wetin be waybill? there's no trouble in your story. and why were your brother and sister quiet?
and state is this? he dey good to know these types of people and their strange behaviours

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

@OP, I have questions to ask you:

1.Where is your mother and was she still married to your father at the time of his death,if yes,what was her relationship with him at the point of his death?

2.The man you called your father, did he call you SON as at the time of his death,if yes,what was your relationship with your father as at the time of his death?

who is this idiot that post this foolish picture?

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Aizen123:
thanks but still i can't let someone else take my father's sweat... Will surely follow them with wisdom and probably involve village elders if need arises even the youths have told me that they are behind me if it turns out they are planning something evil

Are you sure it is your fathers sweat?
What was your relationship with him? Or you also heard that he is gone and you want to make your own grabs cos what is happening to you is a very rare occurrence especially at 24. And Where have you been all this while?
Have you been in contact with them about the burial or you just jumped when you heard that his shop was opened?
And they needed to make sales in order to bury him, ain't that right? Or are you footing the burial.?
Except if you all are all wacked upstairs as there is no reason for them not to involve you.

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now iam about acting but i need advice.

don't act o! Leave village people with their wahala. It happened to me as well. They asked me who have given me the effontery to challenge them, my mum pleaded with me to let go.

merahki:
So, like the poster should bend over, just like that?
Not even to ask them why they would take the key when they know he is around? Not even to ask why the shop was opened without telling him? And more importantly, why they would set a date for his father’s burial without informing him? It doesn’t read right at all, and anybody who gets to know about it is surely going to support you!

Dear OP, how old are you? Where is your mom? You should at least ask them why did all those(even is it’s as a text message or email, even letter), to know the responses you are going to get, for tomorrow’s sake.
You obviously shouldn’t go breaking heads but you deserve to know these answers. And if, for any reason you don’t, at least you would have asked, and kept records of the asking, with or without the replies.
If you are less than 18, maybe your uncle is your legal guardian and in that case, this might explain his high handed actions. Is he? But if you are an adult (but maybe without means)? Just ask, they would respect you for that even if they don’t show it. More importantly, your father would respect you for becoming a man who can hold his own.

people are just advising the young man to let go, so that him and his siblings will go and suffer

To each an everyone that has given advice to this young man may wisdom, knowledge, understanding never depart/cease from you all, everyone has spoken very well, my major concern is you all have spoken in oneness irrespective of religion or tribal sentiment, that is all i always want us all to see/view any issues on this forum from, doing these, we all will make this Country Great and see ourselves as Brothers and Sisters that lives in Unity, Peace and LOVE. A big Thank you to Everyone for the demise of the Father of this young man (souls rest in perfect peace) as unified All.

Aizen123:
thanks but still i can't let someone else take my father's sweat... Will surely follow them with wisdom and probably involve village elders if need arises even the youths have told me that they are behind me if it turns out they are planning something evil

don,t let them take over your father property any where your uncle want to go just ready to follow up with them

you wan turn this to one of those igbokwe nollywood drama?

why him father no share him property information with him son?

ikemesit4477:
sorry to ask! How old are you! You are sounding weak! These is your right, you need to speak up to avoid had I know!

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

be careful with those demons.
They don't mind killing father and son in one week .
If you confront them,they will start appealing to the dead how you are the one denying burial to the dead.
Just play along,take certain responsibilities and be very careful with the activities going on.
You might be able to see the family enemies.

OP, please pay attention to this advise and I pray you will follow it.

Carchoice:
The mistake you’ll ever make in life is fighting uncles/aunties over your late fathers property. It’s not a lost battle but it’s a waste of time and resources to me.


Leave them to do their thing. It doesn’t mean you are a weakling or scared but don’t fight over property’s with them. Just don’t do it.

Surprise them on the date of the burial by showing up to pay your last respect or better still you can shun it. Your father is dead already.

Don’t fight over property o!!! If they want to take it by force. Leave it for them and work for your own. You can always do more with the life ahead of you.

do you do family meetings bring it up in the family meeting.
ask how they will bury your father, and ask about the properties under them. do all of this in the family meeting in presence of all the extended family members so others know and it will embarrass them!

