xxxtedyxxx:
Stop falling for her mood swings.

A woman won't respect you if she knows what she does affects you in some way.

Be passive.

Stop reacting to her mood swings.

Righteousness89:


As

EzeNdiAra:

You wan also preach for this thread?

Donbabaj:


Correct. I tried to avoid this but you know ladies always inquisitive. In fact, truth be told, we had a romance, but not sex. I had to tell her why cant we just wait for few weeks but that apart, the major thing is the way she switches whenever I tell her the hard truth. At times she listens and adjust. I even gat to tell her that if shes using a reverse psychology for me. Although, sometimes I stand my ground but more often than not I apologise.

EzeNdiAra:


You wan also preach for this thread?

tyup:


Lmao

tha guy mata don taya all of us

EzeNdiAra:
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Carry this your Sokoto mentality go Arewa topic.

We're not discussing people who marry 4 wives and even have spare wives

MrBrownJay1:


three weeks from wedding, only now you are trying to fix such a huge issue... you better get to the bottom of what is bothering her, because it can only get worse after wedding, so beware.... i suggest you sit her down and ask her directly:" babe, i can see that you have a temper issue, and at the slightest issue that you dont like, you are exploding. it is difficult to understand you and i certainly dont want us to get married with such a huge issue. please let me know what is "really" bothering you so that we can find a solution. so, IS THERE SOMETHING YOU WANNA TELL ME?!?!?!"

btw if you always try to pacify her when you know you havent done anything wrong, then part of the problem is YOU... you certainly shouldnt try to pacify her when you know very well you havent done anything wrong. let her come clean with whats bothering her mind.

tyup:


Donbabaj this is all the message a reasonable fella can give u

you have to man up tbh I wonder what typa men this century is breeding

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buy clothes, cook, always want me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than I.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment- 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing, all the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen. Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen. Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

tyup:


Donbabaj this is all the message a reasonable fella can give u

you have to man up tbh I wonder what typa men this century is breeding

xxxtedyxxx:


Damn..don't quote me if you don't understand my message.

Don't make a fool of yourself kid.

xxxtedyxxx:
Nothing is bothering her. She is Hot...and the skillful use of the rod will heal her.

tyup:


Lmao

tha guy mata don taya all of us

tyup:


Next time chillax, read to understand

my message was all bout telling the OP u made a sensible point there and should ensure he listens to ur point

and Hey I'm not a kid ight....go to the street if ur looking for some kid

Ningen:
Do not bail on her for this.

Her “mood swings” aren't even exaggerated. It's very mild and subtle. With good communication and effort from both parties, it can be managed.

Guy, I can tell she's also sexually frustrated.
Vitamin D is important for her mental health.

Once you've seal it off, dominate that “swing”.

Donbabaj:


From my observations I dont think she is, she claimed not to. She has had only one heart break in the past where a guy jilted her and she told me. I have had cause to investigate from a friend in her office but they all said she is just a tough lady but very hard to get. Guys have tried her but couldn't get her.

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buy clothes, cook, always want me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than I.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment- 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing, all the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen. Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen. Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

Donbabaj:


@Bola146, I think so too. We have had long discussions after disagreement but laslas I will still be the one to apologise.

Donbabaj:
I left her in the sitting room without any remorse but my mind no carry am. I went to plead with her now & she agreed.

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buy clothes, cook, always want me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than I.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment- 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing, all the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen. Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen. Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

pDudd:


Don't do it. Call it off. It will only get worse after marriage.