In my life I hardly met a man who isn’t stingy , the ones i think ain’t that stingy still hv stingy ideology, it has been me and Mum taking care of ourselves, while girls had the luxury from many men, I was taking care of me. No boyfriends help , no nothing , all my phones I bought by myself or the little help from my mum, mean while I was dating some scumbags with false promises.


I hv come to the realization I don’t hv standards when it comes to men, it was always about love, Rubbish !! Mind you : I hustle and got my Mum so I lack nothing and hv all that’s required of an adult. So I am not broke . I realized when u set ur standards on the Man U want physically , financially and otherwise and stand by it , u met better options .

Liliantalks:
In my life I hardly met a man who isn’t stingy , the ones i think ain’t that stingy still hv stingy ideology, it has been me and Mum taking care of ourselves, while girls had the luxury from many men, I was taking care of me. No boyfriends help , no nothing , all my phones I bought by myself or the little help from my mum, mean while I was dating some scumbags with false promises.


I hv come to the realization I don’t hv standards when it comes to men, it was always about love, Rubbish !! Mind you : I hustle and got my Mum so I lack nothing and hv all that’s required of an adult. So I am not broke . I realized when u set ur standards on the Man U want physically , financially and otherwise and stand by it , u met better options .

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Why are some men spoiling our name , in a country like ours take the financial part down alittle sha, u know u women

ModestGal:

Yes babe, don't ever date guys that would give you children that won't be pretty

Don't bring children into this world that belong to a man who cannot take care of you and them

ModestGal:

Yes babe, don't ever date guys that would give you children that won't be pretty

This one is stupidity to the moon and back.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Don't bring children into this world that belong to a man who cannot take care of you and them

Dont date a man with more than one baby mama

Let me talk about financial standards. You all want a man that will be extravagant, throw parties, buy all the buyables and all that. A man that earns a lot of money and has a lot of money and also willing to spend a lot of money while u lots, well nothing really to write home about. Things is there are only 3 categories of men that can do that at boyfriend level.

Men with no sense of responsibility to self and to family.

Men with ill gotten wealth

Men with inherited wealth.

The standard of men Nigerian women want therefore becomes stupid men, thieves and scammers, and men from wealthy, not even rich homes. That's it.

Ask your self, how many of these men are in Nigeria? Wake the fvck up.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Don't bring children into this world that belong to a man who cannot take care of you and them

Well, money is not constant, some people are poor that never planned to be poor. Some people could have injuries that could prevent them from so and so. I don't discriminate people due to money, but the first preference from a man is looks, others follow. Because the Children MATTER MOST. A rich man could decide not to give you money again, we've seen such stories, some good men change, some men pretend to be good and later turn stingy, different stories.
But for children, they would always be yours and would always love you and you won't ever be replaceable in their heart and if you are lucky to have a rich guy, then it would be an added advantage

Swtbabyvee:
Dont date a man with more than one baby mama

I can’t even date a man with a baby mama

ModestGal:

Well, money is not constant, some people are poor that never planned to be poor. Some people could have injuries that could prevent them from so and so. I don't discriminate people due to money, but the first preference from a man is looks, others follow. Because the Children MATTER MOST. A rich man could decide not to give you money again, we've seen such stories, some good men change, some men pretend to be good and later turn stingy, different stories.
But for children, they would always be yours and would always love you and you won't ever be replaceable in their heart

So what's your point? That you shouldend up with an irresponsible man? Or walk into poverty with your two eyes open.

Take care of yourself first, a responsible man who won't make excuses should be a major criteria when looking for a spouse or someone to bear children for. If you ignore this, you are setting yourself up for tears and suffering. Don't make that mistake.


You sound like you are setting up poor innocent children to be your emotional crutch and retirement plan.

The truth is this.

CHILDREN WILL ONE DAY LEAVE YOU AND FACE THEIR LIVES.

failure to realise this will make you a future troublsome and bitter mother-in-law who scatters her children's marriages.

You have to learn to love yourself and plan for your future whether you have kids or not.

Liliantalks:
I can’t even date a man with a baby mama

True

Liliantalks:
In my life I hardly met a man who isn’t stingy , the ones i think ain’t that stingy still hv stingy ideology, it has been me and Mum taking care of ourselves, while girls had the luxury from many men, I was taking care of me. No boyfriends help , no nothing , all my phones I bought by myself or the little help from my mum, mean while I was dating some scumbags with false promises.

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I hv come to the realization I don’t hv standards when it comes to men, it was always about love, Rubbish !! Mind you : I hustle and got my Mum so I lack nothing and hv all that’s required of an adult. So I am not broke . I realized when u set ur standards on the Man U want physically , financially and otherwise and stand by it , u meti better options .