That burial can never be hold

Aizen123:
thanks but still i can't let someone else take my father's sweat... Will surely follow them with wisdom and probably involve village elders if need arises even the youths have told me that they are behind me if it turns out they are planning something evil

the elders that know your uncles more than they know you? Gone are the days village elders were known to be unbiased.


Also if it's the norm in your tribe for uncles to share their late brothers properties, then you are fighting a lost battle.

Carchoice:
The mistake you’ll ever make in life is fighting uncles/aunties over your late fathers property. It’s not a lost battle but it’s a waste of time and resources to me.


Leave them to do their thing. It doesn’t mean you are a weakling or scared but don’t fight over property’s with them. Just don’t do it.

Surprise them on the date of the burial by showing up to pay your last respect or better still you can shun it. Your father is dead already.

Don’t fight over property o!!! If they want to take it by force. Leave it for them and work for your own. You can always do more with the life ahead of you.

You can only heed this advice if you weren't in good standing with your dad while he was alive. Otherwise, I shudder to think your dad would be happy with you should you allow things flow the way it is ASAP.

betterpikinn:

I'm sure you're still a kid. Probably a teenager and/or undergraduate...
Life will teach you lessons and experiences When you grow up...

Dey there dey act timid. I have a friend from Anambra who collected deeds to her late fathers property from a greedy uncle under duress from Police escorts right there after the fathers funeral in the midst of other family members. Property she sold for N30m within few weeks.

what's the corpse doing in the mortuary since, wasting money unnecessarily.

Asquare84:


people are just advising the young man to let go, so that him and his siblings will go and suffer

don't mind them!

merahki:
So, like the poster should bend over, just like that?
Not even to ask them why they would take the key when they know he is around? Not even to ask why the shop was opened without telling him? And more importantly, why they would set a date for his father’s burial without informing him? It doesn’t read right at all, and anybody who gets to know about it is surely going to support you!

Dear OP, how old are you? Where is your mom? You should at least ask them why did all those(even is it’s as a text message or email, even letter), to know the responses you are going to get, for tomorrow’s sake.
You obviously shouldn’t go breaking heads but you deserve to know these answers. And if, for any reason you don’t, at least you would have asked, and kept records of the asking, with or without the replies.
If you are less than 18, maybe your uncle is your legal guardian and in that case, this might explain his high handed actions. Is he? But if you are an adult (but maybe without means)? Just ask, they would respect you for that even if they don’t show it. More importantly, your father would respect you for becoming a man who can hold his own.

You said it all
How old are you
Where is your mother,

Much as we have fake men of God i tell you real ones abound look for divine protection

donbachi:
Go and transfer ur late father's corpse to another mortuary or u go back to that very mortuary u deposited his body,and warn them not to release his corpse to anybody,unless u come in person.as for the shop,buy another key and lock it.while u plan for his burial..do not give room to anger and exchange of words.

Nice advice, however get a lawyer to handle the police to whom you must report those idiots of relations you call your uncles.

Your lawyer is the only person those idiots and the police will fear. If you go around doing anything, they'll mess you up, except there are still sensible elders left in your village.

Stupid African culture of thieves and idiots all over the place.

My friend what are you saying, the first son to come as a visitor to his father's burial, that's not wisdom is the greatest height of cowardice and disrespect to your father, the next the uncles will take over his father's land and disfamily him, I please Mr man stand and fight for your right, you have kindreds and umunna, go to them.

Carchoice:
The mistake you’ll ever make in life is fighting uncles/aunties over your late fathers property. It’s not a lost battle but it’s a waste of time and resources to me.


Leave them to do their thing. It doesn’t mean you are a weakling or scared but don’t fight over property’s with them. Just don’t do it.

Surprise them on the date of the burial by showing up to pay your last respect or better still you can shun it. Your father is dead already.

Don’t fight over property o!!! If they want to take it by force. Leave it for them and work for your own. You can always do more with the life ahead of you.

babajero:
Better do your father's burial yourself, unless you are willing to transfer your birthright to them, plan and fix the burial yourself but if they feel like supporting fine. But if they oppress you much then go to court, the court will suspend the burial and retrieve all that is rightfully yours.

OP is a 24 years old student. He doesn't have financial resources. From the look of things, his mum is also financially handicapped. (The uncles took advantage of these facts) Much as I agree with your suggestions but how will he finance the actions you have just advised him to take!

