Those people saying OP should mind his business and stop invading the lady's privacy!

Maybe they didn't read the part that said that the phone in question belongs to the OP, and of course, He has the right to operate his phone anytime he likes.

It wasn't as if he collected the lady's phone and started checking her messages.

Mind you, 98% of people here would definitely do the same if someone logs into his/her account with their phones and forgets to log out afterwards.

Abeg, let's stop this hypocrisy!



As for the matter at hand, my advice for the OP is to pretend as if nothing happened. Let the business continue as usual; unless her lifestyle begins to affect her productivity negatively as it concerns your business, then you can show her the door.

It's God that reveals this to you for the purpose of correcting her and not to increase her misery.so long she's doing your job well and also not stealing your money. Call her,tell her your discoveries and advice her.sacking her is like pouring fuel inside a burning fire.

Best advice I've seen so far.

Ningen:
We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity.

Michelle55:

What if he never gets to find out something like that at the first place if only he didn't snoop?
I'm not sure the young lady will appreciate her boss encroaching on her privacy like that..
So he should assume he didn't know anything and let her be

What is bad is bad.... She can die for all you care. If it ever happens that she loose her life in the process of abort or incapable to give birth, what would you feel as a person knowing that you could have at least do something before it gets to that point if it ever did.... Aunty you are wicked. There is a reason why certain things happen, what if it was designed by God that someone should save her from herself?.

It's like you are also a wayward person (sorry to say).

The OP should try and find a way to pass the message however ugly it would be because this is life we are talking about so as not to say had I known.

It is people like you that can cry crocodile tears for Africa. Your husband/ future man should better watch out.

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

Are you from okeho(kajola)

Kai if I read some useless comments here i just feel pains, how could u guys say he should let the girl be? Haba do u have conscience at all? Pls tell the girl what u found, advice her to change her ways that's all

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

if genuinely you're concerned take to her relatives, you all handle it like a father that you claim.
laying her off or relieving her of her job doesn't change nothing but compound it all. you never punctured her means of livelihood but you got it terminated you never can tell who is going to affected by this.
she might be a means of support to her parents or the breadwinner per say, sacking her will do more damage than repair, it won't stop or correct the evil,
you were only made to see those things so as to serve as a mechanism to end and correct those ills in her, be of help to and don't compound her woes. you might set her into depression, these days it seems real in Nigeria and the results.
help to be a life saver and not destroyer.

ibkayee:

You are so weird

He said himself he has a phone in the office that he allows them access to incase their phone is off, we don't know that she used his phone to talk to any of her 'useless boyfriends', are you telling me that you don't know that the contents of her inbox will be the same no matter what device is used to log in? It is none of his business, why do some of you morality soldiers always have to impose your 'values' on everyone when whatever the person is doing could have absolutely no impact on you?

He's concerned about the dangers she's putting herself in at her age yet wants to take her source of livelihood from her over something that's none of his business lol smh

I'm beginning to understand why many men believe women are too emotional and 'less' intelligent to make key decisions...if this man minds his business and that girl dies on a quack's operating table...if her family gets to know and accuse the man of being complicit in the abortion and death of their daughter YOU will be the first to shout crucify him!! Without needing any evidence or the man's story(even if you get to hear his side you won't still believe)..then civil rights groups will be on his case and he will be on the defensive trying to save his life and rep...all because he minded his fvcking business...evil thrive in a society because good people decide to mind their business and looked the other way....get sense! And in getting it get wisdom!

Ningen:
We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity.

This is d smartest response I have so read. Let your wife help her if she can .

Does her life style affect your business? .. does she steal from you ? .. you paying her salary for a job and not to control her personal life .if truely you have nothing for the girl then let her be you have no reason sacking her .

Freestainworld:
You need to spill the beans fast, if you know her parents, inform them or else she will abort the baby before you know it.

imagine you were in her shoes..??

ehinmowo:


Oga make una keep quiet. Forming holier than thou. Father figure ko mother figure ni. Biko how is 21 years a minor? because country bad and she working as a sales rep bah? What in the world even made the idiot oga to go and check her INBOX. It's not as if inbox is the home page you would first see when you open a webpage.

What was he snooping around for? He wants to bang the poor girl. I can bet my balls that that nigga has sent obscene messages to several girls on fb. Imagine someone displaying your private life in the open because he pays you some useless money that is not even enough to eat food in fast food? Even God does not display people's privacy in the open.

Why is it so difficult for people to keep business strictly business? because he pays her one useless 10 or 20k per month which is not up to 20 Naira per hour gives him right to pry into her private life. In a sane country that guy could go to jail for this nonsense.

Note this is not to support her way of life. But first a 21-year old is an adult. And the boss is not in the position to do anything about it.

