Whiteways:
Like seriously, all this excuses is not making sense to me.

If shes comfortable with you for many months or years of dating and never complained about your standard of livelihood why then would you look down on your self.

No condition is permanent as long as you are not relaxing waiting for miracle.

Guys, pls always beleive in yourself and stop breaking our ladies heart because of your high low self esteem.

i just tire for the OP

Depend on who is more commited,devoted and sacrificed most in the relationship.


On the other hand,
You shouldn't had let such an asset and precious diamond go like that cos of ur own inability to see beyond ur nose. Since you are not lazy and giving up blv me success will definitely comes one day
Tell me where do you intend to get sum1 like her again in this world of slay mamas and money monger? You should have allowed the situation to addressed itself.
Anyway you can still make a new offer and let see how it goes. Some people are still single cos that kind of lady is there prayer point.
Next time learn how to think critically before making decision

Shalom!!

Babanlagenius:
She was more emotionally attached to me. As in she used to call me more than I did. She didn't sleep without talking to me and more often than not she would ask me to send her voice notes on WhatsApp even after our convno before going to bed. I felt the love within and without. She showed me so much love and made me to have extra focus in live because she was in full support of everything I was doing.

She saved money from work to buy me gifts. She was down to earth. She always give guys my number when they asked for hers. I was only bothered that she was 26years and just maybe the pressure of getting married was there. I sensed her mood swings expecially on Saturdays. I left her way back in 2019 because I couldn't secure a job for myself and needed to give her a better life by giving some other guy a chance to get married to her quickly.

Speaking of beauty, she is the most beautiful lady I have ever dated. As a matter of fact the first thing I asked her on our first date was

DON'T YOU THINK YOU ARE TOO MUCH FOR ME?

Now that I am stable to an extent all I could think of is this lady. I just don't know how she managed to forget about me. I'm even afraid of contacting her cause I don't want to hear that someone else is presently digging that hole and probably about to get married as well.

Nehyooh:
Believe me, I like your write-up. It make sense !

Thanks

futurism:


You spoke from the point of genuiness, not selfishness and I respect you for that. Do not conclude yet. Call her and ask for meeting. It does not matter if someone is digging her, what matter is she really loved you.

But if after communicating and you find out that she is soon getting married, as in a serious relationship, then let her go. Do this ONLY if you are sure that you will marry her as soon as she let you that she is free.

Thanks bro. I will. I am still afraid but I will summon courage and give my best shot. Mehn! I will be completely down if she tells me she is getting married. I still have our pictures together. Her beauty and love still disturbs my sleep.

Happy Sunday

Females tend to heal faster. To some of them that have been so emotionally attached, they keep loving the guy or still feeling the whole affair even long after separation buh they have a way of hiding their feelings deep within and making it look like they never lost anything.

akinade28:
Those of you guys breaking the heart of good ladies, all in the name of I'm helping her to have a better life or I'm not ready for marriage, just because you don't have your dream job, car house or account balance yet. When you are ready It is your type that eventually end up with bad ladies who don't love but are just after your money and you will come and tell us marriage is a scam. By then, you won't be able to complain because deep down you'll know you blew up your chance at having a good woman in your life. You will have no choice than to manage and endure.

E ti binu ma.

Babanlagenius:


Bro please don't make the mistake I made. Since we broke up I haven't seen any lady of my choice. As a matter of fact, they all want my money. I totally regret ever leaving the lady and I don't even know if I will see anyone like her. I recently met one on Facebook, we had nice convo, I asked her to be my girlfriend. She called me 3 days ago that she would come and spend one week at my place, since then, my feelings went off totally.

It left because we've not met before yet she wants to come spend the night.

That means Na so she dey with other boyfriends.

Right now I don't know what to do. All I think of is my ex

Bros. Call. Her. And. Apologize. For. Your. Error. In. Judgment.

All this shalaye you dey do ko necesstri.

donMIG:
Oga
U just used n dumped her stop sugarcoating thus shi... Na u go complain give her say based on u no get moni?
I'm sorry I didn't come here to give u n asna came here to find out for myself too
That girl played u out man!


