My husband donated his sperm for IVF without my consent!! We have been married for 8 years with 5 children, 2 boys and 3 girls. His best friend has been married for 3 years without kids.

The wife is my friend. My husband was given One (1)million Naira for his sperm to be donated to my friend, the wife to my husband’s best friend. I was never told about this. Her pregnancy was announced around October 2017.

I was so happy for her, she never disclosed anything to me let alone how she went for IVF procedure. She gave birth to 2 daugthers in August, 2018. They threw a party and painted the town red.

In mid-November 2018, the kids just turned 3 months when one of the babies fell from the rocking chair in their sitting room.

She was bleeding, so they took her to the hospital, only to discover that she was SS, they later took the other one there for test and she is AS. They called my husband 2 weeks ago at 2am early morning on that day to come to the hospital, he wanted to go alone, I said I will come with him as I was also very worried for the baby.

The first thing that shocked me, was that the baby so much looked like my daugthers at that age. She has the big eyes of my husband and my 5 kids. My husband was told to donate blood as he has O negative like the child.

He is the only one to give blood to the baby, as she had lost a lot of blood. After 2 hours there, we went home. I could not sleep, I told my husband directly; ” Is there something about your friend’s child you want me to know?’ he said no. I said ok and slept off.

I noticed he was already awake and left home for work too early. I quickly dressed up and went to the hospital to see the wife. Only to see my husband there with them. I asked them straight if it was my husband that donated his sperm for the IVF? Because my husband is AS genotype like his wife unknowingly, while I am AA like her husband. My husband knew but wanted the One (1) Million Naira.

They did not bother to find out. She told me she wanted to tell me when they were all planning it last year, it was my husband that kicked against it, that I will never agree to the plan. I called his family and my uncle only, as I do not have parents. I told them that I can only remain in this marriage if the 2 daughters of his best friend is given back to me.

They are my husband’s kids and mine as well, or they MUST pay me 2 million Naira, or I will quit my marriage. My husband is a cow. The twins are too beautiful like my husband for me to leave them with that family. My last child is lonely and needs a little one to play with. I know i sound a bit crazy, l’ am sorry i can not think straight anymore. This is just too much for me to handle.

I need advise on what to do next. Thanks

— Anonymous

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Selfish woman....this is the very reason while you were not told or carried along...now you've come to the public space to broadcast and Shame the couple..abi your hussy sperm na your own ni, abi was he not paid for the donation.

But I did not read where she stated, she wants to kill her husband...

Openbusiness3:
My husband donated his sperm for IVF without my consent!! We have been married for 8 years with 5 children, 2 boys and 3 girls. His best friend has been married for 3 years without kids.

The wife is my friend. My husband was given One (1)million Naira for his sperm to be donated to my friend, the wife to my husband’s best friend. I was never told about this. Her pregnancy was announced around October 2017.

I was so happy for her, she never disclosed anything to me let alone how she went for IVF procedure. She gave birth to 2 daugthers in August, 2018. They threw a party and painted the town red.

In mid-November 2018, the kids just turned 3 months when one of the babies fell from the rocking chair in their sitting room.

She was bleeding, so they took her to the hospital, only to discover that she was SS, they later took the other one there for test and she is AS. They called my husband 2 weeks ago at 2am early morning on that day to come to the hospital, he wanted to go alone, I said I will come with him as I was also very worried for the baby.

The first thing that shocked me, was that the baby so much looked like my daugthers at that age. She has the big eyes of my husband and my 5 kids. My husband was told to donate blood as he has O negative like the child.

He is the only one to give blood to the baby, as she had lost a lot of blood. After 2 hours there, we went home. I could not sleep, I told my husband directly; ” Is there something about your friend’s child you want me to know?’ he said no. I said ok and slept off.

I noticed he was already awake and left home for work too early. I quickly dressed up and went to the hospital to see the wife. Only to see my husband there with them. I asked them straight if it was my husband that donated his sperm for the IVF? Because my husband is AS genotype like his wife unknowingly, while I am AA like her husband. My husband knew but wanted the One (1) Million Naira.