It very easy to know frustrated ladies.......am a man and I can tell you for a fact...if you are worth it a man will definitely spend on you.
You are looking for a guy who will spend is hard earn money on you while you stay at home browsing all day.....
This the reason why I stay away from ladies raised by single mother.... most are always kinda Bleep upstairs.... Get a job and buy the things you want and stop crying over someone else money...no man owe you any shit apart from your husband.

in between they are stingy to you because you have no value and you only have your pussy to offer....
#men say no leeches#

DrFunmisticGlow:
So what's your point? That you shouldend up with an irresponsible man?

Take care of yourself first, a responsible man who won't make excuses should be a major criteria when looking for a spouse or someone to bear children for. If you ignore this, you are setting yourself up for tears and suffering. Don't make that mistake.


You sound like you are setting up poor innocent children to be your emotional crutch and retirement plan.

The truth is this.

CHILDREN WILL ONE DAY LEAVE YOU AND FACE THEIR LIVES.

failure to realise this will make you a future troublsome and bitter mother-in-law who scatters her children's marriages.

You have to learn to love yourself and plan for your future whether you have kids or not.

Lol, I'm sorry, but people like you end up in depression. Saying children matter most doesn't mean dating irresponsible people, it means it comes first in the scale of preference.
I believe in diversification of source of happiness and you are wrong to think I would be a bad mother in-law, are you in this century girl? I'm not even wishing to have a male child.
Anyway, I pray with your mentality, you don't end in depression after you realize that humans can not be totally relied on but God and yourself. I have seen some boyfriends that stopped giving their girlfriends money after a while, that is why I dont advice anyone to totally rely on their husband, boyfriend and be doing nothing to bring income. Many women today thought they married a responsible man until they get the shock of their lives and are now in psychiatric hospitals, you can help YOURSELF WITH GOOGLE girl and you will read lots of stories,and you can also get a very good hubby which would be an added advantage DIVERSIFY WHERE YOUR HAPPINESS COMES FROM
People like you stay in an abusive marriage because thats only where you think your happiness can come from, and you lie you are dating the best man, the best husband bla bla bla. I know stories of more than 20women like that.
And for your criteria to be MONEY,well its your cup of tea, keep searching for rich guys to date and don't have foresight, but you should know that ALL GIRLS CANNOT BE A GOLD DIGGER , I provide my income for myself, if my hubby gives me, it would be an added advantage

Anyway, the boy is in your court, depression is real, and if you are not healthy, you won't take care of your children.

Another thing is learn to respect other people's opinion, and don't think you can force yours on anyone, kindly stop quoting me, give your opinion and leave
Bye Felicia

DrFunmisticGlow:
So what's your point? That you shouldend up with an irresponsible man? Or walk into poverty with your two eyes open.

Take care of yourself first, a responsible man who won't make excuses should be a major criteria when looking for a spouse or someone to bear children for. If you ignore this, you are setting yourself up for tears and suffering. Don't make that mistake.


You sound like you are setting up poor innocent children to be your emotional crutch and retirement plan.

The truth is this.

CHILDREN WILL ONE DAY LEAVE YOU AND FACE THEIR LIVES.

failure to realise this will make you a future troublsome and bitter mother-in-law who scatters her children's marriages.

You have to learn to love yourself and plan for your future whether you have kids or not.

Beautifully written

ModestGal:

Lol, I'm sorry, but people like you end up in depression. Saying children matter most doesn't mean dating irresponsible people, it means it comes first in the scale of preference.
I believe in diversification of source of happiness and you are wrong to think I would be a bad mother in-law, are you in this century girl? I'm not even wishing to have a male child.
Anyway, I pray with your mentality, you don't end in depression after you realize that humans can not be totally relied on but God. Many women today thought they married a responsible man until they get the shock of their lives and are noe in psychiatric hospitals, you can help yourself with google girl and you will read lots of stories.
People like you stay in an abusive marriage because thats only where you think your happiness can come from, and you lie you are dating the best man, the best husband bla bla bla. I know stories of more than 20women like that

Anyway, the boy is in your court, depression is real, and if you are not healthy, you won't take care of your children.

Another thing is learn to respect other people's opinion, and don't think you can force yours on anyone, kindly stop quoting me, give your opinion and leave
Bye Felicia

she stated her standard , it doesn’t hv to be yours also ,,, u are hving mercy on broke men , but hv no pity on men who don’t met your so called physical criteria. Urs opinion isn’t ultimate than others . U hv beautiful children but no food to eat right ?

Fool. Why complain when you are financially stable by yourself? Stay there and be looking for men that will buy you X-MAX, CAR and throw you money at any little thing. Men are wiser now. Even if I have the money, I’ll spend on my mother and sisters rather than spending on one silly entitled b!tch like you.
When you know you are ok with your mother. Why looking out for men who will shoulder your bill? Can’t you give your boyfriend money if you know he doesn’t have since you are not broke like you claimed. Hoe! So you now realized love can not sustain relationship and you are running. If you like go and woo Drake. He won’t spend on you like you are expecting. Wake up and stop dreaming

Liliantalks:
she stated her standard , it doesn’t hv to be yours also ,,, u are hving mercy on broke men , but hv no pity on men who don’t met your so called physical criteria. Urs opinion isn’t ultimate than others . U hv beautiful children but no food to eat right ?

