Uyi168:
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Stop deceiving yourself with love..
U suppose don get sense by now..

purplecoco:
You worried over something you’re just assuming in your head and not sure about? Like are you even innocent here? Overthinking kills faster than anything, just be like Elsa in “Frozen” and let it go.

purplecoco:
But you allowed to have countless body counts, right? Hypocrite.

SIR0:
There's a girl in my neighborhood who I can refer to as my home sister. We're so close. We share feelings, advice & keep nothing from one another, our love life inclusive.

She has had quite a number of relationships and got disappointed in all. I've had one relationship too.

There was a time I told her about my feelings towards her & she said she would have loved to accept my proposal but she couldn't handle double-dating. Well, I felt okay having let her know my feelings. I understood her decision & I don't think I was ready to be kept as a spare tyre, too. We moved on with our friendship.

We talked both clean and dirty stuff. She would even tell me anytime she felt Hot & needed to see her boyfriend for sex. In short, we are now having mixed feelings for one another. It could no longer be hidden on her face, too.

As a lady, she's expecting me to make the first advance. Making the move is not my problem but the thoughts of some dirty talks we've had together. The most worrying part was a time she got drunk with her friend at a birthday party & she mistakenly called one of her Ex-bfs (who she loved most) over & he took advantage of the moment to have his way with her again. Though she claimed she was not sure if something really happened between them but she noticed she had no pant on when she woke up in the morning, blablabla. To me, the guy is not that reliable as he is into drinking & smoking. She appears too innocent to be dating such a guy & I gave my advice. She might not really disclose all that transpired at the birthday party. I kept thinking the guy could have recorded the act, knowing well that she's stark drunk. What if our relationship leads to marriage & the guy begins threatening her with sex-tape or he leaks any sex tape involving her, how would I go about it? Aside her other sex life, this is most worrisome of all.

My thinking/guess may be wrong, yet I do not want to be caught unaware, to avoid stories that touch later. This is a dilemma for me. I truly love her but my happiness matters a lot.

Don't hesitate to advise a brother.
Kindly overlook any grammatical blunders.
Noted!
Thanks

tega2luv:
Advising from experience, most mistakes we niggas do is that we are sometime too committed knowing about the past of our lovers and if shes honest enough to tell you the truth it starts hurting us and we start judging them whenever they make little mistake in the relationship, I once told my ex gf that her past life is of no interest to me but the present and future and she was open to me and told me severally her stories with guys in the past at a point i asked myself weda this babe still get womb sef, i went ahead out of curiosity to ask her like how many guys have dated her before me she should not lie and she told me excluding me it's around 12 guys, my fellow niaralanders that's the day everything changed bcux I keep wondering those are the numbers of guys when don knack this kpekus when she date oo , how about the ones when she no date when still chop clean mouth, my brother from that moment onwards I begin get double mind and whenever shes not with me I hardly believe anything she tells me bcux I now see her as loosed...to cut long stories short, if you cannot deals with the past of your lover never bother yourself digging what will eventually destroy you, focus on her and forget her past but since you cannot deal with it already kindly let her go in peace, this life no balance at all.

BoboNogoDie:

Why should anyone have multiple body counts?
You can't have multiple body counts and expect me to treat you special or love you passionately.
Virginity is the most precious gift a woman can give a man - see Regina and Ned...
If you lose your virginity to a nobody and irrelevant person, that's your business. I can't love some who has lost her values and virtue to someone not even important in her life. I hate leftovers.

Ategberoson:
and you're forbidden from dating a Virgin? dem force you to have a feelings for her in the first place?



see let me tell you, her past and that sex drive is what's pushing your affectionate and I'm confidently telling you that you're lusting around her, there is no genuine feelings for you to be having mixed feelings


this is just self affliction that need self control, you don't need any advise

nnaemekanwachuk:


Get brain... You no want..

Vyzz:






In my own world.... Overthinking saves....



I love to think things over and over and know what to do.... Call it a plan B....


We don't just jump into things

DaddyRochie1642:
Am out of ideas...this your case strong

czarr:
Let me be honest with you, even though you marry her, one day when you guys have a very bad argument she'll call the guy and he'll take advantage of your situation, if she misses him sef she'll create drama and chaos for an excuse to have space to visit him (she'll come back to you though, because guys like that won't keep her trust me)

He has imprinted on her and there is nothing you can do about it, rid yourself of emotions they are not useful to a man, wear a garment of self respect...that girl is not for you, you need a girl you'd imprint and groom for yourself if not you'd always take second place in her heart......you may not even be her 4th choice.

