hi Nairalanders, my post might be a little bit long but please bear with me because I'm in pain.
I'm from a family of six children, three boys and three girls.
I'm actually the last born,my siblings are far older than me, my immediate elder sister is older than me with seven years, now do the maths with my other siblings.
This is where my issue lies,i'm not close with my siblings,I can't even express myself freely around them,the remaining five are best buddies,don't get it wrong they love me,all do fend for me whenever I ask for a request.
I can't see myself talking to them freely,most times I have issues with my personal life. I can't tell them about it because it looks weird.
I have lots of things to share with my siblings but I can't see myself doing it.
I'm only close to my immediate elder sister(we do talk weekly).
This is the 5th month of the year and i have only spoken to the rest of my siblings twice this year...on new year's day and on my birthday.
Most times the thought always come into me "Maybe you were adopted" but I'd just wave it off because i have striking resemblance with my two elder sisters and mom.
it's weighing me seriously,(my friend once teased me,she said maybe your birth wasn't planned ) I get jealous when I visit my best friend over the weekend and see how they play at home,gist and interact.

BTW I've made up my mind when I get married my kids won't be older than each other with three years, maximum two years, so, they can grow up together and be best of friends.
how far apart should one space their kids in terms of age difference?

highest 4 years interval between kids so we can all grow together , some of your siblings are already planing to leave their parent house b4 u where born so the relationship can’t be strong like those that grow together and sleep together .
My own option

I'm about 12 years older than my immediate younger brother (our last born). I can relate.

I try as much as I can to establish a strong relationship with him but sadly, it still isn't enough. I've tried to use this lockdown period to spend some good time with him.. Studying God's word, playing video games (PS).. Almost wanted to teach him chess the other day!

I found out that, because our times are apart, his interests are just different from mine. Example, the way he dresses, his likes, his friends, etc. Some of his steps are in the wrong direction and I try to correct him politely with understanding....knowing fully well that we all made our mistakes in our younger years.

WhatsApp would have been a good platform too for frequent vidcalls but the guy and me no come like social media like that.


So, you see, I understand but I'd suggest you just push yourself to be very free with them all....especially if none of them have betrayed your trust.

You know, one day, I saw porn in my bro's phone. Told wifie.. Was almost ringing mum to tell her but I decided I wouldn't. I just ended it with a discussion with him. I can't begin to investigate his every move (he's got gadgets)... I can only believe that our talk paid off.. So, with this, he kind of trusts me...but we aren't there yet.. I'm still working on it.

I am older than my immediate younger brother with 4 years and our last son with 18 years and I am close to the both of them.

Since you know communication between you and your siblings is poor how about creating a WhatsApp group? Almost everybody has one this days.

Mstick:
I am older than my immediate younger brother with 4 years and our last son with 18 years and I am close to the both of them.

Since you know communication between you and your siblings is poor how about creating a WhatsApp group? Almost everybody has one this days.

So you had a son at 18

TONYE001:
I'm about 12 years older than my immediate younger brother (our last born). I can relate.

I try as much as I can to establish a strong relationship with him but sadly, it still isn't enough. I've tried to use this lockdown period to spend some good time with him.. Studying God's word, playing video games (PS).. Almost wanted to teach him chess the other day!

I found out that, because our times are apart, his interests are just different from mine. Example, the way he dresses, his likes, his friends, etc. Some of his steps are in the wrong direction and I try to correct him politely with understanding....knowing fully well that we all made our mistakes in our younger years.

WhatsApp would have been a good platform too for frequent vidcalls but the guy and me no come like social media like that.


So, you see, I understand but I'd suggest you just push yourself to be very free with them all....especially if none of them have betrayed your trust.

You know, one day, I saw porn in my bro's phone. Told wifie.. Was almost ringing mum to tell her but I decided I wouldn't. I just ended it with a discussion with him. I can't begin to investigate his every move (he's got gadgets)... I can only believe that our talk paid off.. So, with this, he kind of trusts me...but we aren't there yet.. I'm still working on it.

I would love to play some chess games with you

Mstick:
I am older than my immediate younger brother with 4 years and our last son with 18 years and I am close to the both of them.

Since you know communication between you and your siblings is poor how about creating a WhatsApp group? Almost everybody has one this days.

then they ain't lucky but blessed...
I wish mine was the same

CrazyCrane:


then they ain't lucky but blessed...
I wish mine was the same

People have advised you on what to do.

If you crave for a better relationship with them, initiate it.

Create a what'sapp group, visit them, call them, ask for their inputs in stuffs etc etc.

That ship has sailed.

You know what they say about bent crayfish...
That awkwardness

Nothing is impossible sha.