Rozz:
lol tell me

Good morning, sorry I slept off last night, was really tired. 1. Your Love for God 2. Your ability to always respond calmly even when thrown with a provoking comments here on nairaland. That's very good of you. Keep it up. I really like you for that

Redwater666:

I'm not courageous enough to do this and I'll be risking everything.. if i get rejected i might never have the guts to stand before him in my life anymore.. what are my chances..? i think it's 20%..

I fear this will further complicate things... i know the Kind of person he is, my best bet is he'll start ignoring me and then ghost me if i make such a move... he's very good psychologist.. Any move i make he already knows how it'll end. Do you have ideas on how i can sustain this friendship instead? i was thinking: cooking for him and delivering it to him every weekends?

Don't over do it. You can only make him love you, if you act better.

Read more, become more incisive, don't show jealousy, advice him on some certain deeds, be very honest and many more. The moment he sees you have traits most girls don't have, he'd come along.

Redwater666:
I'm learning so much from him, i was empty but he gave me ideas and encouraged me to start my business which I'm making serious profit from, he's intelligent, business minded and really cool + cute but I'm afraid I'm not even the right one for him because I'm not in his league intellectually, swag etc etc But we've been friends for years...

i can't even ask him for money when I'm dead broke because i don't want to lose this friendship and I'm a hustler, i can hustle for my own self but I'm on the brink of losing this friendship because he has other girls that are finer and have more brighter future taking most of his time/attentions but i knew him first during our 100lvl days and should've dated him when i had a chance but he wasn't this amazing or maybe i was dumb following friends and doing stupid shit because i was ignorant... don't get me wrong lol i have rich guys with expensive cars wooing me dashing me cash gifts etc but this one guy (my friend) is trustworthy, knows how to act, has attitude, knows how to treat women, is very funny, handsome, and very popular at the same time + his circle of friends are out of this world creative people into programming, forex etc... he has never forced himself on me or pressured me for anything instead he shows me pictures of girls he has wooed that are really attractive and i get very bitter and jealous and badmouth them just to discourage him..

i feel really empty and i don't know if I'll be ever truly happy again for making this big mistake... he always says he likes lifting others around him up which is evident on how my life has improved since i knew him even when his friends used to tell him I'm wh0ring (talking to different guys) about in campus he didn't bother but was there for me...

I'm 22 now I'm really attractive but right now I fear he doesn't see me that way (dating material), i can't even seduce him i feel very dirty/inadequate when that thought comes into my mind but I'm running out of options... please nairalanders, how can i win him.. how can i make him love me.. i cooked a delicious meal for him and he said i can really cook.. what should i do... I'm really depressed now.

Please note, it's not about money, I'm willing to do anything for him even if he's broke to the last penny i still love him and will be there till my last blood because he made me believe in myself that I can also be something significant in this world.. now I feel i missed a powerful opportunity... do i still have a chance?

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@Redwater666....my advice... since you two are familiar with yourselves and he brings out the best in you, it won't hurt to give a nigga heads up of how you are feeling beneath..
why act ignorant when he has indirectly told you he likes you too...
you see in my opinion when a guy shows you girls he has dated, he only shows you the pretty ones just to tell you that he has taste and that make you no dey form for am cuz he get girls wey fine pass you...which means he has set a standard for himself and has set a standard for you too... he just wants you to get jealous...
p.s IF YOU DONT ASK, THE ANSWER WILL ALWAYS BE NO...
BUT IF YOU ASK AND HE SAYS NO OR GHOSTS YOU, HE ALREADY KNOWS THE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GOING TO END WELL OR HE IS HAPPY BEING FRIENDS WITH YOU...NO GO SEDUCE AM OO... MAKE HE NO GO GET THE WRONG MESSAGE THINK SAY ALL YOU WANT NA FVCK

nairaland94:
Will the world end if you express how you feel to him?
You're an adult, take that bold step.

He is right. Express how you feel for him.
You are talking about rejection, I know we fear rejection but it takes time, you can't give up so easily if you really love the guy.

Redwater666:
I'm learning so much from him, i was empty but he gave me ideas and encouraged me to start my business which I'm making serious profit from, he's intelligent, business minded and really cool + cute but I'm afraid I'm not even the right one for him because I'm not in his league intellectually, swag etc etc But we've been friends for years...

i can't even ask him for money when I'm dead broke because i don't want to lose this friendship and I'm a hustler, i can hustle for my own self but I'm on the brink of losing this friendship because he has other girls that are finer and have more brighter future taking most of his time/attentions but i knew him first during our 100lvl days and should've dated him when i had a chance but he wasn't this amazing or maybe i was dumb following friends and doing stupid shit because i was ignorant... don't get me wrong lol i have rich guys with expensive cars wooing me dashing me cash gifts etc but this one guy (my friend) is trustworthy, knows how to act, has attitude, knows how to treat women, is very funny, handsome, and very popular at the same time + his circle of friends are out of this world creative people into programming, forex etc... he has never forced himself on me or pressured me for anything instead he shows me pictures of girls he has wooed that are really attractive and i get very bitter and jealous and badmouth them just to discourage him..

i feel really empty and i don't know if I'll be ever truly happy again for making this big mistake... he always says he likes lifting others around him up which is evident on how my life has improved since i knew him even when his friends used to tell him I'm wh0ring (talking to different guys) about in campus he didn't bother but was there for me...

