dalass:



Ned Nwoko is a Christian but because he has the dough, he is still getting more women and having several kids.. Who pursue am for Church?
..

u forget in naija christian laws are only made for broke ppl not poor ppl.have u not heard in many cases pastors tend to fast for rich blokes so God will hear the rich guy"s prayer .how many pastors have u seen fasting for a broke God.In nigeria christianity..God has disdain for broke ppl.

ozome15:

How Please I will like to know, learn, understand and be convinced.

Just pet her as much as u can bro.. and give her a surprise once in while

lefulefu:
u forget in naija christian laws are only made for broke ppl not poor ppl.have u not heard in many cases pastors tend to fast for rich blokes so God will hear the rich guy"s prayer .how many pastors have u seen fasting for a broke God. In nigeria christianity..God has disdain for broke ppl.

The guy I quoted implied that Christianity was stopping many from polygamy and I just jejely reminded him say no be Christian matter.

Once a man has more than enough money, he marries as many wives as possible.... To satisfy his voracious libido alias konji.. If one wife no do, others go do ... Abi now?

lefulefu:
gbam! any smart husband is quick to pick on these symptoms..though some husbands are naive and the only time they find out their wife is cheating is when a hotel staff tells him that his wife come to lodge in the hotel he is working with a strange man .refusing her husband sex is one of the symptoms she is getting it elsewhere.she could be getting it with a fellow woman(lesbian) or another man.

advice to people weh never marry. Me na to wait till till marriage day weh every body deh gather for church or mosque.before them call us husband and wife..I go just summon her father say I wan see am make pastor wait,all of them go wonder what's happening,I go whisper to her father and she go hear say make him father ask am now before dem call us husband and wife if she get intention to go and sex behind me after we finish this marriage make she let me know now before dem bond us and I'd yes make everybody deh go dem house cos if she cheatzna die I go kill her pikin so make him papa ask am jeje now.

lefulefu:
there are women who feel shy or embarrased discussing sex with their husbands.they are more relaxed when they discuss sex with their boyfriends or ex.for example if the husband is straight laced or old fashioned she wouldnt want to discuss sex with him in order for him not to tag her a harlot.

THE MAN SHOULD BE THE ONE TO INITIATE THE DISCUSSION.

CanadaOrBust:


Now u know why u haven’t achieved shishi

Ok type my account balance here.

Your points have some merit but like I said your previous example represents the lifestyle of perhaps 1 out of 10000 couples.

Don't be deceived by Instagram. The statistics tell us the truth. Most Nigerians are poor and the with the present currency devaluation coupled with the economy getting worse since this govt took over the upper middle class have all slid further down into lower middle class. And the lower middle class have fallen down the ladder. They just don't know it yet.

Note No middle class lives like the man you mentioned.

lozanni:


You are quite wrong as it has value to some middle class and upper class citizens.
The very poor ones might not be able to solve such problem as, sadly, the daily rigours of searching for means to fend for their families, might leave both husband and wife completely exhausted at the end of the day.
However, provision of modern transport facilities, like the light rail, can reduce travel time to one hour, to and from the office; also provision of Hi-Tech internet and communication facilities that ensures you do not spend the night at the office ( especially Bankers), will give couples more time for themselves and their children.

louiziana:


Ok type my account balance here.

1,125 naira

femmoy:


no need exchanging words with an unfortunate mad dog. Go and die.

if foolishness were to be measured you did be used as its SI unit
For example
1 femmoy of foolishness
2. 10 kilofemmoy of foolishness
3. 50 megafemmoy of foolishness

0rion:



THE MAN SHOULD BE THE ONE TO INITIATE THE DISCUSSION.

if na man wey dey straight laced nko?

seanjy4konji:
advice to people weh never marry. Me na to wait till till marriage day weh every body deh gather for church or mosque.before them call us husband and wife..I go just summon her father say I wan see am make pastor wait,all of them go wonder what's happening,I go whisper to her father and she go hear say make him father ask am now before dem call us husband and wife if she get intention to go and sex behind me after we finish this marriage make she let me know now before dem bond us and I'd yes make everybody deh go dem house cos if she cheatzna die I go kill her pikin so make him papa ask am jeje now.

biko no kill am oo .quietly tell her to pack out of ur house if ur catch her cheating.dats much safer.no shout at her or beat her..just tell her to leave.

