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Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 8:15pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: I can assure you that a woman who runs a bath for her husband, cleans the house, looks after the children and is ready to have sex is not as hard to come by as you think. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 8:16pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: How is it related to the post you quoted? 1 Like |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by bukatyne(f): 8:17pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Hathor5: That the 'Cinderella' is not necessarily a financial state. ![]() |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 8:18pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: Ok. So what does the Prince save her from? 4 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by bukatyne(f): 8:18pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Hathor5: I never said it was hard to come by: I said a woman who shares the bills is easier to come by than the above. It is easier to drop money than serve joyfully especially in the 21st century. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 8:19pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: In Nigeria? 4 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by bukatyne(f): 8:22pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Hathor5: Yes in Nigeria. Sharing bills (not paying all) is a bragging rights on how 'independent' and 'strong' a woman is. Tending to her husband (especially) and kids is not. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 8:24pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: Sharing bills is considered special (although it is not) whereas tending to husband and kids taken for granted, that's why they will brag about the former and not the latter. Playing the devoted housewife is what most ladies (yes I said it) who are in love do, even before they get the ring. ![]() 9 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Mariangeles(f): 8:36pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Romangalactic: Arsenal win! Ope o! ![]() So, wetin you been dey yarn? Wait first, before you answer that one...wetin you think about this new 5 players, 3 substitute rule? E make sense abi? ![]() |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Bigblessed: 8:42pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Nothing Seun no-go see 4 nairaland. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Nobody: 8:48pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Hathor5:Exactly! Honestly some things I read here from so called Married women shock me. Lol I thought thropy/house wife thing stopped long ago, seeing someone encourage it and even go as far as putting those who think otherwise down shocked me to the core. Seriously? Women whose life revolves around Men and have nothing to their names or personal lives still exist? Lol. I can't advise a Man to marry a woman who has nothing going for herself even if he is rich. Such women tend to turn out spoilt , entitled, ungrateful, uncultured,unproductive liabilities to mention a few. They have lots of time to waste and end up not valuing things because they don't know what it worth. A woman without a mind of hers, will she ever serve as a "bounce back" if things go wrong? . Total waste of Time if you ask me. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Nobody: 8:51pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne:So are you saying Ybaby is living in dream Land or just preaching a fantasy? 3 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by bukatyne(f): 8:52pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Hathor5: Before they get the ring, yes. Years after, it stops. Open a thread on how many wives would run a bath for their husband and scrub his back viz a viz those who would pay part of the bills. 3 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Nobody: 8:55pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne:Wait Bukatyne! Wait you are confusing me. What side are you on? Or what are you trying to bring out? BTW why would anyone want to run a bath or scrub anyone's back as a duty? Is the back or bath owner handicap? 7 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by bukatyne(f): 8:58pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Palema007: I think you girls need to talk to married people more viz a viz dream up what you think it should be in the 21st century. Now, I think of it, a number of men I know who can afford it don't want their wives to pay bills even though they are working and expect their wives to cater to them. I know some (extreme cases) who have housewives and cater fully to them to their undies and are fine with it. In fact, that is what they want. As men make more money, the are more concerned about wives who doll up and cater to them. Doesn't mean these dolls don't have stuff going for them. That's why they marry way younger ladies to 'make their blood fresh'. At the end, a woman's resourcefulness is more important than her earnings. 2 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 8:58pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Palema007: I have no problem with couples who opt for the traditional model. It has many advantages for the family as a whole. Many more people would choose this model if they could afford it. The biggest disadvantage is that it leaves women in a vulnerable position. They will have to put up with statements such as "those who pay the piper bla bla bla" and their contribution to the family and even wider community is not only played down but disrespected even though the workload of a housewife who runs a well-organized household, cooks fresh food, looks after the children, takes care of the husband is colossal. The same people who have this mindset complain about women who no longer want to be oppressed and abused in the name of 'I dictate the tune" and opt for a career or demand that the husband shares chores and participates in childcare. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by bukatyne(f): 8:59pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Palema007: @Hathor5 I am sure if you ask Azira if she would spilt bills, she would say yes with her full cheat. Follow the conversation. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 9:01pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: Why would I open a thread after you have presented me with your research? ![]() I have the feeling that you tell yourself such things to make yourself feel special. No offense. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 9:01pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: ![]() 6 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by bukatyne(f): 9:02pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Hathor5: You are coming up ![]() As per vulnerability of wife: if you want to do husband management, you did better have access to the family purse. That is the difference between a housewife and a home maker abi husband manager ![]() |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 9:03pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: He can withdraw your access to it at any time. 5 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by bukatyne(f): 9:03pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Hathor5: Why should I feel offended if your opinion about me? It doesn't count ![]() ![]() NL has a wide audience and a good way to sample opinions for free. |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by bukatyne(f): 9:04pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Hathor5: The best model for me is a joint account managed by the wife. Or joint spooling of resources managed by the wife. |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Mariangeles(f): 9:05pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
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Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 9:07pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: Good to know. Then I need not restrain myself now or in future in order not to hurt your feelings. ![]() I like that! 7 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by bukatyne(f): 9:08pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Hathor5: You can type what you like. It would only portray your content and breeding. ![]() 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 9:08pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: Girl, joint account or not. It's his salary. ![]() He can take it from you any time. It takes five minutes to open a new account and have the salary go there. You are at his mercy. Explains why you tell yourself that you are so special. ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 9:09pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: We don't breed in my family. I didn't know your family are dogs. ![]() 9 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by bukatyne(f): 9:11pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Hathor5: Ha! You have started. Carry go. 1 Like |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 9:13pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: Next time choose your words more carefully when you talk about me and my family. ![]() 8 Likes |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by bukatyne(f): 9:13pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
Hathor5: Back to my principle. Choose a trustworthy man such that when you decide to run a joint account, he doesn't run off with the cash one day. The choice is yours dear. You have a yam and the knife. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Who Is To Find And Fond A House Help by Hathor5(f): 9:13pm On Jun 25, 2020 |
bukatyne: Good luck Buka! ![]() 3 Likes |
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