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Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by luc26(f): 4:59pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Hello house, pls has anyone migrated under the new caregiver pilot program? Pls additional info needed 2 Likes |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by etrange: 7:27pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Please o, good people of Canada, how can I watch BBN from Toronto? 2 Likes |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Richdee1(m): 7:45pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
etrange: Chai.. When u don't have to worry about data!! Niger e go better ( sad) |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by AZeD1(m): 8:12pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
etrange:IPTV 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by ednut1(m): 8:31pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
[quote author=etrange post=91884276]Please o, good people of Canada, how can I watch BBN from Toronto?[/quote https://www.pscp.tv/w/1ynKOqmMavwJR?t=17m32s&s=09 2 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by ednut1(m): 8:33pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
luc26:you would hardly find any Nigeria, requires are too tough and quota is too small for it to go round. Find other ways like pnp and ee 2 Likes |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by oginnite(m): 8:44pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
ednut1:. What's your reason for that conclusion? Have you tried using that route and its not working or you've seen some in that situation? It is very simple and way better then RNIP an AIPP because your sister can serve as your employer and give you job. Job offer is the hardest part of it. Meanwhile, the PHILLIPINOS, INDIANS, ETC are bringing in their family members through this route easily. The only thing is that the processing time is a bit slow. I have someone willing to give my wife job offer but I am discouraged because of the processing time. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by luc26(f): 8:55pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Yea i read it takes up to a year oginnite: 2 Likes |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by ednut1(m): 8:59pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
oginnite:if you have someone to give you job offer fine. but how many people do ![]() |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by legionISproteus: 2:47am On Jul 20, 2020 |
AZeD1:K |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by legionISproteus: 2:49am On Jul 20, 2020 |
Silversurfer1: Ok, there you have it folks, AZeD1 when your wife abuses you, bring in the police and call it a day. You can all rest now. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by einsteino(m): 4:28am On Jul 20, 2020 |
legionISproteus: Many people here, left great jobs(and maybe a better life) for an uncertain future here. They did this in the hope of giving their kids and family a better opportunity. If after all the sacrifice and stress, you tear your home over insignificant squabbles, then it must mean you have an inconsistent or even absurd value system. Besides, If we are lucky, we have only got a couple decades of active life left. Sooner than later, no one would actually care about all the possessions and ego that caused the rifts. When I think about my parents, I don't judge them by who got or brought what. Rather, I judge by how their decisions, principles, show of care and sacrifices impacted I and my siblings in the long run. That's really all I remember, and that's what endears them to me or not. 25 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Kvdag(m): 4:39am On Jul 20, 2020 |
Alright. Thank you steroid: |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by nitrogen(m): 4:58am On Jul 20, 2020 |
einsteino: You are absolutely correct. 1 Like |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by godG: 6:08am On Jul 20, 2020 |
einsteino: Brother, God bless you for the words in bold. See ehn, I have been thinking a lot about my upbringing lately; and, the more I think about it, the more I realize how blessed I am to have my parents. Just your average civil servants, but, man, they got everything right in raising us. Back then, on many issues (like not allowing us to go on holidays), we felt they were mean and unnecessarily difficult. But as I dey hear stories of child abuse all over the place now, I am thankful they protected us. We also begged my parents to send us to private universities, they refused. My father told us that all he wanted for us was a solid secondary school education, after that na OYO we dey. We sure attended some of the best secondary schools in my state, only for us to be shipped to pako schools like OAU and Lautech for uni. My papa say na because say he no wan make we spoil (although me know say na the money scare am). ![]() I don’t know why I’m saying this, I just couldn’t unsee your post—it is exactly what I have been thinking about. Most of our parents deserve the world, even with some of their mistakes. All we need to do is put their actions into perspective. In hindsight, I think I had an amazing childhood. Hope y’all are staying safe, good people. 14 Likes |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by legionISproteus: 9:39am On Jul 20, 2020 |
einsteino:Thank you very much! |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by odiliikenna: 10:35am On Jul 20, 2020 |
abiodunn:No i don't speak French. |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by AZeD1(m): 1:27pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