End of the discussion!! If he also claims to be responsible why did he check someones messages why not just log out,the o.p himself is an irresponsible adult, he also needs our advice too.

Oga business man mind your business na, why you come dey destroy this girl career for social media.

Awoleesu:
Hmmmm, I see everyday how our world sinks and most people onboard think we're fine...

The majority here screaming "OP mind your business" gives me more worries than the OP would worry over his said employee!

O mase o! Ogede aiye n'baje a lo n'pon!

That a young lady of her age engages in such horrific lifestyle is an indicator of many things, ultimate of which is the tendency to be deceptive and dishonest even with her boss! And, some people here are making a case for separating business from persons! For such protagonists, don't you know that the so called business itself is a person? Do you know that business is all about relationships? Hypocrites! The kind of news you want to hear is that the lady developed complications at work so you can start your usual rants of "arrest the Man"... Abi?

Wait a minute!

What is even wrong with the Africans of today?! We have so imbibed the foreign cultures to the detriment of whom we are!
We copy from them what they detest about themselves, and easily cast away what they envy in us! Chai! Nkan ma se wa O!
So, wither the spirit of brotherliness?

In my culture, the maxim goes; if your neighborh consumes abnormal insects and you refuse to caution him, when he starts groaning and coughing at night, you'll be unable to sleep yourself!

For crying out, this lady could be a product of a dysfunctional home, an imbalanced upbringing, a victim of unpleasant circumstances or the likes - she may need help! and if the OP can help her, my question is why not?
But if we stick to the doctrine of 'mind your business', what good will come from it?

OP, please sit her, explain to her from a mature POV how God has diverse ways of helping people... Tell her how you have acted against your own usual culture by opening her private chats as a divine intervention to rescue her. Encourage her to open up on her challenges. Counsel her, pray for her, help her!

The true beauty of humanity is not in being morally upright, but in saving the lives that are within our capacities to such save.

They are waiting for the girl to die on the quack's table so they can carry placards and accuse the Op of raping his sales girl and giving her money for an abortion...morally bankrupt generation!

Richardonald:
5 guys eeh!!! some ladies life don finish. different prick per every Sunday, after they will say no husband to marry them, when they have f..ck their future husband away.

That one fear you. When she marry, she may start looking for fruit of womb for years. And want her husband to suffer for unknown sin. Attending prayer program by fire by force

'A man got to do what a man got to do'

Before bringing the topic here, you had already made up your mind on what to do, so the comment section is just people and opinions.
Na only you know here the thing dey pain.
So do what you have to do but with consideration.

WeRblessed:
You are very disrespectful by going through her personal. She is neither your sister nor girlfriend. She is your employee for crying out loud. Whatever she does with her personal life is non of your business. But if she is not meeting up to her job description you can fire her.

You are not her father, so mind your business.

Look at them! Mind you business coven! Has it even crossed that your closed mind that the Op seeing those messages might be his only evidence of innocence should that girl die during an abortion??

I use to wonder this days why are people so hell bent or adamant in faking there lifestyle's.
Seriously, if the sales girl had lived her normal life without the "too much religiously overdone sentiment" the OP wouldn't have said "fatherly figure" and "different from the rest" at the beginning of his write-ups.
Why do most people especially the female folks tends to pretend a lot whilst doing the opposite, why do we always need to do good in front of mere mortals and do worst at our secret places and felt no one is seeing us.
Please op, minding your business and removing emotional attached related sentiment from your workers is the key to achieving great reputation in pushing your business forward.
But, needless to say it's obvious that you can't unseen what you have seen; thus, i would advice you to reach out to her because, spiritually the spirit world controls the physical.
What you saw is evidence that your "worker" needed help so fast hence you wouldn't have seen what you saw on her facebook if it was not meant for you to see.
Now to most of you commenting that OP shouldn't have intrude in her staff privacy should think before they talk, firstly the Phone she used wasn't her phone; secondly, she was even using it to flirt when she knew that the OP kept it there for everyone; thirdly, as long as she is in that business the OP owns her, i did not mean like her father but to some extent in terms of giving her advice or moral instruction.
Lastly, i would like to correct an impression, all of you would have done the same if you had come across the same thing OP came across with, i mean how many of you would have logged your friend out if he/she had used your phone for facebooking without logging out especially the female folks?

Abortion is a very sinful act,the best thing to do is to sack her before she puts you and your wife in trouble.my question is what if she commits another abortion and die in the process or unwanted pregnancy,how will her parents or her guidiance react about it?...church girls na them worst pass,you people should think wisely...

Op, what do you think letting her go will do?, Help her or make it worse?
If it was your daughter what would you do?.... Counsel her, you saw the massages which was wrong, so it's up to you tonhelt her without making her uncomfortable ... You say you can't bskee? Wait till you take a wrong move and she commits sucide and you will know what loossin sleep looks like.

