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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by makydebbie(f): 9:14am On Jun 07, 2020
The way Nigerians don't know how to mind their business amazes me. I was thinking you'll say she doesn't work well at her job. You're just sad she played you, it's your ego. You'll tell me how her business relates with her private life.

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Belleful: 9:14am On Jun 07, 2020
annford:





It was wrong for you to have gone through her chat because you'd have frowned at it if reverse were the case. Personally, I don't think it is in your place to judge her or treat her any different just because you dug up some stuffs about her. If you must let her go, you might as well sit her down, tell her your findings, get her to see her wrong and just hope she changes. I had a similar experience. My Wife and I had met a girl who was an unapologetic lesbian. We did all we could to change her but she just didn't want to change. We tried all we could but she remained adamant. She even got pregnant and didn't know who's baby it was. She later started sleeping with everything male in our neighbourhood. Well, she presently has two children by two different men that she doesn't even know their whereabouts. After trying for months to change her, we had to let her go because at some point, she started falling in love with me and I will never cheat on my wife. My wife and I always gave her goof money, clothing's and foodstuffs but she was neck-deep into sex ( casual sex). I'd advise you try rehabilitating her but if it doesn't work, cut her loose.

this is the best advice. if u care for her, talk it over with her.

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Liliantalks: 9:15am On Jun 07, 2020
kalmebad:


I didn't read all d comments, I ran through page 1 and this last page.. and when I see good responsible remarks I know.

Op. .let a family member of hers bn on d known or better still keep d evidence while ur wife advice her of d consequences of her escaped which seems fun to her.. should she dies in our house in bid of her abortion. Naija police will turn u first suspect

And let me tell people.. nothing takes God by surprise...when HE wants to expose u..it's a little mistake..and may b that's why d girls phone spoilt at first...think on this reason

U all shouting privacy will b d first to abuse someone..go and marry, or ur mates don give birth finish..what r u waiting for? U forgot it's someone privacy life....you all sychophants
evidence asin ? Better craze Dey worry Una .

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Nobody: 9:16am On Jun 07, 2020
Grandmeister:

You guys just don't get it! What if she does during an abortion and her family gets to know? Their first accusation will be on the Op! And from then on he will be on the defensive...his story will come to nairaland and most including you will judge him guilty before any evidence or his side of the story..even with his own story most will not believe him! Infact they will accuse him of raping her and giving her money for abortion! It's so easy for his life to be ruined in this manner...so fvcking easy!

Actually getting involved is what will complicate things, Her friends and people around KNOW EXACTLY WHAT SHE DOES. In a Nigerian community you can't hide being a sl#t especially one who has aborted before. Infact getting himself into this will make people see him as one of her fuvkboys.

FYI, even his wife knows the girl is wayward, na only the op didn't notice. Am sure his other workers know too.

Some people here have no experience in dealing with this kind of thing, I know som1 who meddle in one of his employees private life in d name of correcting her. When shyt get bad, she said he was the one who impregnated her. Na us & some community people save that elder by proving her wayward life.

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by jurrsh(m): 9:17am On Jun 07, 2020
Nezzjnr:
You guys are saying OP should mind his business... For what exactly??
Didn't you see where OP stated that he's like a Fatherly figure to her and she's different from the others undecided

This girl is still a minor working as a sales rep... If something bad happens to her... All fingers will be pointing towards OP.

21 yrs a minor??

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by martinskelly(m): 9:19am On Jun 07, 2020
litaninja:
Another reason why nigeria will continue is this manner.
How does her Facebook account relate to your business?

Bros is like using a CUG(Close User Group) in a company, do you believe that your number is closely and secretly monitored.
Firstly, the number is not yours.
Secondly, it was giving to you by your employer; thus giving them right to monitor you.
This same thing applied here also, the phone is no hers.
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Nobody: 9:20am On Jun 07, 2020
OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

It's none of ur business

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Pedrogold(m): 9:21am On Jun 07, 2020
Sadly I didn't see this on time.
Gladly, you accepted it was wrong to peep into her privacy.

