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Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by 9ja083: 12:22am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Summary of what u said. Your wife hates sex. You and your pastor accused her of having a spiritual husband because of it. U were having psychological problem and believe it has to do with your wife's spiritual problem. That's 2nd accusation. She refused to go for deliverance. Her siblings are supporting her. U did court wedding but have not paid her bride price. Conclusion U accused your wife wrongly and she refused to go for stupid deliverance because she knows that the fake pastor lied against her. U mind is been played because of the fake evil story they made u to believe about your wife. Her siblings are supporting her because they know their sister well. U just accused their sister wrongly. Was your wife like this when u married her newly? Try to sit her down and talk to her on why she suddenly dislike sex and not to carry her matter to all pastors for fake vision. Your problem with her is sex! Not all those unnecessary things u said against her.. It's like u even hate her and have started treating her bad. U have made up ur mind to divorce an innocent wife. Ask your wife questions. Show her love. Make her to understand that that u love her and u are ready to support her or help her overcome her fears. If u can't do It, look for an unbiased marriage councillor or psychologist to help you. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by cooltola(m): 12:29am On Jun 30, 2020 |
And here comes the anti marriage from commentors who have never married. It is until you are 48 years old then you go know tthe importance of marriage. Marry the right woman and go see how far |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Nobody: 12:29am On Jun 30, 2020 |
DontBullshitMe: I don't know o |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by cally3D(m): 12:30am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Anyman who divorces his wife for reasons other than unfaithfulness is guilty of adultery with her. Jesus Christ 1 Like |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Martinez39s(m): 12:32am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:Not so fast. Let's assume the op deliberately opted for court wedding to save cost, what's wrong in that? Shouldn't a wise man cut his coat according to his size and avoid unnecessary expenses? As far as the court wedding has been done, the op and his wife are MARRIED. What his wife's family thinks is their business, and it isn't an excuse to be disrespectful and toxic. You know very well that the OP's wife is not misbehaving because the traditional wedding never happened, she is doing so because it is who she is. If it were about the traditional wedding, she wouldn't have married the op; what stops her from leaving the op? I am not surprised by your disingenuousness; what wouldn't a woman do to defend her fellow woman. Good night. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Poseidon000: 12:32am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Fountainofyouth:I don't want to sound recriminatory, so, wouldn't want to embroil your male kin's in this, but would you endure a marriage with a none violent abusive misogynist? I'm unequivocally positive the answer is 'No'. So, why council him to endure a disrespectful, crass and selfish partner, who abdicated the very solemnity(sex) marriage is predicated on(- that's if we should bank on the veracity of his claim.) This is why I've strong reservation soliciting female advice on this kind of issue, cause you lot inevitably find a way to enmesh gender sentiment in your advice. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Flourishing19(f): 12:34am On Jun 30, 2020 |
@OP, something bites you after s,ex and you still want to do it 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Temhellen(f): 12:36am On Jun 30, 2020 |
One4me:Make he go deposit e prick for prick bank Incase he late divorce her cos na the instrument he go use with d next wife be dat . As for d in laws, make he buy puff puff add rat poisoning give them |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Sixfeetbelle: 12:41am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Martinez39s: Didn't you read the part where Op said the in-laws are against him as well? I tell you no woman will be that disrespectful and everyone will be on her side. None at all. It is clear the Op is painting the wife black to favor him, while forgetting to pen down his shortcomings as well. @ the bold. You people will never fail to amaze me. Typical of you to call me fake and gender biased because I pointed out a likely reason for her behaviour, but in the same vein you seem to accept whatever the Op said just because he's a man. Now tell me who's being disingenuous here? 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Temhellen(f): 12:41am On Jun 30, 2020 |
osazsky:Lol 1 Like |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by madridsta007(m): 12:43am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Encash: When a woman is disrespectful, stubborn and self centred, single men, break up with her. You’ll live a life of regret if you don’t. As for the OP, she is your wife. Prayerfully find a way to sort things out. Not divorce. |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Sixfeetbelle: 12:46am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Poseidon000: You guys will always aim at sounding objective but end up being biased once you realise a woman made the comment. Seriously, what's with the bold? And, please do take note to not advice a woman to endure a cheating, disrespectful partner all in the name of marriage because of the sentimental and egoistic excuse for indiscipline in the form of the infamous 'men are polygamous in nature' phrase. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by kid7soccer(m): 12:51am On Jun 30, 2020 |
laluski:you deserve a bottle of cold chill malt. I just tire for some people. All this husband stab wife, wife stab husband never clear them for eye |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Martinez39s(m): 12:54am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:Why wouldn't they (wife's family) be against someone they didn't milk dry in the name of bride price? Is that enough reason why the woman must be disrespectful and toxic to her husband? I tell you no woman will be that disrespectful and everyone will be on her side. None at all. It is clear the Op is painting the wife black to favor him, while forgetting to pen down his shortcomings as well.Lies. The wife, being a toxic person, hates the OP. The family, on failing to milk the OP dry in the name of brideprice, hate the OP. They inadvertently share a common hatred and would support the wife in making hell for the man they hate; after all, the wife's family WRONGLY don't consider him her husband for not paying the brideprice. @ the bold. You people will never fail to amaze me.You and I know that you are biased towards the woman. The op narrated his supposed ordeal, and I advised him based on his story. It's that simple: if you don't like your spouse, and you think your spouse is toxic, get a divorce. |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Toks2008(m): 12:58am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Encash: Unfortunately you cant divorce her except for marital infidelity says Jesus so learn to cope bro...no mrriage is perfect. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by michresakidjo(m): 1:00am On Jun 30, 2020 |
All you need is prayer You can't fight the devil with evil(twins) Praying ceaselessly until a change of attitude 1 Like |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Sixfeetbelle: 1:03am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Martinez39s: Advising him based on his story about her behaviour makes you biased; gender biased if I dare say. Even other males here can sense Op just wants to score points to validate his claim. If he wants to divorce, he should go ahead but even he knows it's not in his best interest to do so. The statement 'milking him dry' is fallacious at best. Marriage expects certain commitments which he failed to uphold, such that even the devil will be against him (biting preek ). The man gave an opportunity for him to be disrespected and he's reaping it in multitudes. Simple. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Martinez39s(m): 1:12am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:Na you sabi. This is my last post to you on this thread. If you like, think the man is a wife beater, na you sabi. The statement 'milking him dry' is fallacious at best. Marriage expects certain commitments which he failed to uphold, such that even the devil will be against him (biting preek ). The man gave an opportunity for him to be disrespected and he's reaping it in multitudes. Simple.As long as they have done court wedding, they are married. It's up to husband and wife to agree on how the wedding will be. If the wife's family disrespects him, I understand since people can't be faulted for . If the wife disrespects him, it's unjustifiable. Who is forcing the wife to stay in the marriage? Who forced the wife to do court wedding? Doesn't it take two to tango? I rest my case. I have to sleep.
