SIR, U HAVE SEEN WHAT U HAVE SEEN. NEXT STEP, ADVISE HER. THAT IS THE BEST U CAN DO FOR HER. AS U HAVE SAID, SHE COULD BE LIKE A DAUGHTER TO U.

OP, PLS ADVISE HER. EVEN IF U ADVISE HER, AND SHE DIDN'T LISTEN, U DON'T NEED TO FORCE HER TO ACCEPT UR DISCIPLINE AND COUNSEL. BUT U HAVE SATISFIED UR CONSCIENCE.

This is why Nigeria will not go forward. Nobody gives you good advice. Live her Wayward live is all they are saying.
When she contact HIV now and die,all you will come here to type RIP. A 21 years old should be given advice in my own opinion. It's not all about his buisness, but for the betterment of the Young Lady.

If you sack her from your work will she stop that wayward behaviour or she will use that joblessness as an excuse to start that prostitution fully?
If you ignore her with her wayward behaviour and allow her to continue working with you, and she do another abortion again God forbid if she bleed at work and die, won't you be feeling that you didn't do the right thing?

Sorry sir, I don't know how to advice on this issue...I am confuse too

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

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OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

Who made you God to judge her. Her personal life is hers and that’s my problem with africans. Has her lifestyle affected her productivity and cost you resources. Get a life and grow up.

Follow your mind on the girl,if you can manage her fine,let her continue her work but if you can't let her go.

PeachtreeReside:


What would you term your first paragraph?

Remember she is an adult who should know how she is endangering her life by being sexually active...


He who is without sin can cast aspersions...


Your sin is blazing Fire engine red by the way, Judgena...

I disagree with your second paragraph.. she knows nothing. Not all adults know right from wrong.

Michelle55:
The earlier we learn to mind our business, the better it would be for us all..
Op, simply turn a blind eye like nothing happened, you don't have any right to snoop around her like that.. You are only her boss not her parents

if it was your sister and you came her to discover that her boss found out about her lifestyle, would you say he does nothing about the situation? Most women are wicked. So far its not your child, every other persons child should go to hell. That is why when they bring maids for you guys, you would be so hostile to them and be witches in human clothing. I cant believe almost all the "f" monikers are saying OP should mind his business.


Wicked souls!

SpacehubTech:


Unapologetic lesbian sleeping with different men and attempted to have casual sex with you?

Please who is a lesbian again?

I'm not sure if I've ever been more confused.

OritaIbadan:

Alright just thinking as a father is it the best

You're neither thinking as a father nor as a manager.

A father will not sack her and leave her at the mercy of those men. A manager will not let her personal life affect her job provided the job is not the type that could be affected by her lifestyle.

If she's a good sales girl, let her be. If you care so much, advice her.

Nezzjnr:
You guys are saying OP should mind his business... For what exactly??
Didn't you see where OP stated that he's like a Fatherly figure to her and she's different from the others

This girl is still a minor working as a sales rep... If something bad happens to her... All fingers will be pointing towards OP.

How can you call a 21-year old woman a minor?

That girl is an ADULT, old enough to drive, vote, drink and smoke in any country in the world, and she is definitely old enough to have sex with hundred men, if she wishes.

What is wrong with some of you?

Mind your business... Mind your business... This is what we keep saying. Now we've been minding our businesses, suffering and smiling under stup!d political leaders and no one can successfully call for a revolution because every damn person is minding his or her business.

You invaded her privacy by reading her messages but she didn't invade your own privacy by accepting to use your phone and your Facebook to chat with her useless boyfriends who are prolly now HIV positive and potential donors of STIs because you ediots and God forsaking epistles of minding unprofitable and decaying businesses are on the loose!

Not surprised the majority of these epistle writers on this thread are females.

Ningen:
We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity.

Seemed the only sane person on this thread. How will one turn a blind eye to a looming danger to the life of another? Who did this to us that we now dont care about the danger in someone's life?

Thanks brother for this advise.

OP, if she doesn't cooperate, heavens know you did what is right to help her.

I know the girls advising u to mind your business are the type that would not only refuse to coorperate but will insult u join as Jhara.

Seems no redemption is possible to the children of this generation.

Ningen:
We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity.

