We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??

When you are dating someone and you cannot or dont visit unannounced you are a maga or in for a long thing

In this modern age, only an illiterate will visit someone without prior notice.
One girl tried that rubbish with me back then in school days. I opened the door for her, just for her to see I'm not with anyone, then, I sent her home immediately. Told her to call me when she gets to her hostel.

She left.. I continued with my precious sleep.

Sermwell:

if you are not a cheat why complain??

she has to trust me na





https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F7PLL1bMTb8

It’s not normal ooo. Even if they give you a copy of their key, please call them before you go.
My people say e better make them greet you 2 days than you done come again.

I would love the heads up yeah, but with the kind of girls I date I dare not mention it.

FWBs and side-chicks sure.

Well I would like a heads up so I can arrange fuel and food for your coming.

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if pesin no dey hide anything, or feeling suspicious I don't think it's a big deal. As much as a relationship is concerned especially.

Buh notwithstanding, u can give a prior notice before visiting, to avoid unnecessary insult and tears

chiddyok:
It’s not normal ooo. Even if they give you a copy of their key, please call them before you go.
My people say e better make them greet you 2 days than you done come again.

I think something is fishy if one of the parties in a relationship doesn't feel comfortable with visitation without prior notice. Don't you think so??

dingbang:
Well I would like a heads up so I can arrange fuel and food for your coming.

but will you be angry if no heads up before the visit?

Wetin concern me


I can come anytime whether I informed you or not

Don’t try that shit with me. I must not be cheating to make that rule. I recall one time I had exams and was seriously reading she came at night without telling me despite me warning her to give me the heads up if she wants to come.
I sha didn’t answer her knock on my door. Won’t get no poor grades just because of a lady.

It is wrong and good for the lady or the guy simply because of their safety.

Sermwell:

I think something is fishy if one of the parties in a relationship doesn't feel comfortable with visitation without prior notice. Don't you think so??

Nothing fishy. I love my personal space so I respect other’s own too.

For me I would never condone such

Sermwell:

but will you be angry if no heads up before the visit?

well not per say... I'll not use the word angry sha because na my babe.. I'll just be, oh babe but you should have called so let me be aware. If she says she wants to give me a surprise visit then i'll understand

Wrong

It's okay but I don't like it.
I don't like someone showing up in my home unannounced.

dingbang:
Well I would like a heads up so I can arrange fuel and food for your coming.

She doesn't want fuel and food but to catch your cheating ASS

In some sense

Yes it is. But you should be ready for the unpalatable soup. He who brings home ant infested firewood should not complain about the visit of lizards....Few times I tried, the gal said I should always tell her while coming so she doesn't keep me waiting. You already know what that means .

Courtesy demands you tell your partner upfront before visiting. It shows mutual respect and it also saves you from potentially awkward or embarrassing situations. Imagine your partner's parents travelled over to visit him/her and then you visit out of the blue . would that be the best way/time you'd want to be introduced to them? Nah. Spontaneous visits have a higher possibility of ending in tears

Its not ok...
Bt Ladies love Visiting unannounced inorder to catch the guy Cheating lol

as an alhfa male i dey even rub her laps on the ist date carry condom for wallet incase she open the legs for me visiting alone na child play sef i won't say more

only people who are doing things that are illegal or unacceptable would find it offensive if they aren't notified of a lover's visit.

I don talk finish

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Why not. You'd only find it uncomfortable if you have something to hide like a side chic/nigga.... or if you're a completely different person without makeup on

Sure