Temhellen:

Read the word of God

This one off me.

After telling us to read the word of God premaritally, we continue to do so after marriage?
Why then get married?

Tadeknkeepcalm:
This is as a result of polygamy being obsolete in the society.

It's the only responsible alternative and would surely correct all these nonsense.

We bought no Polygamy from Oyibo but did not buy Oyibo's non marriage but live-in partnership.

Perhaps more than 95% of Oyibo do not marry, but live-in as partners, bear and raise children without marriage. Their relationship and children are recognized legal.
In fact, official forms in much of Oyibolands do not ask of marital status any more, because only a few are married.

No Oyibo man can live with the woman described here - not for one month extra - after she started to deny sex to he husband.

The Coronavirus is pedophilia Baal worship a big distraction by satanic groups worldwide!

SweetCunt97:
Some simply stop enjoying sex after childbirth.

So, because you simply stopped enjoying sex after childbirth, I should not enjoying sex too?
Very funny specie
Very egocentric....

Expect worse when it comes to sex in marriage.... it is not as alot imagine... you can go long months without touching each other


Most women suffer from hormonal imbalance and thereby don't find their spouse attractive anymore....

Financial issues... and see finish from the woman... drains her sexual appetite towards the man...

And lots more.

eni4real:
This is no longer a Marriage!!

The patching is too much.

Sadly, you would be shocked at the number of homes living like this.

ModestGal:

Well, I didn't want to talk before, though I'm not married, but with this thread, Nigerian men are so unreasonable, all they think about is sex. When their mates are making money, rubbish thread with comments

When you said Nigeria men aren't reasonable, are you also justifying that your father and brothers Also are unreasonable Like all they know is sex? Cos the way you girls on nairaland generalize with your warperd mindset baffles me gan.

OsuIgboIpob:

So, because you simply stopped enjoy sex after childbirth, I should not enjoy sex too?
Very funny specie
Very egocentric....

Well, I simply pray I don't experience such. You can have her practice kegels, eat sexually stimulating foods, less stress and all

victme1:
blood of Nebuchadnezzar!!!!!
Wetin this lady de yarn so! Shoooo!!!
See topic wey de pain man u come Se talk about women empowerment, about ugly man!
We men are feeling confused that a girl that will suck you like kilode! Somersault for u during sex will suddenly become dead sexually after marriage! Our question is where is dt girl that we married? What happened.

U women did not factor the fact that men and sex are like night and day.
So u chase him to other women arms.
Are you guys not afraid we will bring some serious disease home?

Bro I fear all those kind women pass anything, they can spoil other people's marriage cause they no one marry #careerwomen they don't know marriage reduce burdens from you when married is as if you have extra body attached to you. The truth is simple you don't need school education to be a great woman common sense is what you need.

OriOko88:

Asin, I don't really get it. Does the sex doll has a simulated pussy? Coz I don't know how would a man get satisfied fvcking a doll Does it hv a pusssy ni

Shey d goal is to cum ryt? Toh

It's not that hard to understand a woman is it? Sex for men is about what the eye sees but for them it's about what they hear and feel inside.
Your wife needs emotional stability and to feel like she matters a lot in your life and vision.
Make her happy and treat her like your little child with discipline and care. Your wife is your first daughter.
Always get to know what she feels deep down and give her a platform to be relevant in your life.
Appreciate her every effort for you and the family while continuosly pointing her to standards of your vision for herself and family. Seek to make a great achiever out of her in step with her pace.
If she sees you as her guide, protector and best friend she can always connect with, she will always be your sex doll on demand. Lol.

Hathor5:
They will become professional script writers when they want to find an excuse to cheat.

Lol. I think he's rather trying to find a way to not cheat. You should let him know what makes women click.

goldensoul55:
Cheap excuse to cheat .


He should keep making excused untill he gets infected with HIV/AIDS in

And the wife will definitely get it too..
So, it's up to the wife ...

lefulefu:
u sure? so whats up with many nairaland guys giving tales about married women with kids begging them for sex.if many married women stopped enjoying sex after childhood then the rate of married women having affairs would reduce nau..dont u think so?

