Paxie55:

He has no ambition or focus? What were you thinking to have stayed in such relationship?

Better move on with your life and look for some one with vision, and lastly, never date a stingy man; whether broke or not.

Positivechick:
he doesn’t hv a steady source of income but this period he had some money and and spent all the money buying drinks and living like a big boy.

Positivechick:
abi ? Thanks

Paxie55:


You guys should just shut up. I'm sure you guys are less than 20years. What are you saying? Sidnt you see where she said the guy prefer to follow his friends around than find a career? Like you guys didn't see where she has asked him to look for something to do?
Can you guys saying this rubbish stay with a stingy male friend that always come to your house to feed and never contribute shi shi? Stupid comments all over here.

Humanoid01:

So he should spend for her, and not his friends huh? What difference does that make? Why didn't she advise him to use the money for something meaningful? He doesn't have a job, and he got some money by chance, and the best thing he should do is spoil you because it's your birthday? My dear, you're an epitome of selfishness. You seem like one who would walk away from her man when things go south.

Paxie55:


You guys should just shut up. I'm sure you guys are less than 20years. What are you saying? Sidnt you see where she said the guy prefer to follow his friends around than find a career? Like you guys didn't see where she has asked him to look for something to do?
Can you guys saying this rubbish stay with a stingy male friend that always come to your house to feed and never contribute shi shi? Stupid comments all over here.

Paxie55:

My problem isn't his birthday money. Nothing concern me on how a broke boy decides to spend his #1 or 10kobo lol.
My issue with him is his visionless attitude and laziness. Why are you guys not seeing that? Is it only birthday money you guys are seeing? No wonder some people said it's only senile people that full this section.

StrongandMighty:


You're an idiot. I'm very sure that when I did my NYSC you were still in primary school..

Humanoid01:

Then you should have advised him to use the money for something meaningful. That's a good way to show that you care. Does this mean that when he gets a job and gets his first salary, the first thing you'll do is ask him for money?

Shormiey:

James4bright:


Lol. Guy, most Nigerians girls are uninspiring. Most girls won't even want to settle with a man making a low income unlike the OP

But the OP seems willing to give the broke guy a chance. Hopefully they can build wealth together if he turns out to be serious minded. But the dude seems like someone who prefers playing around.

Not every girl can deal with your broke ass and still inspire you to get a job, no matter how low it is for a start. They would rather leave the moment they realize you aren't at the top of your game, without hesitation. She seems different.

She doesn't seem like someone who is excessively demanding, so how exactly is she a gold digger?

So your aim is to have a gf you won't spend a dime on? Even white women are demanding sef, it's just a feminine thing.

Shormiey:

You need to listen to the other side of the story before judging ....the girl might not be giving first hand information and the girl might be the nagging type.....I will need to listen to both party before I make my final verdict

MedicH:
hmmm i think the main problem is this guy is not ready to do something meaningful with his life. in this case it doesn't make sense sticking with him. if he finds it rosy now, what about the rainy days? i believe in doing the work of He that sent me while it is in the day because night shall come when no man can work.

if i flip to the other side of the coin where u said you are leaving because he is stingy pls do, leave the guy alone, he doesn't owe u anything.

Someone like me find it excruciatingly difficult and mind-blowingly painful to get a debit alert because of some woman i'm dating. it hasn't stopped the women in my life from liking me as a matter of fact, it's a matter of principle. i do not give, i owe u nothing.

it gets worse when it's a lady that is of no value to me no gain. i won't have the loss either.

leave him alone

Shormiey:

You need to listen to the other side of the story before judging ....the girl might not be giving first hand information and the girl might be the nagging type.....I will need to listen to both party before I make my final verdict

Liliantalks:
WTF !!! Jesus. The woman that ends up with this one will surely, most definitely suffer .

Positivechick:
nope , he does not do jack for me , not a single thing . This is the first time since almost a year I am asking him for money. He has chosen not to give , n I hv chosen to break up and focus on myself continue paying my bills without him .

James4bright:


Very true. I would have called the girl a gold digger only if she left him because he was doing a low paying job, but she's even begging the baba to do anything for a start.

Lamanii22:
A boyfriend has to be a giver.... What's now the essence of dating you when you cannot even give... You'd find somebody better my dear...

xendra:
I hate it when a girl thinks about wasting money for birthday, when you don't even really have the money.

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,


I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had , I served in a village. while we were serving he doesn’t give me much , I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place ,he had a roommate and I didn’t , before he gives me any money we always had issues , not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to . I don’t even ask for much .

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year , got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up , his just passed , I told him that I would expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday , that if money cms he will send but right now he has no money ,, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me , he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away n he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us .


Am tired , he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on he’s friends and it annoying , i think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it , I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him . He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,


I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had , I served in a village. while we were serving he doesn’t give me much , I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place ,he had a roommate and I didn’t , before he gives me any money we always had issues , not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to . I don’t even ask for much .

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year , got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up , his just passed , I told him that I would expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday , that if money cms he will send but right now he has no money ,, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me , he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away n he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us .


Am tired , he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on he’s friends and it annoying , i think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it , I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him . He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Lamanii22:
A boyfriend has to be a giver.... What's now the essence of dating you when you cannot even give... You'd find somebody better my dear...

Lamanii22:
A boyfriend has to be a giver.... What's now the essence of dating you when you cannot even give... You'd find somebody better my dear...

Ladylite:

Wow, you have really suffered.
But are you sure you don't have low self esteem?

For you to cope and continue with a burden of a man, with a man who is proud enough not to hustle.

Babe, you should really study more books on relationship so you know that you are not in one, you are in a disaster waiting to happen.

Don't waste your time. Walk away, he may blow later or become rich... It does not matter. Go and watch the movie ACRIMONY... Then you will receive sense.

You are in a relationship with Covid19 in human form. Pls have self respect enough to leave and stay single till you meet a man that complements you.

Positivechick:
far from it. The birthday was just an avenue to make my request. Not like I wanted to do a party . Every other day I feel like I hv no reason to ask .

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,


I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had , I served in a village. while we were serving he doesn’t give me much , I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place ,he had a roommate and I didn’t , before he gives me any money we always had issues , not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to . I don’t even ask for much .

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year , got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up , his just passed , I told him that I would expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday , that if money cms he will send but right now he has no money ,, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me , he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away n he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us .


Am tired , he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on he’s friends and it annoying , i think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it , I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him . He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

You did the right thing. Men like that always pick ambitious women as they know they have someone to depend on during rainy seasons. Better a man with less who is generous than a man with plenty who can’t add to your life. Men always want to hide behind this gold digger thing. No woman is a gold digger. Biblically the man is meant to be the provider. This doesn’t mean take advantage of him but a man should be able to support you. Even in the small way he can.. run from that relationship run