[quote author=purplecoco post=92039966]You worried over something you’re just assuming in your head and not sure about? Like are you even innocent here? Overthinking kills faster than anything, just be like Elsa in “Frozen” and let it go.[/quote

A trash advise from someone that have same experience maybe and don't want to be treated that way because she is a lady.

Do you know how it will feel when a guy See's his wife sex tape over the internet or been blackmail by his wife sex tape

Let Go Fire....Mama go please allow Men to talk.

Guy chop ur own share and think of the next thing to do with your life your not getting Younger

Oga memories bring back memories that is my 1 Kobe advice

tega2luv:
Advising from experience, most mistakes we niggas do is that we are sometime too committed knowing about the past of our lovers and if shes honest enough to tell you the truth it starts hurting us and we start judging them whenever they make little mistake in the relationship, I once told my ex gf that her past life is of no interest to me but the present and future and she was open to me and told me severally her stories with guys in the past at a point i asked myself weda this babe still get womb sef, i went ahead out of curiosity to ask her like how many guys have dated her before me she should not lie and she told me excluding me it's around 12 guys, my fellow niaralanders that's the day everything changed bcux I keep wondering those are the numbers of guys when don knack this kpekus when she date oo , how about the ones when she no date when still chop clean mouth, my brother from that moment onwards I begin get double mind and whenever shes not with me I hardly believe anything she tells me bcux I now see her as loosed...to cut long stories short, if you cannot deals with the past of your lover never bother yourself digging what will eventually destroy you, focus on her and forget her past but since you cannot deal with it already kindly let her go in peace, this life no balance at all.

Na sense be this....

Happening to me presently

SIR0:

Don't hesitate to advise a brother.
Kindly overlook any grammatical blunders

You've advised yourself nothing more can be added just move on and look for wife elsewhere. Obviously you are not matured enough to handle her past.

This is why I don't believe girls should tell it all some guys can't handle it. It's not her fault and it's neither your fault.

That's why if you have chosen to live someone, there are some part of her/his past you deliberately not talk about.

I Choose you from now going forward.


When you begin to delve into some aspects that has no positive impact on the present you find ursef in shoes as this

Her past is not that bad considering what is obtainable around, it is just that you happen to know it that is the source of your concerns, I will advise you to not to date her if all you know will be of concern to you and you can't put them behind, it is really not a bad thing to know her past but the problem here is it you are not sure you can handle them

I dont believe the lady is into you,that is why she was telling you all fucking life history,even if you still have your way into her,she will still dump you.

dboss12:
lbo people are extraordinary people, what a people! what a race,, A race that takes pride in domination, A race that take delight in domination, Dishonesty and cheating are in their blood, No matter how high the personality.

Where ever they go, they want to be the head, they only want to rule, and not to be rule , people with vaulting ambition, whose virtue is lost to wealth.

people whose aim is to colonise any land they set their feet, people whose plan is to force to slavery any race they come across, people who claim to be hard working than other races around the world

when Southern Cameroon was part of Nigeria, lbos were everywhere in the Cameroon, they took control of everything there, the native were regarded as stupid, and were pushed from towns to hamlets.

when the people had their freedom, lbos were told to quit at once, they were kicked out without delay, they were told to go back to their homes, stubborn ones were forced to go.

The people took over their affairs proved their wisdom to lbo race, they managed their affairs with success, they enjoyed in booms of wealth.

when lbos were in Northern Nigeria, the natives were nothing to them, Hausas and fulanis were victimised, Tivs and others were taken as fools, they were pushed out from gainful field.

Their ambition was set on ruling the country, to make other tribes in the federation remain firmly under lbo domination, they conspired and killed Nigeria leaders from other ethics group in the federation, lbo leaders remained in fortification.

On 15th January 1966, their wicked plan was put into action, General lronsi assumed power, and ruled federal Nigeria, lbo people rejoiced everywhere on their achievement of taking over the power.

They mocked Northerners in market squares, They humiliated, scorned and laughed at them, " where is Surdauna your leader" they asked, Thev Lion of the North is death, they laughed, full power is now in our hands, they bragged.


Northerners with tears and anger revolted, they would either live or die with their fathersz they would never live to bear the insult, lbos must at once quit their region, they took the irrevocable decision, to force lbos out of their region.

The people were then able to live, freely in their native lands, free from insults and domination, free from this wandering race of confusion.

On the 29th July 1966, sections of Nigeria army revolted, they kidnapped General lronsi, an lbo leader, as reprisal to lbos vicious acts to the events of January 1966.

