mdan:
It's widely known that love alone, is not enough to keep a family standing. There are other factors contributing to a healthy marriage of which respect, loyalty, money etc are involved.

Now, in a situation where a wife earns more than the husband, will there be respect?

And if there is, how long can a woman keep up before she starts acting weird?

For the ladies do you think it's an issue earning higher than your husband?

A woman earning higher than her husband can not enjoy her marriage in our society,if you are more successful than your husband to be you need to think twice,if a woman is arrogant,abusive,not respectful,lazy so far it's the husband is financially stable than her,the husband and his family can still manage her,but if it is otherwise,haa na real wahala o,if the woman is offended and try to squeeze her face,all you will be hearing is because she have money,she's not submissive she's arrogant,she doesn't have time to cook for her in-law

chiddyok:
Dear woman, you will never be submissive enough for a man you earn more than. You will either resent his headship on empty pocket or he will resent you and make life hell for you. Even if you submit your salary on both knees he will wonder why you got paid on time if you aren’t sleeping with your boss. To avoid stories that touch, until the day men can carry pregnancy, please let them till the ground and be the head. If you want to go far, marry a man who wants to go further. If you want to earn millions, look for a man who wants to earn double. Don’t let them fool you, there’s nothing like a submissive husband.

we tell them de no hear, you tell them dem no hear, but you know say them no de telli person, telli person, my sister eh, telli person oh ....


Na so Phyno tell Hushpuppi but him no hear, now see where him de


Some ladies want to form boss lady, some want to reinvent love and prove to people that don't even care about them that they don't fall for a guy that have money, so when they see rich or financially buoyant guys they just blank them or turn him down just to prove to people that don't care that she doesn't fall for a mans money and then she go and fall for one no future ambition idiot of a guy just to prove to people that don't also care that she loves to grow with her man, isorai

tunjijones:


Babe this is pure lie. Are you going to respect me the same way you respect dangote?

Let's be sincere if me and dangote are seeking for your attention, you wld attend to dangote first bfor u even reason me.

I don't know you so I can't tell.

Hathor5:
I respect people for many different reasons but never for how much money they earn.

Are you Answering this Guy?
Na wa 4 you sef

GreaterFuture1:

Are you Answering this Guy?
Na wa 4 you sef

Which guy?

Hathor5:


Which guy?

The OP

GreaterFuture1:

The OP

Why not?

Hathor5:


I don't know you so I can't say.

Lol... In everything you do try to make money. Am not talking of illegal money o. Though money is not everything but it is almost everything.

Even in family respect is given to someone that has plenty money even in the house of God respect is given to folks that are wealthy.

LedRock:
So female billionaires in dollars will get married to who? So if Alice Walton who is worth over $40billion have to marry someone richer

Dont mind that person you quoted

tunjijones:


Lol... In everything you do try to make money. Am not talking of illegal money o. Though money is not everything but it is almost everything.

Even in family respect is given to someone that has plenty money even in the house of God respect is given to folks that ate wealthy.

Once you have (more than) enough money other factors play a bigger role.

Hathor5:


Once you have (more than) enough money other factors play a bigger role.

Nobody has ever had more than enough money.

tunjijones:


Nobody has ever had more than enough money.

Plenty of people do.

Hathor5:


Plenty of people do.

So why are those plenty people still working and striving to earn more money?

This reminds me of my neighbour who single handedly built a three bedroom apartment for her family (2 kids and her husband). I think the husband was out of work or he earned less. Only for the man to impregnate a young girl on the same street. The wife didn't even hesitate to throw him out lol. The funniest thing is that the penniless man had to go leave with his babe in a batcha house, it took him months before he could afford rent for a self contain apartment.

Jsaviour:



You earn less than a woman and still get mind to cheat? When your whole time should be spent on building yourself to upgrade your income?

I don't even know what some Nigerian men want Sha.

Anyway, na to just kick the man comot for my house asap.

You can't be double useless at the same time.

The moment you dishonour your wife or marriage by cheating, you lose all respect due to you.

The worst are those who are been fed by their wives and still cheat or beat the woman.

Them no born you well walai!!

Respect is reciprocal. The amount of respect you accord me is what I will give back.

babakb:


It's like you don't know that a lot of many are beasts these days, I am a guy and I work with over 22 Male colleagues that are married and 15 of them cheat, how did I know?
We hold quarterly Regional meetings in a hotel and you will all of them come with runs girls and fvck them for 3 days.

Like Putin said " if you are a terrorist, it's God's duty to forgive you, it is my duty to send you to him"

Men being beasts is for their pocket, the beast only eats whom he can get close to.

This is why I tell women to define who they are and what they want.

