I once wrote about the need for guys to stop giving their money to ladies and I also wrote about the need for ladies to drop their entitlement mentality and YES I still reiterate these facts as they referred to ladies with an unrealistic sense of entitlement but nevertheless, there is a wide gap between a lady making lame financial demands from a man and a man being sensitive to the needs of his woman.

Giving should be a two-way street and it will be very selfish for any lady to expect her man to give without her reciprocating but it is no longer new that ladies love to be taken care of and any guy who has what it takes to take care of his lady and yet refrains is a stingy man who does not deserve to be with any lady and ladies who are looking for a real purposeful romance should avoid such guys not just for their sake but for the sake of the future as such a man may not be generous enough to take care of his family financially....and worse still, I believe a man who is not generous to his lady does not truly love her cos there is no love without giving.

Now I want ladies to understand this...it is one thing if a guy does not have and it is another if he has but just chooses to be stingy....it is also very important to note that generosity should not be measured by the amount of substance be it money or gift but must be accessed based on the proportionality of the gesture in relation to the resources at the guy's disposal....this means a guy who earns 100k a month but gives his woman an average of 10k in a month has given 10% of his total income and he is more generous than a guy who makes far more but gives his lady sparingly.

What is the point?

John 3:16 KJV 16 For God so loved the world, that he gave... You can give without loving, but you can't love without giving.
When a man truly loves a woman he will give even without her asking, he will be sensitive to her needs and will always give her from what he has no matter how small even if the lady is financially buoyant, there are still little gestures that go a long way to express your affection for her. If a man truly loves his woman he will give of his time and his resources. Those who truly love, hold nothing back.

The measure of your giving reveals the measure of your love. Love is something we can't see, but we can see the evidence of love in the action it produces, which is giving. Where you give your time and resources also reveals what you love. If we think we love someone, yet never give to them of our resources, then we are just deceiving ourselves.

Hope this makes sense.

just like ladies can date who they desire, men also should stay away from goldigging good for nothing women.

there is nothing wrong with a stingy man, and people should stop trying to make them look like there is something wrong with them. if a man earns money, he has all the right to decide how to spend his money. NOBODY (especially broke women) has any right to demand that he spends HIS money the way some deluded stranger deems fit.

as the proud chairman of the NL "money dont grow on trees" club, i can assure you, if a woman has the audacity to call anybody stingy, then simply reply to her:" biitch, since you think that money grows on trees, then why dont you spend YOUR money... and shut your dirty mouth, instead of thinking that MY money is "your" money"

the best way for a man to be broke is by wasting his money trying to impress good for nothing women that havent worked a day in their lives and dont know the VALUE of money.

Toks2008:
I know this will come as a surprise to many judging from the fact that I once wrote about guys not giving their money to ladies...

Stay tuned for the thread. Promises to be very insightful.

MrBrownJay1:
just like ladies can date who they desire, men also should stay away from goldigging good for nothing women.

there is nothing wrong with a stingy man, and people should stop trying to make them look like there is something wrong with them. if a man earns money, he has all the right to decide how to spend his money. NOBODY (especially broke women) has any right to demand that he spends HIS money the way some deluded stranger deems fit.

as the proud chairman of the NL "money dont grow on trees" club, i can assure you, if a woman has the audacity to call anybody stingy, then simply reply to her:" biitch, since you think that money grows on trees, then why dont you spend YOUR money... and shut your dirty mouth, instead of thinking that MY money is "your" money"

the best way for a man to be broke is by wasting his money trying to impress good for nothing women that havent worked a day in their lives and dont know the VALUE of money.

Bros, the thread has not even started... Op is yet to state reasons and make points.

Toks2008:
I know this will come as a surprise to many judging from the fact that I once wrote about guys not giving their money to ladies...

Stay tuned for the thread. Promises to be very insightful.

MrBrownJay1:
just like ladies can date who they desire, men also should stay away from goldigging good for nothing women.

there is nothing wrong with a stingy man, and people should stop trying to make them look like there is something wrong with them. if a man earns money, he has all the right to decide how to spend his money. NOBODY (especially broke women) has any right to demand that he spends HIS money the way some deluded stranger deems fit.

as the proud chairman of the NL "money dont grow on trees" club, i can assure you, if a woman has the audacity to call anybody stingy, then simply reply to her:" biitch, since you think that money grows on trees, then why dont you spend YOUR money... and shut your dirty mouth, instead of thinking that MY money is "your" money"

the best way for a man to be broke is by wasting his money trying to impress good for nothing women that havent worked a day in their lives and dont know the VALUE of money.

