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He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Thathustler(f): 8:00pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Good evening guys. Please I could use some advice right now cos I am honestly confused. I love my man so much and we have been together for a couple of months. Before I agreed to be in a relationship with him, it took a lot of convincing from him cos we don’t share the same faith. I later agreed and in the beginning he used to treat me like an egg, he would go above and beyond to see me satisfied but now? He’s changed. We are not together now cos I travelled to another state for business, we’ve been apart for like 2 months and a half due to the lockdown delaying what I came to this state for. So ever since I travelled, he has been acting distant. Our conversations got shorter, he wouldn’t chat with me for long and when he does, it seems like I am the only one trying to sustain the conversation or make it interesting. If I don’t make an effort to make our conversations fun, it would be boring. No effort at all from him. I told him about this like three times already and he said he would change. Could it be that someone else is distracting him over there? Or he’s getting tired of being away from me? I know for a fact he doesn’t like distant relationships but all this distance is not my fault but the pandemic. Secondly, he is now so rude and has suddenly developed this I don’t care attitude. He speaks to me anyhow, today he legit told me I asked a stupid question when I asked him about something. He didn’t directly call me stupid but he said I asked him a stupid question and that I should have known already without asking him. I actually knew but I needed clarity. He sounded so irritated and angry over a little thing. He has clearly lost his respect for me, even when I try and spice the conversations up, he just replies with monosyllables and short words. I accused him of cheating when all this rubbish started but he swore to me that no, he can never do that. He would rather break up if he’s tired and he’s not tired, that he loves me. Now, how can I make him respect me more? He snaps at me over every little thing these days. Should I ignore him? I have tried that but he hates me ignoring him. Should I start distancing myself too? Or reducing the way I talk to him? Should I start replying with short words too? What should I do to bring him back? I can’t travel to our state now( where we both live) and I really love him, I don’t want to lose him. |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by ojun50(m): 8:05pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Dear I dey come make I go call people wey dey settle this kind matter 4 Likes |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Ugaboy: 8:09pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
ojun50:nah small matter |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by SultanOfAbia: 8:11pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Your boyfriend has bought a vibrating artificial vagina..it sucks and feels like the real deal.. I'm sorry but he has gotten so much sex that he does not need you anymore. So just go and buy electronic Love Machine and get busy or die crying.. 1 Like |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by duduade: 8:12pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
This might be money related issues... Why are you females quick to believe that he is cheating You need to talk to him... If he was working before the pandemic, are you sure he still has a job Abeg think... Men do not only revolve round women na.. They ve got a whole lot of things on their minds... Once they can't keep up with their responsibilities because of lack of money they start being irritated... So talk to him as a responsible lady.. And if it's another lady that's distracting him you fight for your man as you claim to love him so much or take a walk There's nothing confusing here |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Nobody: 8:12pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
you said he didn't like distant relationship so what other advice do you need? |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Laryne(m): 8:13pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Hope you are not referring to me indirectly. I did that to someone I was no longer interested in way back. |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Thathustler(f): 8:16pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Laryne: But why not tell her directly you were no longer interested? Why all the drama? |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Nobody: 8:17pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
This is a period at which almost everyone is disturbed o my dear, especially with financial issues. From what I read in ur write-up, I don't believe he's cheating, but i understand how u feel, women feel like dis wen we are at distance from our men, of which we sudnt (u don't need to love who u can't trust in d first place) Try n be very calm and try to have a conversation with him when u notice he's calm also. He might be disturbed one way or the other. Just try n let him know how u feel and pls avoid nagging. Proper communication alone might just be enough to put an end to dis...Just try to talk to him about it in a calm manner. |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Thathustler(f): 8:17pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Lostz: For a long time we were together, we’ve only been apart for two months and I really donno why he can’t get it together since all this lockdown and shii is only going to be for a while. Guys ehn. Nawa for una |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Thathustler(f): 8:18pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
sherylbakky: Hmm. Thank you for this |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Thathustler(f): 8:18pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