Learn self love and self respect.

Some call me principled but to me it's called self respect and self boundary.

I work hard to foot my bills so no man would be a burden to me and still form cheat or head when he has lost all respect.

I am well grounded in 101% self confidence and self respect that you would have no choice than to accord me same.

My motto is my peace of mind and happiness so anything that will take that away is not worth it.

I am willing to worship the ground my man walks on if he truly shows himself to be a leader worthy of following.

The problem is that even a drunkard wants to lead a woman and a home.

If only men know the responsibility of being the man of the house, they will buckle up.

The man ought to be everything he desires to see and receive from a woman.

You lead by example.

Anyway, life happens to some while some command life to obey them.

LedRock:
So female billionaires in dollars will get married to who? So if Alice Walton who is worth over $40billion have to marry someone richer

Don't mind all these small-minded people. A true well-to-do and/or ethically sound person can never base their respect, and goodness in general, for others on money/material things.

TomatoSauce:
This reminds me of my neighbour who single handedly built a three bedroom apartment for her family (2 kids and her husband). I think the husband was out of work or he earned less. Only for the man to impregnate a young girl on the same street. The wife didn't even hesitate to throw him out lol. The funniest thing is that the penniless man had to go leave with his babe in a batcha house, it took him months before he could afford rent for a self contain apartment.

She is my kind of girl. I have no time for trash.

You mess yourself up, you lose all respect and honour I have for you.

She defined who she is and what she wants in life.

tunjijones:


So why are those plenty people still working and striving to earn more money?

Human want are insatiable. I remember when I was earning 47k as salary, I was telling myself that if only I can earn a hundred that my life will be better, now I earn almost 13 times that amount and yea my life is better but my wants never ends, I still toil hard to earn plenty plenty more.

That's a discussion for another thread. Let's not derail.

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larj:
Normally i overlook most topic, but let me comment for the sake of someone.
What women need is enveloped in two things :
1) Resources
2) Attention.
The resources as we all know , mostly money and security
The attention on the other hand is not just the attention, but what comes off it , like love and romance, sweet words, great sex, helping at home, respect, care and all.
The two are quite important, many men substitute one for the other, give her resources and some women can manage with little attention, but God epp you when she has little need of your resources or earns more and you can't provide the attention. That's where wahala starts to happen. She can't earn as much or more than you and you still won't give her attention even in little things as helping with the kids or chores at home. Most men's ego can't take it. Even if a woman wants to run wild at this time she can be reasoned with if the right attention is given and there's communication. It's a man's God given role to draw his wife to agreement with him through communication. But what do I know. They just give marriage certificate to any one without training. It is not love that determines a good marriage or any goal in life. Principles determine the outcome of anything. You actions has to be grounded from principles to get a desired outcome like a blissful home. It's not too late to change and align your actions to true principles. Okay bye

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Rubbish!

That's your opinion and it doesn't make sense to me.

Hathor5:


That's a discussion for another thread. Let's not derail.

OK ma.

Ariza:
I wonder why it affects most Men when women earn higher. If you create geninue bond , respect, friendship and love between you and your woman, little material things like 'earnings' shouldn't create insecurity in you or gaps in your relationship/marriage. A woman who loves you will never disregard you. Work towards creating unbreakable bond with your partner then you will not have to worry about them earning more.


I'm directing this to men because most of you do not know how to create lasting impression but will wail, cry, throw trantrums when replaced.

You're one closet chauvinist; you always use every little opportunity to disparage men subtly.

mdan:
It's widely known that love alone, is not enough to keep a family standing. There are other factors contributing to a healthy marriage of which respect, loyalty, money etc are involved.

Now, in a situation where a wife earns more than the husband, will there be respect?

And if there is, how long can a woman keep up before she starts acting weird?

For the ladies do you think it's an issue earning higher than your husband?

There is nothing wrong in a woman earning more than the man

If the man has ever loved her before her uplifment, the man will enjoy and be happy about it

If the man is equally struggling, both of them will share in her success

But if the man is lazy and unappreciative and doesn't appreciate her

He will find it difficult to cope with her status

Power to control is the only thing that moves this world.

We exhibit that power at any slightest opportunity.

Power intoxicates. Aside age( being an elder), the only other thing that commands respect is money.

Once you have more of it, all you want is for people around to bow to them. To some people( both man and woman) commands respect from their own parents simply because they are rich.

I am not against a woman earning morethan the husband, it happens. But women love power, and often times, it gets to their head and they abuse it.

