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Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by Xmuslim: 2:39am On Jul 07, 2020 |
ollins:write out the main reasons why you don't love her. Also write out her good side. Then look deeply into both. Don't forget to think future. Divorce isn't a sin if there is no other choice though |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by katyamizotta: 2:39am On Jul 07, 2020 |
ollins: From experience I can tell that you will ask this question every year until you release that girl from this loveless marriage. From your story you do not have a seed to use to repair this marriage: you were in despair on your wedding day! Where do you start to repair that from? Go read my story. I have lived this for 8 or 9 years. It doesn't get better But if you decide to quit try this first. Find a grandma to dump the kid with for a few hours at the weekend and go to fun places. Try not to think of yourselves in a couple situation. Just go out as acquaintances who knows....perhaps there is a seed somewhere afterall 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by obowunmi(m): 2:41am On Jul 07, 2020 |
Toks2008: It is destructive and has a long-term negative impact on the children. |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by obowunmi(m): 2:43am On Jul 07, 2020 |
Reading this thread is so sad, Nigerians truly believe that they can force, threaten, make and terrorize another human being to fall in love with them. Move on. Probably why domestic violence is so high. |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by Asapchris(m): 2:54am On Jul 07, 2020 |
Bro, if you want happiness in your marriage, then you have to put more effort and make her the woman you want.... 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by Newboss(m): 3:00am On Jul 07, 2020 |
bukatyne: The way some of you reason eh. Don't you know that guys have urges? You don't know that guys fūck prostitutes? Sex and love are not related. |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by Newboss(m): 3:08am On Jul 07, 2020 |
ImaIma1: Sex, sex, and sex. Guys don't fūck for love or romance. How hard is that to understand? A guy can pay or brainwash a girl to get laid. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by vickydevoka(m): 3:11am On Jul 07, 2020 |
katyamizotta:How sure are u de lady will release de child. Especially if na Igbo gal. My guy way give Igbo gal belle reach today him never see Dr pikin |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by omhor(f): 3:14am On Jul 07, 2020 |
ollins: Why did you get her pregnant when you know you don't love her?? |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by ibuchukwuumah(m): 3:40am On Jul 07, 2020 |
telling her you love her in the first place was not a good idea, when you know deep inside you,you don't want or need her you just wanna useless her. but your plan and God's plan is not thesame enjoy your marriage bro |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by Daroldigits: 3:49am On Jul 07, 2020 |
Young man, you don't love her but you had sex with her? Nonsense 101. Then she's not the kind of a woman you want, nonsense 102. Young man why don't you use your strength to build her weakness or do you think you're far better than those in the grave? Do you think you're perfect? Listen, you can't get what you want in life if you don't work for it. Help her, encourage her, protect her weakness not you coming to social media and begin to say trash about her. The day you wanted to sleep with her, who did you call on here? Young man, a wise man protect the weakness of his partner. Help her to be who you want not you condemning her please. God bless you ollins: |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by armyofone(m): 3:56am On Jul 07, 2020 |
@ terrible and erections bukatyne: |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by Candoit: 4:07am On Jul 07, 2020 |
So, now you want us to give you a license for divorce? No. Marriage is for better for worse and till death do you part. I don't pity people like you one bit. When you were with her, she was all wonderful and the perfect one. Now, it's marriage, you're suddenly finding faults. Receive grace to enjoy your marriage. |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by Candoit: 4:14am On Jul 07, 2020 |
rigarmortis: Are you then saying it's OK to say you have no brain since you are ruled by the "dikc"? |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by Gkemz: 4:14am On Jul 07, 2020 |
ollins: The child should unite both of you together and let that first love be rekindled back. Though you didn't tell us how it started before you got her pregnant, but my question is what were you thinking when you had sex with her without protection knowing that you could get her pregnant when you have no plan of future with her.? My second question is didn't you observe she's loquacious and uneducated when you were penetrating.? |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by Btruth: 4:22am On Jul 07, 2020 |
If you can't marry her, don't bang her. Good luck. |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by coolcare(m): 4:35am On Jul 07, 2020 |
I am in something similar but i try to know her better, take her for who she is an learn to love and is working. Did you guys fight? If not my brother there is no perfect home, all of this people you see their pictures on Facebook and you think things are rossy na fake. Under their roof is hukhugan vs undertaker. Find one thing that exciting in the relationship which definitely there is and nature it. The devil � you know us better than angel you don't know. LEARN TO LOVE, DONT BE SELF CENTER. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by coolcare(m): 4:37am On Jul 07, 2020 |
Ameeeeeeeeeeen Candoit: |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by HIbreed(m): 4:45am On Jul 07, 2020 |
sylve11:nonsense. |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by ELKHALIFAISIS(m): 4:48am On Jul 07, 2020 |
