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Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by UjuJoan2: 2:33pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Ybaby: That's assuming the man is actually intelligent. He may just be uninteresting and boring. That being said, I think I agree with you. It's the reason why I never really got the guys I was into back then. I tried to match their intelligence thinking it would impress them, didn't know it was the exact opposite. I never really understood that, but then I never knew the true size of a man's ego is as huge as the sea! 5 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by cynosuree: 2:33pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
RealMrNigerD: cynosuree: I don't want to be too specific, for the sake of anonymity |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Nobody: 2:36pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Hathor5: I like the man in this story, even down to the “a bit boring” bit . He is secure in himself, and is obviously not dumb, much like a very self aware person. You should date him nah, for my pleasure 2 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by CsRockefeller(m): 2:38pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
cynosuree: Because he is not the kind of person. I started reading Newspapers and listening to the news from age 5, you can't just expect one to develop that trait over night. He is not the type, that's it. 4 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by cynosuree: 2:41pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
merahki:He talks, way more than me. And he can be a bit extroverted when he's around his guys, they talk alot....but it's never anything deep. That's what I want with him sometimes, the deep stuff. 6 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Nobody: 2:49pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Op, I think you should break up with him. Not being able to have an intellectual conversation with your partner is such a turn off. Trust me, looks aren't everything (not saying they aren't something, lol), but things like these are as important as the physical attraction. There are men with both 10 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by galadima77(m): 2:49pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Let's look at it this way; I'm pretty sure some intelligent ones may have crossed your path but don't meet your fancy(not nice) while this innocent dude that has the "niceness" to spray is not intelligent enough. My friend forget that thing about your conscience not forgiving you and continue your search for your taste. Time will tell whether or nor you know what you're doing |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Nobody: 2:50pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
All this "talk talk " self is tiring me and I'm beginning to think Op just need someone to type out her thoughts/decision for validation. Like I have typed earlier, no one will hold you if you let the good guy go, It's your Life and your Happiness. But I will hold you and even blast you if you come back here to open thread that touch. Nairalanders aren't the ones to make a decision for you, You are . So whatever comes out of it be ready to bear or enjoy it. I'm out! |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by ThothHermes: 2:52pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
cynosuree:I know how this feels. It has been my experience for practically my whole life. There's a disadvantage to being more aware than those around you. Having to dumb down your thoughts or views is really draining. It's the reason I have few friends male or female. Something about IQ communication range But he must have other interests like sports, politics, literature, etc no I presume it would even be worse in a relationship. I can't imagine having anything serious with such a person. Academic achievements are a product of rote learning mostly so they can't be efficient indicators of an ability to become what you want. You can decide to stick with him and look for the kind of communication you want from friends and the internet He probably worships the ground you walk on so you might want to consider that. A good man is hard to find ooo... If you know it's going to make you resent him in the long run, you may want to call it quits now and save everyone future trouble. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Ybaby: 2:59pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: Huger than the sea Stroking a man's ego should be taught to all girls who want successful marriages. They will learn to act less intelligent than the hubby (act oooooo girls do better than boys in school, grow faster and learn quicker but you have to act/ pretend you earn money less too and learn to ask him for help with masculine things, ask him for money etc) Just make him feel big and strong and don't compete with him. Having said this, a woman better be smarter than him, 10 steps ahead of that nikka and have alot of her own money invested and saved up. Playing a fool is not the same as being a fool https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MCxbZ8D7N1o A woman must learn to play the fool 7 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Hathor5(f): 3:10pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
