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Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Blackmoran(m): 7:16am On Jul 20, 2020 |
Am single now but most of my friends are married and to me I always pity them. We grew up having dreams and aspiration one after the other they knock a lady up, before you know they are married. There is a saying that women are dream killers, and when I say dream killers I don't mean that women are evil, it simply implies that if you want to achieve anything you need to put women aside, relationship should be your last priority. You can have a bootycall or sexmate but anything more than that is a distraction... And personally me I think marriage is overrated there is more to life than cohabiting with someone so you can have access to vagina, I can achieve that with many option as a advantage without marriage, And to the "you will die lonely crew" marriage is not a ticket for you to have a long lasting relationship with people around you, rather your character and deed will determine how people will be loyal and kind towards you... 40 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Beblessedbaba: 8:10am On Jul 20, 2020 |
OP na man you be. I share all what you wrote their without opposing anyone. 3 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by phemmyfour: 8:13am On Jul 20, 2020 |
kestolove95:You are wrong The Bible didn't say that "he that's broke" should find a wife Same Bible says: A man that cannot provide for his family is worse than an infidel. You might have personal issues with religion but don't discredit what you don't understand 19 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Nobody: 8:34am On Jul 20, 2020 |
Laslas marriage Na scam 6 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by TheManofTomorrow(m): 8:44am On Jul 20, 2020 |
Blackmoran: I agree wholely with your last point. Some people see marriage as an avenue to companionship. Marriage is not a cure for loneliness. Rather it somehow limits ones option to schooze with the opposite sex. Someone that doesn't invest into people other than himself and work on himself on a daily basis should not expect love from anyone except maybe his immediate family members. What this people fail to realize is that spouses in marriage can only love themselves for long before gradual enmity starts building mainly due to the financial insecurity. I hope things like this are more emphasized in our societies rather than pressurizing people into marriage when their is no iota of financial readyness in them. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by mrpaedo(m): 9:00am On Jul 20, 2020 |
In this era,any man who doesn't realize marriage is for fools deserves every form of suffering he encounters in that archaic,horseshit,completely and utterly failed social construct May the suffering of the man the OP met and men who foolishly signed that bullshit contract because they wanted to please family and society,increase by 2billion folds.I have no iota of sympathy for you lot 13 Likes
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Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by onwuakpachris(m): 9:04am On Jul 20, 2020 |
bigs up man...u did well...as for that poor dude...that's how they bring innocent kids into this terrible world to suffer with them..if u can't comfortably feed..then js suffer nd die alone na...even if u love sex more than the Indians that breed like rabbits..use protection na or embrace family planning...anyways it all boils down to the FAM he was born into...poverty plus illiteracy/ignorance..and ceteris paribus (all things being equal)..his kids will still continue in that cycle of poverty..illiteracy nd ignorance..nd so his grand kids...passing on d baton of poverty from one generation to d other...what nonsense.. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 9:50am On Jul 20, 2020 |
Increase the volume people. Let me take some speakers to the round about so that people there will here you. They all need to hear this gospel truth and stop fooling themselves. Both men and women. Not when you see someone who can't take care of himself you will accept marriage proposal from him simply because you are not getting any younger. After you marry you now become older than your mother within a few months cos of suffering. And the poor guy will look older than his grandpa overnight. It's even worst when the two are lazy without vision. 9 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by DontBullshitMe: 9:51am On Jul 20, 2020 |
Prof0fficial:And when your partner dies before you? 1 Like |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Liposure: 10:13am On Jul 20, 2020 |
Blackmoran:laslas you go marry 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Tsolutionifede(m): 10:31am On Jul 20, 2020 |
merieam16:exactly my point, look at China they are trying to depopulate by recommending at max of two children, in which their economy is even better than ours. Why must u bring children to suffer them. Life is short. To make it from scratch is not easy. 5 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by NNAMDIII(m): 10:45am On Jul 20, 2020 |
Poseidon000:Guy u wan use grammar kill me but i love what you wrote 7 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Liposure: 10:53am On Jul 20, 2020 |
Marriage without financial security is risky. Things are hard. Cut your coat according your size 3 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Raalsalghul: 12:24pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Poseidon000: Just like you've said Op, religious institutions are to blame. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by ruzell86: 12:24pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Great thread from Poisedon. Marriage isn't for fools like someone said. It's not easy to become super successful from the scratch, like another said.. Don't be pressured by the societal dogma, like it's said. You are the captain of your own ship, the captain of your life. May God bless the work of our hands. 16 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Adasun(m): 12:58pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
kestolove95:u are confuse here.a gud wife is a gud thing.hw is dat a lie?u where also favoured to get one. 1 Like |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Ezeego1(m): 1:22pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Poseidon000: Thumbs up 2 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Karlifate: 1:49pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
