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My Near Rape Experiences by BosyBabe(f): 10:13am On Jun 05, 2020 |
Good day, after going through a lot of back and forth within myself I finally decided to put my story out there. This is not in a bid to garner sympathy but in the hope that my story could help someone get out of a similar situation. Growing up as a young lady in Nigeria is quite difficult especially one who receives a lot of male attention. I experienced a lot of abuse while growing up. I was beaten, fingered, molested and harassed as early as age 4. At a point I tried to speak up but I wasnt believed so I became accustomed to it and didnt bother to mention it again. My first near-rape experience occurred at age 16. The perpetrator was a coursemate who happened to like me and had been asking me out for a couple of months. Despite my continually rejecting him, he was persistent. At a point he started stalking me, then calling me with strange numbers and calling at odd hours like 1 or 2am. I just overlooked it all and felt he would get tired at some point. The day that the incident occurred I was going to school at around 5pm to study for a test. On my way, I noticed the guy following me. He than came up to me and asked for me to hear him out but i refused. We kept arguing for about 3 hours on the road, I kept trying to get away but he wouldn't let me, I even tried to get the attention of a few passersby but no one bothered to help (they probably thought it was a lovers quarrel). At a point I began crying and begging him to let me go but he refused. A friend of his saw us and came up to us and asked me to just hear the guy out. I finally agreed because I was so exhausted and drained. They both suggested that I and the guy go and talk in his friends room which was just across the road. I agreed and we went in, I sat on the bed and listened. This guy proceeded to kneel and beg me to date him, I agreed just so he would let me be. The next thing I knew was that he had jumped on me and started groping me. I struggled, cried and pleaded with him but he didnt stop. He went on to rip my trousers open and pull off my panties. I struggled furiously and even tried to screamed but that earned me some dirty slaps. I felt defeated. All I could think of was how much I hated the helplessness I felt which was so similar to what I felt as a child. Suddenly, a thought popped into my head about a rape survival story I had seen a while back, I decided to try it out. I stopped struggling and just acted calm, I guess he took that as good sign and stopped hitting me. He held my two hands with his one hand and used the other to pull down his trouser. He then began to rub himself on me, I prayed and made a split second decision. I pulled my knee up and hit him in the balls as hard as I could before he could recover I pushed him off, jumped up and began to scream as loud as I could, I carried a standing fan which was close by and smashed every single thing I could in the room. People came rushing in and that's how I was saved. It was so crazy that a guy had to help me with something to cover up because I didn't even realize that I was naked from the waist down. A few years later, I had my second near-rape encounter. One night while going to the hostel after seeing a friend, I was accosted by a security personnel. He claimed that I was out too late and he would have to take me to the security office, I was surprised because that was around 9pm and there were still other people around so I argued with him, a colleague of his intervened and insisted that I follow them to the security office. I agreed to go but I kept my distance from them. While walking, the security officer suddenly pushed me into a dark corner, pressed himself against me and began to tell me all the things he was going to do to me for arguing with him. I began to struggle and cry, I couldn't believe this was happening again. He tore my gown open and then my panties. When I tried to cover myself, he slammed my head and hands against the wall with such force that my wristwatch broke. Once again faced with a situation I felt helpless to do anything about, I calmed myself down and said a silent prayer. I then began to pet him. I told him I wanted this too but it was all to sudden, he didnt listen to me at first but went on to pull down his trousers he then tried to penetrate me but i kept begging him that we should please hold off a bit Eventually, he listened and said I was right because he doesnt trust uni girls so it would be best for him to use a condom considering that hes a family man. He held me and kept running his hands all over my body and told me that he wants me so much and I should promise that I would come see him the next day when he calls me. He even threatened to harm me if I didn't do as I promised. I did as he asked, gave him my number, promised to be back and ran as fast as my legs could take me. The next day, with the support of friends I went to the school authorities, reported and he was subsequently sacked. Despite years of abuse, these two events helped me see that I didnt have to always be a victim but that I can also be a victor. I was not as helpless as I thought. The major point I would like to point out from my story is that aggression is not always the best option, often at times we can fight these rapists by being calm and rational. I went on to watch rape survival stories and realized that so many rape survivors avoid being raped, killed or further harmed by trying to reason with their attackers. Also, allowing an attacker feel that he is in control can give one the opportunity to take him unawares and take back control. Being angry, fighting back, insulting him or threatening to expose him when the opportunity comes can just lead to more violence or him even going as far as trying to shut you up permanently. 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by illicit(m): 10:18am On Jun 05, 2020 |