merahki: Everyone likes him. And yes he is very secure in himself. If you only saw what clothes he chooses to wear sometimes. Doesn't give a .... Is not trying to impress at all at all at all. He is happily married though from what I see. If he wasn't I would hook you up. 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Ybaby: 3:16pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Scholar94: I agree with you..... What I am saying is that, the smart and brilliant lady most times is not the love of his life ( She maybe his wife) she is not the girl of his dreams, she does not make him beg, she is his ladder, his bob da builder, his rope to climb up, his dictionary, his map to success, what he can afford for now, his ride or die - she is many things but not the "love of his life" He will NOT go out of his way for her - infact he will complain about feeding her - he wants her to pay for him being with her (bills) but when he meets the girl of his dreams he will toil for her, he will not use logic with her, he will provide for her That is why these disillusioned women when they realised they have been scammed and thier "loving" husband who they feed, cloth and house has impregnated one village girl who he is clothing, housing and feeding they are extremely confused and make excuses for him. Thier ego cannot take the fact that they are not his woman - they are the smart brilliant investor and that don't make a diickk hard. PERIOD! she is the one who will say men are mean or scum when he is finished with her The love of his life will say he is a good man, a great provider, a real man. The ladder's sweat will be used to care for the love of his life and her kids. Look around you before you reply me ........ 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Hathor5(f): 3:17pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: Maybe it was not you being (too) intelligent but your attempt to prove it. People who try hard to impress are a turn off. I have never met a man who refused to date a lady because she was smart. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Agp19(m): 3:18pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Nbote:seun abegs allow us to dey double like comment abeg There are some comment you just wish u could like ten times. 2 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Atolu01: 3:23pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Atolu01: 3:25pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
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Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Nobody: 3:27pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
cynosuree: Sorry, I don’t think he is for you then |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by frozen70(f): 3:31pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
cynosuree: You are lucky the only problem you find in him is his in ability to go into debate or argue in topics of your interests Why not accept that single fault and deal with it You can't get all in one package, honestly you can't I suggest also you send a link to topics and issues of your interest let him read then when you are seated, you raise it up from there he may pick up Then if you feel you can't cope, don't tell him that he is not a good candidate in that aspect, just walk out in a matured way but don't feel bad when you decides to come back and another has taken your place 2 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Nobody: 3:32pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Hathor5: Lol @ clothes, now I definitely like him! And @ bolded, 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by UjuJoan2: 3:34pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Hathor5: It wasn't really me 'trying', as much as it was me being who I was. I always found myself in a position where I had to come down to people's level, so it was always exciting to find myself where I had to actually be myself and find someone I can fully relate with. It wasn't really about intelligence, more of exposure. I figured out with time that a lot of men don't marry women who they can see as peer. They will definitely date you, love to have you around but when it really comes to settling down, they go for women who have less intelligence capacity. And I said a lot of men, not all men. 3 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Hathor5(f): 3:37pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: Ok. Sorry for misunderstanding you. 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Hathor5(f): 3:37pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
merahki: 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by UjuJoan2: 3:38pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Ybaby: Lol . . Completely on point as usual! 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Hathor5(f): 3:39pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Ybaby: You can teach it to your daughters, mine won't pretend to be less than. They will be taught to distinguish between strong and weak egos. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Romangalactic(m): 3:53pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Almost everyone on this thread is a genius who likes intellectual conversations 13 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by HarunaWest(m): 4:10pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
merahki:Have you seen me call a woman dumb before on NL? |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Oghenerobo2002(m): 5:03pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
SweetCunt97:Ur head too correct |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Nobody: 5:09pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
jansonn:"am sapiosexual" LMAO 9 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by ogawisdom(m): 5:39pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
cynosuree: Intelligence is native, he may be brilliant but not intelligent. People rarely come as a complete package. They will always fall short in one area. If u get a super intelligent man now he may be uncaring or unfaithful 4 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by StrikeBack(m): 6:01pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Romangalactic:Until you meet them in reality Make I just continue to dey read with my popcorn and zobo 5 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by jansonn(m): 6:01pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Nuel4:Gee!!! |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Ishilove: 6:10pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
cynosuree:Communicates effectively but can't hold an intelligent conversation? That's contradictory. He sounds super boring. I can imagine the torture you're going through. |
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