One of my exes just had a baby, we were unable to get married because of parental consent.
I have kept my distance since then, we are not fighting, he calls and text.
I do wish to go and visit the baby but I dont know if it makes sense.
Will you allow your ex visit your home cos of your newborn?
No FP please. Just few responses are okay

I think you should drop a message for him, that's all.

A few likes, congratulatory message and at most a phone call is just ok.

"You don't smell what you dont wana eat"

Goldp5988:
I think you should drop a message for him, that's all.

Thank you

Now I can see that you Egungun is heading to express. Motor will jam you if care is not taken.

Not a good idea
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Invitation to sad tales. To what exact end is the visit?
Like speeding down an obvious dead end. A loud crash awaits.
Bon voyage ... If u insist!

Juliusdaughter:
One of my exes just had a baby, we were unable to get married because of parental consent.
I have kept my distance since then, we are not fighting, he calls and text.
I do wish to go and visit the baby but I dont know if it makes sense.
Will you allow your ex visit your home cos of your newborn?
No FP please. Just few responses are okay

Actually it's not a bad idea but I doubt the wife would think so. Just send a congratulatory message.

a congratulatory message will be ok.

Keep your visit to yourself dear. You can send messages or money gift for d baby

Dont go send pampers

Juliusdaughter:
One of my exes just had a baby, we were unable to get married because of parental consent.
I have kept my distance since then, we are not fighting, he calls and text.
I do wish to go and visit the baby but I dont know if it makes sense.
Will you allow your ex visit your home cos of your newborn?
No FP please. Just few responses are okay

One question: Does the wife know you're the ex or na coded parol tinz ?
Do you still feel some sense of ownership towards him?

Two actually...

Theresa reason she's an ex.

PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE!

Even if you are married to the best spouse in the whole world,
if you do not guard your heart, you may end up "falling in love"
with someone aside your spouse and eventually ruin your
marriage.
No one gets married and plans to have affair but lots of
married men and women are into affairs today because they
slept when they should have been wide awake with their five
senses alert.

1. Don't be too friendly with the opposite sex.
This is where lots of married people land in trouble.
Over spirituality and pride will destroy your marriage!
You can't handle close
friendship with the opposite sex as a married person. Your
heart is involved.
Set boundaries.
Be disciplined.
Be cordial.
Be respectful.
Be godly.
Be holy.

2. Don't share your personal problems with an opposite sex
friend.
It will bond you together. Problems bond people.

3. Don't contact any opposite sex you are fond of.
If you secretly admire them, you are fond of them and there is a
tingling in your heart at the mere thought of them, don't
contact!

4. Avoid unnecessary eye contact that lingers with the
opposite sex.

5. Don't tell an opposite sex you are romantic or sexy.
That private information is for your spouse only.

6. Avoid discussions with the opposite sex when you are tired,
very sad, depressed, sorrowful, drowsy, sleepy or very sick.
This can cloud your judgment and make you say silly things.
Talk to your husband/wife instead.

7. Avoid unnecessary compliment of the opposite sex.

8. Stop saying "I love you" to the opposite sex.
For what?

9. Work on your Marriage. Keep the fire of love and romance
alive in your Marriage.

10. Protect your Family.
Don't share your marital problems with your opposite sex friend.
It will bond you.

11. Never flirt with the opposite sex.

12. Mind the pictures you post on social media. Limit pictures that show your curves or portray you as sexy.

13. Do not contact all your EX after marriage.

14. Don't chat with the opposite sex on the days you are Hot.

15. Stop focusing on your spouse's weaknesses and appreciate their strengths.
If you always see the bad side of your spouse, you will be angry, bitter, critical and look for someone who can "understand" you and make you happy aside your spouse. That is the beginning of an emotional affair and eventual sexual affair. It is the beginning of the end of a once glorious marriage!

FLEE from all appearance of evil is what the Bible says.
What you will not eat, don't bring it to your nose. Don't smell it!

Don't start what you cannot finish!

Avoid all emotional and sexual affairs. They will destroy your
marriage!

May you not take a step that will lead to eternal regret in
Jesus' name.

PLEASE SEEK FOR THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT CALLED SELF CONTROL AND ALWAYS ANCHOR YOUR THOUGHTS ON PHIL 4:8.
GOD BLESS YOU.

Let this message get to the Good Women Leader and Men's Fellowship Leader and let them share it on their various group platforms so all married men and women will get it. Let them discuss it at their meetings.

The Lord will keep our homes, marriages and keep us pure to reign with Him in Jesus name. Amen.
Happy Sunday.

@MySuperEmperor, keep spreading the word.
You're heard/read.

Juliusdaughter:
One of my exes just had a baby, we were unable to get married because of parental consent.
I have kept my distance since then, we are not fighting, he calls and text.
I do wish to go and visit the baby but I dont know if it makes sense.
Will you allow your ex visit your home cos of your newborn?
No FP please. Just few responses are okay

Why?