I'm 22 now I'm really attractive but right now I fear he doesn't see me that way (dating material), i can't even seduce him i feel very dirty/inadequate when that thought comes into my mind but I'm running out of options... please nairalanders, how can i win him.. how can i make him love me.. i cooked a delicious meal for him and he said i can really cook.. what should i do... I'm really depressed now.

Please note, it's not about money, I'm willing to do anything for him even if he's broke to the last penny i still love him and will be there till my last blood because he made me believe in myself that I can also be something significant in this world.. now I feel i missed a powerful opportunity... do i still have a chance?

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Lies!!

Crunchyg3:

Good morning, sorry I slept off last night, was really tired. 1. Your Love for God 2. Your ability to always respond calmly even when thrown with a provoking comments here on nairaland. That's very good of you. Keep it up. I really like you for that

Thanks alot sir,thanks

Just try to be yourself around him don't push too much. Try to ask him some question about his dream girl and you can ask him can you date someone like me. (Remember don't push) if he likes you might use the opportunity to ask you out and if he doesn't still don't push hard

Rozz:
Thanks alot sir,thanks

You are welcome, how is your day going?

Crunchyg3:
You are welcome, how is your day going?

Good.hope its same for you.

Rozz:
Good.hope its same for you.

Yes ooo but Lagos rain just beat me now blue black

Crunchyg3:

Yes ooo but Lagos rain just beat me now blue black

ow sorry about that.

Rozz:
ow sorry about that.

Is it raining your side?

Crunchyg3:
Is it raining your side?

Not at all

Rozz:
Not at all

are you serious, where are you?

Crunchyg3:
are you serious, where are you?

😂

To give his number to anybody.

Every woman has her charm
Find your.

Talk with him looking into his eyes.
Smile when need be.
Ask him the kind of woman he want
Ask him what he sees when he looks at you

Ask him if you are close to the kind of woman he wants.

Tell him how he has changed your life.
Tell him you enjoy his company and you dont think anyone can be like him .

Dont ask him out.
Dont let go that friendship.

Redwater666:

I'm not courageous enough to do this and I'll be risking everything.. if i get rejected i might never have the guts to stand before him in my life anymore.. what are my chances..? i think it's 20%..

I fear this will further complicate things... i know the Kind of person he is, my best bet is he'll start ignoring me and then ghost me if i make such a move... he's very good psychologist.. Any move i make he already knows how it'll end. Do you have ideas on how i can sustain this friendship instead? i was thinking: cooking for him and delivering it to him every weekends?

Do you have his Facebook username or WhatsApp number. If you do, please kindly give it to I will make sure everything went well I promise.

Galactico4ever:
Since you are the one who friendzoned him during your 100lvl,bae I don't think you have any chance of having a romantic relationship with him.Just maintain your friendship and since you a still young,a lot more guys better than him will surely locate you.

Baba you wise

Rozz:
Its not as easy,im struggling with it. You won't understand, it's something that's rooted inside,its difficult.

I feel your pain.

Rozz:
😂

What is that?

A typical case of friendzone. Init?

Hmm

Rozz:
😂

Good morning my dear Rozz, hope you had a wonderful night rest. I just want to let you know that you you are the only person that is bursting my burbles right noe on nairaland

Shoot your shot
dem no dae kill person for that 1

Crunchyg3:

Good morning my dear Rozz, hope you had a wonderful night rest. I just want to let you know that you you are the only person that is bursting my burbles right noe on nairaland

Good morning,my night was fine.Thanks for the flatterings lol.Have a nice day

Redwater666:

I'm not courageous enough to do this and I'll be risking everything.. if i get rejected i might never have the guts to stand before him in my life anymore.. what are my chances..? i think it's 20%..

I fear this will further complicate things... i know the Kind of person he is, my best bet is he'll start ignoring me and then ghost me if i make such a move... he's very good psychologist.. Any move i make he already knows how it'll end. Do you have ideas on how i can sustain this friendship instead? i was thinking: cooking for him and delivering it to him every weekends?

take it to God in prayer

Rozz:
Good morning,my night was fine.Thanks for the flatterings lol.Have a nice day

I can't believe, you saw my sincere appreciation as flattering. No wahala sha. Can we talk on phone?

Following..

Crunchyg3:

Good morning, sorry I slept off last night, was really tired. 1. Your Love for God 2. Your ability to always respond calmly even when thrown with a provoking comments here on nairaland. That's very good of you. Keep it up. I really like you for that

I don't even know why I'm ashamed on your behalf !
A girl seductively dressed and uploaded a picture painting her as one that belongs to the street is God fearing ?
Oga,she could be anything but certainly not God fearing .
Stop allowing your raging testosterone and dick do the thinking for you.
These one don see ynash forget his senses !

Rozz:
In my early years my mom so much scared me off making friends with guys,the effect is still in me till today,im having serious problems overcoming it as well .I can be having a conversation with my friend and a guy will like to join in the conversation,thats when I will become so quiet and spoil everything.The fear is still there

Eyah

Redwater666:
I'm learning so much from him, i was empty but he gave me ideas and encouraged me to start my business which I'm making serious profit from, he's intelligent, business minded and really cool + cute but I'm afraid I'm not even the right one for him because I'm not in his league intellectually, swag etc etc But we've been friends for years...

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Hypergamy at work. You don't really love the guy.

My best advice is tell a mutual friend (a guy) to convince him to ask you out (let him not know you sent the guy).
Never ask a guy out directly, it will end in tears.

But it is better to stay friends with him, your relationship with last longer.

Or read about "Sirens" in Art of Seduction

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