Lefu I used "Some". Perhaps the dickk they are accustomed to becomes small and they need young vibrant bigger Diick to fill them up... I'm just guessing o

ModestGal:

Well, I didn't want to talk before, though I'm not married, but with this thread, Nigerian men are so unreasonable, all they think about is sex. When their mates are making money, rubbish thread with comments

And what do you think about?
How to get down with the guy making money?

Stupîd mentality...

Danniedpastor:






Bros, your statistics is wrong.
1. Generally, women have lower sex-drive compared to men. Someone women (if left alone) can stay without sex for up to six months. So, when a woman denies her sex, it doesn't mean that she's cheating.
2. As a man, you need to discuss about your sex life with your spouse before you walk down the isle with her. Ask her about it and both of you should give honest answers(no form holiness for that matter). That way you would reach a conclusion/compromise with her.
3. If she's a novice (in sex matters) , lovingly and patiently teach her when you are married. Let her know your sexual preference and know hers too. (No sex style or position is a sin). Know what turns your wife on, and use it well.
4. Sex goes with a mood- learn to set the mood for it before time. To a reasonable woman, sex is not an incident, it's a reward (to you for being her man indeed).
You can't leave a woman at home all day (with kids) and expect to just come home at night to ride her broken body (that won't be fair on her). When you come home, assist with house chores, stay with her in the kitchen and keep whispering sweetness into her ears(that way you are creating an atmosphere for a sweet night.)
The more times you spend with her,the more she would be willing to give you her body. Don't leave her lonely all day and expect to bond only on bed(e no go work)


Still have more to say but,let me stop here.




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Stay blessed and joyful

women have low sex drive but the sugar mummy industry is booming

Eulalia:


Understand what? Lack of self control? Abegi!

You women love to lie to yourselves which will never help d matter at stake.
How do you reduce a man who previously had a healthy sex life to som1 who is lucky to get it once a month?
The same woman who used to give the husband almost every night during courtship suddenly turns frigid overnight during marriage.
Sex is one of the obligations couples owe each other during marriage, even if u don't like it,lie down and chew gum let the man ejaculate and stand up,won't last more than 10-15mins,it is not d fault of d man that a lady has a diminished appetite for what is mutually enjoyable by both male and Females.
On a personal note,I suffered that for 5 yrs,sex of max 2 times in a month,most times once.
2 kids,we have a live in help,I have another male who comes to run errands, I also run some of d petty errands including going to d market to buy foodstuffs and provisions.When I come back from d market,I help out further, wash d meat,wash and cut d vegetables etc
My madam could stay for 2 months without coming downstairs
I endured for 5 yrs,and then one day,I made up my mind and told her,"any week you don't Bleep me twice,na ashawo go get the 2,if na once,ashawo go get d remaining 1.And I meant it.
No be person tell am to de bring her vagina come.And funny thing is she even enjoys it more than me and will sleep off immediately after cos she has attained climax.
Now,this is d situation 80% of married men find themselves.I'm a health worker, so ppl tell me their private stuff a lot.
So,continue talking of self control until you go get 2nd wife,you hear?
If a man were to deny his wife sex like that,the whole women solidarity group will accuse d man of forking outside.

OriOko88:

When you said Nigeria men aren't reasonable, are you also justifying that your father and brothers Also are unreasonable Like all they know is sex? Cos the way you girls on nairaland generalize with your warperd mindset baffles me gan.

Bro leave am, I dislike people way day change conversation, most girls life Na just money and hustle (not even normal hustling) why all these boys no go use them buy Benz. When they see other girls managing with their husband they will start talking and murmuring with evil intentions.

What a sad day for me today!!!

SweetCunt97:
Shey d goal is to cum ryt? Toh

So na because of cum, man go dey chuk diick inside plastic doll?? Diick go get bruished na

Geminita1:
The guys on this forum are so dumb mehnn.

Guess what? Women don't care about you lots anymore. You are so bigoted, selfish and sexists. Once we have our kids, we are okay, we don't care about you, we don't care.

But if I ask you to be my baby mama now, you'll be actuated with a sweeping flash of righteous hatred for me or anything that come as close as bringing your claim to realization. Talk is cheap! Hahaha!