They did not bother to find out. She told me she wanted to tell me when they were all planning it last year, it was my husband that kicked against it, that I will never agree to the plan. I called his family and my uncle only, as I do not have parents. I told them that I can only remain in this marriage if the 2 daughters of his best friend is given back to me.

They are my husband’s kids and mine as well, or they MUST pay me 2 million Naira, or I will quit my marriage. My husband is a cow. The twins are too beautiful like my husband for me to leave them with that family. My last child is lonely and needs a little one to play with. I know i sound a bit crazy, l’ am sorry i can not think straight anymore. This is just too much for me to handle.

I need advise on what to do next. Thanks

— Anonymous

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Any comment here will be wasted since it's copied or a from a movie.
He could have fvcked his friends wife for real though..

Not real...

Waste of thread

Madam talk true na the money you dey after anyway negotiate with them and collect your own mulla and everyone will be happy.

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The lady is just bitter and jealous I see nothing wrong here. It's not like he slept with her.

Kill him and eat the corpse.

Ladylite:


Any comment here will be wasted since it's copied or a from a movie.
He could have fvcked his friends wife for real though..

Not real...

Waste of thread

Not copied from a movie. It's a true life situation. The affected woman is seeking advice. Copied from a social media post

Selfish and bitter. I know she is interested in the 2 million not the children

Openbusiness3:

Not copied from a movie. It's a true life situation. The affected woman is seeking advice. Copied from a social media post

The truth is that even if the woman is not here , some others can learn from our contributions
If am the woman , will leave the kids for them , leave everything for God since I have 5 , her husband and that family will give her enough respect

Na the money wey her husband collect dey pain am as she no see her own share. She is not serious. Legally, the children belongs to the couple who went for the IVF option. She's just blowing hot air

majamajic:


The truth is that even if the woman is not here , some others can learn from our contributions

You're very intelligent.

... See gbege... This is the height of jealousy... Is it your sperm? Is it your egg? So what?...if your husband decides to marry another woman and plant his seed same way he planted in you.. You will murder him... Do you feel entitled to the one million naira? Is it your d!ck? This is crazy.. Real crazy!

EngineerBode:
You sure say na IVF or the husband smash the puna?

IVF medical procedure. No smashing, no smooching, no touching

Super story. Do you know the amount of testing that goes on before nd IVF is done? SS slip up from a donor will not be allow at all.
Dey story nearly sweet sha

Openbusiness3:
IVF medical procedure. No smashing, no smooching, no touching

Oga I go school. I no wetin be IVF

I mean the husband smashed. Like fvcck the woman.

If the man said he slept with the woman, the wife go shout. But if he says na IVF, then na small quarrel

Openbusiness3:
My husband donated his sperm for IVF without my consent!! We have been married for 8 years with 5 children, 2 boys and 3 girls. His best friend has been married for 3 years without kids.

The wife is my friend. My husband was given One (1)million Naira for his sperm to be donated to my friend, the wife to my husband’s best friend. I was never told about this. Her pregnancy was announced around October 2017.

I was so happy for her, she never disclosed anything to me let alone how she went for IVF procedure. She gave birth to 2 daugthers in August, 2018. They threw a party and painted the town red.

In mid-November 2018, the kids just turned 3 months when one of the babies fell from the rocking chair in their sitting room.

She was bleeding, so they took her to the hospital, only to discover that she was SS, they later took the other one there for test and she is AS. They called my husband 2 weeks ago at 2am early morning on that day to come to the hospital, he wanted to go alone, I said I will come with him as I was also very worried for the baby.

The first thing that shocked me, was that the baby so much looked like my daugthers at that age. She has the big eyes of my husband and my 5 kids. My husband was told to donate blood as he has O negative like the child.

He is the only one to give blood to the baby, as she had lost a lot of blood. After 2 hours there, we went home. I could not sleep, I told my husband directly; ” Is there something about your friend’s child you want me to know?’ he said no. I said ok and slept off.

