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Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by makydebbie(f): 9:14am On Jun 07, 2020 |
The way Nigerians don't know how to mind their business amazes me. I was thinking you'll say she doesn't work well at her job. You're just sad she played you, it's your ego. You'll tell me how her business relates with her private life. 2 Likes |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Belleful: 9:14am On Jun 07, 2020 |
annford: this is the best advice. if u care for her, talk it over with her. 1 Like |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Liliantalks: 9:15am On Jun 07, 2020 |
kalmebad:evidence asin ? Better craze Dey worry Una . 1 Like |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Nobody: 9:16am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Grandmeister: Actually getting involved is what will complicate things, Her friends and people around KNOW EXACTLY WHAT SHE DOES. In a Nigerian community you can't hide being a sl#t especially one who has aborted before. Infact getting himself into this will make people see him as one of her fuvkboys. FYI, even his wife knows the girl is wayward, na only the op didn't notice. Am sure his other workers know too. Some people here have no experience in dealing with this kind of thing, I know som1 who meddle in one of his employees private life in d name of correcting her. When shyt get bad, she said he was the one who impregnated her. Na us & some community people save that elder by proving her wayward life. 3 Likes |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by jurrsh(m): 9:17am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Nezzjnr: 21 yrs a minor?? 2 Likes |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by martinskelly(m): 9:19am On Jun 07, 2020 |
litaninja:Bros is like using a CUG(Close User Group) in a company, do you believe that your number is closely and secretly monitored. Firstly, the number is not yours. Secondly, it was giving to you by your employer; thus giving them right to monitor you. This same thing applied here also, the phone is no hers. |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Nobody: 9:20am On Jun 07, 2020 |
OritaIbadan: It's none of ur business 1 Like |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Pedrogold(m): 9:21am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Sadly I didn't see this on time. Gladly, you accepted it was wrong to peep into her privacy. Now that you know her secret and how much of a danger she is putting herself into, you'll do no good laying her off, in fact you'll be setting her free to explore other areas, imagine she gets a job with another man who now takes advantage of her lifestyle and all that, you'll end up blaming yourself. Here's what I think you should do. 1. Don't change your ways towards her 2. Sit her down for a talk, don't mention what you saw on her message. In fact don't tell her you saw anything, just tell her you have some negative feelings that she's in a mess and at risk People respond more to fear of danger than pursuit of pleasure. Tell her you had a dream about her (I know this is a lie, but it's necessary, you have already done wrong by invading her privacy) let her know you saw her giving herself up to death, (she's a misguided believer, trust me, she knows what she's doing but she's doing it because she can't help herself). Put fear in her without letting her know you saw her chats, construct the dream talk so well that it relates to her story and make her feel fear, she'll confess herself or end up thinking about her life all over again. Then you must have stimulated her recovery. As for her pregnancy, let her decide what she wants to do with it if she tells you about it. She's quite young to be a single mother, but you never know. |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Anastescia001: 9:23am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Oga that wouldn't mind his business, shey u see wetin u de look for? 1 Like |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by wale2020: 9:24am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Hello guys. What is the challenge with most of us here? i seems alot of us here are minors from our response. This is Africa, where a child is trained by not just the parents, but the community. How can a father figure discovered such an you are asking him to mind his business. Have we degraded to this level in this country. God, help the youth of today. As someone said, if you cannot counsel and pray for her, pls invite someone to talk to her. She needs help. I pray this morning, that the Almighty God release angels to mininster to her this morning in the name of Jesus Christ. Daughter of Abraham, help is underway for you this morning. You are healed and delivered in the name of Jesus Christ. 1 Like |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Bunny19: 9:24am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Dobson43:Keep quiet my friend |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by CAPSLOCKED: 9:25am On Jun 07, 2020 |
makydebbie: VERY OLODO MAN. I HARDLY BLAME HIM ANYWAY IT'S ALREADY PART OF US TO ALWAYS WANT TO DICTATE FOR PEOPLE HOW TO HANDLE THEIR PERSONAL LIVES. 4 Likes |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by kay29000(m): 9:27am On Jun 07, 2020 |
makydebbie: Exactly! What's the freaking correlation. People need to even speak on how creepy it is for the man to be going through the girl's Facebook Inbox messages in the first place. I suspect the guy secretely likes the girl. If not, why would you have sleepless nights over her private life. And why would you want to fire her for what she does with HER LIFE. |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Abyima(m): 9:29am On Jun 07, 2020 |
OritaIbadan:Why intrude on her privacy. Let her be. Since you have known everything about her, just keep on advicing her as someone who cares. Never tell her you saw such on her facebook account. Don't chase her away please. Wisdom they say is profitable to direct. 1 Like |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by yonisco(f): 9:32am On Jun 07, 2020 |
nothing happen by accident, God want to use you to transform her life, Dont lay her off from work but advise her as your own daughter or sister, She should not abort the pregnancy |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by hayodejipop: 9:34am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Amotolongbo:u get too much brain....nice write up |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Futurejoy(f): 9:38am On Jun 07, 2020 |
