nexta007:
Frankly, I don't support violence of any kind. I don't also condone taking advantage of one's gender (particularly being female) to win cheap points and sympathy. If your narrative is true, then it's unfortunate. All this feminism rubbish with the advent of social media and a collapsing foundation of true Value, I don't see a way out yet. Our parents have failed woefully. If our parents'focused more on raising balanced kids who knw their place and worth and are disciplined, we won't have such issues. Well, let the gentleman always be it. Seek ways to ward off such ladies without a physical confrontation.

MrColdsweat:
As a man, once a woman hits you, she ceases to be a woman. She's now an opponent that must be defeated.

Iyajelili:
I don't care about stupid gender equality but you're bitter towards women and your write up reeks of hate and disgust to the female gender. You should face the lady that turned you to a bitter soul at OP.

NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.

30naira:
Today, I attended a wedding ceremony. At the reception, the couple tried to maintain social distancing inside the reception hall, so there were limited seats. Most of the guests were in the open field outside. I sat behind two ladies, who should be in their mid or late twenties. I wasn't really paying much attention to them.

After a while, they left their seat and went out. After about 5 minutes two guys came, and sat down in the empty seats the ladies left. These guy are obviously in their early twenties.

About 30 minutes later, the two girls came back inside, I noticed that one of them has had a change of cloths. So obviously they went home and returned.

The girls demanded that the guys should leave the seat, because they got there first. It is their seat. As expected the guys bluntly refused. The girls started raising their voice and cursing. No one really cared to listen to them, the boys were busy consuming the drinks on the table.

One of the ladies got frustrated by the indifference of the boys, grabbed a glass of juice from the table and threw the content at the guy's face. The guy in turn opened the entire can, got up and started pouring it on the girl's head, ruining her make up and soaking her weavon.

Next thing we saw, the girl grabbed him by the collar with both hands, tearing at his skin with her nails. Before you could say Jack, the guy started raining down slaps on her face, she fought back too.

Before we could rush down, the girl had a bleeding nose and a red swollen face.

Now this is the part that particular offended me. Everyone that gathered round started heaping insult on the boy for beating up a girl, despite the fact that she initiated physical contact. Some women even went as far as threatening to arrest the boy. The entire narrative changed quickly. Some stupid men even tried to beat up the boys. I stood my ground and insisted that if anybody lays a finger on the boy, I ll see to it that everybody is kicked out of the reception.

It took the intervention of the officiating minister to calm the crowd. Everyone was insisting that he would pay for the girl's medical bills. Funny thing is that the guy had finger marks all over his neck. She was sobbing and attracting sympathy left and right, as if she was not the one barking like an animal moments earlier. In the end, it was the guys that were kicked out, the girls had the seat.

I get confused about this gender equality stuff, women want to be treated like men and treated differently at the same time. You can't claim equality only when it suits you. If it were two guys fighting, I'm sure they ll both be kicked out and nobody will spare a thought for the injured, there ll be no sobbing or comforting, it ll just be seen as two people disturbing the peace. But everyone is suddenly acting up to protect an equal specie, who is also the offender, and the females see nothing wrong in this inequality

Do you want equality or not?
Personally I respect and treat everyone equally, but if you initiate physical contact, male or female I will retaliate with the same ferocity.

thotsofnaij:
The truth is the guys were wrong. If a white woman had left here seat and come back the guys would have respectfully stood up. They won't do that for the ladies here because they see them as black.

WAIT! what i'm saying is the guys should have behaved like gentlemen towards the ladies (who knows what good things would have come out of it). They could have just said I didn't anyone was sitting here and the ladies might have said sorry we didn't leave anything here or that person over there saw us leave for a brief moment.

Slapping the lady is not manliness. You get no points for that. It just shows how lowly we see our women which is what women are fighting against.

Malaymoney:

hoew does these answer the question OP ask

bawajghai:
the thing is he's not a man. He's a boy

bigpicture001:


Plz say where u stand and stop deceptive statements...