July events brought suspension of the federal republic of Nigeria, the country remained without a leader, Three days elapse without a statement, Oh! what a pity was to federal Nigeria.

Praters were on all over the country, Christians and Moslems prayed on together, O! God, have mercy on your people, our country is now in terrible confusion, send us someone to save our nation.

Our father in Heaven with merciful eyes saw with pity the afflicted nation, answered with speed the fervent prayers, He sent out a man to save our country, in YAKUBU GOWON, a chosen saviour.

Seems you are insane. Why are you derailing this thread, you slowpoke!

SIR0:
There's a girl in my neighborhood who I can refer to as my home sister. We're so close. We share feelings, advice & keep nothing from one another, our love life inclusive.

She has had quite a number of relationships and got disappointed in all. I've had one relationship too.

There was a time I told her about my feelings towards her & she said she would have loved to accept my proposal but she couldn't handle double-dating. Well, I felt okay having let her know my feelings. I understood her decision & I don't think I was ready to be kept as a spare tyre, too. We moved on with our friendship.

We talked both clean and dirty stuff. She would even tell me anytime she felt Hot & needed to see her boyfriend for sex. In short, we are now having mixed feelings for one another. It could no longer be hidden on her face, too.

As a lady, she's expecting me to make the first advance. Making the move is not my problem but the thoughts of some dirty talks we've had together. The most worrying part was a time she got drunk with her friend at a birthday party & she mistakenly called one of her Ex-bfs (who she loved most) over & he took advantage of the moment to have his way with her again. Though she claimed she was not sure if something really happened between them but she noticed she had no pant on when she woke up in the morning, blablabla. To me, the guy is not that reliable as he is into drinking & smoking. She appears too innocent to be dating such a guy & I gave my advice. She might not really disclose all that transpired at the birthday party. I kept thinking the guy could have recorded the act, knowing well that she's stark drunk. What if our relationship leads to marriage & the guy begins threatening her with sex-tape or he leaks any sex tape involving her, how would I go about it? Aside her other sex life, this is most worrisome of all.

My thinking/guess may be wrong, yet I do not want to be caught unaware, to avoid stories that touch later. This is a dilemma for me. I truly love her but my happiness matters a lot.

Don't hesitate to advise a brother.
Kindly overlook any grammatical blunders.

Thanks

If your heart and head is stuck on her then my brother do your thing.. Person wey dey fear to fall, no fit run(No b curse o, na so ancient elders take talk am).

Tvegas:
You've advised yourself nothing more can be added just move on and look for wife elsewhere. Obviously you are not matured enough to handle her past.

This is why I don't believe girls should tell it all some guys can't handle it.

You said it all. The Op is not matured enough to handle her past.

I don't bother asking any lady I want to date about her past because I know I can't handle those thoughts as well.

If your heart and head is stuck on her then my brother do your thing.. Person wey dey fear to fall, no fit run(No b curse o, na so ancient elders take talk am).

You have a bad mind, who would have thought someone will make such video of her during sex. Well in my view, you would have done such act that why u are afraid.

tega2luv:
Advising from experience, most mistakes we niggas do is that we are sometime too committed knowing about the past of our lovers and if shes honest enough to tell you the truth it starts hurting us and we start judging them whenever they make little mistake in the relationship, I once told my ex gf that her past life is of no interest to me but the present and future and she was open to me and told me severally her stories with guys in the past at a point i asked myself weda this babe still get womb sef, i went ahead out of curiosity to ask her like how many guys have dated her before me she should not lie and she told me excluding me it's around 12 guys, my fellow niaralanders that's the day everything changed bcux I keep wondering those are the numbers of guys when don knack this kpekus when she date oo , how about the ones when she no date when still chop clean mouth, my brother from that moment onwards I begin get double mind and whenever shes not with me I hardly believe anything she tells me bcux I now see her as loosed...to cut long stories short, if you cannot deals with the past of your lover never bother yourself digging what will eventually destroy you, focus on her and forget her past but since you cannot deal with it already kindly let her go in peace, this life no balance at all.

such a mature response.

Damn! see body count sha. Women should understand the wise Chinese saying about different keys that can open one lock; You cannot be shagging every Ochuko and Odafe you meet. Unlike we men, it is not something every guy can handle. This is not the Western world where a lady can have an average of 50 body count and still get married. I can't deal with abeg.

