Enwhen:



Babe you must first of all know what you want , does he have it ?, He is working towards it ?, Have u ask him ?, How have u help him to achieve it ?, Is his friends a better motivator for him ?... It is clear u both don't understand yourselves... And if u go ahead like this u would have problem after marriage , on who will take care of this and that ... If u have answers the questions above , u should know what is more important than birthday , that people come and drink and eat your money and u start struggling again , thesame mistake he made , u also want to make same .


Imagine , he don't have a job he is celebrating birthday and people are taking bottles in his bills, people who may have money than him, is that is last birthday ?, If u people don't celebrate birthday will they arest u ?.. there is time for everything... Is it the time to start celebrating birthday with money ?, Who are you trying to impress ? As what investment it is to u?.... Let it not be money that is enough to even start up somethinh that u people are spending for birthday and yet he don't have job...



If he don't have sense , u have to talk sense into him ....and if the both of u don't have sense, is a big problem .

there is one of his friends I don’t like , treats him anyhow. I told him to give the guy chance , he said that’s his best friend. He hardly listens to me

Paxie55:

Yes!! I had an ex, though he wasn't lazy but he was very stingy and he wasn't rich then. So, I had to use my head and calculate the speed of the race I was about to take. I finally left him, since then till now, he's still not financially stable. Lol.

And I guess you are now financially stable yourself?

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Positivechick:
I should help him grow while he doesn’t take care of me , no matter how little. Am sorry I can’t do that .

You sound like an untitled nonentity.
You seem to be more interested in money than the relationship. And if I may ask how much did you spend on him on his birthday ?

Anyway I think you did him a very big favor by breaking up whit him. Having a liability like you around him is one of the worst things to ever happen to him.

I think you can leave him, its okay, he is not ready

When I look at most comment here I know is not from the real men but all those boys thinking they've grown up ! Men will always be men n boys we always b boys !and worst is they're still eating their mother's food as such it has becloud their sense of reasoning !which any of you here would allow your sister to be in this kind of relationship where the guy practically does nothing but prefer to follow his friends around like is future depends on then !plz dearie don't listen to some of the noise most of them made all in the name of I must comment by displaying their stupidity n ignorance I must commend u you did the right thing by breaking up with him coz he's not serious about his life !i advice u settle down n look for one who has future ambition for himself n don't rush it trust me you'll be fine .

Liliantalks:
My dear don’t allow the comments from stingy broke men affect you , Focus on urself , u would met someone better. He doesn’t even deserve you

U just need a justification to Port to your new crush... Go ahead, u need nobody's permission...

Gush, this story again? Gush, gush and ...

Positivechick:
nope , he does not do jack for me , not a single thing . This is the first time since almost a year I am asking him for money. He has chosen not to give , n I hv chosen to break up and focus on myself continue paying my bills without him .

If a guy doesn’t give u anything at all in over a year and he has money from time to time and spends money on his boys if really true. Break up with his stingy ass. He's not responsible or worth it.

I don’t believe in bugging a guy for money bt don’t take people for a ride either.

Plead:

Hmm..

Liliantalks:
My dear don’t allow the comments from stingy broke men affect you , Focus on urself , u would met someone better. He doesn’t even deserve you

i did rather say she doesn't deserve the man

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

The fastest way a lady can make me take off is to start yapping birthday after we just met. I mean isn't that shii already played out?

Met a girl strictly for straffs one day and the next tin after one round na: "her birthday ma next week oh!" I just said "eheen" "that's cool" "we go celebrate am oh". After morning reach, I just chook 1,500 for her hand waka jeje comot.

Ladies and birthdays, very vain and childish specie. Na like korofo dey dia head.

No wonder someone said- ladies never mature, they just grow old...

Truth be told you did the right thing and endured for a while. he is unemployed and yet he spent without limit on his bday. dude gotta wake up country hard. on how things bad man gas do something no matter how small show efforts. but op hope you told him your reasons for leaving no b say u come report am for us. cus we no fit change am.

Send me ur numb,

Hahahaha

lefulefu:
u said he has no focus and ambition.why not break up with him and date a guy who is focused and ambitious..or is his d!ck that good?

Theundertaker:
this girl is obviously not a liability. He was supposed to make her happy on her birthday of all days mehn. Even if it’s As little as 5k. How many ladies r like the Op? She’s very considerate to me o

Many guymen wey Dey form like weyti I no no, go Dey vasa one babe on the stead .

You are not dropping a reasonable cooment.


The guy celebrated his birthday first.