As for me
We didn't really breakup... But someone u'd talk to erday n den y'all don't talk anymore do u need to b told yal no longer together?
Mines left coz she got tired of putting up wit ma shisss
She said I don't tell her I love her anymore
Said I don't spend much time wit her no more
That I ignored her call... N I got mad wen she complained about this shiiii
Fact is,,, I did love her
I didn't say I love her like i used to
I didn't spend time wit her like I used to
But mehn I was busy wit work need to hustle
Shiii hit me like a brick on the head... I threw away my pride called her begging to know where it all went wrong... Notin really really serious that this was her not complaining anymore... I wanted to hear her say I was a cheat or she heard shiiis about me
Tins didn't go well wit me ever since... I hated girls, I haven't been in a relationship since march n I don't even feel d need to
I miss her even as I type this shiiii
I don't think she misses me or my borin gists but I do miss her a lot... I'm just forming hard guy n wen she eventually comes back I promise myself not to take her back coz I've never loved a girl so damn much that I didn't have to cheat not for once on her!

@bold:

More explanation is required Biko.

tayooluwole:
The biggest mistakes any guy can make is to ever think any lady can not do without them... You see ladies ehn, once they move on,,,they dust their past behind them and never looked back in most cases. Lady is only attached to a guy for just the moment it last and not beyond,,,all other things being equal

I think at that point the crying kind of helps. I made sure I cried well..I would leave class to go to the hostel when everyone should be in class, lock myself up and cry without anyone calming me down.

I would cry so much that my eyes would be swollen. After like 2 weeks, I am better. One month, I am good and probably ready to make new friends.

Guys bottle things up and act all cool and strong. It is later later that it hits hard.

vickydevoka:
Ladies move on easily without looking back. Many guys do miss their ex especially de nacking part

How many times you go post this same reply? Na Glo you dey use?

Zoie:
Guy you're suffering from a plethora of issues.
Low self esteem as one of them.

I noticed a lot of guys get easily intimidated.
So they tuck tail and run, right after making one very comfortable with and in love with them.
She loved you but you were too weak.
Please don't go after her. You clearly DO NOT deserve her heart.
Go, heal your esteem.

Bla bla blaaaaaaaa


Yen yen yennnnnnnnm!

GentRoyal:

Broke up with my babe last November coz of our religious differences
Every blessed day, I think of how to reconnect with her but bros, the deed has been done already and in all honesty, I'm finding it difficult to move on.
I'll take up any chance to get her bank.

I don't know if she feels the same way

You gave up on love because of religion.

Which one comes first?

Guess y'all dont love each other enough

bukatyne:


@bold:

More explanation is required Biko.

Lols
Ive actually made up my mind to move oo
That's not the whole story up dia... If she's gon dump me like that then I needed to get ma shi together n hit the road no lookin back

peacettw:


Don't mind the simpleton. Bunch of idiots parading as men

Lmaoooooo


Naso e pain you?


Yet he did at least told her the truth naaaa...not like he cheated on her, he just wanted her ro have a better life than what he is currently offering. She is 26 remember?

madridsta007:



Once a lady moves on, she moves on. You can NEVER bring her back.

But guys.... Na. It takes a long time to move on. Guys know how to pretend well anyway.

Which planet you living on?

They do come back bro

luminouz:

You gave up on love because of religion.
Which one comes first?
Guess y'all dont love each other enough

I wish I handled the situation, better but sometimes, things happen beyond our control.

Greystone:


You are a man of very little faith.

She was willing to stick with you thru bad times but u pushed her away.

Do you know how difficult it is to find an honest and truly loving woman in this time?

You are so shortsighted that you couldn’t see that in one instant, God can change your situation and make you a success story.

I sincerely hope she meets and marries a man who will give her the love she deserves and may Karma come back to bite you very painfully in the future. Amen.

OP is a fraud.

He created the thread to garner views and start another gender war

luminouz:


Lmaoooooo


Naso e pain you?


Yet he did at least told her the truth naaaa...not like he cheated on her, he just wanted her ro have a better life than what he is currently offering. She is 26 remember?

I really don't get the laughter. We were both referring to the digging the.....statement. It is rude and frankly a silly statement to make

donMIG:
Oga
U just used n dumped her stop sugarcoating thus shi... Na u go complain give her say based on u no get moni?
I'm sorry I didn't come here to give u n asna came here to find out for myself too
That girl played u out man!