Well, if you read well, you will see that she quoted me first and I wasn't aware of her existence prior that. I only stated my preference, she could just say hers and move on, in this case, she was the one forcing her opinion on mine by telling me what to take as my first preference.
You should also please stop quoting me, not by force to take anything I said. Bye

jawalis:
Fool. Why complain when you are financially stable by yourself? Stay there and be looking fits msn that will buy you X-MAX, CAR and throw you money at any little thing. Men are wiser now. Even if I have the money, I’ll spend on my mother and sisters rather than spending on one silly entitled b!tch like you.
When you know you are ok with your mother. Why looking out for men who will shoulder your bill? Can’t you give your boyfriend money if you know he doesn’t have since you are not broke like you claimed. Hoe! So you now realized love can not sustain relationship and you are running. If you like go and woo Drake. He won’t spend on you like you are expecting. Wake up and stop dreaming

those are the kind of men I Wish for your sisters

Liliantalks:
she stated her standard , it doesn’t hv to be yours also ,,, u are hving mercy on broke men , but hv no pity on men who don’t met your so called physical criteria. Urs opinion isn’t ultimate than others . U hv beautiful children but no food to eat right ?

Well, if you read well, you will see that she quoted me first and I wasn't aware of her existence prior that. I only stated my preference, she could just say hers and move on, in this case, she was the one forcing her opinion on mine by telling me what to take as my first preference.
And point of correction, I never said I have mercy on anyone, broke or rich nor am I saying I do not.
Preference is a scale with many lists, arranged according to importance
You should also please stop quoting me, not by force to take anything I said. Bye

ModestGal:

Well, if you read well, you will see that she quoted me first and I wasn't aware of her existence prior that. I only stated my preference, she could just say hers and move on, in this case, she was the one forcing her opinion on mine by telling me what to take as my first preference.
You should also please stop quoting me, not by force to take anything I said. Bye

it wasn’t that way , she only stated hers but decided to mention to you on it since u mentioned ur standard also .

Liliantalks:
it wasn’t that way , she only stated hers but decided to mention to you on it since u mentioned ur standard also .

**I realized when u set ur standards on the Man U want physically , financially and otherwise and stand by it , u met better options**

Well, My mention of you was to reinforce your point where you mentioned physically, very clear. And you yourself wrote physically even before you wrote financially.
Then she quoted me telling me what to do and that my preference is wrong, which she clearly stated in the next post she quoted me, and here you are telling me my starndard is not more than hers as if I was the one trying to force things down her throat when I don't even care if shes a gold digger or a living thing

Liliantalks:
those are the kind of men I Wish for your sisters

You don’t have to wish her. I already told her to be self dependent and see men offer as bonuses. So the best for you it to adopt same theory and stop looking for innocent man that you’ll cast your burden upon.

You make it sound like an achievement. Buying things for yourself.

ModestGal:

Lol, I'm sorry, but people like you end up in depression. Saying children matter most doesn't mean dating irresponsible people, it means it comes first in the scale of preference.
I believe in diversification of source of happiness and you are wrong to think I would be a bad mother in-law, are you in this century girl? I'm not even wishing to have a male child.
Anyway, I pray with your mentality, you don't end in depression after you realize that humans can not be totally relied on but God and yourself. I have seen some boyfriends that stopped giving their girlfriends money after a while, that is why I dont advice anyone to totally rely on their husband, boyfriend and be doing nothing to bring income. Many women today thought they married a responsible man until they get the shock of their lives and are now in psychiatric hospitals, you can help YOURSELF WITH GOOGLE girl and you will read lots of stories,and you can also get a very good hubby which would be an added advantage DIVERSIFY WHERE YOUR HAPPINESS COMES FROM
People like you stay in an abusive marriage because thats only where you think your happiness can come from, and you lie you are dating the best man, the best husband bla bla bla. I know stories of more than 20women like that.
And for your criteria to be MONEY,well its your cup of tea, keep searching for rich guys to date and don't have foresight, but you should know that ALL GIRLS CANNOT BE A GOLD DIGGER , I provide my income for myself, if my hubby gives me, it would be an added advantage

Anyway, the boy is in your court, depression is real, and if you are not healthy, you won't take care of your children.

Another thing is learn to respect other people's opinion, and don't think you can force yours on anyone, kindly stop quoting me, give your opinion and leave
Bye Felicia

Your attempt to emotionally blackmail me with a mental illness is dead on arrival.