SweetCunt97:
Some simply stop enjoying sex after childbirth.

if you say some then I will agree but why do we have alot of men complaining about the same thing?the same woman who doesn't "enjoy" sex after child bearing will give you enough sex through a week because her parents or family member needs your financial help? On a normal day, you can get it for a whole week not even three times a week again(2 yrs after marriage)
2. Because she wants a new car, attend a wedding. Where she needs you to pay for aso-ebi next week then you will get it all through this week.
3. She needs one favour either her own or for her siblings then you will get it well but as soon as you deliver on this, two days after excuses will arise.
In my 15 years of marriage(am not yet 40yrs old),have learnt a whole lot and still learning. The journey has not been easy but with street smartness, patience, over looking stuffs, always ready to lead and discuss issues immediately they happen has kept us these far.not an easy journey but no regrets
Sex is been use as a tool/weapon in many marriages.

Hathor5:


I can't tell you what makes women click because we are all different. In fact, some women are so different from me, they could be from a different planet. Some women don't want to have sex because they feel unattractive after child birth, some women don't want sex because oga has mouth odor and refuses to see the dentist, some women don't want to have sex because they are tired, some women don't want to have sex because oga doesn't know what he is doing in the bedroom, some women suffer from vaginal dryness. There are countless possible reasons why a woman would not enjoy sex and since every situation is unique individual solutions must be sought.

Good points. Now you've made a positive contribution unlike before when you were spoiling for attack. This whole thing simply boils down to communication and I wonder why it's so hard for some men to establish that. I hope @OP is listening.

luminouz:


You are a bad counselor and you will end up not only breaking up marriages with your lopsided advice but you might die early yourself practising your own counsel

Die early?
What's going to kill me?
Mr. man, you need to out grow this "Africa man" mentality.
In marriage,both the man and the woman are equal stakeholders.



NB. My counsel was to husbands and not boys.
And I didn't say the wife have no role to play to enjoy marriage.(I only responded to the guys write up,ok). Stay blessed.

lefulefu:
women have low sex drive but the sugar mummy industry is booming

Is it booming like the sugar daddy industry?


Haven't you seen widows who refuse to remarry and yet stay celibate?

Please, show me a man that can do that. (I don't even think I can do it)

So, are you convinced now?

Danniedpastor:




Is it booming like the sugar daddy industry?


Haven't you seen widows who refuse to remarry and yet stay celibate?

Please, show me a man that can do that. (I don't even think I can do it)

So, are you convinced now?

bros u dont need to marry to have sex.havent u seen married men who have widows as side chicks.and yes the sugar mummy industry is almost booming like the sugar daddy industry.there guys in abuja who have made quite a tidy sum sleeping around with older women who are lonely.so dat should tell u something.

4ckz:
I will really need the input of married men and women on this thread.

So yesterday at the bar, you know, ashawo bar, I sat in the same table with a married man, looked early 40's to me. He got drunk and got all chit chat with me.

...

So married men, do your wives ever keep you for months without sex?

Also do husbands deprive their wives of sex?

I don't think I can even bear 1 month without, like, I must be lashing my wife like thrice a week to say the least. I am much more scared that since my life is like this now, maybe cheating would be inevitable for me.

So married people, how do you deal with sexual deprivation from your spouse, and is it even possible not to cheat?

What of the health threat to your spouse that comes with it?

You people never fail to amaze me on this forum. He told you this story and all you can deduce is a wife who weaponises sex just because she can. Do you think sexual deprivation is as concious as it seems? Do you think cheating is a way to deal with it? What am I even asking sef? You will cheat on your wife, not because you want to, but because you've failed to know the root of the problem. Let me expantiate with these few points.

1) Sexual incompatibility: This hardly needs explanation but I'll add some lines. Most men fall into the sexually active category and hence think all women are in this category as well. A woman that doesn't feel the need for it won't want to engage in it, hence denying you sex isn't done consciously unless you'd prefer she lie like a log to endure the act and end up weeping her eyes out later. (It's a form of rape if you think about it objectively).

