Biglittlelois:
so it's okay for the man to cheat right? very sexist nonsense.


cc: onesentence

it's very true in Delta and Edo. both my parents have told me severally. as lose as some Edo girls can be on dem enter husband house they lock up cos they know the consequences on them or the kids.

enm:


Nothing wrong in patriarchy if we take a critical look at it, the problem is some men not applying wisdom.

Patriarchy is the cause of all the problems of mankind.

Nobodys:
. Don't even try to sell me on it dear. .... I don't believe those shiits..

.All mechanisms used by our forefathers to keep women in check....Like I said earlier, it works for those who believe it...

You better don't do traditional marriage or accept bride price or else if you cheat you'll know whether this stuff is trash .

OneSentence:

it's very true in Delta and Edo. both my parents have told me severally. as lose as some Edo girls can be on dem enter husband house they lock up cos they know the consequences on them or the kids.

smh!!!

So traditional stuff still exist imagine husbands wey go don die cos nowadays women sex is water to them

Elder0001:


Patriarchy has no place in a modern way.

woman rights champion. Read your own op. The WOMAN cheats the MAN dies. So who lose?

tegrianonigltd:



From the information I hear too, it was the Man first, then they changed it to the woman and the children..

In Udu clan is the women and children. I don't know if it has changed again

victorian:







In Udu clan is the women and children. I don't know if it has changed again

I think it’s safe in the Urhobo nation, which include isoko

Elder0001:


Since I created this thread I've been doing some research on the topic and from what I found..in some families it doesn't matter whether the man did traditional marriage or not if the woman cheats on him and he eats the food OYO is his case,likewise the woman.

I've always said it that all traditions and religions are fully patriarchal and disgusting.
Men are allowed to cheat but women aren't,smh.

but if the man did not properly marry his woman and she was sleeping around and he ate her food nothin will happen to him.as i am told even if the man properly married his wife and she was sleeping around and he didnt know abt it and ate her food then nothin will happen. D only time he dies is when he knows his wife sleeps around and he still goes on to eat her food. Anyway this sort of tradition doesnt happen in all parts of nigeria and as for naija men cheating u do know in the african tradition its assumed a man can be polygamous. I never believed in dis story about husbands dying when they eat the food of their cheating wives until an incident happened in our hometown back then. This man was rumoured to be impotent and he used to arrange men to sleep with his wife to get her pregnant.it became the talk of the town. He did it for yrs until one day he claimed he was trying to lock his door one night then a hand from nowhere slapped him on the back of his head. After that slap he went blind then after a week he passed away.even my aunty who is very modern told me a story of her past neighbour.one lady who happened to be a teacher and was married to a very meek and submissive man who was unemployed. This lady was a great flirt and in times they were broke she had meet her exs and sleep with them and they will give her money.she will tell her husband wat she did and use the money to prepare a meal and both she and the husband and the kids will eat d food. Soon after the husband's body started swelling up mysteriously then he died. Things do happen and even white ppl do believe in the paranormal.

My husband is from esan and this is 3 years of marriage and he has been cheating, but am tired I need a divorce, no sex in the marriage, but with this their culture am afraid, so that why I want a divorce. Am from Anambra

lefulefu:
not only in delta..even edo sef.if the man knows his wife bleeps around and he still eats her food or has sex with her he go die.the way i hear am...the man will start swelling up and after that he expires.why u do u think ini edo"s esan husband broke up with her.....but for this to happen there has to be a traditional marriage.

This is true but it doesn't just kill the mam like that but it start with making the children very sick if they have any

1990rachel:
My husband is from esan and this is 3 years of marriage and he has been cheating, but am tired I need a divorce, no sex in the marriage, but with this their culture am afraid, so that why I want a divorce. Am from Anambra

After just 3 years of marriage?

