Munzy14:

online judge.

GboyegaD:


Who's decision? She should be able to decide what she wants and she listening to you guys should tell the guy not to bother going forward since his marriage is going to be between him and your family.

ume1000:
standard Ko standard ni


If women were given standards according to their worth in morals , intelligence and CO

Most won't be worth a bag of rice

OsuMustGo:

Hypocrite!
Everybody be in the same situation as you...


Can you allow your sister Marry such...?

franozx:




Elias d bloody hypocrite ... I don caught u na

franozx:




Elias d bloody hypocrite ... I don caught u na

ProfAmaben:

Standard = League.
There are women way above your league and those below. That's life.

nairavsdollars:
That one na curse ooo no matter how wealthy the family is?

ume1000:
so it's wrong to marry a. Man that lives in his father's house but right to marry a woman in her father's house


Deluded humans everywhere

VickyRotex:


What do you mean by he might refuse to relocate?
Is he showing any signs that makes you think he wants to live in his parents house forever?
Does he have brothers that are already married and staying in the same house with his parents?

I've seen cases where the guy moves from his parents house few months to their wedding. So this one isnt an exception. But the once he gets married part is what I dont understand.

I don't see anything wrong with this if and only if he is making plans to move to his own house before the wedding. So I'd advice your sister, that they both work on that prior to the wedding.

If there are any further showstoppers, then she should step out of it.

simplexvi:
u dn carry ur English come here, I go liv here fr u

tpraiz:
Who still stays with his parents at age 35 ?

It's well oh

supercase1:

NIGERIA IS NOT BOLLYWOOD!!!The truth is that a poor man should not marry,I mean a man that doesn't have his house,can't boast of 3 times daily food provided by himself,or cater for bills.this is not India it's hell to stay with most nigerian parents talkless of marrying in their house as a man God forbid.if you can't rent a house wen you are single is it wen responsibilities step in you will be able to do it? That 35yr old man that want to marry in his family house should think of fixing his life first, marriage no be beans

savvy12:
My younger Sister has a suitor who has been disturbing her for marriage. The guy is an n-power beneficiary and currently runs his dad's little business.

The problem is that he still lives in his family house but promised my Sister that he will relocate once they get married. We told my sister not to accept his proposal because he might refuse to relocate after marriage.

Note: he stays in the village and he is a graduate too.

ume1000:
am not saying its right ,but the way we make it seem a 35yr old lady living in her father's house is better than her male counterpart is rediculous

franozx:


... Me & u know say na typo_error.... But back to the matter... If the girl in question was to be your sister, what would have been your response??... Bloody hypocrite

simplexvi:
renting a house is not what 30k monthly can do or even raising a young family, the girl should help since she's to concerned about the guy leaving d family house.. she shouldn't allow her choice frustrate the guy in the near future

Ishilove:

1) Not making any plans to relocate
2) Doesn't even know where to relocate to.
3) His 30k N-power work is village based
4) Not searching for viable alternatives to augment his meagre income.
5) He is the FIRST child

Verdict- The suitor is NFA. No future ambition.

Op, tell your sister to talk to her two legs. If the legs refuse to listen, let her beg them.

okine4real:
Someday,I will write about how I got married to Nairalanders. When I wanted to get married, I still leaved in the house I grew up. Its a two bed room flat, Dad was late, two of mine sisters where married, but mine mum, mine sister and mine brother was still around. I told mine wife I wanted to still stay in the family house, the house was very cheap, so I told her,let's stay here and use the opportunity to save, build our own house and accomplish things. She agreed,I must say the truth, it was hell for her, but I thank God, she loved me more than she even loved herself. She endured with me, when I say it was hell, I mean it was hell for her, I remember there was a time mine younger sister called her Ashawo, they fight most times, even mine wife and mine mum had the same issues, but she loved me so so much. I will always beg her, talk to her and we would move on. Today I have built a two story building for her, atleast yearly she gets a rent of atleat 3M yearly. I also built another one that has 25units of room and parlor self contain for her. I also have another 10units of room and parlor self contain that I also built for her. We still leave in the same family house even as am tying this message. But now my mum has moved out and the house has being given too me. We leave very happy, when we look back when we started dating and where we are now, we just laugh. The funny thing is, the house we get 3M rent yearly was built in the area we grew up. We both grew up in the same area, so people seems to be surprise that we where able to build such a house despite they know our levels when we started.I was wearing a very tattered shirt and trouser daily.I used to eat beans 30Naira and yam 20Naira. Am only saying this, just for the readers to know that, the way a man starts might not depict how he would end.

Back too OP, everybody has to write there own destiny. Your sister might move in with him and along the line, things will fall in place for the better or get worst.one weapon that will see them through this journey is, if the guy loves your sister dearly. For me mine marriage would have ended if not that I love mine wife. Family members would try and say bad things about your sister to her husband,but if her husband loves her, he would know they are only trying to manipulate him. Even till date mine brother tells mine wife jokeinly that they know she has washed something for me to eat. They tell mine wife that, that place she went to get her powers from that they also know the place. Each time mine wife tells me, I just wave it off because I know what they are trying to do.

Moving in with him in the family house mine favour them and it might not. But I must tell you, its not going to be easy... Am telling you from experience, if your sister wear fine JUDGE, hope I got the spelling right, the husbands mother would be eyeing her, because the husbands mum know the cost of the JUDGE, So she would be saying your sister is eating there sons money. I will end it here and I will tell you guys also how I married mine wife and how we spent 70k for our traditional wedding in the village. Am talking of confirm wedding ohh in 2012. Now we have three kids, we all very happy. I will write about it here very soon. I just want Nairalander guys to know that, there are still good women out there, so don't be scared of getting married. Also I know marry Village babe ohh, I marry confirm IGBORO BABE. Know be babe when know know what's up ohh, in terms of relationship, she was more advance than me 10 times but things just work out because we both agreed to let things work.

Cheers

ume1000:
What if the man has plans to relocate once they get married

You sound like a hypnotized man to me