Bros, the thread has not even started... Op is yet to state reasons or make his points.

MrBrownJay1:
just like ladies can date who they desire, men also should stay away from goldigging good for nothing women.

there is nothing wrong with a stingy man, and people should stop trying to make them look like there is something wrong with them. if a man earns money, he has all the right to decide how to spend his money. NOBODY (especially broke women) has any right to demand that he spends HIS money the way some deluded stranger deems fit.

as the proud chairman of the NL "money dont grow on trees" club, i can assure you, if a woman has the audacity to call anybody stingy, then simply reply to her:" biitch, since you think that money grows on trees, then why dont you spend YOUR money... and shut your dirty mouth, instead of thinking that MY money is "your" money"

the best way for a man to be broke is by wasting his money trying to impress good for nothing women that havent worked a day in their lives and dont know the VALUE of money.

Thou art Wise Sir

space booked

Ariza:
Bros, the thread has not even started... Op is yet to state reasons or make his points.

i know bro Toks2008 na...
doesnt matter, we all know what these "STINGY man this and STINGY man that" threads are all about. the mere fact that people are calling men stingy because they do what they please with their money, is a joke!

a man who is careful with his money should be praised, not looked down upon!

Still searching where it was written in the Bible that a man should always give and provide a broke ass lady with money when she is lazy to work and knows that money doesn't grow on trees.........Some of us hustle so hard to give u the little we got, but una still call us stingy

MrBrownJay1:


i know bro Toks2008 na...
doesnt matter, we all know what these "STINGY man this and STINGY man that" threads are all about. the mere fact that people are calling men stingy because they do what they please with their money, is a joke!

a man who is careful with his money should be praised, not looked down upon!

Seconded

They should go and hustle too, money doesn't grow like grass and even Jeff Bezos doesn't spend any how

MrBrownJay1:


i know bro Toks2008 na...
doesnt matter, we all know what these "STINGY man this and STINGY man that" threads are all about. the mere fact that people are calling men stingy because they do what they please with their money, is a joke!

a man who is careful with his money should be praised, not looked down upon!

Lol... So you decided to kill the seed before it sprout.

Ariza:
Lol... So you decided to kill the seed before it sprout.

nah, i just prepared the field upon which the battle will take place... lol!

myles16:
Seconded

They should go and hustle too, money doesn't grow like grass and even Jeff Bezos doesn't spend any how

sadly, African society, chivalry, and most importantly KONJI, is the reason why A) many dudes willfully spend recklessly on these women, and/or B) women use this "stingy" label to try to shame men into paying against their will (while there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being stingy).

MrBrownJay1:


sadly, African society, chivalry, and most importantly KONJI, is the reason why A) many dude willfully spend recklessly on these women, and/or B) women use this "stingy" label to try to shame men into paying against their will (while there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being stingy).

You are right on B).

However I feel that a stingy man is a no no.

What is bad is when the lady has the entitlement mentality and feels that the man must spend on her no matter what.


A man cannot be in a relationship and not spend money on calling her, taking her out occasionally for dinner or drinks, buy a small gift e.t.c

However a woman should not tell the man how to spend his money. She should not depend on him like he caused her birth. Women with the entitlement mentality are not my friends.

When a man is prudent, they call him stingy just to collect his money & mock him later.
"What have you done, that no one has done before?!"
Some men/guys will be familiar with this question.

here we go again!!!

another OP trying to tell us what a thousand people have already told us.

like, if i want to gather traffic on nairaland all i need is a post about dating broke guys/girls or something along the line of evening newspaper and men are trash.

in the end, i cant lie, threads like these always provide good banter.

so i guess i'll stick around and watch how it goes.

uboma:

You are right on B).
However I feel that a stingy man is a no no.
What is bad is when the lady has the entitlement mentality and feels that the man must spend on her no matter what.

sadly, i blame MEN more than i blame women... because we all know that there will always be greedy/deluded people out there, but any smart man knows that with money, then YOU make the rules with these narrow minded goldiggers. thus a lady can have all the entitlement mentality she desires, so long as men DONT PAY, these women have absolutely NO POWER over us. there is power in the coochie, yes, but MONEY has much more power than coochie (when facing a money hungry goldigger).

sadly, too many men have misplaced egos (blinding them from common sense), and these men will do ANYTHING to not be called stingy.... and some would even become criminals or do "crazy" things in order to please these goldigging narrow minded women.