1990rachel:
My husband is from esan and this is 3 years of marriage and he has been cheating, but am tired I need a divorce, no sex in the marriage, but with this their culture am afraid, so that why I want a divorce. Am from Anambra

When they tell you people not to do intertribal marriage you won't hear

helen4:
I bet to disagree, not all Isoko and Urhobo my brother. I am 100% certified Isoko in culture, language and belief. it has some parts that has that culture but not all. Make your research and Get your fact right please .

I lived many years in urhobo land(warri), yes the tradition works for those who believe in it, dey claim it kills the children too, that's why some of them don't pay dowries, as long u don't pay traditional dowries, it may not take effect. some traditions is enacted to downsize promiscuity just like FGM but on a serious note those shits don't happen if the marriage is inter tribal...so a woman who has cheating in mind will device a means not to marry from that tribe so their gravy consequence can be scorned.
Every tribe have that tradition against a cheating woman.
Yoruba will tell such a woman will have unfortunate children.
while Igbo will tell you when a married woman cheats brings I'll lucks to the man's business.

The Esan part of Edo state where I hail from, as a woman you dare not cheat on your husband.... YOU DARE NOT. Honestly, when you think of the repercussions that follows, you go just chill. But the big question is why marry him when you know you don't like him. I can't even cheat on my boyfriend not to talk of HUSBAND.

Yes same with IKA

Lies from the pit of hell.. Ask your elders, please.

If your wife cheat on you and you get informed, if you dismiss it as false because you trust your wife without taking up the matter. You'll die if you have sex with her or eat her food.

It doesn't matter whether you did traditional marriage or not . Whether you got married in America or Nigeria.

And men from these tribe then to be promiscuous arrogant lazy hardened and not capable of care.

According to a popular research study, Nigerian women are the most unfaithful women in the world.

I can already pick at least 8 different cultures saying the same thing or similar. My culture says the same thing about unfaithful women dying as a result of infidelity. In fact, mine took it further by asserting that a man will die if helps his girlfriend abort his baby.

The question that begs an answer is, "Why are Nigerian women not dying end masse because they cheat on their spouse?"

The society is ruled by fear. Commit an offence and go to jail. Sin and go to hell. Read or else, you'll fail.

All of these are man-made laws to checkmate perceived immorality in the society. Sorry if it hurts. But I go tell you the truth shaa..

victorian:








Lol

Honestly am surprised too.

Cos what I know and what have seen is the cheating wife swelling up and decaying if she cheats on her man and still go ahead and have sex with her husband. Or her kids dying mysteriously. Or a cheating wife cannot give birth to her baby during labour, she will labour for days unless she confess. And immediately she confess, with a native priest around, after some incantations she delivers her baby then die afterwards..
That's the one I know and have seen happen.
Not husbands dying over a cheating wife. I know it's Edo people that has such curse of husband dying . Not urhobo where I come from Na wife dey die.

At the traditional marriage, immediately the blood of a life goat is held down, cut and spilled on her legs, with some incantations, then it's over and done with.. She dares not cheat or she dies.

what if she gets raped??

Descortes:
what if she gets raped??

Then she must tell her husband she was raped.
The husband will tell the eldest in his fmaily and some rituals and prayers will be done to cleanse her from such evil.
She has to be cleansed before marriage can continue peacefully while the culprit will be dealt by the gods. The rapist life will never be balanced henceforth. That's for rape.

When I was younger because of this stuffs, I used to say that I'll skip traditional marriage and do only registry..

I don't think this happen in igbo, Yoruba and other major tribes too else their women won't be cheating anyhow.

If you're married to an igbo or yoruba man, you can cheat anyhow you wish .

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You said, you are married? Wait ooo...when did kids start marrying? Yes you are a kid, because of what trash yu spew there! We are trying to detribalize and you are here to show the shallowness of your immaturity.

Does this truly happen if the man is from isoko or urhobo and the woman is Yoruba and the traditional wedding is done in Yoruba culture will anything happens if the wife cheats