As a guy self, I don't bed every chick that come my way because I got standards, but this chick right here, this chick look like someone who'd UnCloth herself before you even say Hi to her. I bet almost every guy in that hood has her nudes.
I used to have a friend like that, she's a sucker for fine guys, as in, she wouldn't even mind sleeping with me and my friend. I just reason the matter as FWB shii and she subscribed to it 100%. Thank goodness that my friend dull the matter, so I had her to myself until I left.

Damian457:
Hi Op. I know how you feel because I was once in your shoes.
Before now I used to be a “Virgin finder”. Yeah, I was only looking for virgins for serious relationships because I couldn’t bear the thoughts of someone sleeping with my potential wife in the past. I finally got a virgin but guess what? She messed up. She was a virgin in her “hoe phase” and every attempt to contain her proved abortive, she was sleeping around and I sacked her when I discovered.
Op I think you should let her past be. you're now in the picture, that’s the most important thing. If she loves and respects you, she will cut off her past and be a virtuous woman to you.
You may find a virgin who will double date and sleep around.

You get a sense... It's happening to me presently, I'm confused but I love this girl...
But thinking about my last relation which happens to be a virgin... The girl still Japa... And I really think we need to start respecting girls who take the pain of telling us there past truthfully because some of them will just lie give you and you will regret at the end of the day... Better still just don't ask about their past and you will be just fine... Nobody perfect o and na everyone get their past

OP, marry the HOE and love-vendor her out to your street people.

She's honest I must say but when you're finally a couple, I hope an ex boyfriend won't appear outta the blues when next she feels Hot and you not around.

purplecoco:
You worried over something you’re just assuming in your head and not sure about? Like are you even innocent here? Overthinking kills faster than anything, just be like Elsa in “Frozen” and let it go.

No!

You're wrong!

End up with a girl with body counts more more than two is the biggest mistake any guy can make.

Any girl who has had sex with more than two people is a dirty whòre and a leftover.
I'll rather just keep such girl as a baby mama Because, such girl is not worthy of marriage.

tega2luv:
Advising from experience, most mistakes we niggas do is that we are sometime too committed knowing about the past of our lovers and if shes honest enough to tell you the truth it starts hurting us and we start judging them whenever they make little mistake in the relationship, I once told my ex gf that her past life is of no interest to me but the present and future and she was open to me and told me severally her stories with guys in the past at a point i asked myself weda this babe still get womb sef, i went ahead out of curiosity to ask her like how many guys have dated her before me she should not lie and she told me excluding me it's around 12 guys, my fellow niaralanders that's the day everything changed bcux I keep wondering those are the numbers of guys when don knack this kpekus when she date oo , how about the ones when she no date when still chop clean mouth, my brother from that moment onwards I begin get double mind and whenever shes not with me I hardly believe anything she tells me bcux I now see her as loosed...to cut long stories short, if you cannot deals with the past of your lover never bother yourself digging what will eventually destroy you, focus on her and forget her past but since you cannot deal with it already kindly let her go in peace, this life no balance at all.

Good advice my brother. Went thru a similar thing over the past year. It tire person.

It go balance for u, no worry.

Eya ... he’s falling in love with a hoe!

Swears you dey my mind son

Uyi168:
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Stop deceiving yourself with love..
U suppose don get sense by now..

hahahaha

You can only get the best if you are clean.

Gels when like party and drinks are not trust worthy.

So even if the guy bleeped her, so what. Unless you marry a virgin, if not any other girl you marry would have been bleeped extensively by a guy before, even if it is only one guy she has dated before.

A man who cannot be decisive about who to bleep or not and comes to a public forum for guidance is not yet initiated into manhood and; I expect members of this forum to be all adults. Sorry, hope you have something doing aside thinking loud in nairaland?

Kriss216:

You're the only sensible person on Nairaland today. Come and marry my girlfriend.

Here is the ABC of Salvation:

A-Acknowledge the fact that you are a sinner and that you can not save yourself. Psalms 51: 5
B- Believe that it is only Jesus that can save you. Romans 10:10, Acts 4: 12
C- Confess your sins, repent from them and be converted (Never go back to them). Romans 10: 9. Call upon Jesus to forgive you and be saved today (Romans 10:13).

Follow these steps now please! Tomorrow may be too late! Death may come, Rapture may take place before you act! Don't delay!!!

DaddyRochie1642:
Am out of ideas...this your case strong

And even lacks any iota of sense in it. Is sex tape your problem or you want to get married? If them disturb you with sex tape, you no know where police station dey? Shioor!

Rubbish!