tehilah92:
This is my first time of doing this on nairaland, please pardon any mistakes.
I met and started dating my boyfriend, though now ex, in 2013 while in my first year, he was in his third year, though there were other girls I didn't get know about till after 3 months of dating him, baby t somehow he dumped others and I was the only one left, so I thought..,
He kept on cheating, I kept forgiving, even after his graduation, we continued, everyone knows about us, almost everyone was seeing us couple of course we were seeing ourselves too, hahaha, we even planned how our wedding would look like, but then he is a woman beater, my mouth no kukuma good if quarrel start but he always starts the fight, his cheating part became something else, he even slept with my best friend's kid sister, hmm, as usual he apologized, and mumu in love, I forgave, after my graduation, a year later I went for service, though I went before him, now the problem, I served in a rural area, no light, poor Network, anytime he calls and am unavailable, he concludes am with a man, he will insult me and everything around me, after much insults, I decided to walk away for good, though it hurts that I wasted almost 7years with him, I was hoping he would change but it only got worse, if I endure and marry this one I will die of maybe BP or beatings, has anyone experienced this before?

lilmax:
but then he is a woman beater, my mouth no kukuma good if quarrel start but he always starts the fight





This is all I need to know

He's not evil as portrayed, from this I can bodly say you're the cause of the soured relationship 60%

Well, you both learnt good lessons, change and move on

Gentle0wavez:
Well we need to hear his own side of the story to get the full truth. If he is truly a woman beater then you did right but remember that A BAD MOUTH WILL CAUSE YOU PROBLEMS IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP. There are words you tell a man he will loose interest in you sexually. Learn to tame your tongue.

Heistman:
Eeyah.. sorry ehn, u actually took the best decision...God no go shame u

SweetCunt97:
You see some of the reasons some in their 30s are single? Investing years into one relationship and something comes up and pulls d plug.

Heistman:
so u suggest?

tehilah92:
This is my first time of doing this on nairaland, please pardon any mistakes.
I met and started dating my boyfriend, though now ex, in 2013 while in my first year, he was in his third year, though there were other girls I didn't get know about till after 3 months of dating him, baby t somehow he dumped others and I was the only one left, so I thought..,
He kept on cheating, I kept forgiving, even after his graduation, we continued, everyone knows about us, almost everyone was seeing us couple of course we were seeing ourselves too, hahaha, we even planned how our wedding would look like, but then he is a woman beater, my mouth no kukuma good if quarrel start but he always starts the fight, his cheating part became something else, he even slept with my best friend's kid sister, hmm, as usual he apologized, and mumu in love, I forgave, after my graduation, a year later I went for service, though I went before him, now the problem, I served in a rural area, no light, poor Network, anytime he calls and am unavailable, he concludes am with a man, he will insult me and everything around me, after much insults, I decided to walk away for good, though it hurts that I wasted almost 7years with him, I was hoping he would change but it only got worse, if I endure and marry this one I will die of maybe BP or beatings, has anyone experienced this before?

tehilah92:


I respond when I feel I can't swallow his insults anymore, if I want to go outside he blocks the way, I try to force my way na slap, he talks like woman, person that claps ehwn quarrelling.
I am lonely now, it hurts now but my dear a relationship that whoever heard it wants to congratulate me for leaving, if I was bad his friends and family won't want to make peace o

tehilah92:
This is my first time of doing this on nairaland, please pardon any mistakes.
I met and started dating my boyfriend, though now ex, in 2013 while in my first year, he was in his third year, though there were other girls I didn't get know about till after 3 months of dating him, baby t somehow he dumped others and I was the only one left, so I thought..,
He kept on cheating, I kept forgiving, even after his graduation, we continued, everyone knows about us, almost everyone was seeing us couple of course we were seeing ourselves too, hahaha, we even planned how our wedding would look like, but then he is a woman beater, my mouth no kukuma good if quarrel start but he always starts the fight, his cheating part became something else, he even slept with my best friend's kid sister, hmm, as usual he apologized, and mumu in love, I forgave, after my graduation, a year later I went for service, though I went before him, now the problem, I served in a rural area, no light, poor Network, anytime he calls and am unavailable, he concludes am with a man, he will insult me and everything around me, after much insults, I decided to walk away for good, though it hurts that I wasted almost 7years with him, I was hoping he would change but it only got worse, if I endure and marry this one I will die of maybe BP or beatings, has anyone experienced this before?

tehilah92:


It's not true my dear, eg, a night before he left for his orientation camp, he started a fight for no reason, I kept calm, watched him, I don't respond always Sha, he stormed out of the house, I tried calling he refused picking up, only for him to return and pretend like all was fine, well I checked his phone while he was asleep and saw a text of him promising another woman of going to secure their future together! When I showed him, he begged, that it was just to decieve the other lady, I just shook my head, remained calm, excorted him to the park, he kept begging till his bus left the park, if i keep quiet he will say am ignoring him, I talk he will say am talking back, just no worry, he was a handful

Gentle0wavez:
Well we need to hear his own side of the story to get the full truth. If he is truly a woman beater then you did right but remember that A BAD MOUTH WILL CAUSE YOU PROBLEMS IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP. There are words you tell a man he will loose interest in you sexually. Learn to tame your tongue.

dmgr:
You made the right decision by leaving the relationship thou its not going to be easy because 7yrs no be beans..