You really need to stop walking alone. If on campus, walk with a girlfriend, if off campus, you should probably get a dog. It seems there's something about u that fascinates rapists |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by bosman50(m): 10:25am On Jun 05, 2020 |
So sorry about your experience.how are you coping with the trauma? The government should put in place adequate preventive mechanism like life imprisonment for rapist or even medical castration for the unrepentants. The idea of walking into a closed space like a room with a stalker was a very bad idea. You shouldnt have done that. Glad you are a survivor. 1 Like |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Omar09(m): 10:33am On Jun 05, 2020 |
Too long.... Summarize 1 Like |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by bskyb(m): 10:49am On Jun 05, 2020 |
BosyBabe: I salute your courage for dropping this post. In a world where some people feel entitled to the bodies of others and believe they should help themselves to it any time they feel an urge to do so, ot is definitely tough to post such experiences. For those who will write responses telling you that it was somehow your fault, that you shouldn't have walked around alone at night, that you somehow provoked the attack or that you walked seductively; for this set of people, I hope they do not get raped (male or female) and they get told same things. Imagine a guy being told he got raped because he wore a pair of tight trousers or that he had a feminine bum etc. Well done, once again 2 Likes |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Officialgarri: 10:51am On Jun 05, 2020 |
I think the issue here is, you probably smile too much. For you to even stand arguing with a guy for 3hours in broad daylight and people didn't intervene shows your body language doesn't express your pains. And why does the guy above have to quote the entire post? ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Zabiboy: 10:53am On Jun 05, 2020 |
I read only the first two paragraphs and discovered this same story has been used before by other girls.... Anyways, whats my business. You stood on the road arguing from 5pm till 8pm, you didnt know when night reach ![]() IT IS WELL... ![]() 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Kyom20(m): 10:57am On Jun 05, 2020 |
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Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Nobody: 11:09am On Jun 05, 2020 |
illicit:why? |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by astonishments: 11:13am On Jun 05, 2020 |
Kyom20: For 3 hours? Its either you are lying or not telling the whole truth. |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Nobody: 11:23am On Jun 05, 2020 |
Officialgarri:still trying to blame her abi. There's almost no girl/lady/woman who has not been sexually harassed by a man who doesn't respect boundaries. I've learnt that the way out in such a situation is to be as calm as possible, because as a woman, in the face of an attacker, you suddenly realise how powerless you are in terms of physical strength. What has worked for me is not to fight but be brain smart, try and see if he has weapons or anything that can be used as a weapon around. Next, is there an available exit? is the door locked? If there is, that is not the time to be doing mike tyson. Try to talk and reason with the person, make yourself less threatening so that he loses his guard. After which you strike. A method i have employed twice is to first bite his nose or mouth, this will enable him to free his hands from you or at least lossen them. Immeadiately clap your hands hard on both ears. HARD. This move guarantees that he will start to hear ringing. He will momentarily lose balance, then you kick high, either for the balls or his stomach, if he has crouched in a posture them, go for the neck instead. This results in an uppercut that will increase space between you. Now run, and scream, FIRE. That will gather people around. Rapists gain power when you become the victim, they prey on the weak and powerless, people that cannot fight back and this fuels their ego. Take that power back from them. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Nobody: 11:24am On Jun 05, 2020 |
astonishments:i can relate with her story. Many guus can just wear someone down with their pestering. He was the definition of obsessed. 1 Like |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Justbehave(m): 11:28am On Jun 05, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:I can't fit laugh ooo. Madam Jacky Chan.Welldone oo 1 Like |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Nobody: 11:29am On Jun 05, 2020 |