J111333:You said it all. 2 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Nobody: 4:45pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Even amongst ladies, most ladies get married due to pressure from the society and finance... If they had an option they wouldn't venture into marriage before 30yrs 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by merieam16(f): 4:51pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Tsolutionifede:yea i understand depopulation which is my problem with d poor cos dey dont kno wen 2 say full stop 2 child bearin.buh nt 2 give birth at all becos dey er poor dat doesnt make sense 2 me |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by tunjilana: 4:57pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Firstly marriage isn't for fools but u can look foolish if you marry wrongly without a plan If that poor guy marries a fellow poor girl and they both believe in hustling together, delaying childbirth e.t.c., they may come out of poverty faster than doing it singly. The real issues is that men often marry women who still sees them as someone they should take from rather than someone whom they should plan,strategize and partner with. 38 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by tunjilana: 4:59pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
maiyee: Not totally through cos a woman's body will change significantly as she ages and she may still not get the desired mate as she grows old. 3 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Tsolutionifede(m): 7:23pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
merieam16:maybe when you are still getting something, but not to the extent of staying in an uncompleted building, that is total dismal. |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Nobody: 7:25pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
tunjilana:. True, that's why I wrote 30yrs. |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by themayor4542(m): 9:13pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Poseidon000:Let him that have ears listen. |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Poseidon000: 10:20pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
0neal: Well, poverty is a mental conditioning that metamorphose to reality when one approach life with complacency and imprudence. Suffice to say; people from poor homes wind up like their parents, not because of lack of requisite tools to succeed in life, but because they fail to 'right' the condition of their parents by making the same mistake, thus, setting a vicious circle of generational penury on motion. It's the major social malaise menacing our society. Take a diagnostic review of the economic class of major perpetrators of vices in our society, and the answer is not farfetched. 5 Likes |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Poseidon000: 10:23pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
eni4real:Amen!!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Poseidon000: 10:28pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
Omar09:Apt. You have my blessing, bro. What is paramount is a better and secured future for you and your family. All other consideration is sundry. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Poseidon000: 10:36pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
EVILFOREST:Hey guys! Heed to this advice, cause this is a sage council that is ineluctable to your success if you want to have a smooth sail in life. I want to believe you're married. Am I right? 1 Like |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by jagorinho: 10:54pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
merieam16: you are right!!! some things in life are complex, I am not that religious but I believe in destiny and grace, most poor people I know are very hard working but they can't just move above that poverty benchmark, there are many factors that influence wealth outside hard work unless we want to deceive ourselves. I understand the O.P perfectly, but it is important we take cognisance of how these people think, they give birth because they have already seen people doing it without drastic consequences, they have seen poor family raised 6 children to maturity, these bad precedents have been on ground since time immemorial, if Mama Chinedu or Mama wale can do it , why can't they? Personally, I think it is an overtly selfish decision to bring a child forth into penury, but the mind set of most poor people is funny, it is as simple as this, struggle to raise the kids to adulthood ( lucky ones) , some give most of their kids out to relatives to raise then after they are adults they will be waiting for the children to be taking care of them.....that is just the simple cycle. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by merieam16(f): 11:06pm On Jul 20, 2020 |
jagorinho:exactly, my problem with most poor people is dey do nt kno wen to say full stop 2 child bearing.Like wat u said,dey av der way of doin tins nd perceiving life |
Re: How Guys Use Marriage To Plunge Themselves Into Perpetual Poverty. by Poseidon000: 12:51am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Olawrites: If this is your idea of recrimination, then you suck at it. Just so we're clear; it's been eon I last had a relationship. I'm comfortable, but I presently don't have a woman friend not to talk of a wife, so, your postulation is balderdash. Let me pretend to believe what you said about your brother: that your brother have a different story, does not mean it's the prevalent case. In fact, his case is miniscule on the scale of 1/10 as obtainable in our society. Now, no sensible man will predicate his future on the probability of 'one' against 'nine.' That's akin to looking for a needle in a haystack. Not that there's no needle in the haystack, but what are the odd of finding it ![]() * No, I'm not God, but even the Christian Bible says: "A man who can't provide for his family, is worse than an infidel." Just so you know, marriage give you this hustling mindset to be on your toes. The highlighted is one of the major lies I aforementioned. Let's put it into perspective. If as a bachelor you earn 4k per day, then spend 1k for feeding and another 1k for miscellaneous, leaving you with 2k to save for future investment that will avail you the financial laxity to venture into other enterprise or expand existing one, thus increasing your earning power to say 10k per day. At this juncture, you're to a large extent impervious to the cost implication of running a family. So, it's fine. Now, let's say you got married with an earning of the same 4k per day. Remember you were spending 2k as a bachelor and saving the remaining 2k for the future. What you'll discover as a married man, is that; 4k will be barely enough to service the family, leaving you on the path of stagnancy, cause you'll be feeding from hand to mouth with no savings to venture into new waters of financial promise. Basically, you'll be retrogressing with the rise in inflation and graduating family expenses. In no time, you'll be wizened with dejection and suffering, consequently embroiling the innocent children you sired, in your self inflicted debacle. Nuff said. 33 Likes 3 Shares |
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