It seems you missed the point of my writeup. I said you should look for responsibility as a criteria.

I didn't ask you to look for bill gates or huspuppi. Responsibility is broad, it can be financial, emotional, physical and spiritual.

Yes money ebbs and flows, but a responsible man has a backup plan. A responsible man lives within his means, he is not frivolous. Do you have an emergency fund? An unemployment fund enough to sustain you for six months.

Can your man answer these questions? Maybe it is when you are in a labor room having contractions and you are begging apathetic nurses and doctors to come to your aid because your husband is a financially irresponsible bus driver and you have no money to pay bills. Or you accrue hospital bills and stay in the hospital for one month with a newborn, mosquito biting you day and night.Nobody will send you food, drink and baby essentials due to debt. That's when you eye will clear.
I am tired of seeing such cases and they start when the women say the hogwash you wrote.

Swtbabyvee:
Dont date a man with more than one baby mama

I can't even date a baby daddy.

ModestGal:

**I realized when u set ur standards on the Man U want physically , financially and otherwise and stand by it , u met better options**

Well, My mention of you was to reinforce your point where you mentioned physically, very clear. And you yourself wrote physically even before you wrote financially.
Then she quoted me telling me what to do and that my preference is wrong, which she clearly stated in the next post she quoted me, and here you are telling me my starndard is not more than hers as if I was the one trying to force things down her throat when I don't even care if shes a gold digger or a living thing

Wow!! So a golddigger is an inanimate object, interesting!!

It seems that you are very triggered by my post. I am sure we can have differing opinions and a simple discussion without bringing feelings into it. Have a great day

ModestGal:

**I realized when u set ur standards on the Man U want physically , financially and otherwise and stand by it , u met better options**

Well, My mention of you was to reinforce your point where you mentioned physically, very clear. And you yourself wrote physically even before you wrote financially.
Then she quoted me telling me what to do and that my preference is wrong, which she clearly stated in the next post she quoted me, and here you are telling me my starndard is not more than hers as if I was the one trying to force things down her throat when I don't even care if shes a gold digger or a living thing

lol just the same way u reinforce the physically part, that’s how was reinforcing the financially part . It was never a competition of wisest preference. She just mentioned you

DrFunmisticGlow:
Your attempt to emotionally blackmail me with a mental illness is dead on arrival.

It seems you missed the point of my writeup. I said you should look for responsibility as a criteria.

I didn't ask you to look for bill gates or huspuppi. Responsibility is broad, it can be financial, emotional, physical and spiritual.

Yes money ebbs and flows, but a responsible man has a backup plan. A responsible man lives within his means, he is not frivolous. Do you have an emergency fund? An unemployment fund enough to sustain you for six months.

Can your man answer these questions? Maybe it is when you are in a labor room having contractions and you are begging apathetic nurses and doctors to come to your aid because your husband is a financially irresponsible bus driver and you have no money to pay bills. Or you accrue hospital bills and stay in the hospital for one month with a newborn, mosquito biting you day and night.Nobody will send you food, drink and baby essentials due to debt. That's when you eye will clear.
I am tired of seeing such cases and they start when the women say the hogwash you wrote.

But you so unintelligent to know you talking about the man only....is it a crime for the woman work and contribute financially if he is a bus driver...... with all this English u are still dull to reality of life.
it takes two hands rubbing each other to make it clean.

if the man isn't earning enough get a job and support him....some women marry D's bus driver, bike rider and they are living fine.

Rgade:
You make it sound like an achievement. Buying things for yourself.

yes it is ,, cause many girl don’t do as much as I do for myself . 90% of girl have a man taking care of their bills

What you girls don't know is that there's nothing that can be compared to self independent let's leave all this my boyfriend didn't buy me this he didn't buy me that when you get married who will cater for your parents is it your husband too?
Come to think of it for instance you as a woman you want to get something for your parents and you ask your husband for it even it will sound somehow while saying it or maybe he even told you he don't have money now so you will wait until when he have money
But when you yourself is well ok you will do what you want any given time
I don't know why you girls keep having this entitlement mentally you all want a rich man for marriage over 60% of some of you will marry a poor man so tell me in that type of marriage How will you cope when you don't have any concrete source of income

Godoverevery:

But you so unintelligent to know you talking about the man only....is it a crime for the woman work and contribute financially if he is a bus driver...... with all this English u are still dull to reality of life.
it takes two hands rubbing each other to make it clean.

if the man isn't earning enough get a job and support him....some women marry D's bus driver, bike rider and they are living fine.

this should go to women who can date someone who isn’t financially balance , so u can encourage them .. she has stated her standards and God will grant it . Same way many girls met a man who’s already financially stable who married them . So u don’t hv to force stuffs on people .

The fact a man is poor doesn’t make him a responsible man or less of a fuckboy even