Feelings blind you from the truth, purge yourself of feelings so you won't be distracted from your purpose pursuing another man's property....let me ask you this why didn't she call you when she was drunk.....you think she is stupid, she called him on purpose because she wanted him to Fvck her, so I assure you he didn't take advantage of her.

He is the typical bad boy who smokes and drinks but wouldn't commit to her....DON'T SET YOURSELF UP.

Youngpo413:
introvert?

tega2luv:
Advising from experience, most mistakes we niggas do is that we are sometime too committed knowing about the past of our lovers and if shes honest enough to tell you the truth it starts hurting us and we start judging them whenever they make little mistake in the relationship, I once told my ex gf that her past life is of no interest to me but the present and future and she was open to me and told me severally her stories with guys in the past at a point i asked myself weda this babe still get womb sef, i went ahead out of curiosity to ask her like how many guys have dated her before me she should not lie and she told me excluding me it's around 12 guys, my fellow niaralanders that's the day everything changed bcux I keep wondering those are the numbers of guys when don knack this kpekus when she date oo , how about the ones when she no date when still chop clean mouth, my brother from that moment onwards I begin get double mind and whenever shes not with me I hardly believe anything she tells me bcux I now see her as loosed...to cut long stories short, if you cannot deals with the past of your lover never bother yourself digging what will eventually destroy you, focus on her and forget her past but since you cannot deal with it already kindly let her go in peace, this life no balance at all.

czarr:
Let me be honest with you, even though you marry her, one day when you guys have a very bad argument she'll call the guy and he'll take advantage of your situation, if she misses him sef she'll create drama and chaos for an excuse to have space to visit him (she'll come back to you though, because guys like that won't keep her trust me)

He has imprinted on her and there is nothing you can do about it, rid yourself of emotions they are not useful to a man, wear a garment of self respect...that girl is not for you, you need a girl you'd imprint and groom for yourself if not you'd always take second place in her heart......you may not even be her 4th choice.

Feelings blind you from the truth, purge yourself of feelings so you won't be distracted from your purpose pursuing another man's property....let me ask you this why didn't she call you when she was drunk.....you think she is stupid, she called him on purpose because she wanted him to Fvck her, so I assure you he didn't take advantage of her.

He is the typical bad boy who smokes and drinks but wouldn't commit to her....DON'T SET YOURSELF UP.

SIR0:
There's a girl in my neighborhood who I can refer to as my home sister. We're so close. We share feelings, advice & keep nothing from one another, our love life inclusive.

She has had quite a number of relationships and got disappointed in all. I've had one relationship too.

There was a time I told her about my feelings towards her & she said she would have loved to accept my proposal but she couldn't handle double-dating. Well, I felt okay having let her know my feelings. I understood her decision & I don't think I was ready to be kept as a spare tyre, too. We moved on with our friendship.

We talked both clean and dirty stuff. She would even tell me anytime she felt Hot & needed to see her boyfriend for sex. In short, we are now having mixed feelings for one another. It could no longer be hidden on her face, too.

As a lady, she's expecting me to make the first advance. Making the move is not my problem but the thoughts of some dirty talks we've had together. The most worrying part was a time she got drunk with her friend at a birthday party & she mistakenly called one of her Ex-bfs (who she loved most) over & he took advantage of the moment to have his way with her again. Though she claimed she was not sure if something really happened between them but she noticed she had no pant on when she woke up in the morning, blablabla. To me, the guy is not that reliable as he is into drinking & smoking. She appears too innocent to be dating such a guy & I gave my advice. She might not really disclose all that transpired at the birthday party. I kept thinking the guy could have recorded the act, knowing well that she's stark drunk. What if our relationship leads to marriage & the guy begins threatening her with sex-tape or he leaks any sex tape involving her, how would I go about it? Aside her other sex life, this is most worrisome of all.

My thinking/guess may be wrong, yet I do not want to be caught unaware, to avoid stories that touch later. This is a dilemma for me. I truly love her but my happiness matters a lot.

Don't hesitate to advise a brother.
Kindly overlook any grammatical blunders.

Thanks

vhuqnl:

are you a virgin yourself?