MedicH:
hmmm i think the main problem is this guy is not ready to do something meaningful with his life. in this case it doesn't make sense sticking with him. if he finds it rosy now, what about the rainy days? i believe in doing the work of He that sent me while it is in the day because night shall come when no man can work.

if i flip to the other side of the coin where u said you are leaving because he is stingy pls do, leave the guy alone, he doesn't owe u anything.

Someone like me find it excruciatingly difficult and mind-blowingly painful to get a debit alert because of some woman i'm dating. it hasn't stopped the women in my life from liking me as a matter of fact, it's a matter of principle. i do not give, i owe u nothing.

it gets worse when it's a lady that is of no value to me no gain. i won't have the loss either.

leave him alone

MedicH:
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Someone like me find it excruciatingly difficult and mind-blowingly painful to get a debit alert because of some woman i'm dating. it hasn't stopped the women in my life from liking me as a matter of fact, it's a matter of principle. i do not give, i owe u nothing.

Chummynoni:
i dont know the OP but she sounds like a reasonable lady. being stingy is a bad thing xpecially to people u claim to luv.

SATANworshipsME:
u are a pathetic gold digger. get a job

Humanoid01:

You clearly don't know anything about life. Abeg avoid me.

peterangelo:


Swear with ur life say u never give any girl money 4ur entire life
D girl u want toast

Ningen:


Tell us; How much did you send to him on his own birthday? — Or that didn't cross your mind?

I am genuinely pleased you broke up with him.
Man gotta wake up and plan with no liability.

You did yourself a good thing too.
But the pleasure is HIS.

Humanoid01:

You are making this all about him, you are not addressing her role as a partner.

peterangelo:



Its obvious u see urself like a boss that knows nothing up dere

peterangelo:


Swear with ur life say u never give any girl money 4ur entire life
D girl u want toast

Theundertaker:
which nonsense role , omo the babe try . If she’s relaxed about he’s present ways then she does not love him. No woman will comfortable in such dilemma

Theundertaker:
A man who truly loves you would know the right thing to do


Modified : men before commenting, ask urself , would I want my sister to date such a person .

MedicH:


lol i do not toast any girl with my wallet open.

I can swear with my life that i have never transferred or given by cash any amount more than 6k to a lady i am dating.

It used to be 5k before now because i consciously made that decision but one missed her period after we did something so i told her to go and run a scan and transferred 3k. i didn't get a debit and i repeated the same 3k again and it happened that she got 6k.

This transfer only comes after serious and intense deliberations and i have to painstakingly convince myself that i should send this money and never again, it is never easy.

i have toasted many ladies and i only got i will think about it reply which i could tell it was because i de stingy. One managed to try and cope with that but was asking me if i dont give her money as my gf will i give her as my wife.

if a lady i am having sex with call me for money for hair, cream, pizza, birthday, outing, movies, ice-cream i ill just use one excuse and dodge. if i can't dodge it due to circumstances then i go buy meat pie and she will buy the ice cream.

i have a bed-appointment tomorrow and i am required to buy pizza. i am still thinking of how to dodge but i need the nacking

ezechi24:


I will not allow my sister to be a liability.

Positivechick:
lazy? Like he feeds me or what ? What’s ur definition of a lazy person? I expected backlash from men like urself. Insults won’t change anything

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,


I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had , I served in a village. while we were serving he doesn’t give me much , I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place ,he had a roommate and I didn’t , before he gives me any money we always had issues , not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to . I don’t even ask for much .

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year , got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up , his just passed , I told him that I would expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday , that if money cms he will send but right now he has no money ,, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me , he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away n he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us .


Am tired , he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on he’s friends and it annoying , i think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it , I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him . He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Theundertaker:
The guy isn’t serious about the relationship. Move on

themaestro08:


Oga don't make any judgement yet. She only tells you what she wants you to know which certainly does not tells the whole picture

MedicH:


lol i do not toast any girl with my wallet open.

I can swear with my life that i have never transferred or given by cash any amount more than 6k to a lady i am dating.

It used to be 5k before now because i consciously made that decision but one missed her period after we did something so i told her to go and run a scan and transferred 3k. i didn't get a debit and i repeated the same 3k again and it happened that she got 6k.

This transfer only comes after serious and intense deliberations and i have to painstakingly convince myself that i should send this money and never again, it is never easy.

i have toasted many ladies and i only got i will think about it reply which i could tell it was because i de stingy. One managed to try and cope with that but was asking me if i dont give her money as my gf will i give her as my wife.

if a lady i am having sex with call me for money for hair, cream, pizza, birthday, outing, movies, ice-cream i ill just use one excuse and dodge. if i can't dodge it due to circumstances then i go buy meat pie and she will buy the ice cream.

i have a bed-appointment tomorrow and i am required to buy pizza. i am still thinking of how to dodge but i need the nacking

Theundertaker:
The guy isn’t serious about the relationship. Move on

Biglittlelois:



What da hell!!! naa this is not normal

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.




After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Theundertaker:
so if he comes up lies for example, do he’s story is automatically the right one.

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??