You just said my mind.
You finding out is for a reason. If you really want to help her let your wife be the one to talk to her and educate her better not you.

OritaIbadan:

Alright just thinking as a father is it the best

You are not her father and please DONOT ask her out.

For you to check her facebook oni bara yi ti ba ole bo.

INDEED YOU ARE VERY STUPID.

HOW IS IT YOUR BUSINESS HOW SHE LIVES HER LIFE?


IT'S VERY OBVIOUS YOU LIKE HER AND WANT TO FVCK AND ABUSE HER WITH SEXUAL HARASSMENT JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE HER BOSS LIKE MOST NIGERIAN MEN DO.


YOU NIGERIAN MEN ARE THE SCUM OF THIS EARTH.

YOU NIGERIAN MEN ARE A CURSE TO ALL BLACK MEN WORLDWIDE.

YOU NIGERIAN MEN TAKE PRIDE IN RAPING YOUNG GIRLS AND WOMEN AND SEXUALLY HARRASSING ANY WOMAN YOU COME IN CONTACT WITH CAUSE YOU WERE ALL RAISED TO BE MONSTERS.

What has happened has happened....!! We all have made mistakes... Please advise her if you can... no be every 21 yrs old get sense...!!!..

Its left to her to take it or leave it....

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

Announce to all your sales girls that they'll be having prdgnncy test two days after and NY one not comfortable with it should resign. She will resign of her own accord.

safarigirl:


How can you call a 21-year old woman a minor?

That girl is an ADULT, old enough to drive, vote, drink and smoke in any country in the world, and she is definitely old enough to have sex with hundred men, if she wishes.

What is wrong with some of you?

100

MoodyQueen:
Bunch of hypocrites, as if you really care.

But you'll all log out and go back into the arms and comfort of your side-chicks to fornicate.

"I employed this 21 years old lady last year as a sales rep."

You are jobless.

Why are you interfering with her life? Or you want to fvck too?

You so jobless, better concentrate on your buisness.

MoodyQueen:
Bunch of hypocrites, as if you really care.

But you'll all log out and go back into the arms and comfort of your side-chicks to fornicate.

You must be a shallow thinker.
Experience has not taught you anything.

Look, let me tell you, no matter how bad our society is, there are still good people. By their nature, they are just good. So doing something bad as you are thinking, they find it so hard, the same you find doing good so hard. So the OP may be one.

It annoys me when I see a woman talking like this this. The fact that all the men you have had encounter with are doing what you wrote above does not mean that all the men do same.

Stop misjudging people based on your experience.

What does being wayward has to to with job? I beg leave her

Nezzjnr:
You guys are saying OP should mind his business... For what exactly??
Didn't you see where OP stated that he's like a Fatherly figure to her and she's different from the others

This girl is still a minor working as a sales rep... If something bad happens to her... All fingers will be pointing towards OP.

minor means under 18/21 years old in some countries as the case may be....she is 21 so she ain't a minor. thanks

Everything is wrong with what you did, why should you poke nose into her privacy?

Broda u weren't even supposed to see the messages or notice anything in the first place. So why don't you just sit back and act like noting happend. As long as she is doing the job you paid her for.

robosky02:
The man that employed her also has some affection for the lady


Why treat her differently?



Why get soooo annoyed?

when we have too much expectations in people and unfortunately they do something we least expected, it hurts a lot .
same scenario played out here.

if u carefully read the op's story,you'd notice where he said ,this girl seemed to be different from the other sales rep he had employed.so respectful,was always at work with her bible and Sunday school manual.
op had trusted her so much.

Ariza:
You may counsel her if you so much care but the truth is you invaded her privacy by checking her inbox.Thats very unprofessional!


BTW are you sure you have no feelings for this girl? This one you can't sleep over her mata?

Joycekkh:
Everything is wrong with what you did, why should you poke nose into her privacy?

as in eh. People like doing that. And it's not good. You could even do it and don't let me know. We're you would even draw the line is by coming to advise me after seeing what u r not supposed to see.

AllenSpencer:
"I employed this 21 years old lady last year as a sales rep."

You are jobless.

Why are you interfering with her life? Or you want to fvck too?

You so jobless, better concentrate on your buisness.

lol... I like the you want to fvck part. Who knows