I ask again.. Where do u stand on this..?

MrColdsweat:


Condemn those women or shut the fvck up.

xperiencelove:
That is women my brother. They claim gender equality when the situation suits them and play the weaker being to gather sympathy when they have messed up. Even house wives are worse.

NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.

thotsofnaij:
The truth is the guys were wrong. If a white woman had left here seat and come back the guys would have respectfully stood up. They won't do that for the ladies here because they see them as black.

WAIT! what i'm saying is the guys should have behaved like gentlemen towards the ladies (who knows what good things would have come out of it). They could have just said I didn't anyone was sitting here and the ladies might have said sorry we didn't leave anything here or that person over there saw us leave for a brief moment.

Slapping the lady is not manliness. You get no points for that. It just shows how lowly we see our women which is what women are fighting against.

UKBobo:
How it would work in better societies, is that you would have intervened and told the guys that they are sitting in the women's seats as they left an hour ago. The men would have got up and left. There would have been no incident.

Because you are believer in 'nothing consign me', you did not get involved and then turned into Achebe to write gender epistle gone wrong. Naija I hail una!

pocohantas:


Like I said, “they are all mad”. The women and the men. No exceptions. Now you shut up!

ubunja:
nockmedia is right. A Woman's power, socially, lies in the men willing to fight on her behalf. Unless you're prepared to fight her AND the betas and simps eager to die for her, just let it go.

Mastery of Emotions is key to survival. When you cant be provoked you can't be controlled.

Goalnaldo:
I read through page one and saw that only one lady commented. Can you see their hypocrisy?

thotsofnaij:
The truth is the guys were wrong. If a white woman had left here seat and come back the guys would have respectfully stood up. They won't do that for the ladies here because they see them as black.

WAIT! what i'm saying is the guys should have behaved like gentlemen towards the ladies (who knows what good things would have come out of it). They could have just said I didn't anyone was sitting here and the ladies might have said sorry we didn't leave anything here or that person over there saw us leave for a brief moment.

Slapping the lady is not manliness. You get no points for that. It just shows how lowly we see our women which is what women are fighting against.

ademasta:
Hmmm

Just consider yourself fighting with Yusuf Buhari, whether you are right or not, you will be dealt with by strong forces. That's how it plays out usually.

However, women are weaker vessels, no matter what transpires between you both, it will be perceived as if you are intentionally using naked powers on them. They will surely be listened to.

Have you considered great men that were thoroughly dealt with by women? Just because the man has bluntly refused her sex, probably in the office, and the next thing the woman would do is tear her own clothes to project rape. On this, never expect the man to be listened to. Both men and women will gather to condemn him.

The point is, women are stronger. Take it and be a man, or you leave it and be dealt with.

UKBobo:
How it would work in better societies, is that you would have intervened and told the guys that they are sitting in the women's seats as they left an hour ago. The men would have got up and left. There would have been no incident.

Because you are believer in 'nothing consign me', you did not get involved and then turned into Achebe to write gender epistle gone wrong. Naija I hail una!

Nyamuriflathead:


Ubunja you're wrong on this one. I nor gree at all

We need to change that nonesense perception

thotsofnaij:
The truth is the guys were wrong. If a white woman had left here seat and come back the guys would have respectfully stood up. They won't do that for the ladies here because they see them as black.

WAIT! what i'm saying is the guys should have behaved like gentlemen towards the ladies (who knows what good things would have come out of it). They could have just said I didn't anyone was sitting here and the ladies might have said sorry we didn't leave anything here or that person over there saw us leave for a brief moment.

Slapping the lady is not manliness. You get no points for that. It just shows how lowly we see our women which is what women are fighting against.

NockMedia:

You care too much about what others think of you. It is okay to be self-aware but the right thing to do is to avoid a retaliation or an escalation of the drama, and report her to a higher authority. You can go to the police station and make a complaint.

NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.