There's a girl in my neighborhood who I can refer to as my home sister. We're so close. We share feelings, advice & keep nothing from one another, our love life inclusive.

She has had quite a number of relationships and got disappointed in all. I've had one relationship too.

There was a time I told her about my feelings towards her & she said she would have loved to accept my proposal but she couldn't handle double-dating. Well, I felt okay having let her know my feelings. I understood her decision & I don't think I was ready to be kept as a spare tyre, too. We moved on with our friendship.

We talked both clean and dirty stuff. She would even tell me anytime she felt Hot & needed to see her boyfriend for sex. In short, we are now having mixed feelings for one another. It could no longer be hidden on her face, too.

As a lady, she's expecting me to make the first advance. Making the move is not my problem but the thoughts of some dirty talks we've had together. The most worrying part was a time she got drunk with her friend at a birthday party & she mistakenly called one of her Ex-bfs (who she loved most) over & he took advantage of the moment to have his way with her again. Though she claimed she was not sure if something really happened between them but she noticed she had no pant on when she woke up in the morning, blablabla. To me, the guy is not that reliable as he is into drinking & smoking. She appears too innocent to be dating such a guy & I gave my advice. She might not really disclose all that transpired at the birthday party. I kept thinking the guy could have recorded the act, knowing well that she's stark drunk. What if our relationship leads to marriage & the guy begins threatening her with sex-tape or he leaks any sex tape involving her, how would I go about it? Aside her other sex life, this is most worrisome of all.

My thinking/guess may be wrong, yet I do not want to be caught unaware, to avoid stories that touch later. This is a dilemma for me. I truly love her but my happiness matters a lot.

Don't hesitate to advise a brother.
Kindly overlook any grammatical blunders.

Thanks

Am out of ideas...this your case strong

I reserve my comment till it gets to the front page

Guy....i don't even know what to tell u sef...i no understand this ur story

Do you have a vaging to replace her if no you don't know what sexual life other ladies might have pass through. Be thankful that you even know her past so that no one will come up with her dirty story in future.

Advising from experience, most mistakes we niggas do is that we are sometime too committed knowing about the past of our lovers and if shes honest enough to tell you the truth it starts hurting us and we start judging them whenever they make little mistake in the relationship, I once told my ex gf that her past life is of no interest to me but the present and future and she was open to me and told me severally her stories with guys in the past at a point i asked myself weda this babe still get womb sef, i went ahead out of curiosity to ask her like how many guys have dated her before me she should not lie and she told me excluding me it's around 12 guys, my fellow niaralanders that's the day everything changed bcux I keep wondering those are the numbers of guys when don knack this kpekus when she date oo , how about the ones when she no date when still chop clean mouth, my brother from that moment onwards I begin get double mind and whenever shes not with me I hardly believe anything she tells me bcux I now see her as loosed...to cut long stories short, if you cannot deals with the past of your lover never bother yourself digging what will eventually destroy you, focus on her and forget her past but since you cannot deal with it already kindly let her go in peace, this life no balance at all.

OP that girl is very innocent and that's why she confided in you. How can you say you love her, and knowing all her ways before now, you come Finally ask her out and still having double mind, person wey you called a Bestie.
The last time I checked best friends makes the best marriages, so rethink

All I'll say is the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know

Well, if u can see that she he did not relate with her that much she why then go to the wedding and eat? Somepeople even scored better is not?
I'm asking u OP.

SIR0:
There's a girl in my neighborhood who I can refer to as my home sister. We're so close. We share feelings, advice & keep nothing from one another, our love life inclusive. She has had quite a number of relationships and got disappointed in all. I've had one relationship too. There was a time I told her about my feelings towards her & she said she would have loved to accept my proposal but she couldn't handle double-dating. Well, I felt okay having let her know my feelings. I understood her decision & I don't think I was ready to be kept as a spare tyre, too. We moved on with our friendship. We talked both clean and dirty stuff. She would even tell me anytime she felt Hot & needed to see her boyfriend for sex.
In short, we are now having mixed feelings for one another. It could no longer be hidden on her face, too. As a lady, she's expecting me to make the first advance. Making the move is not my problem but the thoughts of some dirty talks we've had together. The most worrying part was a time she got drunk with her friend at a birthday party & she mistakenly called one of her Ex-bfs (who she loved most) over & he took advantage of the moment to have his way with her again. Though she claimed she was not sure if something really happened between them but she noticed she had no pant on when she woke up in the morning,,,blablabla. To me, the guy is not that reliable as he is into drinking & smoking. She appears too innocent to be dating such a guy & I gave my advice. She might not really disclose all that transpired at the birthday party. I kept thinking the guy could have recorded the act, knowing well that she's stark drunk. What if our relationship leads to marriage & the guy begins threatening her with sex-tape or he leaks any sex tape involving her, how would I go about it? Aside her other sex life, this is most worrisome of all. My thinking/guess may be wrong, yet I do not want to be caught unaware, to avoid stories that touch later. This is a dilemma for me. I truly love her but my happiness matters a lot.
Don't hesitate to advise a brother.
Kindly overlook any grammatical blunders.
Thanks

With the help of God. True love conquers all

She loves you and confide her darkest naughtiest secret with you, she's free around you..

