Helo all.I am witj my Nigerian boyfriend distance relationship.I been stuck in my country because of Corona.We didnt see eachother for almost 5 months.He cals me every single day but He has changed.He has 2 whatsapp acounts he doesnt wana admit.He is always like tired at weekends and wana go sleep early...I am sure his girl is coming at weekends to him.And also before he was forcing me to come to him but now he makes any excuse for me to not go to him.He stil caling me that is confusing me...What should i do?I have confronted him but he doesnt wana admit it

He still calls u, u are not happy??.
Calling alone shows, he has u in mind every now and then...
So I don't see any problem here, u are the one trying to look for unnecessary trouble jare..
And if u wanna clear Ur doubt about his actions, just tell him every of your concern u listed here . Lobatan.
Shallom

NONAME11223:
Helo all.I am witj my Nigerian boyfriend distance relationship.I been stuck in my country because of Corona.We didnt see eachother for almost 5 months.He cals me every single day but He has changed.He has 2 whatsapp acounts he doesnt wana admit.He is always like tired at weekends and wana go sleep early...I am sure his girl is coming at weekends to him.And also before he was forcing me to come to him but now he makes any excuse for me to not go to him.He stil caling me that is confusing me...What should i do?I have confronted him but he doesnt wana admit it

You are being played. Wise up

You're just insecure. Give yourself some peace of mind.

Saintmary:

You are being played. Wise up

Op. Rapid conclusions such as this is will further confuse you beyond recovery.

I am sure his girl is coming at weekends to him

This is an example. Assurance without confirmation

And also before he was forcing me to come to him but now he makes any excuse for me to not go to him.

You shouldn't have always allowed that happen. This is the the reverse effect of it. You subconsciously now expect he always be the one forcing you to come thru out life. No, changes happen a lot. This particular change, you didn't prepare for.

Truly, he may be into some things he's not telling you but firstly u can't conclude without confirmation. Secondly, so long he's not stopped calling you, you should keep flowing along with him and reciprocate too, he'll love that more about you.

Oluromantic:

Op. Rapid conclusions such as this is will further confuse you beyond recovery.


This is an example. Assurance without confirmation


You shouldn't have always allowed that happen. This is the the reverse effect of it. You subconsciously now expect he always be the one forcing you to come thru out life. No, changes happen a lot. This particular change, you didn't prepare for.

Truly, he may be into some things he's not telling you but firstly u can't conclude without confirmation. Secondly, so long he's not stopped calling you, you should keep flowing along with him and reciprocate too, he'll love that more about you.

Of course you will protect your bro code.
Any secretive man is either a criminal or a cheat!
What's there to hide, are we of this generation the first to live on this planet?

Saintmary:

Of course you will protect your bro code.
Any secretive man is either a criminal or a cheat!
What's there to hide, are we of this generation the first to live on this planet?

Bro code o, sis code o. None of that concerns me. What is wrong is wrong, what is right is right. No sensible or wise conclusion without confirmation. A man never acts upon feelings or rumors until he has a confirmed evidence. It's a common sense matter

Oluromantic:

Op. Rapid conclusions such as this is will further confuse you beyond recovery.


This is an example. Assurance without confirmation


You shouldn't have always allowed that happen. This is the the reverse effect of it. You subconsciously now expect he always be the one forcing you to come thru out life. No, changes happen a lot. This particular change, you didn't prepare for.

Truly, he may be into some things he's not telling you but firstly u can't conclude without confirmation. Secondly, so long he's not stopped calling you, you should keep flowing along with him and reciprocate too, he'll love that more about you.

Wow! Valid! There is nothing to add.

Saintmary:

Of course you will protect your bro code.
Any secretive man is either a criminal or a cheat!
What's there to hide, are we of this generation the first to live on this planet?

My dear sister, forget bro code here! She is just assuming! Let her trash it out with her man! Communication is lacking here.

Anuoluwa1234:
He still calls u, u are not happy??.
Calling alone shows, he has u in mind every now and then...
So I don't see any problem here, u are the one trying to look for unnecessary trouble jare..
And if u wanna clear Ur doubt about his actions, just tell him every of your concern u listed here . Lobatan.
Shallom

He stil cals me bt he doesnt talk anymore about our future togwther he says he misses me bt doesnt invite me there or doesnt alow me to go tjere...At weeeknds he always sleeps so early by 22h which was mever like dis before.

Then talk to him about it

NONAME11223:

He stil cals me bt he doesnt talk anymore about our future togwther he says he misses me bt doesnt invite me there or doesnt alow me to go tjere...At weeeknds he always sleeps so early by 22h which was mever like dis before.

NONAME11223:

He stil cals me bt he doesnt talk anymore about our future togwther he says he misses me bt doesnt invite me there or doesnt alow me to go tjere...At weeeknds he always sleeps so early by 22h which was mever like dis before.

Most times, your mind will be telling you something, it's usually right. Always listen to your mind.
This guy is stringing you along. It didn't start today, and you won't be the last girl to experience this.

Saintmary:

Most times, your mind will be telling you something, it's usually right. Always listen to your mind.
This guy is stringing you along. It didn't start today, and you won't be the last girl to experience this.

stringing me alone?Like how?What u think is realy hapening?

NONAME11223:
stringing me alone?Like how?What u think is realy hapening?

He has other options. He is calling you just in case those girls leave him.

