GOFRONT:
SM has done and will continue to do more harm to marriages than good.....

I can't come and give my SM password to my wife........Even me sef dey fear d kind of big big skeletons i have inside my own Cabod..

bukatyne:


@bold:

Hahahahahahaha

You have not seen a woman totally breadwinning and still cowering before her husband? Or facing the issues in bold?

pocohantas:


He who comes to equity, must come with clean hands.

I just didn’t want to add that cheating partners are the most suspicious people.

Mimiliciously:


I don't nag, I don't stress him, I let him be. But he just won't let me be with this social media thing. And if I give in, will I keep giving in to his every whim.

Elder0001:
Fake story.

Tales by moonlight everywhere.

LordKO:
- Show me a cynical/suspicious person and I will point to you a perfidious person - a discerning person shouldn't be mistaken for a cynical/suspicious though.

- Show me a sententious person and I will point to you a hypocritically disingenuous person.

- Show me a paranoid person and I will point to you a person who has penchant for subjugation.

OP, neither he nor you are of strong ethical leanings, so endurance and tolerance rather than enjoyment and celebration will persist in the union, until . . . it's well.

truthsayer009:


In this scenario, she chose to cower before her husband & anytime she wants go haywire, she has the liberty to.

ImaIma1:


That is a silly request. I think it is both; insecurity and control.

After almost 5yrs of marriage, my SM accounts still have my maiden name. My husband sees it and doesn't flinch. The most important documents have his names.

Some people major on the minor and minor on the major.

bukatyne:




She most likely won't.

Men like the OP's husband don't 'pretend' before marriage. They are so confident they are God's gift to women that they will lay their cards on the table.

OP has been cowering, let her continue.

If she refused to retrieve her line because he said so, what really is SM password that the OP is fretting about except if she is a SM influencer, celebrity or it is a business account?

Mimiliciously:


1. He pretended o. The moment bride price was paid was when I started seeing signs that he was a control freak.


2. If I was the cowering kind, I would have submitted password two years ago. He can't relinquish everything in the name of marriage. My social media is my social media. He can do whatever he likes with his, let me do what I like with mine.

bukatyne:


But you started this marriage with giving in to his whims.

Continue to 'don't nag, don't stress and let him be.'

If he wants the password or wants you to post his pictures, you have to keep giving him to the whims.

If you want to break free, then you have to overhaul the marriage and start afresh.

Do you have the strength and tenacity for that?

Mimiliciously:


He pretended o. The moment bride price was paid was when I started seeing signs that he is a control freak. I didn't want to marry him so he did everything on the book to get me. Story changed after he got me.


If I was the cowering kind, I would have submitted password two years ago. I can't relinquish everything in the name of marriage. My social media is my social media. He can do whatever he likes with his, let me do what I like with mine.

Mimiliciously:


He pretended o. The moment bride price was paid was when I started seeing signs that he is a control freak. I didn't want to marry him so he did everything on the book to get me. Story changed after he got me.


If I was the cowering kind, I would have submitted password two years ago. I can't relinquish everything in the name of marriage. My social media is my social media. He can do whatever he likes with his, let me do what I like with mine.

Mimiliciously:
Is it right for my hubby to ask for passwords to my social media passwords yet refuse to supply his.

This is a very dicey situation and I don't want it to lead to unecessary issues.

I love my privacy alot and hardly post pictures. I never post him and he never posts me too but he always blows out my not posting him out of proportion. He's obsessed with my social media accounts and I don't even care about his. I also feel giving him him my password will have him posting his picture at will, which I wouldn't like.

What do you guys think.

bukatyne:




She most likely won't.

Men like the OP's husband don't 'pretend' before marriage. They are so confident they are God's gift to women that they will lay their cards on the table.

OP has been cowering, let her continue.

If she refused to retrieve her line because he said so, what really is SM password that the OP is fretting about except if she is a SM influencer, celebrity or it is a business account?

CsRockefeller:


When you push too hard to get a lady to marry you, this is what you get. As far as she is concerned she never wanted you at first.

frozen70:


You have a right to your privacy

You can have so many social media accounts with different emails

Creat one and give him the password and another one which is strictly for your eyes only

If you keep refusing he will keep suspecting you

So men are naughty especially when they feel you are too happy being on your lane

frozen70:


You have a right to your privacy

You can have so many social media accounts with different emails

Creat one and give him the password and another one which is strictly for your eyes only

If you keep refusing he will keep suspecting you

So men are naughty especially when they feel you are too happy being on your lane

truthsayer009:


Ogbeni! did you read the part he said he married her, not the other way round & he will not share his own password but expect her to share hers.

This is Master Slave mentality in 2020.

Nackzy:
There's no trust again in your marriage
You want the truth?
Your Husband is cheating on you and you're Cheating on your husband as well

Liposure:
chop knuckle

bukatyne:


@bold:

I assume you meant some:

Doesn't reduce the hilariousness of it though. I imagine such a man thinking of the next thinv to disrupt peace when his wife is smiling too much.

frozen70:


You have a right to your privacy

You can have so many social media accounts with different emails

Creat one and give him the password and another one which is strictly for your eyes only

If you keep refusing he will keep suspecting you

So men are naughty especially when they feel you are too happy being on your lane

mariahAngel:


Even as a married woman?
The only wrong I see is that the husband is not ready to share his password, otherwise there's nothing there.
Unless of course, they both have things to hide...but na wah o!

Imagine an issue as trivial as sharing passwords causing trouble in a marriage...

CsRockefeller:


Damn!

Seems you already want out. I can bet that your marriage is loveless and tasteless.

To the guys especially, d bolded enforces the reason why you shouldn't date, let alone marry anyone who isn't keen on spending d rest of their lives with you. Don't push it, don't try to over convince any lady with words, money, gifts or attention. If she isn't interested, it's best you let her be.

When people do certain things with conviction it helps them to fight when things go sour. If I wanted to read Economics in school and I get admitted to read Economics, during the tough periods once I remember this is what I chose, this is what I wanted, my choice, it helps and gives me that strength to fight on and pass it.

When you push too hard to get a lady to marry you, this is what you get. As far as she is concerned she never wanted you at first.

In summary, if she doesn't show interest, desire, if she isn't keen please walk away, don't even ask twice. It's for your own good o.

Let him that have ears hear.

Mimiliciously:


He refuses to give me his and when I ask, he says it's because he's the one marrying me and not other way around. That he has the rights to my social media but I don't have the right to his.
This is really stressing me out. When people are having real issues in their unions, mine is social media. In the past this same issue have snowballed into something ugly. We were even on the verge of breakup. He says I disrespect him because I don't post his pictures. At some point, I had to block him and lied that I've deleted the account so I can have peace. But he later figured out I blocked him and continued stressing me about it.

JidennaJason:


If you're not hiding anything from him, then hand over the password... It's really that simple.

Mimiliciously:


I'm not cheating

Sixfeetbelle:


It's really not that simple. If he won't give up his password, he doesn't have the right to get hers. Stop pushing the "men are lords" mentality on this thread.

Mimiliciously:
He has never posted me. There's no sign on his page that he's even married. I never obsess about that. Why is he obsessed with my SM? I've posted him on my page a couple of times but deleted when I thought we were breaking up. I just refused to post back because I can't be doing post and delete. Why can't he just let me be!