company and that we work within the same building, when she got the job, she told me and thanked me. Surprisingly, we met on Saturday for the first time in 3 years, she said sth about me loosing weight and all, it was a weekend and I was dressed in my casual. She left later without telling me, and hasn't chatted me up since Saturday.

Today, she saw me at work and just acted like she doesn't know me. I'm not a top level personnel in my organisation, I still have people I answer to especially my immediate supervisor who is a female. I was also dressed in my causals since today is a public holiday.

I'm really surprised at her behaviour, is this how we are gonna continue? I'm not interested in dating her but at least she shouldn't be showing all that attitude at this stage. Since Saturday she hasn't sent any message and I haven't too.

I'm even planning on resigning this weekend but I'm really disappointed at her behaviour towards me. It's not like in school I was a big boy with a killer swag, I'm just a simple guy, money never dey to form big boy, she isn't a big gal neither, just a church girl in school, so why is she trying to form on a job I recommended her for?

CsRockefeller:
I have this female friend from school, I was a year ahead of her. We were very close because we worked together in running a school association for 2 years. She studied Bio- something.

Since I left school, we hardly communicate, our communications are just formal whenever we do; how are you? Congratulations on your new job (LinkedIn) how is work? She is my friend on LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook and watsapp.

Recently, she just checked up on me and that was very noble, I really appreciated her gesture given that people only check up on you when they want something these days. Upon enquiry, I found out that she is job hunting, I encouraged her and wished her well.

Last week, a colleague in a subsidiary of my company told me to help him look for a fresh graduate as his assistant, I quickly contacted another lady but she wasn't done with service so I remembered this my school friend and recommended her.

Initially, I didn't tell her I work with the said company and that we work within the same building, when she got the job, she told me and thanked me. Surprisingly, we met on Saturday for the first time in 3 years, she said sth about me loosing weight and all, it was a weekend and I was dressed in my casual. She left later without telling me, and hasn't chatted me up since Saturday.

Today, she saw me at work and just acted like she doesn't know me. I'm not a top level personnel in my organisation, I still have people I answer to especially my immediate supervisor who is a female. I was also dressed in my causals since today is a public holiday.

I'm really surprised at her behaviour, is this how we are gonna continue? I'm not interested in dating her but at least she shouldn't be showing all that attitude at this stage. Since Saturday she hasn't sent any message and I haven't too.

I'm even planning on resigning this weekend but I'm really disappointed at her behaviour towards me. It's not like in school I was a big boy with a killer swag, I'm just a simple guy, money never dey to form big boy, she isn't a big gal neither, just a church girl in school, so why is she trying to form on a job I recommended her for?

Charity85:
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You have done your part, which is noble, leave her to live her life. Don't rubbish the noble you have done

CsRockefeller:


Initially, I didn't tell her I work with the said company and that we work within the same building, when she got the job, she told me and thanked me. Surprisingly, we met on Saturday for the first time in 3 years, she said sth about me loosing weight and all, it was a weekend and I was dressed in my casual. She left later without telling me, and hasn't chatted me up since Saturday.

I'm even planning on resigning this weekend but I'm really disappointed at her behaviour towards me. It's not like in school I was a big boy with a killer swag, I'm just a simple guy, money never dey to form big boy, she isn't a big gal neither, just a church girl in school, so why is she trying to form on a job I recommended her for?

CsRockefeller:
I have this female friend from school, I was a year ahead of her. We were very close because we worked together in running a school association for 2 years. She studied Bio- something.

Since I left school, we hardly communicate, our communications are just formal whenever we do; how are you? Congratulations on your new job (LinkedIn) how is work? She is my friend on LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook and watsapp.

Recently, she just checked up on me and that was very noble, I really appreciated her gesture given that people only check up on you when they want something these days. Upon enquiry, I found out that she is job hunting, I encouraged her and wished her well.

Last week, a colleague in a subsidiary of my company told me to help him look for a fresh graduate as his assistant, I quickly contacted another lady but she wasn't done with service so I remembered this my school friend and recommended her.

Initially, I didn't tell her I work with the said company and that we work within the same building, when she got the job, she told me and thanked me. Surprisingly, we met on Saturday for the first time in 3 years, she said sth about me loosing weight and all, it was a weekend and I was dressed in my casual. She left later without telling me, and hasn't chatted me up since Saturday.

Today, she saw me at work and just acted like she doesn't know me. I'm not a top level personnel in my organisation, I still have people I answer to especially my immediate supervisor who is a female. I was also dressed in my causals since today is a public holiday.

I'm really surprised at her behaviour, is this how we are gonna continue? I'm not interested in dating her but at least she shouldn't be showing all that attitude at this stage. Since Saturday she hasn't sent any message and I haven't too.