They may call you a simp for dating a girl with an active sexual past... But wake up and see her good side

Honesty in a relationship is greater than many nonesense we condition ourselves to


.

Some girls sef......

You would see them all gorgeously dressed up heading for a friend's birthday party..........Instead of them to jejely drink from the Soft drinks on the table, they mumuishly prefer to drink from Hot drinks of Red label, Macdowells, Vodka cos they wan claim say them sef ma follow......because of their weak body system, Before you know it, they have passed out........And party boys are ever ready with preeqs always on Automatic mode, looking for such a drunk lady to devour with their raging deeks already standing tall like the rocks of Gibraltar at the birthday party.....

Next, they have started donating sperms of different viscosity in her puna.....It happened to three different teenagers within my neighborhood.....

When they are high on Redlabel or Mac dowells and they were able to regain themselves the following day, they would discover the following that:

1. They missed their period
2. They lost their phones..
3. They lost their Handbags
4. They lost their pants....


Imagine Op girlfriend dey talk say when she got drunk and her Ex bf came over, she was not sure whether sex romp really take place.....And yet you wake up without pants!!!!.......Guyz can you imagine that!!! Maybe na my ancestors come remove the pants carry am go.... Tueh!!!!!

wisper2jah:
Love conquers all.. If you truly love her like you claim and truly desire to be with her, you must learn to let her past life remain where it belongs (in the past) and hope for the best.

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Stop deceiving yourself with love..
U suppose don get sense by now..

Forget emotions! It will cloud your sense of reasoning thus leading you to make horrendous decisions.

However, the best you can do for yourself at the moment is to move on - chances are you will find someone like her/better than her without all the baggage. There are lots of fishes in the river man

The guy know get sense, which one be love again. For me Those kind girls na cheap product Dem be

Uyi168:
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Stop deceiving yourself with love..
U suppose don get sense by now..

Bad guys don enjoy all the ingredients in that girl finish and here is Mr. Niceguy coming to have leftovers...It's better to not know and have than to know and have.

Say no to simpism brotherly. Whatever thing you think you have for that girl is not love but iberibeism.

Learn to leave street dogs on streets no matter how friendly they appear..

Don't be like me bro...

Iss an entanglement sumtin

Marriage is eternal. I can't imagine having these thoughts throughout my life here on earth with my wife. Life is too short for this biko

SIR0:
There's a girl in my neighborhood who I can refer to as my home sister. We're so close. We share feelings, advice & keep nothing from one another, our love life inclusive. She has had quite a number of relationships and got disappointed in all. I've had one relationship too. There was a time I told her about my feelings towards her & she said she would have loved to accept my proposal but she couldn't handle double-dating. Well, I felt okay having let her know my feelings. I understood her decision & I don't think I was ready to be kept as a spare tyre, too. We moved on with our friendship. We talked both clean and dirty stuff. She would even tell me anytime she felt Hot & needed to see her boyfriend for sex.
In short, we are now having mixed feelings for one another. It could no longer be hidden on her face, too. As a lady, she's expecting me to make the first advance. Making the move is not my problem but the thoughts of some dirty talks we've had together. The most worrying part was a time she got drunk with her friend at a birthday party & she mistakenly called one of her Ex-bfs (who she loved most) over & he took advantage of the moment to have his way with her again. Though she claimed she was not sure if something really happened between them but she noticed she had no pant on when she woke up in the morning,,,blablabla. To me, the guy is not that reliable as he is into drinking & smoking. She appears too innocent to be dating such a guy & I gave my advice. She might not really disclose all that transpired at the birthday party. I kept thinking the guy could have recorded the act, knowing well that she's stark drunk. What if our relationship leads to marriage & the guy begins threatening her with sex-tape or he leaks any sex tape involving her, how would I go about it? Aside her other sex life, this is most worrisome of all. My thinking/guess may be wrong, yet I do not want to be caught unaware, to avoid stories that touch later. This is a dilemma for me. I truly love her but my happiness matters a lot.
Don't hesitate to advise a brother.
Kindly overlook any grammatical blunders.
Thanks

Let me be honest with you, even though you marry her, one day when you guys have a very bad argument she'll call the guy and he'll take advantage of your situation, if she misses him sef she'll create drama and chaos for an excuse to have space to visit him (she'll come back to you though, because guys like that won't keep her trust me)

He has imprinted on her and there is nothing you can do about it, rid yourself of emotions they are not useful to a man, wear a garment of self respect...that girl is not for you, you need a girl you'd imprint and groom for yourself if not you'd always take second place in her heart......you may not even be her 4th choice.