Now that you know her secret and how much of a danger she is putting herself into, you'll do no good laying her off, in fact you'll be setting her free to explore other areas, imagine she gets a job with another man who now takes advantage of her lifestyle and all that, you'll end up blaming yourself.

Here's what I think you should do.

1. Don't change your ways towards her
2. Sit her down for a talk, don't mention what you saw on her message. In fact don't tell her you saw anything, just tell her you have some negative feelings that she's in a mess and at risk
People respond more to fear of danger than pursuit of pleasure.
Tell her you had a dream about her (I know this is a lie, but it's necessary, you have already done wrong by invading her privacy) let her know you saw her giving herself up to death, (she's a misguided believer, trust me, she knows what she's doing but she's doing it because she can't help herself).
Put fear in her without letting her know you saw her chats, construct the dream talk so well that it relates to her story and make her feel fear, she'll confess herself or end up thinking about her life all over again.

Then you must have stimulated her recovery.

As for her pregnancy, let her decide what she wants to do with it if she tells you about it. She's quite young to be a single mother, but you never know.
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Anastescia001: 9:23am On Jun 07, 2020
Oga that wouldn't mind his business, shey u see wetin u de look for?

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by wale2020: 9:24am On Jun 07, 2020
Hello guys. What is the challenge with most of us here? i seems alot of us here are minors from our response.
This is Africa, where a child is trained by not just the parents, but the community. How can a father figure discovered such an you are asking him to mind his business. Have we degraded to this level in this country. God, help the youth of today.
As someone said, if you cannot counsel and pray for her, pls invite someone to talk to her. She needs help.

I pray this morning, that the Almighty God release angels to mininster to her this morning in the name of Jesus Christ. Daughter of Abraham, help is underway for you this morning. You are healed and delivered in the name of Jesus Christ.

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Bunny19: 9:24am On Jun 07, 2020
Dobson43:
Quick points here:

You were supposed to mind your business.

You crossed a line poking your nose in her personal affairs.

Being her Boss doesn't give you the right to judge her. She is under contract to serve you in a certain capacity. Stick to that capacity.

If her atitude to work affects your business in anyway, then you can let her off.

Why should you be bothered as a father? What's the point of drinking paracetamol on another man's headache?

If you had used this amount of time in snooping around in pushing your business forward, you would actually enjoy better patronage.


You should draw a line as regards your relationship between yourself and your workers.


It appears you have feelings for this lady thus your uneasiness that she has underperformed in your own estimation. Kill that feeling. It's her life, let her define it how it suits her

This time actually do mind your business.
Keep quiet my friend
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by CAPSLOCKED: 9:25am On Jun 07, 2020
makydebbie:
The way Nigerians don't know how to mind their business amazes me. I was thinking you'll say she doesn't work well at her job. You're just sad she played you, it's your ego. You'll tell me how her business relates with her private life.

VERY OLODO MAN. I HARDLY BLAME HIM ANYWAY IT'S ALREADY PART OF US TO ALWAYS WANT TO DICTATE FOR PEOPLE HOW TO HANDLE THEIR PERSONAL LIVES.

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by kay29000(m): 9:27am On Jun 07, 2020
makydebbie:
The way Nigerians don't know how to mind their business amazes me. I was thinking you'll say she doesn't work well at her job. You're just sad she played you, it's your ego. You'll tell me how her business relates with her private life.

Exactly! What's the freaking correlation. People need to even speak on how creepy it is for the man to be going through the girl's Facebook Inbox messages in the first place. I suspect the guy secretely likes the girl. If not, why would you have sleepless nights over her private life. And why would you want to fire her for what she does with HER LIFE.
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Abyima(m): 9:29am On Jun 07, 2020
OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it
Why intrude on her privacy. Let her be. Since you have known everything about her, just keep on advicing her as someone who cares. Never tell her you saw such on her facebook account. Don't chase her away please. Wisdom they say is profitable to direct.

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by yonisco(f): 9:32am On Jun 07, 2020
nothing happen by accident, God want to use you to transform her life, Dont lay her off from work but advise her as your own daughter or sister,
She should not abort the pregnancy
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by hayodejipop: 9:34am On Jun 07, 2020
Amotolongbo:
We should learn how to separate business from personal life.