MrBrownJay1:


sadly, i blame MEN more than i blame women... because we all know that there will always be greedy/deluded people out there, but any smart man knows that with money, then YOU make the rules with these narrow minded goldiggers. thus a lady can have all the entitlement mentality she desires, so long as men DONT PAY, these women have absolutely NO POWER over us. there is power in the coochie, yes, but MONEY has much more power than coochie (when facing a money hungry goldigger).

sadly, too many men have misplaced ego (blinding them from common sense), and these men will do ANYTHING to not be called stingy.... and some would even become criminals or do "crazy" things in order to please these goldigging narrow minded women.

You are 100% on point.

MrBrownJay1:


sadly, African society, chivalry, and most importantly KONJI, is the reason why A) many dudes willfully spend recklessly on these women, and/or B) women use this "stingy" label to try to shame men into paying against their will (while there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being stingy).

What they don't know is that Most guys have plans for their money and they are definitely not part of the plan.. once they discover that they start calling you a stingy man, if you do again they would still save your name as Maga or UBA

Karlifate:
When a man is prudent, they call him stingy just to collect his money & mock him later.
"What have you done, that no one has done before?!"
Some men will be familiar with this question.

This cracked me up big time.

But make una wait make i write the contents first nah habba

Dear niggars please avoid broke girls run when you spot them

Toks2008:

This cracked me up big time.

But make una wait make i write the contents first nah habba

lol...

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MrBrownJay1:


sadly, i blame MEN more than i blame women... because we all know that there will always be greedy/deluded people out there, but any smart man knows that with money, then YOU make the rules with these narrow minded goldiggers. thus a lady can have all the entitlement mentality she desires, so long as men DONT PAY, these women have absolutely NO POWER over us. there is power in the coochie, yes, but MONEY has much more power than coochie (when facing a money hungry goldigger).

sadly, too many men have misplaced egos (blinding them from common sense), and these men will do ANYTHING to not be called stingy.... and some would even become criminals or do "crazy" things in order to please these goldigging narrow minded women.

MJBOLT:

brothers do not listen to any rubbish this op is saying,it is better if a girl calls you a STINGY man than MAGA/MUGU

interesting

Mrbrownjay1.

Op has modified his post, what's your opinion now?

though the op seems confused, i still think a broke guy doesn't have any business dating a girl when he shuld be hustling to make money.

Toks2008:
any guy who has what it takes to take care of his lady and yet refrains is a stingy man who does not deserve to be with any lady

ARRANT NONSENSE #1
thinking that, as soon as a man dates a woman, he now should take care of her needs, because he has money, is not only narrow minded/foolish but it is also very dangerous.
are you really telling men that if they have money saved for a new car/house/business/better life or whatever, and they start dating some woman, they should forget about their own life plan and suddenly put that woman as the priority in their lives and spend their life savings on some deluded woman (who learned from men like you that begging is now a profession)?!?!?!? really?!

ladies who are looking for a real purposeful romance should avoid such guys not just for their sake but for the sake of the future as such a man may not be generous enough to take care of his family financially

ARRANT NONSENSE #2
a man not spending foolishly on some deluded woman's BS has nothing to do with WHO HE IS AS A MAN. see how you foolishly value his all life on the sole ability to give money to some deluded woman, because they are dating. haba!
how did this woman take care of herself before meeting him?
how did this woman take care of her needs before meeting him
why should a man be generous to a woman, if he doesnt believe she deserves it?

no wonder so many woman view dating as a poverty alleviation tool, when we have men boys like you.

....and worse still, I believe a man who is not generous to his lady does not truly love her cos there is no love without giving.

ARRANT NONSENSE #3
- LOVE has nothing to do with being generous
- a poor man can love and give absolutely nothing
- a bastard good for nothing cheating man can be generous
- doesnt this woman have a job...what about HER being generous to her man. is that against your "boys" rules?! or is it just a man thing to be generous while woman's job is to open their legs, cook and clean?

