ImaIma1:


So what you are saying in essence is that she should not return someone's own hard earned money because the bank also charges indiscriminately.

No one is an angel but integrity is key.

Sure she should return the money and apologize.
But that us is not enough reason to nd the marriage plans. That is my opinion though.

Brightgem:
yes you can end it. It's not JUST BECAUSE OF THIS it's beyond just this one action and how it will reflect in other things. You might excuse it, maybe even eat the money with her, Bonne and Clyde them. His life his decision.

The OP have his decision to make.

Brightgem:
Hush puppy Junior. How are you doing? Can you see the nonsense you just typed and so because people are not perfect you shd be so unperfect you can steal eh.

Let me help you small, you see that money she wants to eat, it's a banker that will pay for it from his salary or her salary. YOU HEAR? Maybe a contract staff earning 70k working 7 to 7 every damn day.

Don't let me curse you with this comment along with those who liked your comment. Stop excusing bad behavior. And don't give us that BS that no one is perfect.

If you read my comment well, i was against her not returning the money. since she have agreed and she was wrong, he can warn her against repeating thesame thing next time. Do you think it is easy ending a marriage plan months to the wedding?
Did you ask OP why he dated that girl for 3 good year.

Brightgem:
Hush puppy Junior. How are you doing? Can you see the nonsense you just typed and so because people are not perfect you shd be so unperfect you can steal eh.

Let me help you small, you see that money she wants to eat, it's a banker that will pay for it from his salary or her salary. YOU HEAR? Maybe a contract staff earning 70k working 7 to 7 every damn day.

Don't let me curse you with this comment along with those who liked your comment. Stop excusing bad behavior. And don't give us that BS that no one is perfect.

If you read my comment well, i was against her not returning the money. since she have agreed and she was wrong, he can warn her against repeating thesame thing next time. Do you think it is easy ending a marriage plan months to the wedding?
Did you ask OP why he dated that girl for 3 good year.

Alennsar:

She's not a God fearing lady. Another man's sweat faa

Brightgem:
Hush puppy Junior. How are you doing? Can you see the nonsense you just typed and so because people are not perfect you shd be so unperfect you can steal eh.

Let me help you small, you see that money she wants to eat, it's a banker that will pay for it from his salary or her salary. YOU HEAR? Maybe a contract staff earning 70k working 7 to 7 every damn day.

Don't let me curse you with this comment along with those who liked your comment. Stop excusing bad behavior. And don't give us that BS that no one is perfect.

If you read my comment well, i was against her not returning the money. since she have agreed and she was wrong, he can warn her against repeating thesame thing next time. Do you think it is easy ending a marriage plan months to the wedding?
Did you ask OP why he dated that girl for 3 good year.

Saintinoo:

Sure she should return the money and apologize.
But that us is not enough reason to nd the marriage plans. That is my opinion though.

What if he found out she was cheating on him? That is also an integrity issue. Is it enough to end the marriage plans? She cheated someone off his money. It is something to look deeply into.

Because later in the future, if she begins to exhibit different fruits and behaviours of lack of integrity, the same people on this forum will ask if he didn't see the signs before marrying her.

ImaIma1:


What if he found out she was cheating on him? That is also an integrity issue. Is it enough to end the marriage plans? She cheated someone off his money. It is something to look deeply into.

Because later in the future, if she begins to exhibit different fruits and behaviours of lack of integrity, the same people on this forum will ask if he didn't see the signs before marrying her.

You see, neither me nor you know details of what happened, we don't know how they have been living and what attitude she have exhibited before. The guy knows her better, if this is the only wrong she have done then what is the excess of courtship.

If you can check my second comment i said something like if her good outweighs her bad. i have stayed with different kinds and types of women, but if the guy think he cannot marry a woman who will talk someone money then he an end it.

The buttom line here is he should not make any decision in a haste.

Saintinoo:

You see, neither me nor you know details of what happened, we don't know how they have been living and what attitude she have exhibited before. The guy knows her better, if this is the only wrong she have done then what is the excess of courtship.

If you can check my second comment i said something like if her good outweighs her bad. i have stayed with different kinds and types of women, but if the guy think he cannot marry a woman who will talk someone money then he an end it.

The buttom line here is he should not make any decision in a haste.

Based on the information he gave, that's what we are basing our comments on. And not what else he hasn't told us.

I am just saying that something that borders on integrity is enough to pause a wedding.

What are the valid reasons acceptable for someone to pause wedding plans? If we check it, it has a lot to do with integrity.

SSpeter:
A friend is calling off his wedding plans because he thinks his girlfriend lacks integrity. They have known for about 3years and he has not complained about her to me or any one.

Problem started when he got a call from the bank pleading with him to tell his girlfriend to reverse/return the excess amount credited to her account when she visited the bank to make a deposit into her account. He called his account officer to investigate the issue. The account officer confirmed that she got excess of what she wanted to deposit and she has moved all the funds to another bank.

She used the guy as her next of kin that was how they could contact him. He called his babe who denied initially but reluctantly agreed when he divulged that the bank contacted him. Dude became angry and paused all wedding plans.

The lady s begging and has cried her eyes out...what do you think? can you compromise integrity...?

I got permission to write about this here incase you think xyz and my friend is a Nairalander!

We still know it is you....friend kee you dia

kalufelix:
I hear you.. But how come our society is so rotten and corrupt.. Does integrity only matter online... I hope you know that doing business with excess profit and taking advantage of a pandemic is thieving... I can give you numerous examples in the nigerian way... Integrity goes beyond returning someone's handbag. 6 out of 10 persons will only do so out of fear of CCTV and getting caught eventually...3 from the remaining 4 will only feel the handbag is not a big catch... There may just be one true honest person or none...

Our society is rotten due to bad leadership and foundational problems, but irrespective of that one should stand firm on integrity bro.

Where is the place of grace? Cant he give her second chance after all she has not be doing such according to your narration. He who is without sin should cast the first stone. Disclaimer: Am not justifying her action.

Wetabix:

Ogbeni hide your face ordinary 100k enter your account mistakenly.. You go empty ham act good online offline true nature comes out

Not everybody is like you. Wtf is 100k is that money?

Emmypam:
Most people making noise here have collected loans and refused to pay

That is very different man. Many circumstances can impede their decision to pay including loss of Job etc. This was a deliberate attempt to swindle. She’s a criminal.

ArcToyin:
Where is the place of grace? Cant he give her second chance after all she has not be doing such according to your narration. He who is without sin should cast the first stone. Disclaimer: Am not justifying her action.

If God wants to save you from future disasters, he won’t force it on you. He’ll only show you once and the decision is yours.

DukeNija:


Not everybody is like you. Wtf is 100k is that money?

Where u die dis mata now.. Stop mentioning me.. Wtf is 100k if dem check your account na 5k sef nor go dey..

DukeNija:


If God wants to save you from future disasters, he won’t force it on you. He’ll only show you once and the decision is yours.

But in this case, it was the flesh tthat made the decision not God. Even our God gives several chances and warning umpteen times.