She is your sales girl, relate with her strictly on business and show less concern on her personal life.

The way I’m reading your message, there is already a growing emotion in you already towards the girl, the reason you felt so highly disappointed and wanna lay her off, not because she is underperforming but the way she chose to live her life, which should be less of your concern.

In as much she is performing her responsibilities to your satisfaction and not using her “wayward” life to affect your business like she did the first time she went for abortion, leave her alone.

The only reason why you can lay her off is if she goes on abortion again and that makes her to take a time out of work and underperforming.
u get too much brain....nice write up
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Futurejoy(f): 9:38am On Jun 07, 2020
OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it
You need to go with your with your wife and locate her family
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Franklyspeakin: 9:40am On Jun 07, 2020
So wait will you help her in taking care of the child??
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Grandmeister(m): 9:40am On Jun 07, 2020
Biodun1929:


You're the dumb one if you don't understand what I wrote.
Common sense is really not common..your case exemplifies this.
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by kay29000(m): 9:41am On Jun 07, 2020
ehinmowo:


Oga make una keep quiet. Forming holier than thou. Father figure ko mother figure ni. Biko how is 21 years a minor? because country bad and she working as a sales rep bah? What in the world even made the idiot oga to go and check her INBOX. It's not as if inbox is the home page you would first see when you open a webpage.

What was he snooping around for? He wants to bang the poor girl. I can bet my balls that that nigga has sent obscene messages to several girls on fb. Imagine someone displaying your private life in the open because he pays you some useless money that is not even enough to eat food in fast food? Even God does not display people's privacy in the open.

Why is it so difficult for people to keep business strictly business? because he pays her one useless 10 or 20k per month which is not up to 20 Naira per hour gives him right to pry into her private life. In a sane country that guy could go to jail for this nonsense.

Note this is not to support her way of life. But first a 21-year old is an adult. And the boss is not in the position to do anything about it.

Don't mind all these guys forming holy holy. You would be shocked at the creepy things these same guys do in private, but they are coming here to form saint. For that man to go through the girl's Facebook messages, he secretly has feelings for the girl. That's why even the wife gets tired of him talking about the girl.
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by manuelreports: 9:41am On Jun 07, 2020
Does she have bad conduct at work?
Does she steal your money?
Does she bring bad luck to You?
If she does not do any of the above, all you need to do is to call her, sit her down and advise her.
She will change and she will hold you in high esteem
Sacking her is not justifiable
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by makydebbie(f): 9:44am On Jun 07, 2020
CAPSLOCKED:


VERY OLODO MAN. I HARDLY BLAME HIM ANYWAY IT'S ALREADY PART OF US TO ALWAYS WANT TO DICTATE FOR PEOPLE HOW TO HANDLE THEIR PERSONAL LIVES.

Like I'm shocked. Why do we always think we can control people's personal lives. There's a reason why it's called personal. He's not even shameless that he went through her Facebook.
I was reading and waiting for him to say she no dey even come work. I'll say fire am.

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by boxer022(m): 9:44am On Jun 07, 2020
eni4real:
Fake irresponsible, chameleon Adult undecided

I didn't come to this forum to insult any body but only to speak the truth as it occurs to me. What ever I said in my earlier post is the truth as it is and it said that the truth is always bitter. I repeat again the only link between you and the staff of yours is work which I believe she is doing perfectly. Any other thing you think that links the two of you is only falacy. She is an adult and makes her own decisions as it suits her. She never asked you for advice on her life style or decisions. Sack her if you like, it will not change anything. Face your family and business and stop poknosing in another person's life and decisions after all she is not your daughter or sister or any of your relatives.
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Grandmeister(m): 9:47am On Jun 07, 2020
SpecialAgent:


Actually getting involved is what will complicate things, Her friends and people around KNOW EXACTLY WHAT SHE DOES. In a Nigerian community you can't hide being a sl#t especially one who has aborted before. Infact getting himself into this will make people see him as one of her fuvkboys.

FYI, even his wife knows the girl is wayward, na only the op didn't notice. Am sure his other workers know too.