Feelings blind you from the truth, purge yourself of feelings so you won't be distracted from your purpose pursuing another man's property....let me ask you this why didn't she call you when she was drunk.....you think she is stupid, she called him on purpose because she wanted him to Fvck her, so I assure you he didn't take advantage of her.

He is the typical bad boy who smokes and drinks but wouldn't commit to her....DON'T SET YOURSELF UP.

The past shouldn't matter now. The fact she told you doesn't mean you should judge her or see her differently. At a point in everyone's life, we've all ventured into things that some other individuals will see as weird or hauntful. So please let the last be the past. If you are not comfortable with her, then let her be. The choice is yours and stop be judgemental. Peace

I shall say it again... Only Virgins should marry virgins... Op stop disturbing us with this cock and bull stories!

You are not a virgin and you are worrying us with your gf sexcapede.. What is all this Inukwa

You're not in a relationship with her..you're in an entanglement.

and you're forbidden from dating a Virgin? dem force you to have a feelings for her in the first place?



see let me tell you, her past and that sex drive is what's pushing your affectionate and I'm confidently telling you that you're lusting around her, there is no genuine feelings for you to be having mixed feelings


this is just self affliction that need self control, you don't need any advise

purplecoco:
You worried over something you’re just assuming in your head and not sure about? Like are you even innocent here? Overthinking kills faster than anything, just be like Elsa in “Frozen” and let it go.

In my own world.... Overthinking saves....



I love to think things over and over and know what to do.... Call it a plan B....


We don't just jump into things

czarr:
Let me be honest with you, even though you marry her, one day when you guys have a very bad argument she'll call the guy and he'll take advantage of your situation, if she misses him sef she'll create drama and chaos for an excuse to have space to visit him (she'll come back to you though, because guys like that won't keep her trust me)

He has imprinted on her and there is nothing you can do about it, rid yourself of emotions they are not useful to a man, wear a garment of self respect...that girl is not for you, you need a girl you'd imprint and groom for yourself if not you'd always take second place in her heart......you may not even be her 4th choice.

Feelings blind you from the truth, purge yourself of feelings so you won't be distracted from your purpose pursuing another man's property....let me ask you this why didn't she call you when she was drunk.....you think she is stupid, she called him on purpose because she wanted him to Fvck her, so I assure you he didn't take advantage of her.

He is the typical bad boy who smokes and drinks but wouldn't commit to her....DON'T SET YOURSELF UP.

Nuff said. . .

Not everybody can get over with some people's past, especially the guys. Some guys can't stand the thought of their woman giving themselves to different men and finally say she wants him now. Sadly, you have to accept what you see sometimes.

Ategberoson:
and you're forbidden from dating a Virgin? dem force you to have a feelings for her in the first place?



see let me tell you, her past and that sex drive is what's pushing your affectionate and I'm confidently telling you that you're lusting around her, there is no genuine feelings for you to be having mixed feelings


this is just self affliction that need self control, you don't need any advise

Finding a virgin lady is one thing and her interest in him is another. Might be difficult though.

Stephenmoka4:
Finding a virgin lady is one thing and her interest in him is another. Might be difficult though.

when you trust a lady, interest/feelings we developed naturally but the same thing can be said about distrust, when you distrust a lady even if you've feeling for her, it will diminished when you must have had enough of her

Hi Op. I know how you feel because i was once in your shoes.
Before now i used to be a “Virgin finder”. Yeah I was only looking for virgins for serious relationships because I couldn’t bear the thoughts of someone sleeping with my potential wife in the past. I finally got a virgin but guess what? She messed up. She was a virgin in her “hoe phase” and every attempt to contain her proved abortive, she was sleeping around and I sacked her when I discovered.
Op I think you should let her past be. you're now in the picture, that’s the most important thing. If she loves and respects you, she will cut off her past and be a virtuous woman to you.
You may find a virgin who will double date and sleep around.

Ategberoson:




when you trust a lady, interest/feelings we developed naturally but the same thing can be said about distrust, when you distrust a lady even if you've feeling for her, it will diminished when you must have had enough of her

Every one have their standards or what they look for in people, not every guy can stand with a girl that drink, party and sleep around. Even if he loves her, there is a limit he doesn't go over.