I nearly made same mistake, had a flinch with this loudy troublesome fellow , she got preg and hided it for me for 7mnths so I won't tell her to abort it, ask me how she managed to hide it, she stop showing up uninvited to my place as before, immediately the preg reach 7mnths she started disturbing, we went for scan it's a month ahead of my own calculation, I decided to keep cool , I kept her in my rented flat to stay there instead of living with me, her mother forced me into doing some rites against my wish or informing family members, well I do so peace will reign, even in her preg she tried to fought me twice because she said she need sex and am not giving her as she wanted it, fast forward to labour day, all the 10k I gave her every week for check , my heaven she managed to go twice the rest she pocketed the money, 4 days hard labour, to make the matter worst I gave her money to register at good hospital but she ate the money and registered at local maternity, now e don red , the person in charge of the maternity don't knw what to do next , after trying unsuccessfully in the labour room, the baby refused to come out , she then said oga carry her find another place oooo nah operation straight, we went to couple of hospitals the refuses to take her in, because the baby's head is already out but the body can't pass through because the baby died days ago in the stomach, but the 4th hospital took her in but the bill is crazy, anyway wetin local man go do nah my prick cause am , all I want is for her to live even if it's going to cost me the last Kobo in my account, if u dey do with ngwa girl omo u are in for it, before u knw it her brothers has cycled around the hospital with dangerous weapon waiting for their sister to die, I had to transfer money to the hospital acc so the emergency c&s will commence, i even donate my blood oo, the doc insist I must be in the operation room so I won't run away if anything happens, I dey there dey follow bring things , thank God the operation was successful, I had to call my Army friend to come with his troops too move me because if I dare step outside my name nah sorry, I dropped some cash with her mom to take care of her , 2 months after the incidents she start coming again , she needed sex , my prick nah E-diot I do small but I pull it out and put condom after small sense enter me, this is 3yrs the thing happened, she chatted me up few weeks ago that she will kill herself that nobody is looking her way , any man that come to her and want to marry always ran after they find out she don born before, but I guess nah her troublesome wayward lifestyle they drove them away, Moral lesson if u don't love her please use condoms Maka uta 2 Likes |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by HIbreed(m): 4:53am On Jul 07, 2020 |
veave:Best Answer! |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by Chigold101(m): 5:04am On Jul 07, 2020 |
ollins:please continue to enjoy your cross. The pressure from the family to marry her drove you into the marriage just as the pressure to fuc.k her drove you into putting her in the family way. Please stop making life miserable for the young lady, you are the one why tried to destroy her future. My final advise to you is this... Marriage is not about marrying who you love, but loving who you marry. Turn your marriage around and stop living in utopia 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by AnanseK(m): 5:05am On Jul 07, 2020 |
baby124: What’s the difference with Ashewo? This was not rape. It was a consensual sex outside marriage and perhaps some money has changed hands before or after. Same as Ashewo. No difference. |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by opribo(m): 5:06am On Jul 07, 2020 |
My friend this is your wife you married. Go and find everyway to make it work. There must be something good about her. Work on it. |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by seyigiggle: 5:06am On Jul 07, 2020 |
All the ladies I ever dated had the chance of being my wife. Nibe every under skirt you go fling with. Haba! You guys should try and get choice now. Anyways, you know what to do. |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by Chigold101(m): 5:11am On Jul 07, 2020 |
veave:selfishness in the highest order. Note: the op didn't complain of any wrong doing from the lady, therefore the marriage looks loveless because this guy made it so. Marriage in reality is not about marrying who you love but about loving who you marry. This guy should stop chasing shadow and sit his ass down and build his home with his wife It might be easier for him to move on, but it won't be easy for the lady. When this guy's dic.k was telling him to fuc.k the lady, where was love then? Let me tell you: people who enjoy their marriage do so because they decided to make it so, it's not because of any kind of special love. OP, go home and build your marriage, show that lady love and stop crying for nothing. You want to mess the young woman's life. E no go work for you. |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by captainjacksparrow(m): 5:13am On Jul 07, 2020 |
Well i had to log in after many years cuz of this post. I believe since u brought this you meant well for all parties involve, if you grew up in a family with dad and mum while do you want to deprive ur lovly child what u enjoyed,try loving your wife thru your child. Look at your child and imagine the beauty that GOD made both of you bring to this world. If she never luved u she would never have risked her life to give u a child, the answer u seek lies within you. A bird at hand is worth more than a thousand in the bush. Onelove |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by Chigold101(m): 5:16am On Jul 07, 2020 |
ELKHALIFAISIS:Bros, did the OP say this lady is troublesome? Did the OP say this lady is trying to fight him? |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by LordOfTheGame: 5:16am On Jul 07, 2020 |
bukatyne: See finishing |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by ThinkFreely: 5:19am On Jul 07, 2020 |
HembaqMbk:Please shut up. |
Re: How Do You Cope If Married To Someone You Don't Love? by baby124: 5:20am On Jul 07, 2020 |
AnanseK:Both of them are Ashewo, they should work on their marriage. |
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