SweetCunt97:
Lefu I used "Some". Perhaps the dickk they are accustomed to becomes small and they need young vibrant bigger Diick to fill them up... I'm just guessing o

i remember then in school there was this my guy who used to chat with one married women from bayelsa on 2go.the woman will always complain how her husband is so lazy in bed and how she wants to get rammed hard by a stud ..expectly this my guy claimed he was a stud in bed and the married woman was expectant and invited him over to bayelsa state .though me and some other guys had to discourage him that this said married woman might be a ritualist masqurading as a married woman and dat if he goes and visit her he might have his penis havested .bros changed his mind afterwards

DrLiveLogic:
It's not that hard to understand a woman is it? Sex for men is about what the eye sees but for them it's about what they hear and feel inside.
Your wife needs emotional stability and to feel like she matters a lot in your life and vision.
Make her happy and treat her like your little child with discipline and care. Your wife is your first daughter.
Always get to know what she feels deep down and give her a platform to be relevant in your life.
Appreciate her every effort for you and the family while continuosly pointing her to standards of your vision for herself and family. Seek to make a great achiever out of her in step with her pace.
If she sees you as her guide, protector and best friend she can always connect with, she will always be your sex doll on demand. Lol.

Lol. I think he's rather trying to find a way to not cheat. You should let him know what makes women click.

A wife needs as well to make her husband emotionally stable, and make him feel like he really matters to her life and vision, make him happy and treat him like a little child with care. She needs to know what the man needs at anytime.
It takes two to tango.

Nawaoo

KimVenom:


Bro leave am, I dislike people way day change conversation, most girls life Na just money and hustle (not even normal hustling) why all these boys no go use them buy Benz. When they see other girls managing with their husband they will start talking and murmuring with evil intentions.

You're right. Girls like her only have d kpekus to offer her man, that's y she's ranting about guys making money, so she can be feeding and leeching on him, without bringing nothing to the table

OriOko88:

So na because of cum, man go dey chuk diick inside plastic doll?? Diick go get bruished na

Mr these dolls are meant for such. Oyibo get sense. It has almost d same feel as d real deal. It's better than raping kids and babies.

Nchenches:


A wife needs as well to make her husband emotionally stable, and make him feel like he really matters to her life and vision, make him happy and treat him like a little child with care. She needs to know what the man needs at anytime.
It takes two to tango.

Unfortunately many simply "Settle" cos of societal obligations. So u don't expect those one to be emotionally invested in the whole affair

Ogbuu101:

You women love to lie to yourselves which will never help d matter at stake.
How do you reduce a man who previously had a healthy sex life to som1 who is lucky to get it once a month?
The same woman who used to give the husband almost every night during courtship suddenly turns frigid overnight during marriage.
Sex is one of the obligations couples owe each other during marriage, even if u don't like it,lie down and chew gum let the man ejaculate and stand up,won't last more than 10-15mins,it is not d fault of d man that a lady has a diminished appetite for what is mutually enjoyable by both male and Females.
On a personal note,I suffered that for 5 yrs,sex of max 2 times in a month,most times once.
2 kids,we have a live in help,I have another male who comes to run errands, I also run some of d petty errands including going to d market to buy foodstuffs and provisions.When I come back from d market,I help out further, wash d meat,wash and cut d vegetables etc
My madam could stay for 2 months without coming downstairs
I endured for 5 yrs,and then one day,I made up my mind and told her,"any week you don't Bleep me twice,na ashawo go get the 2,if na once,ashawo go get d remaining 1.And I meant it.
No be person tell am to de bring her vagina come.And funny thing is she even enjoys it more than me and will sleep off immediately after cos she has attained climax.
Now,this is d situation 80% of married men find themselves.I'm a health worker, so ppl tell me their private stuff a lot.
So,continue talking of self control until you go get 2nd wife,you hear?
If a man were to deny his wife sex like that,the while women solidarity group 8will accuse d man of forking outside.

Hmm.. Serious. Okeydokey.

skfa1:
What a sad day for me today!!!

What happened?

ModestGal:
This is why I tell girls to have something good that brings in money, get well educated, do things you are passionate about that brings you happiness.
Don't ever rely all your HAPPINESS on a man and don't ever MARRY a ugly man, infact, you can go check up his family to be sure that they are not too ugly there, because at the end of the day, your children matters most, and think of the joy that would come out of having pretty children, it would make you forget anything that their father would have done to hurt you and people would think you have a happy home since they will not hear you fight or shout, thats the secret of some happy women.

