Nigerian-Americans to a very large extent, are Nigerians who were born and/or raised by Nigerian parents in the United States. Most of them were born to Nigerian immigrant families - many of whom migrated to Yankee during the ”visa lottery and green card regime”. Some prominent Nigerian American girls are Tomi Adeyemi, Chineye Ogwumike, Nneka Ogwumike, Arike Ogunbowale, Oyinye Iweala and many more.

In the course of my experience studying and living in America, I’ve interacted with so many Nigerian-Americans and these are some of my observations.

This thread is a response to previous threads on dating African Americans and immigrant Nigerian women(those who migrated to the US from Naija as adults - some in their late 20s and some in their early 30s, 40s etc) in the USA. This particular thread could help guide prospective Nigerian foreign students or immigrants in America - who hope to end up with one of their sisters or brothers that were born and raised in the diaspora.

(1). Most of them(Nigerian-Americans) are more Nigerian than you think.

There is an erroneous belief among many Nigerians back home who feel once people leave Nigeria - they stop being a Nigerian. To be honest, I'm more Nigerian right now than I was while growing up in Naija. For many Nigerian-Americans, the story is the same. Most(not all) of the Nigerian-Americans I’ve met here are so deeply rooted in the Nigerian culture that I'm sometimes left in awe. Many of them have Nigerian flags in their apartments and if you check their Instagram profiles - you are very likely to see the smiley of a Nigerian flag there. And please: don't think ”patriotism is sweet from the abroad”.

There are many Nigerian-Americans who go home every 6months - they know how difficult things could be in Naija but the reality is: once you have a Nigerian ancestry - you and your descendants are forever Nigerians. Thus, you can never disassociate yourself from your roots. Unless you just want to foo.l yourself. I know of Nigerian immigrants (with a US green card) who left the US(sold their properties) and returned to Naija to hustle because living abroad does not feel like home to many Nigerians.

In states like Texas, Maryland, New York, Georgia, California, Illinois, and others with tens of thousands of Nigerians, it is common to meet Nigerian-American girls who eat only Nigerian food(they don't like American food despite being born and raised there). They also know the songs of Davido, Wiz Kid, Burna Boy, Tiwa, Falz, Zlatan, Naira Marley and the likes in manners typical of a Lagos babe. That explains why whenever these Naija artistes come to the US - their concerts are usually sold out. Nigerian -Americans no dey joke with Afrobeat music oo.

(2). Nigerian -American girls are super ambitious and successful

Wait! If you are a Naija guy hoping to date a Naija-Americana, you better up your game now! These girls are not joking mehn. 99% of the Nigerian-American girls around me are all pursuing careers that pay at least 6-figures annually. There was a Nigerian-American girl I met in New York. She had her first degree from Harvard. An MPH(Master of Public Health) from Yale and she's about resuming medical school at another ivy league school. In a system like America, with the field she plans to work in, such a fellow is likely to end up earning at least $500,000 pay in a few years. Her story is similar to that of most Nigerian-American girls here. I have never met a Naija-Americana who is not interested in higher degrees or high paying careers in America like medicine, nursing, tech, finance, pharmacy, sports, business/investment/investment banking, trade, engineering, consulting, etc.

So, if you plan to date/marry a Naija-Americana, you must be ambitious, honest, and hardworking. Otherwise, you go play second fiddle tire.

(3). Their parents and family are heavily involved in their lives.

One of the major reasons why they are super successful is because of their parents. Most Nigerian-Americans live in America but they were raised in Nigerian homes. Thus, many of their parents raised them like Naija kids - read your books. Work hard. Be excellent and always aim for the top. Pursue high-paying careers. All of these coupled with the enabling environment and opportunities that America provides make them who they are. Many of their parents give them the specs of the husbands/wives they want them to have. I’ve seen cases where Nigerian-American girls refused to date guys because they were not ambitious and successful enough. In fact, within the Nigerian community here, there is ”elitism”(if you are a young Nigerian chap and you are not well educated or you don't have a good-paying career job, many Nigerian-Americans won't even roll with you. This is a story for another day).

(4). They don't really need your money.