einsteino:The problem is what you term insignificant might be a huge deal to the next person. 5k is insignificant to some people while to others, it's huge money. It's very easy to say do not call the police when you are not the one on the receiving end of the abuse. Let everyone deal with their issues how they deem it fit but if family is/very important to a person, I doubt you'll want to abuse your partner/kids. 12 Likes |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Praia(f): 3:16pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
listowell: Side chick or whatever doesn't count in this argument. Besides, people can choose to have relationships without getting married and their choice is very valid. The bottom line is: Abuse is a no-no and no amount of excuses can justify it. All abusers in Canada or working to come to Canada, had better be warned. Else, we all go join make their story trend on social media. 8 Likes |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Nobody: 3:18pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Praia: You disregard or destroy family values and you wonder what is happening to your world. See African Americans! 1 Like |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Praia(f): 3:23pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
listowell: The abuser disregarded and destroyed their family values, and then they wonder what's happening to their world. ![]() 11 Likes |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Nobody: 3:23pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Praia: ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by legionISproteus: 3:29pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
listowell:The largest percentage of single mothers with deviant children in America are the African Americans. What group makes up the largest percent of incarcerated persons? AZeD1: I have told you to call the police anytime your wife abuses you. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Nobody: 3:34pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
legionISproteus:I don't know the percentage but I know the family bond is broken seriously over there and it is showing the fallouts: Gangsterism, drugs,robbery,killing,prostitution. They can't just pull themselves out of poverty line. 1 Like |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Boss13: 5:24pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
I think some of us here are sounding off as singles. If we are all married individuals then we are sounding off immature. All marriages experience challenges. The severity of these challenges differs. However, we sow an oath in the presence of God, family, Priest/Pastor/Imam and well wishers to keep our vows for better, for worse, in sickness and health, for poorer for richer, till death do us part. We chose our partners. We accepted them into our lives. We agreed to start a family with our partners. We didn't arrive at that decision alone and I will assume we are responsible Nigerians. As responsible Nigerians, we got our families blessings to go start a family. During disputes we sort the wise advice of our family especially the elderly ones, who may chose to intervene if necessary. Prior to relocating, I believe we had methods of de-escalating our marital issues. If it has been successful, stick to it. As one poster beautifully wrote - one of our reasons for relocating to Canada is to give our children a fighting chance and provide a better life for them. If this was a collective objective why engage in activities that will break the family structure and subject your children to a lifetime of struggles. I also think the word abuse is very broad. If the concern in the marriage is domestic violence and your marriage is still important to you. Adhere to the suggestions I provided earlier. It works. For those of us screaming - they both go their own ways. Separation and divorce cost money. It is not cheap. The system is designed to benefit greatly from couples who don't want to reconcile. To be honest, they don't want couples to reconcile. Divorce lawyers would like to eat and pay their bills. Others involved in the separation proceedings will like to keep their jobs. The money that's meant for the family is redistributed amongst these individuals. Married men and women respect your vows, respect your marriage, respect yourself and respect the byproducts of your marriage which are the kids. Please for those of us that are still single, I plead with you to keep your opinion to yourself till you are married. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by einsteino(m): 6:45pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
AZeD1: I would think that there has to be a range for what is significant and what isnt. Oh yes, there should be some room for subjectivity but it can't be a case of just about anything is significant if one feels like it. I am not in support of abusing one's partner, one is right to walk away from an abusive marriage. However, in today's world, it does seem that marriages break up simply because it is convenient to. This goes for men and women alike. It is not so much about Canada, it is the time we live in... and it can only degenerate further. Here is the thing, a case of couples fighting over CCB to the point where it breaks-up their marriage is complete nonsense. I don't care if they both were the poorest persons in the world before emigrating to Canada. It only shows their priorities, and that they have a wrong notion of what marriage should be about. Obviously, I can't dictate to anyone what to do in their homes and I am not trying to. I am just saying maybe one should ask themselves what really matters. We assume every marriage breaks up because of abuse. Nope! Some people