Juliusdaughter:
One of my exes just had a baby, we were unable to get married because of parental consent.
I have kept my distance since then, we are not fighting, he calls and text.
I do wish to go and visit the baby but I dont know if it makes sense.
Will you allow your ex visit your home cos of your newborn?
No FP please. Just few responses are okay

would feel comfortable if your eg hubby's ex visit him to congrants him for new baby ?

am sure you wouldnt feel comfortable right?

so in reverse that applies to you why visit an ex to congrants him.

Love your write up. Thanks, it's quite instructive.
God bless you.

MySuperEmperor:
PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE!

Even if you are married to the best spouse in the whole world,
if you do not guard your heart, you may end up "falling in love"
with someone aside your spouse and eventually ruin your
marriage.
No one gets married and plans to have affair but lots of
married men and women are into affairs today because they
slept when they should have been wide awake with their five
senses alert.

1. Don't be too friendly with the opposite sex.
This is where lots of married people land in trouble.
Over spirituality and pride will destroy your marriage!
You can't handle close
friendship with the opposite sex as a married person. Your
heart is involved.
Set boundaries.
Be disciplined.
Be cordial.
Be respectful.
Be godly.
Be holy.

2. Don't share your personal problems with an opposite sex
friend.
It will bond you together. Problems bond people.

3. Don't contact any opposite sex you are fond of.
If you secretly admire them, you are fond of them and there is a
tingling in your heart at the mere thought of them, don't
contact!

4. Avoid unnecessary eye contact that lingers with the
opposite sex.

5. Don't tell an opposite sex you are romantic or sexy.
That private information is for your spouse only.

6. Avoid discussions with the opposite sex when you are tired,
very sad, depressed, sorrowful, drowsy, sleepy or very sick.
This can cloud your judgment and make you say silly things.
Talk to your husband/wife instead.

7. Avoid unnecessary compliment of the opposite sex.

8. Stop saying "I love you" to the opposite sex.
For what?

9. Work on your Marriage. Keep the fire of love and romance
alive in your Marriage.

10. Protect your Family.
Don't share your marital problems with your opposite sex friend.
It will bond you.

11. Never flirt with the opposite sex.

12. Mind the pictures you post on social media. Limit pictures that show your curves or portray you as sexy.

13. Do not contact all your EX after marriage.

14. Don't chat with the opposite sex on the days you are Hot.

15. Stop focusing on your spouse's weaknesses and appreciate their strengths.
If you always see the bad side of your spouse, you will be angry, bitter, critical and look for someone who can "understand" you and make you happy aside your spouse. That is the beginning of an emotional affair and eventual sexual affair. It is the beginning of the end of a once glorious marriage!

FLEE from all appearance of evil is what the Bible says.
What you will not eat, don't bring it to your nose. Don't smell it!

Don't start what you cannot finish!

Avoid all emotional and sexual affairs. They will destroy your
marriage!

May you not take a step that will lead to eternal regret in
Jesus' name.

PLEASE SEEK FOR THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT CALLED SELF CONTROL AND ALWAYS ANCHOR YOUR THOUGHTS ON PHIL 4:8.
GOD BLESS YOU.

Let this message get to the Good Women Leader and Men's Fellowship Leader and let them share it on their various group platforms so all married men and women will get it. Let them discuss it at their meetings.

The Lord will keep our homes, marriages and keep us pure to reign with Him in Jesus name. Amen.
Happy Sunday.

.

How you go feel If your husband’s ex comes to your naming ceremony?? Aunty O wrong nau!

mariahAngel:
@MySuperEmperor, keep spreading the word.
You're heard/read.

And if you have heard/read it, then act on it and see your marriage flourish. If you are unmarried yet you can take a clue from it when you are married.

Juliusdaughter:
One of my exes just had a baby, we were unable to get married because of parental consent.
I have kept my distance since then, we are not fighting, he calls and text.
I do wish to go and visit the baby but I dont know if it makes sense.
Will you allow your ex visit your home cos of your newborn?
No FP please. Just few responses are okay

It's good to visit them, gift the baby and leave their within 30mins

But if you know that it will bring tears to you, just send whatever you have for the baby or congratulate him or her and stop at that point

Are you really emotionally ready for the visit?why not save yourself the stress and either send a text or send a gift?In fact if you were my sister,I would advise you move on please.Their won't be any gain in unnecessary attachment with an ex,an ex is an ex for a reason.Keep an ex were they rightly belong.

Visit only when the wife is at home but a simple congratulatory phone call or text should be okay naa.

Hanty, biko move on. This kind friendship no dey work before story enter am.

@Op; now put yourself in this situation you just narrated here. If you were the one, will you be okay with your husbands’ EX visiting? Especially if you know that the EX was the one your husband was to marry? As you have been told by a few others here; sending a message is more appropriate than visiting. Don’t get yourself into an uncomfortable situation with your EX and his wife. Leave your EX alone as he is now married to someone else.

LadySarah:
Theresa reason she's an ex.

She is not a lesbian

Wait until he gets a son before you visit him. And by then, change your moniker to JulianaSon.