MajorOvakporaye:


shut up!
holy holy

emmaodet:


Bro, that statement ''Mind your business'' is one of the statements i find irritating on this forum.
I believe they mostly use it to shut people up so as to continue with their bad and irritating behaviours.
A woman is virtually walking naked - mind your business
A yahoo boy scamming people - mind your business
A lady into runs - mind your business
A politician looting - mind your business
A married woman sleeping around and you as a neighbor knows - mind your business
And the list goes on and on until it personally happens to them or family or children, then all hell will be let loose e.g when their own daughter starts sleeping around or parents being scammed by yahooboys.

abdullkabar:
Almost everyone on front-page is saying mind your business!!!
There is a question to ask ourselves:
A 21 year old is more or less still clueless (especially this modern day children)
If the girl were to be anyone of us daughter, and she's missing her way(let's even say its on a more lesser mater), won't we prefer someone puts her on the right path?

We are molded by different lessons and guardians from everyone around.

(There was this my dad's friend(late) that saw me flying my collar while coming back from school back then. He called me and gave me a good advice on the implications of what I was doing(my dad will not see me flying collar because he was at work)
But his friend who saw me acted in replace of my father. I am grateful for what he said and still remembers his words whenever my collar is up)
Op, do what is right and leave the rest

LikeAking:
You are surprised a 21 years old girl is banging guys.

The holier they claim,the faker they are.

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

safarigirl:


Yes, 100.

If it was a man that he had seen incriminating messages to twenty women on his phone, would the OP be this concerned? Why do Nigerian men feel the need to police women's bodies?

If a woman says she doesn't want to have sex, they complain, the one that is having sex, complain too.

OP can talk to her of the dangers of abortion and advice her to have safe sex, but ultimately, it is up to the lady.

PeachtreeReside:
You want to sack her because she is sexually active?

She performs her job duties well right?

But her sex life is your problem?

Geez!

I wish our labour laws were stiff , wonder what your reasons would be


If you had a shred of maturity, you would call her and advise her as a father should

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

Dobson43:
Quick points here:

You were supposed to mind your business.

You crossed a line poking your nose in her personal affairs.

Being her Boss doesn't give you the right to judge her. She is under contract to serve you in a certain capacity. Stick to that capacity.

If her atitude to work affects your business in anyway, then you can let her off.

Why should you be bothered as a father? What's the point of drinking paracetamol on another man's headache?

If you had used this amount of time in snooping around in pushing your business forward, you would actually enjoy better patronage.


You should draw a line as regards your relationship between yourself and your workers.


It appears you have feelings for this lady thus your uneasiness that she has underperformed in your own estimation. Kill that feeling. It's her life, let her define it how it suits her

This time actually do mind your business.

Amotolongbo:
We should learn how to separate business from personal life.

She is your sales girl, relate with her strictly on business and show less concern on her personal life.

The way I’m reading your message, there is already a growing emotion in you already towards the girl, the reason you felt so highly disappointed and wanna lay her off, not because she is underperforming but the way she chose to live her life, which should be less of your concern.

In as much she is performing her responsibilities to your satisfaction and not using her “wayward” life to affect your business like she did the first time she went for abortion, leave her alone.

The only reason why you can lay her off is if she goes on abortion again and that makes her to take a time out of work and underperforming.

jaxxy:


So he shudnt correct her to keep her private life in check and sane bt rather wait for her 2nd abortion which from the looks of things and from her recent conversations seems to already on the way then fire her.


What kind of dumb advices am I reading here and to imagine u got so many likes for this piece of trash like advice speaks volumes of the skewed mentality of people on here.

I will always be greatful to frnds, bosses, and even strangers who gave me guidance and knowledge in any little way even tho I am very independent minded. Imagine the trash I’m reading here.

Look if u have a maid who indulges in such sack her or she will either attract unscrupulous elements to ur home when ur away or influence ur wards.

Just imagine!

OritaIbadan:

I had even tried to ignore but am not finding it very easy thats why I informed my wife and brought it up here just to be sure I do the right thing

toboy:
OP, I think it is very unprofessional for you to look into her private messages. Nevertheless, I think you have a good heart for caring! I think it's a good gesture when managers look after thier emplyees and support them . However, this must strictly be in such a way that the you're not infringing or disrespectimg your employee's privacy esp giving she is an adult of her own.

The fact the sales is getting "unwanted pregnancies" and aborting means she is not properly protecting her self. She may also catch other disease that can impact her life heavily.

OP, I think what you can do is try to come a bit closer to your employees, invite her for a family dinner, get to know her background, make her comfortable and then assure her if she needs anything at all from you and your wife you are more happy to assist. You can continue to support her untill that TRUST is established in such a way she is able open up to in her own.

Remember to empathise and NOT judgemental.

Nezzjnr:
You guys are saying OP should mind his business... For what exactly??
Didn't you see where OP stated that he's like a Fatherly figure to her and she's different from the others

This girl is still a minor working as a sales rep... If something bad happens to her... All fingers will be pointing towards OP.

thesmallgod:

So if you own a house and recruit an house help, you want to tell me it is wrong for you to enter and check her room

OritaIbadan:


Thank you, I have instructed her to produce any of her parent on Monday or stay at home

Ningen:
We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity.

OritaIbadan:

Alright just thinking as a father is it the best

cochexky:
Please OP I'm surprise of what some people are saying here, for christ sake that wasn't her personal phone so u never intruded rather this is how God want to help her if not she wouldn't have forgotten to log out after knowing she has nonsense in her inbox.

Please hear me, for the fact God has giving u this opportunity to help a soul kindly respond to God by first of all, tell your wife about it by showing her the chats so that she will not suspect you.

Second, call the girl and expose what u saw, then take the number of her parent and let them know that there Daughter is pregnant.

She should tag any of the guy since they be making advantage her ignorant.

OP this is an issue between you and God not us.

As we talk, what ever happened to that unborn child may be upon you...

Listen to what is say, you will see more blessings but if u are unGodly then listen to those saying you should mind ur business.


I hope you screenshot everything or still have the Facebook account on.

Start now from telling you wife...
Please if u don't have any evidence, and you are the type there wife suspect.. Abeg no rush tell her oo..

God bless you as you help the unborn.