They want you to be successful. Be well educated and have a great career but they don't plan to leech off you. To the basics. Whenever I go out with Nigerian-American girls here, they always want to pay for their own food and drinks. In fact, some of them have offered to pay for mine - even though I invited them for lunch/dinner. I’ve had arguments with a few of them for always wanting to split bills when I was the one who planned the treat. Hence, don't expect them to disturb you for money related to makeup, hair, accessories, and the likes. Although, it is always good to surprise them with gifts and flowers - if you plan to date or marry any of them.

(5).Many of them place a premium on physical features(being tall is a big deal to them)

Especially when they are young(let's say below the age of 25), many Nigerian-American girls love guys with certain physical features like height(6’7 tall), muscles, beards and the likes. They love guys that are athletic and super clean. So, apart from being career-driven, be prepared to hit the gym to grow some mass if you wan see them date.
Although, as they grow older, they tend to care less about these physical features. Regardless, they always love and prefer tall and clean guys who have great careers. Their ideal man is a guy who is physically appealing, clean, intelligent, career-driven and has a great taste of fashion.

(6). They are not your cooks or slaves

This is the American part of them. If you know you want a wife that will constantly cook for you, clean the house and do other numerous chores. Sorry. Most Nigerian-American girls are not for you. You, as a man must learn how to cook as well. Clean the bathroom. Wash dishes and other ways you could be of assistance to her. They are not your typical ”villa girls”. If you plan to date/marry a Nigerian-American babe, be prepared to split the cookings/chores - the same way you will always split many of your bills.

(7). They can be sometimes arrogant and snobby

Many of them can ghost guys for Africa sha especially when they find you socially awkward or not possessing the physical features they desire in their man or you don't look like what they prefer. I find this to be somewhat childish tho. It's part of the unnecessary ”growing class division” within the Nigerian community here.

(. Treat them right. Take good care of them and support them. They are our sisters and brothers!

CAVEAT: These points were made based on my own personal experience. Another person may have a slightly different experience. ONE LOVE NAIJA ❤️.

Below is a video of three Nigerian-American girls’ virtual date with Falz some days ago.


https://www.instagram.com/tv/CB1VUV1AfFC/?igshid=owzr0qmv5au5

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It is also important to note here that many people find the ”taste” of Nigerian-American girls as unrealistic, childish and condescending. Life is a process. That a man is here today does not mean he cannot be there tomorrow. Hence, many people have opined that Nigerian American girls need to learn how to build with their man instead of looking for largely finished products. They also should not look down on anyone based on their current situation - with time anyone could get to the top. Setting unrealistic standards for your potential significant other could lead to late or failed marriage. [b]

By birth and heritage, Okonjo Iweala’s children fit the description of a Nigerian-American. Below are their profiles. Typical of my point on ”ambition and success”

OK...we have heard

By the way OP, when was the last time you visited Nigeria?

Kobicove:
OK...we have heard

By the way OP, when was the last time you visited Nigeria?

I was still in Nigeria a few months ago.

In continuation of the thread. Below is a video of Tomi Adeyemi


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6dp8BcJuGnQ

The Ogwumikes



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P9r65xQqA3U

Some men will use this as an opportunity to bash Nigetian girls forgetting that even they are not up to the standard these girls want in a man. Same way some broke ugly girls set standards for themselves just because of what they see and hear on social media.

DominusPrime:
Some men will use this as an opportunity to bash Nigetian girls forgetting that even they are not up to the standard these girls want in a man. Same way some broke ugly girls set standards for themselves just because of what they see and hear on social media.

No one should bash Naija-based girls or guys. Life is a process.
But the reality is: within the larger American fabric, most of these Nigerian-Americans identify as NIGERIANS within America because people know there is no way their roots are in America - not when your names give you away as someone of Nigerian descent.

If you watch video interviews of famous Nigerian-Americans like Tomi Adeyemi or Nneka Ogwumike, they usually introduce themselves as Nigerians even though they are Americans by birth and upbringing. Some of my cousins were born in North America and they’ve lived here for over 25years now and some days ago: I saw how one of my cousins introduced herself to a Zoom meeting as ”a Nigerian who grew up in the US”. Being Nigerian or African is not as simple as most people think. Our ancestral roots are really strong.