Now I want ladies to understand this...it is one thing if a guy does not have and it is another if he has but just chooses to be stingy....it is also very important to note that generosity should not be measured by the amount of substance be it money or gift but must be accessed based on the proportionality of the gesture in relation to the resources at the guy's disposal....this means a guy who earns 100k a month but gives his woman an average of 10k in a month has given 10% of his total income and he is more generous than a guy who makes far more but gives his lady sparingly.

ARRANT NONSENSE #4
no man should be generous, just because thats what a woman desires. let this man decide WHEN he believes this woman deserves a gift. boys like you who use their money to attain the affection of women are seriously lacking. you are not dating, you are BUYING women with money/gifts.
the minute you make women believe that a man should be generous to them (regardless of who she is, what she does, how she is with her man), is the minute you have lost the plot of life.

as for you saying that a man should give 10% of his income to a woman.... ***spit on floor***

MrBrownJay1:


ARRANT NONSENSE #1
thinking that, as soon as a man dates a woman, he now should take care of her needs, because he has money, is not only narrow minded/foolish but it is also very dangerous.
are you really telling men that if they have money saved for a new car/house/business/better life or whatever, and they start dating some woman, they should forget about their own life plan and suddenly put that woman as the priority in their lives and spend their life savings on some deluded woman (who learned from men like you that begging is now a profession)?!?!?!? really?!



ARRANT NONSENSE #2
a man not spending foolishly on some deluded woman's BS has nothing to do with WHO HE IS AS A MAN. see how you foolishly value his all life on the sole ability to give money to some deluded woman, because they are dating. haba!
how did this woman take care of herself before meeting him?
how did this woman take care of her needs before meeting him
why should a man be generous to a woman, if he doesnt believe she deserves it?

no wonder so many woman view dating as a poverty alleviation tool, when we have men boys like you.



ARRANT NONSENSE #3
- LOVE has nothing to do with being generous
- a poor man can love and give absolutely nothing
- a bastard good for nothing cheating man can be generous
- doesnt this woman have a job...what about HER being generous to her man. is that against your "boys" rules?! or is it just a man thing to be generous while woman's job is to open their legs, cook and clean?



ARRANT NONSENSE #4
no man should be generous, just because thats what a woman desires. let this man decide WHEN he believes this woman deserves a gift. boys like you who use their money to attain the affection of women are seriously lacking. you are not dating, you are BUYING women with money/gifts.
the minute you make women believe that a man should be generous to them (regardless of who she is, what she does, how she is with her man), is the minute you have lost the plot of life.

as for you saying that a man should give 10% of his income to a woman.... ***spit on floor***

Were re o!

Bro just remain single abeg... Lol!

I guess you are just venting without comprehending the post. You talked about a man spending only on a lady that deserves it which was exactly my point.

I did not talk about flings or trade by batta.

Chrisrare:
though the op seems confused, i still think a broke guy doesn't have any business dating a girl when he shuld be hustling to make money.

What is the confusion here?

A broke guy can successfully date a lady. He only needs to avoid ladies with entitlement mentality.

Toks2008:
Were re o!

Bro just remain single abeg... Lol!

bro, there are many women out there who dont need to be taken care of, who value men upon their character (and not how much money they will profit from them), and who are happy to receive a gift once in a while, WHEN THEIR MAN BELIEVES SHE DESERVES ONE. no wonder many women become oloshos when people like you teaches them that men will take care of their needs and put them on their head as their priorities. thats not only wrong for MEN, its a fallacy for WOMEN (who now value money and can be bought with a few gifts)

no wonder we now have Reginas marrying your great grandfather's mate, when we have boys thinking the way you do. why should women suffer and A) get a job to take care of their own needs or B) date a simple dude WHEN THEY CAN MARRY THEIR GRANDFATHER'S MATE AND BE COMFORTABLE AND LAZY?!?!

men thinking like you do are the problem of this world...

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Ariza:
Mrbrownjay1.
Op has modified his post, what's your opinion now?

we know Toks and his opinion, as i have told you earlier. such mentality (and good for nothing lazy women) are the problem in this world. generosity is irrelevant to the future of a couple. generosity can never be valued as a foundation of family. imagine someone saying that, if your man isnt generous then he will be wrong for the future family?!

there are lots of good women out there with great mindset and who dont expect men to give them shiiit but CARE/LOVE/RESPECT and UNDERSTANDING. the ones that are seeking for handouts and gifts (before putting value upon a man) are liabilities!

a stingy man is a man who is careful with his money, and any man who is NOT careful with his money will be wrong for a family!