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Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by larryking540: 1:14am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Oluromantic:and when it comes to sex ,some women endure till they give birth and that's the end of sex in the hux for life,infact it becomes a tabu if the husband ask for it |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by larryking540: 1:17am On Jun 30, 2020 |
ojun50:don't let anybody deceive you,it's just a means of excaping from sex ,some ladies or girls don't like sex , have you not seen a story here in nairaland where where the op says the husband refuse to have sex with her after few month after delivery... |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by lilmerhnuel(m): 1:17am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Have you seen this post from here? https://www.nairaland.com/5955320/hushpuppi-behing-mmm-scam-see |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by lilmerhnuel(m): 1:19am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Have you seen this post from here? Hushpuppi was behind MMM Scam - Nigerian reacts |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by mrchineke: 1:20am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Dande55: Foolish African idiots abound! YES!!! She bloody well is!!!! No wonder the country is in grave poverty and stupidity. Please adjust to the real world. There is nothing like husband and wife, it's partners and 2020 any woman who can't pay rent and assist husband is not worth marriage. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by mrchineke: 1:24am On Jun 30, 2020 |
supereagle: Pure rubbish!!! Please stop this superstitious nonsense else by 52 you'll be dead and gone. Leave if there is no peace. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by vickydevoka(m): 1:24am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Dats y I can't marry my galfriend bcus I knw dis kinda thing will come up. Jst ask u describe ur wife na so she be. She behave like sum1 who is possess. Na her beauty de make me stick to her buh lie lie I better remain single |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by mrchineke: 1:27am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Taiwojon: Ignorant village fools!!! Why are we so superstitious and STUPID in this country? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by soojar(m): 1:27am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Encash: Which one is our own na? Did you call us when you wanted to marry her? On a serious note. Write all the bad attributes of your wife on one side and the good attributes on the other. Write your own bad attributes under her good attributes (be honest with yourself) and write your good under her own. I would have told you to do cross multiplication but I don't know if that will cause another issue . But just look at the interchanged good and bad. You will have a fair picture of what to do. You might even be suprised that she is actually the one tolerating you all these while, maybe she should have divorced you long ago. Conclusion: Life is too short to be unhappy, drop anything or anything that will make you unhappy and move on. Remember to prepare for the after life though. |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Poseidon000: 1:27am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:First off; it's bareface disingenuity on your part to highlight my last sentence with your rhetorical question that is pointless from the get go, cos a quick perusal of this thread will show palpable proof where female opine is quintessential skewed toward, and accentuate my point with effortless conformity. That said: I think I'm beginning to develop resentment for marriage as practiced in our present dispensation, but if I should express an opinion-then I had say that; philanders are irresponsible fuckwits that i couldn't care less about. Do not muddle me for one or an advocate, cos I myself have got strong aversion for them. |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by mrchineke: 1:28am On Jun 30, 2020 |
vickydevoka: Beauty kee u there! You are starring at your own death! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Dande55: 1:29am On Jun 30, 2020 |
mrchineke:Well, aslong as he drops the "head of the home" title and his African ego as the "man of the house " , so he can wash plates, sweep house, mob, serve me food, wash my undies, take care of the babies, cook food for me and all of what that needs to be done. Then, I can consider that. But as long as we are in a traditional marriage, he should take up 100% responsibility in the home. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by mrchineke: 1:32am On Jun 30, 2020 |
onlinestaff2020: MAY GOD BLESS YOU FOR THIS!!!! though I know their imaginary God doesn't bloody exist. |
Re: Should I Divorce My Wife? by Sixfeetbelle: 1:35am On Jun 30, 2020 |
Poseidon000: And you were trying to be objective. Smh If you really went through this thread, you'd have noticed that all gender shared equal views on the topic. Most females told him to divorce, as was with some guys. The rest said he was at fault for inviting prophets, while a handful were of the opinion his non payment of bride price was the issue for the problems in his marriage. But as usual, you'd turn it around to mean women were blaming the Op and supporting their gender irrespective of the situation. Women do not have herd mentality, you know? |
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