From the comment sections,Someone said That as long as a man performs his responsibilities financially And not pushing it to the woman.that the woman will respect him. Then it had me questioning, what is actually the mans responsibilities? Let’s say, rents, school fees, clothing , feeding and other things. Now what if the only thing the mans monthly earnings can take care of is the rents? And the wife clearly knows this. Will she expect him to provide clothing when she actually knows that , yes, it is his responsibility too, but his pay can’t afford it. Will you call that pushing all responsibilities to the wife? And as such cannot respect him?


Some women insults their husbands, when they can’t provide all the family wants even when they know that with all his hardworking, that he earns a certain amount of money, and that the amount cant take care of all that wants. It baffles me.

However, I know of women who earn higher than the husbands. My mom is an example, although not for long. My dad was in the banking industry and mom in civil service. At the beginning, dad earn more, but when mom got to the peak of her career, she was earning more. And she still respecting him, even after they both retired and dad wasn’t getting pensions aside from rents on few properties, mom gets pension which is still very much higher than those rents. And they are still living. She still respects him. I know of other women who earn higher. But I will say that I have ya seen one from this generation and still respects him. I know one that even earn morethan the husband but still does not contribute to the upkeep of the family. All she does is to buy clothes and love-vendor herself.
I have also seen some men who earn good but still doesn’t contribute more to the families upkeep. So it varies. As for the op questions? I certainly haven’t seen any from this current generations.

mdan:
It's widely known that love alone, is not enough to keep a family standing. There are other factors contributing to a healthy marriage of which respect, loyalty, money etc are involved.

Now, in a situation where a wife earns more than the husband, will there be respect?

And if there is, how long can a woman keep up before she starts acting weird?

For the ladies do you think it's an issue earning higher than your husband?

There is no need to act weird in the first place and nothing wrong with earning more than your husband provided the man is not one with low self esteem who will make life miserable for you because he feel inadequate.

The money is for the family.

Provided he is doing his duty as the man of the house and he doesn't abdicate the whole of breadwinning and bill footing to the woman, nothing is absolutely wrong with.

Alexaonfleek:
Yes
It's an issue for me.
I can't marry a guy who's income is lower than mine.

A man's role in a family is to be a provider.
The woman role is to help nurture the kids,and keep the family together.
She can also assist the man in paying the bills too.
If life happens,and for some reason he looses his source of income,I'll support him.
But he has to get his $hit together as quickly as possible.
And it depends on the guy too.
I mean I can't imagine a case where I've gone to work,after a tired day I still have to do all of the house chores while footing most of the bills.
That alone would make any woman frustrated.

and if life happens, and he didn't get his "$hit together as quickly as possible", what would you do?!

disregard him epicly?!
divorce him?!

meobizy:
Zero. Hypergamy is a thing inherent in females. She’ll spend any free time scheming to catch a better man.

Men are even worst! Always scheming to get better girls

I don't think there should be zero or less respect for the husband just because the wife earns more than him.
She's his wife and his help meet.
Material things shouldn't be used as a yardstick for dishing out respect to anybody, talk more of one's partner.....

BayMc:



and if life happens, and he didn't get his "$hit together as quickly as possible", what would you do?!

disregard him epicly?!
divorce him?!

Trust me honey ,with a wifey like me he'll get his $hit together quickly.

Well,in the long run,marriage na for better for worse.
I go support am na,what to do?
That's why I said his character too will be a major factor.

Alexaonfleek:
Yes
It's an issue for me.
I can't marry a guy who's income is lower than mine.

A man's role in a family is to be a provider.
The woman role is to help nurture the kids,and keep the family together.
She can also assist the man in paying the bills too.
If life happens,and for some reason he looses his source of income,I'll support him.
But he has to get his $hit together as quickly as possible.
And it depends on the guy too.
I mean I can't imagine a case where I've gone to work,after a tired day I still have to do all of the house chores while footing most of the bills.
That alone would make any woman frustrated.

You didn't mention you still need to spread your legs for his apako to enter

So if someone is not submissiveeyre domineering.

Life is all about extremes shebi?

tunjijones:


Am sure u are not married. Get married first and see if you still don't have interest in a submissive wife.

And my guy it wld be worse if you marry a domineering wife. I have seen women that always feel that there opinion is always better than their husband opinion... Can you deal with that?

saasala:


You didn't mention you still need to spread your legs for his apako to enter

You can imagine!
Something that I'm supposed to look forward to will suddenly become a chore due to stress.
This life ehn
We just pray for grace to endure the bad times.
So we can enjoy the good times very well.

Alexaonfleek:
You can imagine!
Something that I'm supposed to look forward to will suddenly become a chore due to stress.
This life ehn
We just pray for grace to endure the bad times.
So we can enjoy the good times very well.

Aunty, wait, why are you looking away in your do. Lemme see your face na