Saintmary:

He has other options. He is calling you just in case those girls leave him.

yes!!!this exactly my point!Bt the thing is he cant be keeping me with cals for long

Saintmary:

You are being played. Wise up

come on , why are you just being bitter for no reason , there is nothing to confirm he is cheating from what she said, he could even act perfect and still cheat but nothing can be verified from the story

NONAME11223:
yes!!!this exactly my point!Bt the thing is he cant be keeping me with cals for long

You have the power to decide if you want to stay or walk away.
Find a man close to you, so that you can love him and see everything clearly.

mikebabs101:
come on , why are you just being bitter for no reason , there is nothing to confirm he is cheating from what she said, he could even act perfect and still cheat but nothing can be verified from the story

What is bitter in saying the truth.
Ohhhhh, I see, the truth is bitter.

Saintmary:

You have the power to decide if you want to stay or walk away.
Find a man close to you, so that you can love him and see everything clearly.

u have whatsapp?

NONAME11223:
u have whatsapp?

We can talk here. Don't worry.

Saintmary:

What is bitter in saying the truth.
Ohhhhh, I see, the truth is bitter.

The truth is it goes both ways.
I was once in distance relationship, the girl was someone else.
But she never stopped calling.
People like this will swear in the name of God that they are not cheating. I told her i will no longer argue with her.

You are right, and the OP should follow her instincts.

NONAME11223:
yes!!!this exactly my point!Bt the thing is he cant be keeping me with cals for long

Once a person starts becoming shady or you can sense some changes thats a flag, cos if you the kind of person that pays attention the nothing goes unnoticed, we dont know this person like you do, once your intuition kicks in thats should set the alarm bells ringing.

Am sorry you may not get the truth from this guy but just ask him anyway.

Your instincts are there for a reason.

Saintmary:

He has other options. He is calling you just in case those girls leave him.

Haba now! See you are misleading this OP! And she is agreeing with you because that is what she wanna hear! Tell her to talk to him! It won't kill her if she tell him what she is observing! Moreover this is a one sided story! Do you even know what the guy is going through? Or you expect a relationship to be sweet sweet everytime?

NONAME11223:
Helo all.I am witj my Nigerian boyfriend distance relationship.I been stuck in my country because of Corona.We didnt see eachother for almost 5 months.He cals me every single day but He has changed.He has 2 whatsapp acounts he doesnt wana admit.He is always like tired at weekends and wana go sleep early...I am sure his girl is coming at weekends to him.And also before he was forcing me to come to him but now he makes any excuse for me to not go to him.He stil caling me that is confusing me...What should i do?I have confronted him but he doesnt wana admit it

He's playing on you and that's too bad.

lammylam:
Haba now! See you are misleading this OP! And she is agreeing with you because that is what she wanna hear! Tell her to talk to him! It won't kill her if she tell him what she is observing! Moreover this is a one sided story! Do you even know what the guy is going through? Or you expect a relationship to be sweet sweet everytime?

I already talked to him 5 times i said i saw changes i asked him if something hapening or he has somebody bt he said no .He doesnt wana be honest.That his woman is coming to him every weekend coz every weekend he go sleep very early.He stil cals me bt he doesnt talk about future together no interess at all.He doesnt cal me to come there n he gives me always excuses why should i not come there.I just dont know why he holding me and my life like dis when obviously someone else is in d picture?

pryme:


The truth is it goes both ways.
I was once in distance relationship, the girl was someone else.
But she never stopped calling.
People like this will swear in the name of God that they are not cheating. I told her i will no longer argue with her.

You are right, and the OP should follow her instincts.

so what at the end happened with thqt ur girl n u?

lammylam:
Haba now! See you are misleading this OP! And she is agreeing with you because that is what she wanna hear! Tell her to talk to him! It won't kill her if she tell him what she is observing! Moreover this is a one sided story! Do you even know what the guy is going through? Or you expect a relationship to be sweet sweet everytime?

He refuses to communicate.

A relationship is basically communication.


If he's not talking to you, darling, he's talking to someone else.

Let him date whoever he's talking to.

Saintmary:


He refuses to communicate.

A relationship is basically communication.


If he's not talking to you, darling, he's talking to someone else.

Let him date whoever he's talking to.

he is stil caling me bt yes comunication has reduced time.in comunication n he has no interest no asking me any queestions

NONAME11223:
he is stil caling me bt yes comunication has reduced time.in comunication n he has no interest no asking me any queestions

Calm down. Don't pick up all his calls, ignore some, start giving your attention to another person. He's not your husband naw.

Saintmary:

Calm down. Don't pick up all his calls, ignore some, start giving your attention to another person. He's not your husband naw.

but is him i want!

NONAME11223:
so what at the end happened with thqt ur girl n u?

I told her she could not be trusted anymore, we can still be friends but the relationship is over.

Ofcos they always ask why, but I she swear by the Bible that she is not cheating, I simply told her
"am not going to argue with you",
And that was it.
You can't be with someone you don't trust, unless you are just using the person.

NONAME11223:
I already talked to him 5 times i said i saw changes i asked him if something hapening or he has somebody bt he said no .He doesnt wana be honest.That his woman is coming to him every weekend coz every weekend he go sleep very early.He stil cals me bt he doesnt talk about future together no interess at all.He doesnt cal me to come there n he gives me always excuses why should i not come there.I just dont know why he holding me and my life like dis when obviously someone else is in d picture?

If that's the case then pay him back in his own coin!
Be distant just like he is to you and see if he would notice and complain