What did she get him

Z suppose to be a mutual thing

Let her answer the Q

Positivechick:
I should help him grow while he doesn’t take care of me , no matter how little. Am sorry I can’t do that .

U can't help him, unless he takes care of u, okwaya??

Girls Sha!!! Requesting a money from a jobless Man when you are working Haba!!!

In Kanye's voice: "How could you be so heartless"

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Ningen:


Tell us; How much did you send to him on his own birthday? — Or that didn't cross your mind?

I am genuinely pleased you broke up with him.
Man gotta wake up and plan with no liability.

You did yourself a good thing too.
But the pleasure is HIS.

bar man! Abeg give this guy wetin he dey drink

Lamanii22:
A boyfriend has to be a giver.... What's now the essence of dating you when you cannot even give... You'd find somebody better my dear...

How about a girlfriend? With all the Western education, most Nigerian girls still think like people that have never left their villages.

Yeye girl..

Positivechick:
I don’t even want to celebrate. I just wanted him to send me some money , no matter how little . Jeez

There is so many reasons I said he had no vision , u don’t need to know everything

You don’t tell him what you EXPECT on your birthday. You don’t do that. It reeks of entitlement and everything a sane human shouldn’t do.

pocohantas:
You told him what you will EXPECT on your birthday? The effrontery.

Positive chick indeed. So, because a baby boy didn’t give you money for birthday, he suddenly has no vision?

You that have vision, your problem in life is to celebrate birthday ba? Mtcheeew.

I doubt she'd get even an sms from such guy on her birthday hence d reminder. We saw how you got mouth watering cakes and chocolates on your birthday o... I'm sure it felt good atleast so abeg free d Op.

kalex0:

She's doing well for herself, why is she demanding then

It shouldn't be a big deal


Lol

C'mon.... Are you condoning stinginess?? Not even a lil gift of N2k on her birthday No matter how wealthy I may be, a lil gift from my boyfriend is not a bad thing... I can't even be with someone that is stingy in the first place... O ma su mi ni (I'd get tired)....

Spaceclenzy1:
Instead of Help him build himself ur here derailing a guy u said to be faithful on.. Bcoz he didn't send u money on ur birthday and u said to be working yet u didn't send him on his own birthday.... U must be an Ungratfull Human being

DID her so called bf tell u that he needs to build himself?

Lamanii22:



C'mon.... Are you condoning stinginess?? Not even a lil gift of N2k on her birthday No matter how wealthy I may be, a lil gift from my boyfriend is not a bad thing... I can't even be with someone that is stingy in the first place... O ma su mi ni (I'd get tired)....

It should be a mutual thing.


The guy celebrated his birthday first.

What did she get him?

Lets start with that

Stefenijoan002:
When I look at most comment here I know is not from the real men but all those boys thinking they've grown up ! Men will always be men n boys we always b boys !and worst is they're still eating their mother's food as such it has becloud their sense of reasoning !which any of you here would allow your sister to be in this kind of relationship where the guy practically does nothing but prefer to follow his friends around like is future depends on then !plz dearie don't listen to some of the noise most of them made all in the name of I must comment by displaying their stupidity n ignorance I must commend u you did the right thing by breaking up with him coz he's not serious about his life !i advice u settle down n look for one who has future ambition for himself n don't rush it trust me you'll be fine .

and girls would always be liability

With all due respect there is a big difference between a man (independent in making decision ) and a boy ( dependent on women to make decisions )

femi4:
He's not taking care of himself, he's not thinking about the fure, he rejected teaching job and depends/follow his friend

People with such qualities are lazy and care less about responsibility. Move on to a more ambitious gut

You are bro ..at his age he supposed know what to do

BayMc:



and the girlfriend has to be the main receiver?!
how toxicly parasitic, very myopic anschauung!

yeah, goodluck in her finding that dumb someone that would rather witlessly spend his life savings on one b*tch who has nothing buhh only pussay to offer.

Bullcrap!

Gestures matter in a relationship... A gift from someone you love gives you some kind of feeling... You lots are just blinded by redpolls and shii, you cannot comprehend a girl's sentence....

Rgade:
You had a teaching job and you knew he was unemployed but still requested for some cash on your birthday...
You are wicked.

Very wicked

Paxie55:

My problem isn't his birthday money. Nothing concern me on how a broke boy decides to spend his #1 or 10kobo lol.
My issue with him is his visionless attitude and laziness. Why are you guys not seeing that? Is it only birthday money you guys are seeing? No wonder some people said it's only senile people that full this section.

Shut ur mouth up

You girls are so selfish