ImaIma1:


Have you tried investing in yourself? You said you are working. What do you spend your money on? Do you spend on him also. Or you expect him to do the spending while you keep your money?

You don't know if that money is going into future plans. Or you want to eat the future today? Also, he probably has family that he helps out.

You already said he helps out with your bills. Don't burden him much with expense making him think you are all for the money.

AdesewaAde:
im not contradicting myself,if he can trust me to the level of telling me how he wants to spend money,using me as NOK,why can’t he trust me by investing on me too?

Samakus:
My God!! Is there a good, compassionate, girl out there at all again?

AdesewaAde:

My fiancé and I have been dating for over two years now, when it comes to financial aspects he is transparent,he do carry me along,whenever he is expecting any money he do tell me about it and we will both plan on what he wants to use the money for but the truth is he won’t include me in his budget though he do foot my petty bills (hairmaking and pedicure)at first I don’t see big deal in it cause I’m also working and he has never for once asked how I do spend my salary ,recently I was cleaning the house and I saw his documents,I decided to check everything ,to my greatest surprise he used my name as his next of kin.
To cut my long story short,he called me last week that he got some money and we should plan on it as usual,that was when I told him to help me with some money to add with my savings to set up a business,he stylishly turned the request down ,I repeated again after a week and he did the same thing.
What I don’t understand now is that am I not worth investing on or he is using that to test me?
Please help a sister.

AdesewaAde:

My fiancé and I have been dating for over two years now, when it comes to financial aspects he is transparent,he do carry me along,whenever he is expecting any money he do tell me about it and we will both plan on what he wants to use the money for but the truth is he won’t include me in his budget though he do foot my petty bills (hairmaking and pedicure)at first I don’t see big deal in it cause I’m also working and he has never for once asked how I do spend my salary ,recently I was cleaning the house and I saw his documents,I decided to check everything ,to my greatest surprise he used my name as his next of kin.
To cut my long story short,he called me last week that he got some money and we should plan on it as usual,that was when I told him to help me with some money to add with my savings to set up a business,he stylishly turned the request down ,I repeated again after a week and he did the same thing.
What I don’t understand now is that am I not worth investing on or he is using that to test me?
Please help a sister.

uruba23:
Do you plan repaying the money, he made you his next of kin that is a very difficult decision to make especially when you're not married,I wanted to, still plan to, but quite difficult ,except of course he deliberately planted that for you to see.Anyway if you want to stay on your right do get married.It is not like he doesn't have nieces or nephews he can make next of kins

AdesewaAde:
I’m not planning to return the money but I promise to be there for him too if he’s down.
He has the money,I’m not saying he should give me money to buy clothes or wigs

AdesewaAde:

My fiancé and I have been dating for over two years now, when it comes to financial aspects he is transparent,he do carry me along,whenever he is expecting any money he do tell me about it and we will both plan on what he wants to use the money for but the truth is he won’t include me in his budget though he do foot my petty bills (hairmaking and pedicure)at first I don’t see big deal in it cause I’m also working and he has never for once asked how I do spend my salary ,recently I was cleaning the house and I saw his documents,I decided to check everything ,to my greatest surprise he used my name as his next of kin.
To cut my long story short,he called me last week that he got some money and we should plan on it as usual,that was when I told him to help me with some money to add with my savings to set up a business,he stylishly turned the request down ,I repeated again after a week and he did the same thing.
What I don’t understand now is that am I not worth investing on or he is using that to test me?
Please help a sister.

AdesewaAde:
I’m not planning to return the money but I promise to be there for him too if he’s down.
He has the money,I’m not saying he should give me money to buy clothes or wigs

hashtagged:


Work your own money lazy bitch, instead of chucking head in money thats not your own. Na una dey insult men abi, work the money na begger

fatymore:
What's the big deal in helping her establish her business?

Nairaland guys are just smh.

AdesewaAde:
I do try my best when it comes to showering him with gifts,and I’m not part of ladies who doesn’t have anything to offer in a relationship,for a young guy to have used his girlfriend as a Next of Kin,you should know I’ve tried for him .

nwachukwu9:
I can say emphatically that there is nothing you have done. if you have even done anything at all, it is insignificant compared to what he has done. You can deceive other's but not me. They truth here is that the guy in question genuinely loves you, but you don't love the guy genuinely. If something happens to this guy and he becomes very poor, I tell you the truth you would be the first person to leave him, especially when another rich dude is promising you marriage. You are only in this relationship because it is more beneficial to you. Mark my words I am not lying. If God can open the eyes of men to see the real nature of the woman the want to marry, many ladies would be single, but our men of today are blinded by big bumbom and breast.

Amb1045:
we have frustrated mad boys on nairaland. lol she only needed advice not bashing. you should explain to him why you need money from him. involve him in your income too

AdesewaAde:
God bless you o
At least he is having the morning

AdesewaAde:
is my asking him to give me money to set up a business is a definition of greediness?

Dande55:

Don't mind all these bitter frustrated broke men.
If you know what's right, pursue it. I think your bf is very stingy. He needs to change

Dande55:

Don't mind all these bitter frustrated broke men.
If you know what's right, pursue it. I think your bf is very stingy. He needs to change

AdesewaAde:
So asking my boyfriend for financial assistance is a crime

AdesewaAde:
I haven’t for once imposed my responsibilities on him,I do collect anything he gives to me wholeheartedly without complaining,for me to have said I needed his help for the first time ,he should know I’m serious with life.
I’m yet to understand the definition of being in a relationship by Nairalanders

stonemasonn:
The guy is not stingy, stop talking ill of a hard working brother. He's simply not convinced enough to give her the money or he has other plans in his scale of preference.

TGMISKY:
You just ended up bringing you guy here to be insulted

AdesewaAde:
many of them will rush to posts to spit out their angers as if the OP is the causes of their misfortunes.

I told him what I needed the money for and I even told him how much I was able to also save so far from my own salary