The truth is that what some men want is to keep women in sadness and for them to be happy about it. Its so obvious childbirth, pregnancy, is not an easy thing for women, but just for them to endure for 3months till you are very healthy after childbirth is a problem for them, meanwhile you endured for 9 months to bring child for both of you, and even endured labour pains.
Men are just too selfish, if you don't want to run into depression, please do what I have said.

Some husbands are so selfish that when they wrong you, you should happily still give them your body.
This thread is so full of rubbish talks picking on women, as a woman, you should please wise up.

I'm 100% against full housewifes, 100% against women not getting good education because some men could run you crazy, and if at that time you are nothing, its possible you run mad. My friend who is a clinical psychologist once told me highest number of his patients are women and most of the problems are caused by their husbands treatment.
If you are empowered as a woman, you will easily heal from such hurts and redirect your energy to something else like your children, your work when men misbehave, by that, your depression would be minimal. A word is enough for the wise

Your advice is cool but which one is they should not marry ugly men?? How many handsome men do we have? What about the ugly women?? There are make up for ugly women but no make up for we men... Ugly women have ass and boobs to complement their ugliness but we men nothing but money.. when it comes to real life scenario most ugly men gets the beautiful women most, life is not about discriminating one gender over something they can't change or control. That's why the ones with low self esteem start doing face surgery and bleaching.. even the worwor girls too want to date tall, handsome and athletic guys, giving him the opportunity to bleep girls anyhow and later they start calling us names... Just stop spreading this mindset please.

4ckz:
I will really need the input of married men and women on this thread.

So yesterday at the bar, you know, ashawo bar, I sat in the same table with a married man, looked early 40's to me. He got drunk and got all chit chat with me.

He told me that he actually picked up ashawo life style after marriage, told me his wife always used sex as a bargaining chip early in their marriage, and often looked for the slightest reason not to have sex.

He said his first time cheating was after his first child, that his wife refused his touch for more than 3 months, he got to cheat with one of his colleagues at work (lest I forget, the man is well learned and rich too, I could get this from his fluency in English and his car).

The affair almost cost him his marriage. When mata cast, everyone blamed him, but he couldn't tell them how his wife deprived him of sex. He was later forgiven by the wife and the marriage continued.

According to him, before long the wife went back to her style of sexual deprivation, was only active when they wanted children. He did mention that he doesn't think the wife cheated, he has monitored her, and as far as he could tell, the wife was an always at home type of woman, and according to him was a good woman apart from the sex thing.

Before long he went back to cheating again, and that was when he started ashawo life style, he choose not to have a relationship with anyone again because of the threat it posed to his marriage.

He said he is sure his wife knows of his ashawo life style, but never talked about it for the sake of peace, and he has been living like that for more than 10 yrs, and their sex life though not dead comes once in a while, few times in a year.

He advised me that if I should cheat, that I should never keep a relationship with anyone, that I should try as much as possible to make it just about sex. Me that's planning to never cheat on my wife.

So married men, do your wives ever keep you for months without sex?

Also do husbands deprive their wives of sex?

I don't think I can even bear 1 month without, like, I must be lashing my wife like thrice a week to say the least. I am much more scared that since my life is like this now, maybe cheating would be inevitable for me.

So married people, how do you deal with sexual deprivation from your spouse, and is it even possible not to cheat?

What of the health threat to your spouse that comes with it?

That man has been an ashewo fucker tey tey... Don't believe this coçk and bull story. Which kain my wife denied my touch for 3 months

Biglittlelois:



This is it, so many things to ask before marriage, and sex should be the most important, one would know if the other is compatible sexually or not, ask a lot of questions, a lot, and seive what one can and can't live with, and compromise where necessary,

For virgins, males should talk about what they like and ask if she is ok with it, to avoid stories that touch and cheating.

What if the guy and the girl are both virgins.

SweetCunt97:
Mr these dolls are meant for such. Oyibo get sense. It has almost d same feel as d real deal. It's better than raping kids and babies.

Lol. Interesting. Guess they're made with lubricant.