Personally I don't have any problem with that
I have close female friends
But the whole thing depends on the level of trust....
You alone knows the kind of partner you have and the kind of person he or she is as friends as lovers and as partners.....

vingeophysicist:

The man is a weakling

Well, he knows the worth of the lady he's about to marry.

No for me, my wife should not be too close to the opposite sex, if not something must happen.

dodelight:
It's more of what works for you as a couple. My wife has male colleagues who are close friends with her and I don't feel threatened by them; she knows her limit. When our first child was delivered through CS, the first pap she would take was brought by my own close female friend (someone I intended to marry years back) who now happened to be a nurse in the ward, and she was there for my wife till discharge. When there was a problem at the early stage of the pregnancy, it was that same friend of mine that made sure my wife was attended to on time by calling the doctor at the emergency (UCH, Ibadan) and claiming my wife is her inlaw. I don't like to be caged, so I don't cage my wife. We know how far we can go, and we live our lives with God's grace.

time will tell

Yahksbiz:
it depends, if you are not a jeolosy type, good but if you find one let me know

My brother, forget about that jelous thing o.

From my experience, I know it's a very bad idea.

There was this lady back then that was so close to me that I had to find a way to free myself from.

First, I knew she was dating but she confided so much in me that it began to worry me.

There was nothing that has happened in that relationship that I wasn't aware of. She would ask questions like "if yhur sister is dating someone who does this and that, will yhu still advise her to continue with him?."
I would then give my view and advice o. Then later she would now open up to me it's her boyfriend.


The trust was so much that, sometimes I felt she was just naive or not really into the guy, because I don't see why I have to know about what's going on in yhur relationship as a friend.


To cut the story short, everything finally ended when I relocated.....now very far from her. She has many times asked to come visit me. Now, imagine I will give in to such demand. If someone will make a journey of over 7 hours to come see yhu, she has to at least, sleep over.

Such trust is too wreckless for my liking and I can't imagine a woman I am dating doing the same with another guy not to even talk of someone yhu'r even married to. I won't and I can never take advantage of her but the thought of my own partner doing the same with another feels very stupid to me.

mcdokwe:
them having girlfriends can negatively affect your relationship more than a male friend.

I had this girl, we were even intimate and the man that married her knew as much, of course he was jealous and wanted her to end it with me but she made it clear she won't do that and stood on her grounds that he should call off the wedding if he was going to make the request again.

We are still friends and she knows she's married and set her borders with me (e pain me sha) to the point we had spent nights on various occasions but still respected our new borders. By far the best of friends I've had not minding the gender.

I agree that I might not be comfortable with the idea myself, but it depends on who you're with, how trustworthy they're.

A woman who hardly kept male friends may still have multiple extramarital affairs even right under your nose without you suspecting it.

I'm sorry to say this but the Man (now husband) didn't do well... "She threatened to call off the marriage"... This statement is driving me crazy... like... well, it's not my business but honestly, accepting such treats from spouses isn't good enough.

And what about you? You seem to be sounding like u're sexually attracted to her and for me that's why I wouldn't advise..

mcdokwe:
them having girlfriends can negatively affect your relationship more than a male friend.

I had this girl, we were even intimate and the man that married her knew as much, of course he was jealous and wanted her to end it with me but she made it clear she won't do that and stood on her grounds that he should call off the wedding if he was going to make the request again.

We are still friends and she knows she's married and set her borders with me (e pain me sha) to the point we had spent nights on various occasions but still respected our new borders. By far the best of friends I've had not minding the gender.

I agree that I might not be comfortable with the idea myself, but it depends on who you're with, how trustworthy they're.

A woman who hardly kept male friends may still have multiple extramarital affairs even right under your nose without you suspecting it.

Enough said!!

paulolee:

i love your balls...wished i gat jus one of them..

Sorry, Bro. Can't spare any of my balls. Lol! It's somewhere in you too, all you need is the ability to accommodate, trust and forgive.

What's wrong with it? I'm close to my male colleagues, I don't pick he_goat as a friend and my husband knows that.

Avoid it like a plague before you bring stories that touch with another title . . . "Is it a crime that I allowed my wife to have opposite sex friendships?"

Exponental:
Some people here are kids, they don't understand relationship. With my relationship with women, if a woman wants to cheat, forget story. Do you know some muslim women who cover their faces (eleha, some of them have lovers)? No insult to the religion but cheating is a personal thing.

Exactly!

if your heart is pure...nothing is there

Just all about trust

We have dirty minds in this era

Opposite Gender friendship should not be a problem at all!!

But this generation is too sexified

Avoid opposite Gender friendship especially if you have a jealous Spouse

It is forbidden by nature but unfortunately, some always think they can defeat nature.