2) Inconsideration: Men don't care about women's sexual satisfaction in marriages and that's a fact. Hardly will you find a man who denied himself sex because wifey has complained of health issues or mental issues. In the morning, he strolls off to work, as she does, then he comes home at night, not having dealt with the kids all day and the issues associated with running the home and wants to dive into her. Of course, she'd say no. She's not a donkey who's always ready. Even your car has limits. You can only complain if your wife doesn't handle chores or the kids. Otherwise, you're being Inconsiderate.

3) Sexual dissatisfaction: How many sex styles does the average man know? How many of them know how to take a woman along during the sexual ride? You might argue about your prowess in the bedroom, but you and I know you can't make the average woman cum without sticking it in. The rest of the men are only interested in their own satisfaction, thus making the woman feel like a dumping ground for his cum. Which loving wife won't deny you sex after a period of unenjoyable sex?

4) Hormonal problems and lack of communication: Childbirth decreases Sexual appetite in females, which was what your friend in the bar failed to take note of. Demanding for sex three months after birthing shows he lacks communication with his spouse. Also, raising kids forces women to channel their attention and love to the kids, thus failing to balance the need to satisfy the man and be sexually satisfied as well. If you understand this, you'd be invested in raising the kids equally with her, thus getting her in the mood to recognise sex is beneficial to both you and her.

In essence, men are selfish when it comes to sexual matters in marriage and since they refuse to change, they should go ahead and cheat. You can as well.

lefulefu:
bros u dont need to marry to have sex.havent u seen married men who have widows as side chicks.and yes the sugar mummy industry is almost booming like the sugar daddy industry.there guys in abuja who have made quite a tidy sum sleeping around with older women who are lonely.so dat should tell u something.

It should tell you that their husbands are horrible in bed. Simple. I highly doubt a woman who is sexually satisfied in bed will want the services of another. Is it not their husbands that have PhD in alcoholism and green bottle and a permanent award of pot belly? Who will even enjoy mutual sexually active with such a man?

Sixfeetbelle:


It should tell you that their husbands are horrible in bed. Simple. I highly doubt a woman who is sexually satisfied in bed will want the services of another. Is it not their husbands that have PhD in alcoholism and green bottle and a permanent award of pot belly? Who will even enjoy mutual sexually active with such a man?

lol majority of the cause of erectile dysfunction in naija men is caused by excessive consumption of alcohol.we naija guys we too consume beer and it has drastic effect in our body.Too much alcohol lowers the testoterone in a man and increases oestrogene level in the man.The result of this is that the man"s balls begins to shrink,his belly gets bigger and bigger plus he starts developing man-boobs and his sexual libido reduces plus his stamina and energy also reduce.alcohol don destroy many homes though.Any woman who is wise should nag her husband oo if she notices he is becoming a drunkard cos if she doesnt nag him she will be the one who will even suffer it.if many men know what alcohol does to the body if dem see beer they will start running .

Danniedpastor:




Die early?
What's going to kill me?
Mr. man, you need to out grow this "Africa man" mentality.
In marriage,both the man and the woman are equal stakeholders.



NB. My counsel was to husbands and not boys.
And I didn't say the wife have no role to play to enjoy marriage.(I only responded to the guys write up,ok). Stay blessed.

K

Ogbuu101:

Not always true..
A lot of women are practically frigid(possible genital mutilation) but will pretend to keep a boyfriend or marriageable man.
The real picture comes out during marriage.
But my own is,even if you are frigid or freezer sef,open d damn legs at reasonable intervals for your husband,most married man aren't even asking for mind blowing sex,they just want to ejaculate and clear d sexual tension then face the hustle by tomorrow with a clear head.

Genital multilation is'nt an excuses to sexual deprivation. However, during courtship, ur guy should know ur sexual characters and problems to avoid uncertainty after married. Sex accessibility brings relieved and refreshed the soul of the man which will brings out the best in the man. after. Thus, sex deprivation is an enemy of lovely and calm home. It's a destruction to couple's happiness, so avoid it to avoid being a victim of domestic violence and negative circumstances.