I noticed he was already awake and left home for work too early. I quickly dressed up and went to the hospital to see the wife. Only to see my husband there with them. I asked them straight if it was my husband that donated his sperm for the IVF? Because my husband is AS genotype like his wife unknowingly, while I am AA like her husband. My husband knew but wanted the One (1) Million Naira.

They did not bother to find out. She told me she wanted to tell me when they were all planning it last year, it was my husband that kicked against it, that I will never agree to the plan. I called his family and my uncle only, as I do not have parents. I told them that I can only remain in this marriage if the 2 daughters of his best friend is given back to me.

They are my husband’s kids and mine as well, or they MUST pay me 2 million Naira, or I will quit my marriage. My husband is a cow. The twins are too beautiful like my husband for me to leave them with that family. My last child is lonely and needs a little one to play with. I know i sound a bit crazy, l’ am sorry i can not think straight anymore. This is just too much for me to handle.

I need advise on what to do next. Thanks

— Anonymous

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Smh

It was never about the kids for you, it’s about MONEY

It is so unfortunate your husband did not discussed this issue with you. He acted out of greed for money. But do not use your own greed for money to pay back your husband and the affected family. A lot of families are passing through unpredictable circumstances in their marriages.
Look beyond the beauty of those children and find a place in your heart to forgive him and let God heal the wound in you and your marriage. You have a lovely family and things do not just happen, but for a purpose.
Forgive him and Forgive all.

There are steps you can take now to solve these problems to keep your family close and rid yourself of any regrets. It’s easy to let anger overtake you and cause you to do something you regret.
You might think you want to resolve the issue, but really, this means your objective isn’t to make things better—your objective is to win.
Stop thinking of the issue as two-sided and make your main objective to reconcile and remedy the situation.

It can be tempting to bring the entire family into it to have some back-up, but it’s best to just face this on your own. Make sure the family member you’ve been feuding with does the same. When the rest of the family is present, it’s easier for the discussion to become two-sided—and it’s likely to just make matters worse and create more issues.

This also includes talk about “what other people think” of the situation or a “he-said, she-said” feud. Just because someone agrees with you or your side of the argument, does not mean you should bring this into the disagreement. All that matters in the end is that everyone is at peace with each other.
Thanks

My sister hmmmm..u have to take a chill pill ,collect ur compensation n just let it go ,yes you suppose 2 be consulted b4 d plan initially, I know how u feel but the compensation (1.5m or 2m) will make u happy at d long run,


D claims is 4 ur hubby 2 make

But I will love it if u let Dem be don't be a villain

Openbusiness3:
I don't even know what to say on this matter. Over to the experts

Same here

umacul4:
It is so unfortunate your husband did not discussed this issue with you. He acted out of greed for money. But do not use your own greed for money to pay back your husband and the affected family. A lot of families are passing through unpredictable circumstances in their marriages.
Look beyond the beauty of those children and find a place in your heart to forgive him and let God heal the wound in you and your marriage. You have a lovely family and things do not just happen, but for a purpose.
Forgive him and Forgive all.

There are steps you can take now to solve these problems to keep your family close and rid yourself of any regrets. It’s easy to let anger overtake you and cause you to do something you regret.
You might think you want to resolve the issue, but really, this means your objective isn’t to make things better—your objective is to win.
Stop thinking of the issue as two-sided and make your main objective to reconcile and remedy the situation.

It can be tempting to bring the entire family into it to have some back-up, but it’s best to just face this on your own. Make sure the family member you’ve been feuding with does the same. When the rest of the family is present, it’s easier for the discussion to become two-sided—and it’s likely to just make matters worse and create more issues.

This also includes talk about “what other people think” of the situation or a “he-said, she-said” feud. Just because someone agrees with you or your side of the argument, does not mean you should bring this into the disagreement. All that matters in the end is that everyone is at peace with each other.
Thanks

Well said.....

Openbusiness3:
IVF medical procedure. No smashing, no smooching, no touching

but how did u know their is no smashing?

Lol..not ur kids...

kill your husband and end up in kirikiri, I heard they serve beans in abundance

Na all about the money jare.. She really doesn't care about the kids

Selfish woman.
You want to collect another woman’s children?