Yes of course if you guys are planning to chop one another at a later date

Damnnnnn nigar
Isoright

GboyegaD:


Why marry to someone you cannot trust? Marriage isn't a do or die affair na abi na slavery?

why cant u be close friend to the guy u are dating, you want to eat ur cake and also have it. let us learn how to hold on to the principle/ettiquete of marriage.

abysirius:
Hi Nairalanders,

Greetings to everyone in the house. Trust we are all enjoying the weekend. As regards to the above-mentioned subject. What is your take on this? Would u allow your partner have a close friend that is of opposite sex? Briefly give your reason (s) and state what you believe should be the ideal arrangement in a family setting.

I was listening to a program on the radio earlier this morning on Raypower FM before power outage. However, I have to put it on this platform out of curiosity to know how we feel about it. Personally, it is a capital NO for me. But of course, one of the 2 callers that called in before power cut termed it as insecurity as nothing seems to be wrong with the idea. Do you agree?

Mod pls help push this to the front page. Thanks.

It can’t be too close unless there a valid reason like childhood frnds or any other valid reason bt not even church member wud fly cos they are not exactly saints, yet. Lol

Casual male frnds like classmates, serious minded, principled guys who respect marriage union are fine healthy and good also.

I say this cos I won’t stop having female frnds who are sensible. So she shud be free to sm extent also. That’s how i roll cos anybody can impact ur life positively.

No no, no no

BigBelleControl:
Can there be sincere friendship between a dog and tiger? Friendship between opposite sex is still okay if both are not married. The moment one of them is married, it's a no no.

Don't mind the OP

abysirius:
Hi Nairalanders,

Greetings to everyone in the house. Trust we are all enjoying the weekend. As regards to the above-mentioned subject. What is your take on this? Would u allow your partner have a close friend that is of opposite sex? Briefly give your reason (s) and state what you believe should be the ideal arrangement in a family setting.

I was listening to a program on the radio earlier this morning on Raypower FM before power outage. However, I have to put it on this platform out of curiosity to know how we feel about it. Personally, it is a capital NO for me. But of course, one of the 2 callers that called in before power cut termed it as insecurity as nothing seems to be wrong with the idea. Do you agree?

Mod pls help push this to the front page. Thanks.

There is no way people in marriage will stay away from being friends with the opposite sex

Unless as a woman you are a full time house wife and doesn't have any reason to go out beyond food market

It all depends on self discipline

If a woman is happily married and the husband loves her, she wouldn't have a good thinking towards having opposite friends as to keep them and talk adult talks which normally results to and end up dating

As for men, they have an oat to cheat by default, even when he is married to the most beautiful and loyal wife. So men's case is just a different thing

They go as far as approaching a pregnant woman and assure her that he will wait when she puts to he

In this topic, the problem here are the men, they can't just stop lusting on women, ring or no ring

Thane:
No

nawao
please can people quote this comment with places on the Lagos mainland with steady power supply. I'm planning to relocate but power is important to my decision. Cost is also a factor
Also, if you are looking for a flat to stay in Ibafo, I have an empty room in a 3-bed. flatmate needed 70k

Get solar panels, battery and inverter. Then you can stay anywhere where the rent is affordable.

You can expand the solar systems in future if you don't have enough money now

tribalwarlord:
[s] keep talking nonsense

With the way you cancelled my comments, and reading your reaction here, obviously you can kill or at least harm any of your husband's ex who relate with him in anyway. Just take it easy, this life is simplier than you think.

It is not...totally wrong!

Attraction laws

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright
Not really a problem sha if your husband or wife have a close friend of the opposite sex

But just that most women can abuse it anyday anytime twice on the day they are emotionally traumatized or rather when they have little or financial problems in thier marriage

Because most times when women are facing little problem and emotional issues they tend to be vulnerable and quickly find comfort, solace and consolation from that close friend.....and as a result they can easily succumb to sexual advances from that male friend

My guy Damnnnnn nigar

tribalwarlord:
[s]

It's obvious you have perfected the art of cancelling people's post, and it only betrays your inability to tolerate other people's opinion. But it's not good for you as a lady. Anyways, go ahead and cancel this one too.

OgaTheTop2:
Our elders would say "the thing wey person no wan chop...person no dey smell am". Na small small infidelity dey start.

A word is enough for the wise.

E be like say you from Kogi?

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright
Not really a problem sha if your husband or wife have a close friend of the opposite sex

But just that most women can abuse it anyday anytime twice on the day they are emotionally traumatized or rather when they have little or financial problems in thier marriage

Because most times when women are facing little problem and emotional issues they tend to be vulnerable and quickly find comfort, solace and consolation from that close friend.....and as a result they can easily succumb to sexual advances from that male friend

If a man is making sexual advances to you as a woman, knowing you are married, that man is not and was never your friend.