In essence, when we use terms like ”Nigerian girls or Nigerian guys”, we cannot limit it to only Nigerians who live in Nigeria - to a very large extent - from the prism of the global community: such terms describe Nigerians in the diaspora as well.

Bla bla bla bla bla

how about Nigerian-Pakistani girls?

Crispels:

No one should bash Naija-based girls or guys. Life is a process.
But the reality is: within the larger American fabric, most of these Nigerian-Americans identify as NIGERIANS within America because people know there is no way their roots are in America - not when your names give you away as someone of Nigerian descent.

If you watch video interviews of famous Nigerian-Americans like Tomi Adeyemi or Nneka Ogwumike, they usually introduce themselves as Nigerians even though they are Americans by birth and upbringing. Some of my cousins were born in North America and they’ve lived here for over 25years now and some days ago: I saw how one of my cousins introduced herself to a Zoom meeting as ”a Nigerian who grew up in the US”. Being Nigerian or African is not as simple as most people think. Our ancestral roots are really strong.

In essence, when we terms like ”Nigerian girls or Nigerian guys”, we cannot limit it to only Nigerians who live in Nigeria - to a very large extent - in the prism of the global community, such terms describe Nigerians in the diaspora as well.

I quite agree with your write-up. Our roots sink deep in our minds no matter how long we've spent there. And that's some thing I'm proud of.

Am gonna need just one of them for a date.

These leeches in our Nigeria is getting on my nerves

Actually you are whatever your tribe is not Nigerian which was named by a white girl.

So short guys no get hope be that

Where can we meet them

OP u also missed out the part where these people can fight. Even the weakest of them here in Nigeria becomes a wrestler once in America.
They become slightly violent and can be impatient.

They're as good as side chicks


A wife in Nigeria and a wife in American seems cool

Bia op where is the Williams sisters .

You know we can drag people for life.

punisha:
OP u also missed out the part where these people can fight. Even the weakest of them here in Nigeria becomes a wrestler once in America.
They become slightly violent and can be impatient.

You missed the post. The Nigerian-Americans we are talking about here are Nigerian girls who were born and raised in the US. I'm not talking about those that migrated to the US from Nigeria as adults - those ones are usually described as immigrants. But the children of these immigrants are often described as ”first-generation Nigerian Americans”. There are big differences. That was why I used first generation Nigerian-Americans like Tomi Adeyemi and Nneka Ogwumike as examples.

APCdestroyer:
They're as good as side chicks


A wife in Nigeria and a wife in American seems cool

That’s not gonna be easy. These are not Oyinbo or Black American girls who don't really understand Naija. Nigerian-American girls usually have families like cousins, grandparents, aunties and uncles back home. So, if you are dating one of them and you decide to play her - you may play into the hands of her relatives back home.

And then, this is 2020. We men need to leave behind all these naughty tricks and start doing better. Faithfulness is cute and romantic.



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Terryishere:
Actually you are whatever your tribe is not Nigerian which was named by a white girl.

Well, when you are in the diaspora, people care less about your ethnic group. They only see you as someone of Nigerian descent. Most countries in the world have shady histories. Even some founders of America were slave owners, murderers and imperialists. So, no be only Naija get K-leg.

You see all the points you mentioned, especially 6 and 7, most guys will ignore it simply becos of the need to be abroad, they don't care if those ladies make them their slave, but if this points are that of Nigerian ladies living here, especially the independent ones cos they most times have these traits, these thread would have been on page 10 by now filled with insults, look at some of the slow platinum diggers above asking where they can meet them, bunch of hypocritical leeches lol.

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Forget career women — most of them are too arrogant and unfaithful. Passive income women is what we want. She must know how to cook, f*ck, and stay faithful.

Whenever we need abroad, we can always go on vacation to any country we want.

In fact, we will turn videos, stories, and pictures of our vacation around the world to blogs, YouTube videos, books, etc. and make millions with them — which is worth more than what any unfaithful career woman working in a company (and cheating with the latest cute guy at the office) will ever make.

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