As for me
We didn't really breakup... But someone u'd talk to erday n den y'all don't talk anymore do u need to b told yal no longer together?
Mines left coz she got tired of putting up wit ma shisss
She said I don't tell her I love her anymore
Said I don't spend much time wit her no more
That I ignored her call... N I got mad wen she complained about this shiiii
Fact is,,, I did love her
I didn't say I love her like i used to
I didn't spend time wit her like I used to
But mehn I was busy wit work need to hustle
Shiii hit me like a brick on the head... I threw away my pride called her begging to know where it all went wrong... Notin really really serious that this was her not complaining anymore... I wanted to hear her say I was a cheat or she heard shiiis about me
Tins didn't go well wit me ever since... I hated girls, I haven't been in a relationship since march n I don't even feel d need to
I miss her even as I type this shiiii
I don't think she misses me or my borin gists but I do miss her a lot... I'm just forming hard guy n wen she eventually comes back I promise myself not to take her back coz I've never loved a girl so damn much that I didn't have to cheat not for once on her!

Bla bla blaaaaaaaa haaaaaaa


So you know you're a weak man emotionally. Then,dont bash the OP...fix yourself bro

gudnex22:
Whether guys or babes all I know there must be move on.

You wey know...

bukatyne:


@bold:

More explanation is required Biko.

Very simple...he wants to hurt her too for the hurt he got when she broke up...revenge things

He is weak. His so called love is toxic.

GentRoyal:


I wish I handled the situation, better but sometimes, things happen beyond our control.

I agree with you.

One love

peacettw:


I really don't get the laughter. We were both referring to the digging the.....statement. It is rude and frankly a silly statement to make

But it is the truth...although very raw.

Would you rather prefer he used words like fuq, screw or such?

luminouz:


Bla bla blaaaaaaaa haaaaaaa


So you know you're a weak man emotionally. Then,dont bash the OP...fix yourself bro

Lols
Call it wateva man.... Y wondering if she moved on if u feel she's beta off witout u?

I'm not a weak man mind u
Im only human

donMIG:


Lols
Call it wateva man.... Y wondering if she moved on if u feel she's beta off witout u?

I'm not a weak man mind u
Im only human

luminouz:


But it is the truth...although very raw.

Would you rather prefer he used words like fuq, screw or such?

Ok that's funny.

Babanlagenius:


Bro please don't make the mistake I made. Since we broke up I haven't seen any lady of my choice. As a matter of fact, they all want my money. I totally regret ever leaving the lady and I don't even know if I will see anyone like her. I recently met one on Facebook, we had nice convo, I asked her to be my girlfriend. She called me 3 days ago that she would come and spend one week at my place, since then, my feelings went off totally.

It left because we've not met before yet she wants to come spend the night.

That means Na so she dey with other boyfriends.

Right now I don't know what to do. All I think of is my ex

If you are really genuine about her I suggest u give her a call.At least even if it doesn't work out you will have closure knowing you tried to get her back.Experience shows its better to try and fail than to be left imagining what could have been.worse case scenario, she turns you down.
As for your question, normally the one who initiated the breakup should move on faster cos he or she must have prepared himself emotionally for the breakup.

luminouz:



Which planet you living on?

They do come back bro

Then she hasnt actually moved on.
They do not come back if they get to that point where they have mentally moved on.

OmoAlakija:


This same thing happened to me, I had go let her go because I wanted the best for her and I felt I was slowing her down, and also I wanted my time and focus to myself alone , didn't wanted go be slowed down by any woman.. It was really hard for her to move on completely though and it still is coz its been 3 months since we broke up and she still calls me till,date .. We had something super strong , been through a lot together.

My advice: don't be too strong about your belief in economic stability. Love, true love conquers everything.
It is hard to come by, and if you're blessed enough to find true love, please hold it firm! It's destiny! It's the future! It's life!


So, kindly take a bold step of faith, go back to the one you have found true love in...
Join your faith together, trust God together...
Marriage is surer and sweeter with the one whose love is true, and not based on economic stability or any other material reasons!

Good luck Son!

madridsta007:


Then she hasnt actually moved on.
They do not come back if they get to that point where they have mentally moved on.

Agreed

luminouz:


Bla bla blaaaaaaaa


Yen yen yennnnnnnnm!

You done?