Justbehave:well, this is not a jackie chan something. It's simple self defense. I never want to feel that powerless again 3 Likes |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Justbehave(m): 11:30am On Jun 05, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:Ok ooo.Nice one from you. |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by illicit(m): 11:36am On Jun 05, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:Because of her previous encounters |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Lightangel64: 11:37am On Jun 05, 2020 |
You should beacome, a writter since you are good at formung stories. Rape trend has passed do something useful with your life like writting novels 2 Likes |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Nobody: 11:39am On Jun 05, 2020 |
illicit:So she should live her life in fear of men? Should I be afraid of you then? See you and your fellow men as nothing more than wild animals? Maybe carry a knife around? They don't deserve to have that power over me. Since a man cannot protect anymore, then there really is no point having you around. 3 Likes |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by sammysneh(m): 11:39am On Jun 05, 2020 |
its a touching story TBH.. |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Lightangel64: 11:39am On Jun 05, 2020 |
illicit: Better walk with a guy/guys friend if its dark, cause if you walk with your lady friend what stops them from raping you both |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Nobody: 11:43am On Jun 05, 2020 |
Lightangel64:the same guy you are walking with for protection can rape you too. 1 Like |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by BosyBabe(f): 11:45am On Jun 05, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:Thats exactly the point. To take back control of a seemingly hopeless situation by being calm and rational |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Lightangel64: 11:46am On Jun 05, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: See this why i don't give ladies advise, so every guy is a rapist, your answer will be yes probably cause you are a feminists if you hate guys so much, then cut them off from your lives, you people should just buy sn island and stay alone all girls and do your lesbian or what you do, and no dildos too cause thats made from the image of a guy. 2 Likes |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by BosyBabe(f): 11:47am On Jun 05, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:Its almost like no one sees how painful it is to have some keep disturbing you for hours and no one is willing to help. They dont even take you seriously 1 Like |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Justbehave(m): 11:49am On Jun 05, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:Does it mean all guys are potential rapist and not to be trusted including your man? 1 Like |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by illicit(m): 11:58am On Jun 05, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: Let's be practical and realistic here, In America the ladies go around with pepper spray in their purses, in some cases hand guns, you think it's as simple as Men versus women shi.... No it's bigger than your ego. It's about being safe and ready for the worst. Can you protect her? No so don't give her wrong counsel. can u imagine how a pepper spray could have saved her in the two instances she mentioned ![]() Or a dog, assuming it happened off campus. It's not about living in fear of men, it's about living. |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by BosyBabe(f): 11:59am On Jun 05, 2020 |
Justbehave:What we are saying is that there are ways of women defending themselves without having to rely on a man who might take advantage of her as well 1 Like |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by illicit(m): 12:04pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Lightangel64: hmmm well you are correct but I mentioned that because of the two instances that she talked about. That guy wouldn't have obstructed her on the way and take her home if she had reasonable company. Same goes for the second instance with the guard. Yes she could as well be in company of more people or get a pepper spray. |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by Justbehave(m): 12:04pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
BosyBabe:You people are implying that no guy should be trusted.Women will not hesitate to seek financial help from a guy but look at you all now implying that all men are rapist and can take advantage of any lady ,hence not advisable to seek protection from men but very advisable to ask for financial assistance from the same rapist. 1 Like |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by chinchonglee(m): 12:09pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Jst shut ur trash. Many girls fantasize been raped. |
Re: My Near Rape Experiences by ehmmy11(m): 12:16pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Why i do i feel the said lady is replying to pple with a different moniker... The lady is a brave woman it's good she is no longer afraid and very much aware of the dangers lurking.. I wonder if she become a lesbian because of this or a feminist Well rape is bad no doubt about it..however No amount of hastags can stop it or do anything except creating awareness ..the true change can come from the law holding everybody accountable .. 1 Like |
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