I'm even planning on resigning this weekend but I'm really disappointed at her behaviour towards me. It's not like in school I was a big boy with a killer swag, I'm just a simple guy, money never dey to form big boy, she isn't a big gal neither, just a church girl in school, so why is she trying to form on a job I recommended her for?

Lizzyangel:




my own view on this is.....she might think you don't want people at your working place to be aware that you knew each other for privacy purposes,hence , she ignored knowing you.

2....she might be feeling she's now a big girl and be forming for you.....you can't know her mind as you never asked her for her reason to ignore you @work.


why not call to ask her if she never did to clear your conscience?


I hop you're not resigning cos of her.......that's the worst thing in this period if your answer is yes....people are dying to get a job out there please don't quit cos of her.

decatalyst:


Op, instead of you getting pissed at a perceived ignore from her, why not look at it from this angle.

1. You have done your part and she has appreciated you (thanked you), that should be it. If you really do not expect something else from her.

2. Are you married or in a serious relationship? If not, would you reconsider the bolded part up there? Women have a way of passing across messages... You may need to start paying attention to yourself...especially your dressing and general physical well-being. If you are not in a serious relationship,this may be a pointer to what you need to do right in order to attract 'the one' for up.

3. You never know if she has interest in you o

dulux07:
It may be too early to judge her yet, who knows she might be going through tough times, be introverted or might not see things the way you are. I am not justifying her actions.
Make +ve assumption to justify her actions, don't change your attitudes towards her yet, you can even confront her if you have the opportunity to, but if she continues same way afterwards, you can just ignore her.

CsRockefeller:


Thanks ma'am. I'm not resigning because of her, my workplace is very far from where I stay that's why, all attempts to get a close nearby has proved abortive.

I haven't forgotten my pledge towards you.

CsRockefeller:
I have this female friend from school, I was a year ahead of her. We were very close because we worked together in running a school association for 2 years. She studied Bio- something.

Since I left school, we hardly communicate, our communications are just formal whenever we do; how are you? Congratulations on your new job (LinkedIn) how is work? She is my friend on LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook and watsapp.

Recently, she just checked up on me and that was very noble, I really appreciated her gesture given that people only check up on you when they want something these days. Upon enquiry, I found out that she is job hunting, I encouraged her and wished her well.

Last week, a colleague in a subsidiary of my company told me to help him look for a fresh graduate as his assistant, I quickly contacted another lady but she wasn't done with service so I remembered this my school friend and recommended her.

Initially, I didn't tell her I work with the said company and that we work within the same building, when she got the job, she told me and thanked me. Surprisingly, we met on Saturday for the first time in 3 years, she said sth about me loosing weight and all, it was a weekend and I was dressed in my casual. She left later without telling me, and hasn't chatted me up since Saturday.

Today, she saw me at work and just acted like she doesn't know me. I'm not a top level personnel in my organisation, I still have people I answer to especially my immediate supervisor who is a female. I was also dressed in my causals since today is a public holiday.

I'm really surprised at her behaviour, is this how we are gonna continue? I'm not interested in dating her but at least she shouldn't be showing all that attitude at this stage. Since Saturday she hasn't sent any message and I haven't too.

I'm even planning on resigning this weekend but I'm really disappointed at her behaviour towards me. It's not like in school I was a big boy with a killer swag, I'm just a simple guy, money never dey to form big boy, she isn't a big gal neither, just a church girl in school, so why is she trying to form on a job I recommended her for?

dulux07:
It may be too early to judge her yet, who knows she might be going through tough times, be introverted or might not see things the way you are. I am not justifying her actions.
Make +ve assumption to justify her actions, don't change your attitudes towards her yet, you can even confront her if you have the opportunity to, but if she continues same way afterwards, you can just ignore her.

CsRockefeller:
I have this female friend from school, I was a year ahead of her. We were very close because we worked together in running a school association for 2 years. She studied Bio- something.

Since I left school, we hardly communicate, our communications are just formal whenever we do; how are you? Congratulations on your new job (LinkedIn) how is work? She is my friend on LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook and watsapp.

Recently, she just checked up on me and that was very noble, I really appreciated her gesture given that people only check up on you when they want something these days. Upon enquiry, I found out that she is job hunting, I encouraged her and wished her well.

Last week, a colleague in a subsidiary of my company told me to help him look for a fresh graduate as his assistant, I quickly contacted another lady but she wasn't done with service so I remembered this my school friend and recommended her.

Initially, I didn't tell her I work with the said company and that we work within the same building, when she got the job, she told me and thanked me. Surprisingly, we met on Saturday for the first time in 3 years, she said sth about me loosing weight and all, it was a weekend and I was dressed in my casual. She left later without telling me, and hasn't chatted me up since Saturday.