Temhellen:

So na SEX women Dey use keep their home n marriage abi

be rigid wit sex and make ur home destruction centre. Sex is life, happiness, pleasure and peace; deprives it to get the listed opposite.

ifko:

Polygamy reduces sexual deprivation. It s a fact.
Sexual deprivation is common among Christian women than there Muslim counterpart because they have it in mind that d hubby s not going anywhere.
I jokingly told my wife one day that sex is cheap outside u shouldn't do shakara for me.

there's no face in the above stated. If polygamy can stop cheats why do polygamous husbands still cheat most especially those in northern municipals? Polygamy can only brings pride to cheat but cant stop cheat or sex deprivation. It can't u alternatives for sex but can't give u satifactions

CanadaOrBust:


1,125 naira

Ok sir, you must be a wizard or sorcerer to know.

Funkyswagzz:
Look b4 u leap my friend before u say I made a mistake getting married to her.. there are loads of women out there who are willing to give u sex anytime any day as far u keep her happy. Don't mind that guy he is the one who put himself in that mess.

Bro, change is constant. Ask married people they would tell you he or she wasn't like this during our courtship.

4ckz:


Some people had this mindset, got married yet faced the same problem.
Don't you know that most women do not deprive their guys of sex during courtship, yet the same women change after marriage.

You right bruh then what's the way forward?

awumen:
if you say some then I will agree but why do we have alot of men complaining about the same thing?the same woman who doesn't "enjoy" sex after child bearing will give you enough sex through a week because her parents or family member needs your financial help? On a normal day, you can get it for a whole week not even three times a week again(2 yrs after marriage)
2. Because she wants a new car, attend a wedding. Where she needs you to pay for aso-ebi next week then you will get it all through this week.
3. She needs one favour either her own or for her siblings then you will get it well but as soon as you deliver on this, two days after excuses will arise.
In my 15 years of marriage(am not yet 40yrs old),have learnt a whole lot and still learning. The journey has not been easy but with street smartness, patience, over looking stuffs, always ready to lead and discuss issues immediately they happen has kept us these far.not an easy journey but no regrets
Sex is been use as a tool/weapon in many marriages.

Thanks for the d exposure. I think you are right. Women know what you men want and use it to their advantage... Probably if she gives d pvssy anyhow it won't shack u and you might not provide those needs promptly.

Very interesting.

awumen:
if you say some then I will agree but why do we have alot of men complaining about the same thing?the same woman who doesn't "enjoy" sex after child bearing will give you enough sex through a week because her parents or family member needs your financial help? On a normal day, you can get it for a whole week not even three times a week again(2 yrs after marriage)
2. Because she wants a new car, attend a wedding. Where she needs you to pay for aso-ebi next week then you will get it all through this week.
3. She needs one favour either her own or for her siblings then you will get it well but as soon as you deliver on this, two days after excuses will arise.
In my 15 years of marriage(am not yet 40yrs old),have learnt a whole lot and still learning. The journey has not been easy but with street smartness, patience, over looking stuffs, always ready to lead and discuss issues immediately they happen has kept us these far.not an easy journey but no regrets
Sex is been use as a tool/weapon in many marriages.

spiralwedge:


True talk.

Religious people ruined it, especially Pentecostalism and Catholicism. Our grandfathers were very pious and yet managed their homes and careers successfully with many wives

not only did religious people, Pentecostalism and Catholicism ruined it but EDUCATION played it's role also.....

Johilo:
not only did religious people, Pentecostalism and Catholicism ruined it but EDUCATION played it's role also.....

Education? my grannies were born in 1910s and were thoroughly educated. My granny was a top shot where he worked. In all his pictures, he was the only black man sitting with the whites with 3-piece suits, while the others are either standing at the back or lying on the floor, including some whites.

I wouldn't say education per se, FEMINISM is more like it. I'd squarely blame it on the culprits I mentioned earlier.

Tadeknkeepcalm:

Sadly, Africans are willing to enter the bush.

No please.

I am a Gospel Preacher and I know that New Testament doctrine of marriage is for 1+1.

However, instead of homosexuality, I rather endorse polygamy. At least, polygamy was in practice in the old testament and God did not threaten any of the polygamists, neither did our Heavenly father punish any person for reasons of polygamy.
But, God did actually wipe out a whole country of Sodom and Gomorrah for "unnaturally" sins of homosexuality.