Considering the government minimum wage of #30 000, it's understandable that it can only afford a Self con apartment. Ladies, assuming a man proposes marriage to you and cares about you, are you willing to marry him in his Self Con apartment?
Your opinion does count. Let the comments begin...

I thought you said we're funny. How come our opinions count?

Depends on alot of things but most importantly the man must have sense.
He must know that means an automatic NO VISITORS allowed.

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xendra:
Depends on alot of things but most importantly the man must have sense.

He must know that means an automatic NO VISITORS allowed.

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VickyRotex:
I thought you said we're funny. How come our opinions count?

Someone cannot play with you again?

Abeg comment.

xendra:
Depends on alot of things but most importantly the man must have sense.

He must know that means an automatic NO VISITORS allowed.

A senseless lady can't attract a sensible guy.

Kirinwa:


Someone cannot play with you again?

Abeg comment.

I no dey comment

VickyRotex:


I no dey comment

Kirinwa:
Considering the government minimum wage of #30 000, it's understandable that it can only afford a Self con apartment. Ladies, assuming a man proposes marriage to you and cares about you, are you willing to marry him in his Self Con apartment?
Your opinion does count. Let the comments begin...

Yes

Jeez!

I hope u want this advice for somebody.
Yes, I can and I actually did
We got married in a place worst than self con



The question should be how to hook a good and hard man who is principled when u see him. See his future not now and definitely not his pocket.

xendra:
Depends on alot of things but most importantly the man must have sense.

He must know that means an automatic NO VISITORS allowed.

Seriously

Nope. 2bedroom flat might be ideal, just incase there's a visitor.

Why not

Self Contain nor be house
Even bedsitter sef
Change is constant in life..... we will move as time goes on.....

sassysure:
Jeez!

I hope u want this advice for somebody.
Yes, I can and I actually did
We got married in a place worst than self con



The question should be how to hook a good and hard man who is principled when u see him. See his future not now and definitely not his pocket.

BlissB:
Why not

Self Contain nor be house
Even bedsitter sef
Change is constant in life..... we will move as time goes on.....

My thought bfr marriage, now I am being blamed for not progressing, my marriage is 4 years.

GreaterGraceGG:

My thought bfr marriage, now I am being blamed for not progressing, my marriage is 4 years.

Even me when agree to stay there must see he is doing something reasonably because nor be by saying change is constant and you sit down for one place..... so what was he doing before the marriage

If you are not financially stable with at least two houses to your name. Don't go into marriage.


Don't go into marriage and start hustling to feed. Go into marriage and feel relaxed(enjoyment with your family)


Let's manage, let's manage have put a lot of people in financial slavery.

GreaterGraceGG:

My thought bfr marriage, now I am being blamed for not progressing, my marriage is 4 years.

It will get better

BlissB:
Why not

Self Contain nor be house
Even bedsitter sef
Change is constant in life..... we will move as time goes on.....

I like you for this... serious

GreaterGraceGG:

My thought bfr marriage, now I am being blamed for not progressing, my marriage is 4 years.

U forgot to look at the quality of the man u want to marry.
Some may live in self con but frugal and ambitious so it won't last.
Some will live in self con riding 3m car and living fast life.
Some live in self con and are just contented with that.
Look at what stuff he is made of and see if it tallies with yours.

I got married in Julius Berger container converted to house

BlissB:
Even me when agree to stay there must see he is doing something reasonably because nor be by saying change is constant and you sit down for one place..... so what was he doing before the marriage

What about you, what do u bring to the table?

I believe two sensible adults can take care of them selves.

Family planning should be their watch word.

No it’s called self contain to contain yourself only

BlissB:
Even me when agree to stay there must see he is doing something reasonably because nor be by saying change is constant and you sit down for one place..... so what was he doing before the marriage

He is working, I didn't even know he got loan for the wedding. That was where the problem start. Though he has cleared it... Hoping for the best

sassysure:

U forgot to look at the quality of the man u want to marry.
Some may live in self con but frugal and ambitious so it won't last.
Some will live in self con riding 3m car and living fast life.
Some live in self con and are just contented with that.
Look at what stuff he is made of and see if it tallies with yours.

I got married in Julius Berger container converted to house

My sis, he is educated (MBA) and he has been working for 5years even bfr the wedding.

Acidosis:


It will get better

It must. Thanks

No, I can't

sassysure:

U forgot to look at the quality of the man u want to marry.
Some may live in self con but frugal and ambitious so it won't last.
Some will live in self con riding 3m car and living fast life.
Some live in self con and are just contented with that.
Look at what stuff he is made of and see if it tallies with yours.

I got married in Julius Berger container converted to house

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GreaterGraceGG:

My sis, he is educated (MBA) and he has been working for 5years even bfr the wedding.

He wasn't forthcoming about his finances. Just keeping up with the jonases.

And I won't absolve you too. You would have trimmed your wedding to the nearest minimum
To hell with crowd pleasing. They are not here now when u guys are clearing the wedding loan.

That's called living above means which is fake. U are supposed to make your enquiries well. Hope u all have learnt your lesson and now cutting your cloak according to your size.
If that is in your mind, tarry a bit, u guys will get there. Also hope u are supporting financially too.

The problem we have is that we love the good things of life so much and we feel showing off is the only way we can tell the world we have arrived. Look around you and check if u are living above your "real" means or above it.
Then check if your husband is living above his means equally. Call him and tell yourselves the truth. Beautiful things keep on pooping out everyday. I am a Nigerian so I know the pressure to live according to how people want it. People won't even respect you if u drive anyhow car.
But will it deter you?
How do u save? How much do u spend in a month?
How much do you invest?
Or do u believe all the fake lives you see on social media?
Girl, there is so much I wanna tell you.....

U can tag me on dead thread so I can uplift your spirit if u wish to. It is well

GreaterGraceGG:

My sis, he is educated (MBA) and he has been working for 5years even bfr the wedding.

So he has been working for 9yrs now.

What are his goals? What does he need to get there?

Nne, two are better than one and he has the raw materials already.

Lovingly look for the potentials he is not seeing due to discouragement and steer him to the top.

Goodluck.

bukatyne:


@bold:

This one wey u dey give me kiss today, am i safe?

I know our people. We love enjoyment na
Babe want to sit in fine car and go dining in one big restaurant, snap picture and post.

As at 10 yrs ago, silverbird cinema at central area Abuja sells a scoop of popcorn 500naira. Roadside popcorn was 50naira. We babes want silverbird cinema popcorn. I have forgotten the name of that plaza.
When u go there, u change accent to americana
U guys in Lagos are low budget babes. Come to Abuja and see fake life at its best.

U will buy ordinary polo there around 7k and it's made in china but has something like Armani or Hugo on the label.
I'm sure now should be around 15 or 20k.

Nigerians

bukatyne:



So he has been working for 9yrs now.

What are his goals? What does he need to get there?

Nne, two are better than one and he has the raw materials already.

Lovingly look for the potentials he is not seeing due to discouragement and steer him to the top.

Goodluck.

Thanks sis