Today, she saw me at work and just acted like she doesn't know me. I'm not a top level personnel in my organisation, I still have people I answer to especially my immediate supervisor who is a female. I was also dressed in my causals since today is a public holiday.

I'm really surprised at her behaviour, is this how we are gonna continue? I'm not interested in dating her but at least she shouldn't be showing all that attitude at this stage. Since Saturday she hasn't sent any message and I haven't too.

I'm even planning on resigning this weekend but I'm really disappointed at her behaviour towards me. It's not like in school I was a big boy with a killer swag, I'm just a simple guy, money never dey to form big boy, she isn't a big gal neither, just a church girl in school, so why is she trying to form on a job I recommended her for?

Tallesty1:
Bro, these people have been friends for long and when she needed a job(going through something), she checked up on him but just after getting the job she started acting like she doesn't know him.

See, I am not here to support the guy or the girl but her action is unjustifiable whether or not she's going through something.

And hey, I hope you know the dangers of always making +ve assumptions? To always focus on positivity is a negativity and accepting a negativity is positivity. You know that right?


@OP. In life, I encourage to do things for people to satisfy your conscience and that only. Don't expect anything from them in return.

If I were you, the thank you she said after getting the job is enough, more than enough. Appreciations, compliments etc are just some of the things I have no idea what to do with.

If you do things for people and they say thank you, guy that's final. Anything that happens afterwards is a new chapter and the old good deeds should not be brought into it.


The way forward? Oh damn easy.

You never wanted to date her.

The friendship wasn't strong before her new attitude so why do you care? You expect her to be nicer to you because you got her a job?

Why?

Did you get her the job because she was jobless or because you want to use it to rekindle the almost dead friendship?

Bro move on.

If you see her tomorrow, act like you never know her. Like you've never met. And if she greets, reply her like you reply unknown people in the street and keep moving.

Life is a form of punishment, make yours lighter. Don't add unnecessary burden to your already heavy laden shoulders.

Tallesty1:
Bro, these people have been friends for long and when she needed a job(going through something), she checked up on him but just after getting the job she started acting like she doesn't know him.

See, I am not here to support the guy or the girl but her action is unjustifiable whether or not she's going through something.

And hey, I hope you know the dangers of always making +ve assumptions? To always focus on positivity is a negativity and accepting a negativity is positivity. You know that right?


@OP. In life, I encourage you to do things for people to satisfy your conscience and that only. Don't expect anything from them in return.

If I were you, the thank you she said after getting the job is enough, more than enough. Appreciations, compliments etc are just some of the things I have no idea what to do with.

If you do things for people and they say thank you, guy that's final. Anything that happens afterwards is a new chapter and the old good deeds should not be brought into it.


The way forward? Oh damn easy.

You never wanted to date her.

The friendship wasn't strong before her new attitude so why do you care? You expect her to be nicer to you because you got her a job?

Why?

Did you get her the job because she was jobless or because you want to use it to rekindle the almost dead friendship?

Bro move on.

If you see her tomorrow, act like you never know her. Like you've never met. And if she greets, reply her like you reply unknown people in the street and keep moving.

Life is a form of punishment, make yours lighter. Don't add unnecessary burden to your already heavy laden shoulders.

Lizzyangel:



I hope you have another job on ground? this era is never a time for quitting one's job, think about "a bird in hand......"


how about trying to call the lady part of my comment? you can't conclude on her actions yet, if she isn't texting, you do to clear your conscience....if her reasons for ignoring you ain't genuine, sideline her....you've done your best....anyone that helps another In getting a job has succeeded in saving lives....you don do well bros.


may you not be forgotten too....thanks in addy

CsRockefeller:


We had a chat today, she will be resuming fully tomorrow. With what I have observed, she isn't too keen about rekindling d old friendship.

I didn't ask her why she snubbed me, apparently, people in my org. and hers don't know she came through me or that we are friends, even d guy I recommended her to doesn't seem to know there is a connection or an existing relationship between us (lol) he thinks I just advertised d job somewhere and someone applied.

Anyways, she will be working in a different work space different from mine, the less we get to see, d better for everyone. I'm not even interested in her so why am I even bothered.

I've done something good as you have said, time to move on to more important issues.

Lizzyangel:


kudos to you for the move....@ the I'm not even interested in her part of the story, I hope you're being sincere to yourself....do you have a serious relationship@hand? if not ,you guys can still work some chemistry.

don't forget the part of not resigning in this era if your plan B ain't sure or strong....Coro dey do pple strong tin out there....think well pls

CsRockefeller:


Thanks. I'm having second thoughts about the resignation stuff.

Well, I don't think we are compatible, especially in terms of culture even if I wanted to go that route

Lizzyangel:


very good you're having second thought on the resignation, even if you'll be quitting, let it be after this pandemic.


follow your heart about the girl matter.

best of lucks