just got bored and wanted to chase elusive happiness somewhere else... atimes, that's when the various excuses and insignificant squabbles starts to creep up. One could argue that they have the freedom to, and that I don't dispute. However, I have said that there are far reaching impacts to this on other people, in this case the kids are stakeholders too and I would think the larger society gets affected too. Considering all this, I don't see how it is wrong to say couples should be careful not to make selfish decisions or bring unhealthy competition into their marriage. If one is in an abusive marriage, I wouldn't dare ask him/her not to call the police. But if you only had a disagreement with your partner and called the police because you can, then well enjoy. We can not pretend that there aren't people who over-complicate issues, and make it seem as though it is as significant as their home. Anyways... I don drag this marriage mara for too long sef. Make everybody stir e tea as e sweet am, last last na them go drink am. 16 Likes |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Nobody: 6:55pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
einsteino:You don marry? ![]() |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Praia(f): 7:12pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
einsteino: A marriage breaking up over CCB already had serious underlying issues and it was only a matter of time. It was never about the CCB. 6 Likes |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Limitededition10: 7:19pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Una no dey tire for this abuse matter, for how many pages now, una just dey drag the issue. If your husband slap you, call police because you dey Canada abi na saner clime, if your wife insult you, go call police too make una marriage end, nobody cares. Abi na only married immigrants dem do Canada for, shuu Make una talk better thing as per recent updates post covid for incoming immigrants to learn from abeg. The thread is now very dry and boring to silent readers because of these incessant abuse talk ![]() 26 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by cochtrane(m): 7:39pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Limitededition10:Why should it matter that "the thread is now very dry and boring to silent readers because of these (sic) incessant abuse talk"? Is the original purpose of the people who post to entertain you? If you found it boring, why not just move on to other more interesting threads on Nairaland? Or is the forum suddenly running out of pages so that posters now need to be conservative? I just don't get why you expect people to be looking over their shoulders because they are exhaustively discussing "marriage matters". They certainly don't owe you or anyone or Seun anything, if they want to flog this issue to death. This forum is built for talk, regardless of quantity. If it's something you don't enjoy, you've got a thousand other threads on Nairaland to visit. Don't tell people what or what not to do. 28 Likes |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by nitrogen(m): 7:50pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Praia: You need to calm down. Wait, are you married? I don't think you are, reason you are just saying stuffs you know nothing about. When you get there, you will understand. I don't think anyone is supporting abusive relationships, the thing is, there are some women/men that take advantage of the system here in Canada. Simple disagreements that can be resolved are escalated by the partners just because the police are there to support them. Every marriage will have disagreements, you only need to resolve it ASAP, but no, many women find it easy to deal with their partners because the system supports them. Not fair at all. I know some couples that have parted ways because of minor issues, they are currently regretting it, because they were quick to call the police. The innocent children are trying to even understand what is happening. 6 Likes |
Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by einsteino(m): 7:53pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Boss13: The bolded is so true. While the system protects the vulnerable, it also helps people tear things down and makes money off them while at it. A friend of mine, in the usual Nigerian fashion, was yapping about how African Americans are lazy and do not utilize the opportunities they have. I replied saying we Nigerians are very myopic and irritating when we say this. Firstly, we underestimate the effect of multi generational racism. Secondly, we seem to think that we have had no help. Fact is, an average Nigerian or person born to Nigerian parents has an unfair advantage compared to an African American. Our family & societal structure is very different; consequently, the role models and competition the society instruct we adopt or indulge in is also different(or used to be about a decade or two ago). We mostly grow up with both parents very involved in our lives, heck some of us even had the luxury of extended family taking up our tabs and providing guidance. Right from childhood, you knew you had to make something out of your life, not really because you came from lack but because the commitment of your parent/parents made it non-negotiable. Juxtapose that to where most African Americans are coming from, and tell me if it doesn't surprise you that they are able to even make as much as they do with their lives. We think any of us have the drive, discipline and priorities we have, exclusive of the influence of the society and time we were raised in? The home is where it all starts from. 20 Likes |
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