OritaIbadan:You need to go with your with your wife and locate her family |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Franklyspeakin: 9:40am On Jun 07, 2020 |
So wait will you help her in taking care of the child?? |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Grandmeister(m): 9:40am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Biodun1929:Common sense is really not common..your case exemplifies this. |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by kay29000(m): 9:41am On Jun 07, 2020 |
ehinmowo: Don't mind all these guys forming holy holy. You would be shocked at the creepy things these same guys do in private, but they are coming here to form saint. For that man to go through the girl's Facebook messages, he secretly has feelings for the girl. That's why even the wife gets tired of him talking about the girl. |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by manuelreports: 9:41am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Does she have bad conduct at work? Does she steal your money? Does she bring bad luck to You? If she does not do any of the above, all you need to do is to call her, sit her down and advise her. She will change and she will hold you in high esteem Sacking her is not justifiable |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by makydebbie(f): 9:44am On Jun 07, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: Like I'm shocked. Why do we always think we can control people's personal lives. There's a reason why it's called personal. He's not even shameless that he went through her Facebook. I was reading and waiting for him to say she no dey even come work. I'll say fire am. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by boxer022(m): 9:44am On Jun 07, 2020 |
eni4real: I didn't come to this forum to insult any body but only to speak the truth as it occurs to me. What ever I said in my earlier post is the truth as it is and it said that the truth is always bitter. I repeat again the only link between you and the staff of yours is work which I believe she is doing perfectly. Any other thing you think that links the two of you is only falacy. She is an adult and makes her own decisions as it suits her. She never asked you for advice on her life style or decisions. Sack her if you like, it will not change anything. Face your family and business and stop poknosing in another person's life and decisions after all she is not your daughter or sister or any of your relatives. |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Grandmeister(m): 9:47am On Jun 07, 2020 |
SpecialAgent:Because you know the girl's way..in this case the OP's sales girl doesn't exhibit any way ward character publicly...that man you defended was just lucky...the Op might not be..he already has evidence via her Facebook chats which is actually a good thing for him..if he keeps minding his business and that girl dies during an abortion he might not be lucky like the man you defended! You just buttressed my point, you see how easy it is for an innocent boss to be accused of sexual molestation /impregnating and cajoling his employee into abortion? |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by kay29000(m): 9:47am On Jun 07, 2020 |
eduwizard: He might not be sleeping with her, but he sure has thought of it. That's why the first thing that came to his mind after finding out what she does in her "private" life was to fire her. 1 Like |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by WelcomeToBiafra: 9:49am On Jun 07, 2020 |
OritaIbadan: Hi, Op. Nice moved there, but you and your wife shouldn't make it look threatening. Because a lot of these youths have lost hope and their dreams already. If you and your wife will help her to keep the baby till the finish line, that will be fine. If you sack her of her job, what good is there? You might even also contributes to your predicament. What if the next sales agent |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by mlkraj(m): 9:50am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Op don't mind those saying let her be o. There are a lot of evils that comes from not condemning an evil at d first place. Pls help me ask them why is suicide a crime? Is it not their life? Fyn u were wrong to have checked her messages BT I believe everything happens for a reason so pls and pls talk to her. unless she tells u to the face that ''sir,I have my own personal life to live'' even so u can still press further (if I were u) |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Grandmeister(m): 9:52am On Jun 07, 2020 |
makydebbie:Get sense! And in getting sense get wisdom! You social justice warriors will be the first to judge that man guilty should the girl die during abortion..the girl's family will accuse him of impregnating their daughter and asking her to go for an abortion...they will grant interviews and make statement at the police station and you 'mind your business' crooners will pronounce him guilty here on nairaland...after all the Story fits your narratives...if you lots can't see that minding his business might get him into police trouble should that girl die during an abortion then it's a lost cause! |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by kay29000(m): 9:52am On Jun 07, 2020 |
karnap: "...this is the reasons your wife change topic, you seems to like this girl." Exactly! If you read through his posts well, you will decern that he likes the girl...even if he doesn't realize it. And it has nothing to do with father figure likeness. If it was about being a father figure, the first thing that would come to his mind after seeing the messages won't be to fire her. 1 Like |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Biodun1929(m): 9:54am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Grandmeister: Ode! Stop using emotions to think, and think logically. |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Grandmeister(m): 9:55am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Liliantalks:Yes it's an evidence! You females are gradually losing it on per second billing! If that girl dies at the hands of a quack and her family accuses the OP of being somehow responsible for it all what will his defence be? Whose side of the story will be easily believable in today's clime? A bereaved family seeking justice or a man who's employee died on an abortion table?? Is this possibility lost on you all?? 1 Like |
Re: What I Found On My Sales Girl's Facebook Messages by Grandmeister(m): 9:56am On Jun 07, 2020 |
Biodun1929:It is you who lack logic, even if a brick of logic inducing qualities hits you on that thick forehead of yours you won't still see the logic... |
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