Amaechi667:
Oga business man mind your business na, why you come dey destroy this girl career for social media.

Bros reread what you typed, how is the op destroying the girl's career on social media.
Did he mention her name, capital NO!
Did he mention where she lives, capital NO!
Did he mention her relations, capital NO!
Did the op even mentioned where his business is located or what type of business he does, capital NO! So what's the fuss?

LikeAking:
You are surprised a 21 years old girl is banging guys.

The holier they claim,the faker they are.

Explain at holier they claim, does that mean people are not holy?

Caseless:
It's easier to give advice when you're not the one directly affected. As if you'll condone such - except u're a very loose girl like that young girl. Pretenders everywhere!

exactly

I wonder why people are telling OP to turn a blind eye and mind his business,for Christ sake,dis girl is just 21 and God might have revealed this to him for him to save dar girl from further doom ,since he already treat her special cos of her behaviour,I think he and his wife should invite her and talk things over with her ,and her job should not b at threat ,let her know her behaviour has nothing to do with her job for him,but just talk to her on how to live a beta life ,dats wat Matas ,den allow her to make her decision

Grandmeister:

So not going to her Facebook will prevent her from dying in his shop and getting implicated?? My goodness! Are we getting dumber and insensitive in this world or what?

You're the dumb one if you don't understand what I wrote.

I just hate guys that pretends a lot, i just hate the fact that most guys would come on this thread and spew rubbish saying shitty things like; why would the op even do such when in the real sense most of them are insecure.
I can bet my balls that most guys saying the op shouldn't have invaded in the girls privacy should swore that one way or the other that they have not sneaked and checked there girlfriend's text messages, gallery and the worst of all WhatsApp chats and even this so called facebook they are accusing the op of, like say there girls no get privacy.
This generation is doomed.

martinskelly:
I use to wonder this days why are people so hell bent or adamant in faking there lifestyle's.
Seriously, if the sales girl had lived her normal life without the "too much religiously overdone sentiment" the OP wouldn't have said "fatherly figure" and "different from the rest" at the beginning of his write-ups.
Why do most people especially the female folks tends to pretend a lot whilst doing the opposite, why do we always need to do good in front of mere mortals and do worst at our secret places and felt no one is seeing us.
Please op, minding your business and removing emotional attached related sentiment from your workers is the key to achieving great reputation in pushing your business forward.
But, needless to say it's obvious that you can't unseen what you have seen; thus, i would advice you to reach out to her because, spiritually the spirit world controls the physical.
What you saw is evidence that your "worker" needed help so fast hence you wouldn't have seen what you saw on her facebook if it was not meant for you to see.
Now to most of you commenting that OP shouldn't have intrude in her staff privacy should think before they talk, firstly the Phone she used wasn't her phone; secondly, she was even using it to flirt when she knew that the OP kept it there for everyone; thirdly, as long as she is in that business the OP owns her, i did not mean like her father but to some extent in terms of giving her advice or moral instruction.
Lastly, i would like to correct an impression, all of you would have done the same if you had come across the same thing OP came across with, i mean how many of you would have logged your friend out if he/she had used your phone for facebooking without logging out especially the female folks?

I didn't read all d comments, I ran through page 1 and this last page.. and when I see good responsible remarks I know.

Op. .let a family member of hers bn on d known or better still keep d evidence while ur wife advice her of d consequences of her escaped which seems fun to her.. should she dies in our house in bid of her abortion. Naija police will turn u first suspect

And let me tell people.. nothing takes God by surprise...when HE wants to expose u..it's a little mistake..and may b that's why d girls phone spoilt at first...think on this reason

U all shouting privacy will b d first to abuse someone..go and marry, or ur mates don give birth finish..what r u waiting for? U forgot it's someone privacy life....you all sychophants

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

My brother, there are alot of wayward people in Nigeria now. So wayward that they look her life as a personal thing but they won't give her a job.

Go through the comments and you will be disappointed at the level of decadence in Nigeria and Africa.

Sack her. Whoever is not happy should give her a job.

Another reason why nigeria will continue is this manner.
How does her Facebook account relate to your business?

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

Ariza:
You may counsel her if you so much care but the truth is you invaded her privacy by checking her inbox.Thats very unprofessional!


BTW are you sure you have no feelings for this girl? This one you can't sleep over her mata?

what kind feelings could that be??
After all he has discovered

Nezzjnr:
You guys are saying OP should mind his business... For what exactly??
Didn't you see where OP stated that he's like a Fatherly figure to her and she's different from the others

This girl is still a minor working as a sales rep... If something bad happens to her... All fingers will be pointing towards OP.

21 yrs a minor

Religious and ungodly people everywhere