ojun50: Abeg go call them let them come and settle this matter o |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Alexaonfleek: 8:23pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Pls when this topic makes fp mention me. |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Nobody: 8:27pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Thathustler: the lockdown is over now . you should go back and sort out your relationship. if things don't get better after returning, find your way or maybe he realized he is better off alone. 1 Like |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by xendra: 8:27pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Thathustler:Manipulative AF He is manipulating you. you already lost him, a mature man should know how to communicate his feelings without being rude, if you put up with this you will never recover, this is what boys do, he is testing you, he wants to know how much of his BS you are willing to put up with. just cut your loss and start praying for a better man, if you love yourself. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by ojun50(m): 8:28pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Thathustler:Them don dey settle am, me self see say you don smile, dat one good For the matter wey ground never conclude yet till you return.. and mind how you go dey put words for him month. |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Ugaboy: 8:29pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Woman u are being too emotional, give him some space...he might be going through stress that he doesnt need distraction from any woman ...personally, if im going through difficult time, i prefer staying away from women, dont just conclude he is cheating on, not every men value the idea of cheating on a woman, irrespective the advances they recieves ...make sure u still keep in touch with, like regular care coversation, "hello,hi,how are u, how was ur day, wat did u had 4 d day", and close the chat, dont bug him too many questions. ...u said he loves, whatever the issue is now, he will come bak to u if he truely loves u ....stop panicking...men is not scarce, but husband |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by FeliciaOja(f): 8:31pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Thathustler:Babe it's the long distance that is causing this. That's why I swear never to do long distance relationship ever again |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Thathustler(f): 8:34pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: Same thing I have been thinking cos if I was around, he wouldn’t be doing all this. Things immediately went south when I left. Will try and conclude what I am doing here so I can go back soon |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Thathustler(f): 8:35pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Ugaboy: Man no scarce but if man don try for you well, you no go just comot the relationship like that until you exhaust all options. I picked something from this though, I will try and still be conversing with him and keep things civil till he comes out of this “stress” zone |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Thathustler(f): 8:36pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
ojun50: Alright, thanks bro |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by FeliciaOja(f): 8:37pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Thathustler:how long have you guys been apart? |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Clinghton: 8:40pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
You shouldn't try to make things work, if you do he would lose interest in you. Maybe he's going through mood swings, you should give him space, if he truly loves you he would come calling. 2 Likes |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Thathustler(f): 8:40pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
FeliciaOja: 2 and half months |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Thathustler(f): 8:41pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Clinghton: Thank you! Maybe I really should give him space |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Ningen(m): 8:48pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
You are in a relationship... but you feel “single” well isn't it obvious he's taking you for granted?? My advise to you is to make yourself scarce. Make him miss you. And he'll appreciate you. |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Ugaboy: 9:04pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Thathustler:if u carefully study every comment your have recieved, they are revolving round the same circle...your man has related issues with dis guys...financial, stress, Mood swing or etc and final "space" |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Kobicove(m): 9:07pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Thathustler: You're not trying to sustain this relationship cos of any yeye love, you're doing it cos you're desperate! You people have been brainwashed into thinking that marriage is the most important achievement by a lady. Someone insults you and is already telling you indirectly that he's tired of you yet you're still holding on using love to deceive yourself. ...and by the way don't ever accuse a guy of cheating except you have concrete proof! |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by Bola146(f): 9:45pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Do you know the meaning of OYO? |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by konkonbilo(m): 9:55pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
Maybe it's the distance.. But people are still traveling nao.. The transport just cost ni |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by suaveBrother(m): 9:57pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
... a girl must give a boy space like Mercury is to Neptune ... |
Re: He Called Me Stupid, Is He Now Taking Me For Granted? by boxer022(m): 10:07pm On Jun 05, 2020 |
What can I say that hasn't already been said. Your boyfriend hates long distance relationship, did you discuss your business trip with him before embarking on it? I believe he is not been sincere with you. There is another girl who is close to him and has had sex with him severally. He sees you as a disturbance to his present relationship. You said you love him but how are you sure that the feeling is mutual? He is now irritated by your words and presence. You said you do not want to lose him but from what I read the feeling isn't mutual and you have already lost him. He is looking for an excuse to call off the relationship. I think it's better for you to move on with your life as he isn't interested in you any longer. |
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