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Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by bukatyne(f): 9:27pm On Jun 28, 2020 |
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Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by bukatyne(f): 9:34pm On Jun 28, 2020 |
@deemayjee: You agreed to 4 in principle and she wants to cash that cheque. Unfortunately, you don't have funds in the account Do a forecast (factoring inflation, earning projection, current standard of living, family financial goals, family emotional/social goals etc) of what you require to have a third child and discuss with her. If it is something you can achieve with a little stretching, go for it as the last card. Goodluck baby making in this weather for two. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by Amanee(f): 9:34pm On Jun 28, 2020 |
bukatyne: I doubt one with a demanding career will be looking forward to bearing more children, taking maternity leaves and being cut out from the work force for an extended period. |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by bukatyne(f): 9:36pm On Jun 28, 2020 |
Amanee: Never say never I know some women who have had more in the midst of demanding careers/ jobs. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by Titto(f): 9:39pm On Jun 28, 2020 |
ImaIma1: My former colleague had one, he said it openly when he was about to go for it. He doesn’t live in naija tho, maybe that was what changed his psyche. |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by bolseas(f): 10:26pm On Jun 28, 2020 |
Romangalactic: I have been waiting for this comment. Why cant the OP do family planning? Oga, if she still insists on having more children, please go and do family planning. Dont let her know sha. There are different types of family planning for men, you may start using medications that make sperm watery etc. Discuss with a Doctor. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by ImaIma1(f): 11:19pm On Jun 28, 2020 |
Titto: Here in Naija, it's hard to find someone who has done one. How many wives can even broach the subject in their homes? |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by ImaIma1(f): 11:28pm On Jun 28, 2020 |
bukatyne: Some jobs help people do family planning. At least I know a bank that requires that you can't go for another maternity leave until after 18months or you resign. |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by Nobody: 11:35pm On Jun 28, 2020 |
Go for vasectomy. |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by addictiv(m): 2:31am On Jun 29, 2020 |
You can never regret having a child no matter the hardships or stress they cost you.. But you may regret not having that one more child. If you have the means go for it. If not do family planning, however Children re gifts from God. |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by 0neal(m): 4:08am On Jun 29, 2020 |
From the Op's story, I'll have to be upfront and clear with my Wifey to be, I just want one, at most two shikena!!! Op you ain't selfish |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by Nobody: 4:39am On Jun 29, 2020 |
He should have been upfront with her earlier on, as opposed to misleading her. 0neal: |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by Klass99(f): 7:54am On Jun 29, 2020 |
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Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by jeff1607(m): 12:02pm On Jun 29, 2020 |
having one or two kids is good considering the situation of the country but I always consider this ; what if one of the kids dies or both, starting over won't b possible. No one prays for such but when it happens it's not gonna be easy |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by Karlebolu(m): 12:05pm On Jun 29, 2020 |
Close your legs! |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by OdogwuMike(m): 3:23pm On Jun 29, 2020 |
Ooh really, will u be there when the expenses arrives. Oo don’t listen to this advice, in this modern time and age, that’s ideal. I also want just 2 kids. addictiv: |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by newmoney133: 4:12pm On Jun 29, 2020 |
The solution is simple. Stop giving her money for upkeep for some months and when school resumes let her pay school fees and other expenses in your house.That was how a grandmother was telling her daughter in law she need more children from her.The mother in-law had 7children and they are educated.This grandmother has forgotten the pressure family members and the children had to go through to survive and be educated.the daughter has three already but she is not satisfied. |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by 0neal(m): 6:13pm On Jun 29, 2020 |
The statement of the Op "I could be open to three or four" is the loophole his wife wants to leverage on, still he provided a clause with this line "but that we’d have to live according to our means" So, he did not mislead her, he wasnt just plain-blank rigid on the number of kids they'd have, which shows he is considerate of his partner's wish. NerdyRudeGyal: |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by bukatyne(f): 6:39pm On Jun 29, 2020 |
ImaIma1: OP should work his wife into the bank so he gets additional 18 months. Cest fini |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by ImaIma1(f): 8:10pm On Jun 29, 2020 |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by frozen70(f): 9:50pm On Jun 29, 2020 |
deemayjee: You have a point but pls consider one last child If you don't, she will manipulate you and by the time you know what is happening she is already 5 months gone But before then, let her have a financial role at home, you can leave feeding for her and one other regular thing like electricity bills while you take care of the rest When she sees what goes out of the pocket weekly or monthly, she will think twice Most women who doesn't play a bigger financial role in the family doesn't know what it feels like bearing the burden |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by BuddhaPalm(m): 12:04am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Bait and switch is not good. You can't renegade on your "agreement" now. Ask yourself and answer truthfully...if you had told her before marriage you'll have a max of two kids, would she have agreed to marry you? You can win this one, but the lifelong resentment this will birth in her will carry over to other things. |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by Nobody: 6:13am On Jun 30, 2020 |
I can see the plenty kids gang advocating for a battalion. It's sad that most Nigerians don't care about a better life for their kids. Send them to school, feed them semo and amala and buy them used clothes and they're good to go. They don't think of acquiring useful skills. Music lessons, sports academy, book clubs etc to give them better chances in life. Summer holidays, summer camps etc are all things kids need to make them more educated and enlightened. Gone are the days of birthing kids without thinking of giving them a very good life. More kids don't equal more joy, it's just more expense. Anyone having more than 3 in this day and age is a selfish person. Give your kids the best in this competitive world. The world is overpopulated already. |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by Raalsalghul: 8:17am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Ariza:Are you joking? 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Wants More Kids. I Don’t. What Do I Do Now? by Raalsalghul: 8:18am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Gaggi: You better save your energy., 4 Likes 1 Share |
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