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

Ahhh, you are too soft.
Take war to them.
The moment he told you if he needed permission from you to open the shop, your response to him should've been a punch/headbutt/Jackie Chan/Vandarme/Rambo.

Summon your uncles before your towns elders union,report them to the elders union and state all this issues you have raised here in that meeting,do it now,they will caution your uncles and settle the issue. Hope say you strong for spiritual side o,because man when give you that kain hard reply dey go the extra mile to do evil o.

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

(1)How old are you? (2)Where is your mother because you have not mentioned anything about her.

Which kind talk be all this one. Those uncle self are they younger or older to your dad.

Final year means you will need money to finish school and income to take care of your siblings.

MAKE SOME NOISE.
GO TO THE ELDERS OF YOUR VILLAGE AND TELL THEM. BE VISIBLY ANGRY OTHERWISE ALL YOURLIFE YOUR UNCLES AND YOUR MATES IN THE VILLAGE WILL BULLY YOU AS WEAKLING. NOT EVERYTHING REQUIRES GENTLENESS. EVEN JESUS REACTED AT SOME POINT.

Mind you if any first son loses his father. He is next in charge uncle or no uncle. Tell This uncles of yours they should make their own personal contribution to the burial while they allow you and your mum to operate from your Dads end.

murmee:
OP is a 24 years old student. He doesn't have financial resources. From the look of things, his mum is also financially handicapped. (The uncles took advantage of these facts) Much as I agree with your suggestions but how will he finance the actions you have just advised him to take!

By taking over the shop....

See how Nairalanders are telling the young man to let them do whatever they want. Op, don't ever let that happen. Fight for your right. If they get hold of your late father's properties, it'll affect you. Your late will not be happy with you at all. Parents hustle so they can leave something for their children to fall back on when they (the parents) die. Starting from where your father stopped (inheritance) will help you a lot. Don't listen to cowards that are advising you to give up because you didn't labour for the properties, your uncles didn't labour for anything either. Your father's wealth is yours. Go fight for your right. You're a man. Get what rightfully belongs to you. Don't let them Bury him on their own. They have to officially inform you of the burial date before the burial holds. Don't be foolish

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

I will advice you leave them alone. It's painful but just be calm and wise. Don't allow them kill you o because these people are evil. Better still pray for revelation

Aizen123:
I've asked them and he said he didn't need my permission to open the shop and asked what can i contribute for the burial...hence i am a final year student and above 24yrs. My mum is not around.. normally i would have acted but i just want to follow them with wisdom

Omor u still have a long way to go. They just dey oppress u sha. There's no need dragging properties with them. Do u mean ur late dad never left any will? You don't know his lawyer(s)? Is there no elderly person u can get on ur side in the absence of the above? I feel ur pain bro.. Sadly enough those vampires are not likely to stop there believe me. I wish u had acted fast and beat them to their first move of taking over the shop and diverting all dividends to their account but i understand u have been grieving n that was probably the last on ur mind. Your uncles have very wicked intentions. They want u people to suffer hence they're taking over everything. Meanwhile, use wisdom. If i were u i wouldn't even be present in the burial or if u go just show face and disappear before the whole rite ends. E nor easy. Na this kind thing dey make young man use use better pumpy chase all of them comot for road... but apply wisdom bro play it cool. Na challenge to u to hustle harder. Pls do not ever go to any of ur uncles or any elderly person in the family for any form of assistance now or in the near or farthest future. Both who no talk put and who dey talk put dey very aware and together on the matter. Them done draw line down for u since... God will make a way for u.

OP you need the power of GOD like never before do not consult evil means but go to the true GOD, because your uncles know that you are a threat, that is why you need to be close to GOD than ever. Fast and pray (as you can) you need GOD'S power i tell you.

To be first son no be rice. Neither is it beans. It's cross. OK there is a verse in the Bible that explains who you should be

Jeremiah 1:6–8

NKJV

6 Then said I:

k“Ah, Lord God!

Behold, I cannot speak, for I am a youth.”

7 But the Lord said to me:

“Do not say, ‘I am a youth,’

For you shall go to all to whom I send you,

And lwhatever I command you, you shall speak.

8 mDo not be afraid of their faces,

For nI am with you to deliver you,” says the Lord.

Pray well MR NEW HEAD OF FAMILY