But never, ever allow anybody to waste your time like that again, people hardly change, from your writeup probably he has been cheating since when u guys were still undergraduates, you can imagine, and u were just their hoping he would change, nah some people are not like that.

From the moment you don't like a particular character of the person you re dating, and you made efforts and even gave time to see wether they re going to change, but still they refused changing, just take a walk and never look back.

tehilah92:
This is my first time of doing this on nairaland, please pardon any mistakes.
I met and started dating my boyfriend, though now ex, in 2013 while in my first year, he was in his third year, though there were other girls I didn't get know about till after 3 months of dating him, baby t somehow he dumped others and I was the only one left, so I thought..,
He kept on cheating, I kept forgiving, even after his graduation, we continued, everyone knows about us, almost everyone was seeing us couple of course we were seeing ourselves too, hahaha, we even planned how our wedding would look like, but then he is a woman beater, my mouth no kukuma good if quarrel start but he always starts the fight, his cheating part became something else, he even slept with my best friend's kid sister, hmm, as usual he apologized, and mumu in love, I forgave, after my graduation, a year later I went for service, though I went before him, now the problem, I served in a rural area, no light, poor Network, anytime he calls and am unavailable, he concludes am with a man, he will insult me and everything around me, after much insults, I decided to walk away for good, though it hurts that I wasted almost 7years with him, I was hoping he would change but it only got worse, if I endure and marry this one I will die of maybe BP or beatings, has anyone experienced this before?

tehilah92:
This is my first time of doing this on nairaland, please pardon any mistakes.
I met and started dating my boyfriend, though now ex, in 2013 while in my first year, he was in his third year, though there were other girls I didn't get know about till after 3 months of dating him, baby t somehow he dumped others and I was the only one left, so I thought..,
He kept on cheating, I kept forgiving, even after his graduation, we continued, everyone knows about us, almost everyone was seeing us couple of course we were seeing ourselves too, hahaha, we even planned how our wedding would look like, but then he is a woman beater, my mouth no kukuma good if quarrel start but he always starts the fight, his cheating part became something else, he even slept with my best friend's kid sister, hmm, as usual he apologized, and mumu in love, I forgave, after my graduation, a year later I went for service, though I went before him, now the problem, I served in a rural area, no light, poor Network, anytime he calls and am unavailable, he concludes am with a man, he will insult me and everything around me, after much insults, I decided to walk away for good, though it hurts that I wasted almost 7years with him, I was hoping he would change but it only got worse, if I endure and marry this one I will die of maybe BP or beatings, has anyone experienced this before?

placeofallure:


That's it. Nobody ever broke my heart. I never experienced heartbreaks simply because once I noticed anything I didn't like, I tell you once or twice, I just take a walk. I'm an introvert. Some may never even know the reason I left cos I won't just say, I just jejely go my way Chikena!
Ta n ni radarada!

Alberta123:
Where can we submit our application for the open vacancy

tehilah92:
This is my first time of doing this on nairaland, please pardon any mistakes.
I met and started dating my boyfriend, though now ex, in 2013 while in my first year, he was in his third year, though there were other girls I didn't get know about till after 3 months of dating him, baby t somehow he dumped others and I was the only one left, so I thought..,
He kept on cheating, I kept forgiving, even after his graduation, we continued, everyone knows about us, almost everyone was seeing us couple of course we were seeing ourselves too, hahaha, we even planned how our wedding would look like, but then he is a woman beater, my mouth no kukuma good if quarrel start but he always starts the fight, his cheating part became something else, he even slept with my best friend's kid sister, hmm, as usual he apologized, and mumu in love, I forgave, after my graduation, a year later I went for service, though I went before him, now the problem, I served in a rural area, no light, poor Network, anytime he calls and am unavailable, he concludes am with a man, he will insult me and everything around me, after much insults, I decided to walk away for good, though it hurts that I wasted almost 7years with him, I was hoping he would change but it only got worse, if I endure and marry this one I will die of maybe BP or beatings, has anyone experienced this before?

Frankenstein:
Application to waste more of her time? She needs some time to heal from the breakup if you are looking for anything serious.

Gentle0wavez:
Well we need to hear his own side of the story to get the full truth. If he is truly a woman beater then you did right but remember that A BAD MOUTH WILL CAUSE YOU PROBLEMS IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP. There are words you tell a man he will loose interest in you sexually. Learn to tame your tongue.