Some people here have no experience in dealing with this kind of thing, I know som1 who meddle in one of his employees private life in d name of correcting her. When shyt get bad, she said he was the one who impregnated her. Na us & some community people save that elder by proving her wayward life.
Because you know the girl's way..in this case the OP's sales girl doesn't exhibit any way ward character publicly...that man you defended was just lucky...the Op might not be..he already has evidence via her Facebook chats which is actually a good thing for him..if he keeps minding his business and that girl dies during an abortion he might not be lucky like the man you defended! You just buttressed my point, you see how easy it is for an innocent boss to be accused of sexual molestation /impregnating and cajoling his employee into abortion?
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by kay29000(m): 9:47am On Jun 07, 2020
eduwizard:
Don't call me demented but I truly suspect that this man has been sleeping with the sales girl and is only shocked to have discovered her sexual waywardness. He's jealous and needs us to provide him options to deal with the girl.

He might not be sleeping with her, but he sure has thought of it. That's why the first thing that came to his mind after finding out what she does in her "private" life was to fire her.

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by WelcomeToBiafra: 9:49am On Jun 07, 2020
OritaIbadan:

I have discussed that already with my wife, she said she would talk with her provided she cooperate

Hi, Op.
Nice moved there, but you and your wife shouldn't make it look threatening. Because a lot of these youths have lost hope and their dreams already. If you and your wife will help her to keep the baby till the finish line, that will be fine. If you sack her of her job, what good is there? You might even also contributes to your predicament. What if the next sales agent
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by mlkraj(m): 9:50am On Jun 07, 2020
Op don't mind those saying let her be o. There are a lot of evils that comes from not condemning an evil at d first place. Pls help me ask them why is suicide a crime? Is it not their life?

Fyn u were wrong to have checked her messages BT I believe everything happens for a reason so pls and pls talk to her. unless she tells u to the face that ''sir,I have my own personal life to live'' even so u can still press further (if I were u)
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Grandmeister(m): 9:52am On Jun 07, 2020
makydebbie:
The way Nigerians don't know how to mind their business amazes me. I was thinking you'll say she doesn't work well at her job. You're just sad she played you, it's your ego. You'll tell me how her business relates with her private life.
Get sense! And in getting sense get wisdom! You social justice warriors will be the first to judge that man guilty should the girl die during abortion..the girl's family will accuse him of impregnating their daughter and asking her to go for an abortion...they will grant interviews and make statement at the police station and you 'mind your business' crooners will pronounce him guilty here on nairaland...after all the Story fits your narratives...if you lots can't see that minding his business might get him into police trouble should that girl die during an abortion then it's a lost cause!
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by kay29000(m): 9:52am On Jun 07, 2020
karnap:
how does that affect her doing your job,this is the reasons your wife change topic, you seems to like this girl, since you believed she is faithful, what make you.to check her box? and you feels sad, you love this girl,but that is not your problems, allow the girl to do her job.


"...this is the reasons your wife change topic, you seems to like this girl."

Exactly! If you read through his posts well, you will decern that he likes the girl...even if he doesn't realize it. And it has nothing to do with father figure likeness. If it was about being a father figure, the first thing that would come to his mind after seeing the messages won't be to fire her.

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Biodun1929(m): 9:54am On Jun 07, 2020
Grandmeister:

Common sense is really not common..your case exemplifies this.

Ode! Stop using emotions to think, and think logically.
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Grandmeister(m): 9:55am On Jun 07, 2020
Liliantalks:
evidence asin ? Better craze Dey worry Una .
Yes it's an evidence! You females are gradually losing it on per second billing! If that girl dies at the hands of a quack and her family accuses the OP of being somehow responsible for it all what will his defence be? Whose side of the story will be easily believable in today's clime? A bereaved family seeking justice or a man who's employee died on an abortion table?? Is this possibility lost on you all??

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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Grandmeister(m): 9:56am On Jun 07, 2020
Biodun1929:


Ode! Stop using emotions to think, and think logically.
It is you who lack logic, even if a brick of logic inducing qualities hits you on that thick forehead of yours you won't still see the logic...

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