The idea of a wife material by many men is not different from the idea of having a slave in the house... Men want a woman who will be able to wake up as early as possible when others are still asleep, do the house chores and tend to the needs of the kids, the husband and after serving her household, she will go out to make ends meet and latter come back home to make sure her kids and husband are well taken care of and this includes cooking, washing their clothes and lots more... Men want a Nanny, A cook, A laundry lady, house cleaner, An errand lady, Sex provider and many more in one lady who is considered a weaker sex and as if this is not stressful enough, most men would rather boast about the ability of their lady in washing hard fabrics with bare hands, they will talk about how they so much love a lady because she can pound yam the natural way and will be proud to talk about how good their lady is in using archaic methods to prepare their meals... And the worst twist is that even if the lady is pregnant, they will still watch her do these tasks.

So I ask: is there anything different between a wife material and a slave? Will heaven fall if the man assists his wife in the home front?

Does common sense not tell the man that he needs to make life easier for his wife by getting a washing machine, a vacuum cleaner, and several other home/cooking appliances that will make life easier for her. Must a lady even know how to cook before you tag her wife material? What if she just can't cook or is the ability to cook part of success in life?

Please don't get it twisted, I'm not here to advise ladies to be redundant in their homes. Every married lady must be a home keeper, ensuring that her kids and husband are her priority...but nevertheless, in my opinion, a wife material means a gentle, submissive wife who will love you for who you are, tolerate your weaknesses, a Wife Material is a woman who is about her business, can hold her own in a conversation, is generous and can handle money well. A woman who will put your needs first and values her marriage so much that she won't defile it by being unfaithful... And just as the book of proverbs 31 says,...'' a virtuous woman is one who leads her home with integrity, discipline, and more and all the virtues she is practicing are aimed at making the life of her husband better, teaching her children, and serving God'' this is never the same as having a slave in the house in the name of wife material.

My prayer for every man reading this is that God provides for you so that you will make life easier for your woman so that you can look beyond that slave-like quality that many men use to qualify a wife material.


I hope this makes sense.

I don't think majority of us will understand the point you're trying to push.


This gospel is highly not accepted.

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Toks2008:
Stay tuned.

This will be interesting

I'll park my car here

Toks be ready for some serious bashing

UDUJ:


This will be interesting

I'll park my car here

Toks be ready for some serious bashing

I am ready, not new to me.

I enjoy most of your threads.

Marriages of old were stable because our grandmothers accepted the roles of slaves and it was very easy for them to do that. They were mostly what Oyibos call home makers but this is unacceptable and overwhelming to today's wives who equally work hard to put food on the table just like the men.
In my opinion, men should sit and live up to the expectations of today's world.
How can a pregnant woman be cleaning and washing while her husband sits and watch tv?
How can a man not help out in the kitchen when his wife is overwhelmed cooking several dishes at a time?
How can a man sit and watch while his wife bathes the kids, dresses them and takes them to school?
These things can be done and they won't make someone less a man, it's all about common sense.

Dew04:
I enjoy most of your threads.

Most!

Are you sure?

Lengthy but makes sense. No rebuttal from me

Next time please attach a tldr.

Thats what women are meant to be, so if women arent slaves, men shouldnt be breadwinners, you put it like women doing house work is slavery, the men doing the breadwinning what is that called?

In a home

A womans job: cooking, caring for kids, child bearing, maintaning the home

A mans job: breadwinning, making money and provision for the family.

Isnt it balanced, OP you are just a simp, ass licking women wont get you anywhere, so you want men to make money and care for the home as women sit down and watch you(their slave) do everything up to washing their undies. Nonsense

A woman with standard,self esteem and source of income can not be enslaved. It is either she kick out the archaic man's ass or the Man conform with her set standards. For example a woman who owns and uses washing machine and other house chores gadgets can not be expected to wash clothes with bare hands or do things traditionally by any Man.

You are responsible for how people treat you.

CorGier:
Next time please attach a tldr.

what is tldr

hashtagged:
Thats what women are meant to be, so if women arent slaves, men shouldnt be breadwinners, you put it like women doing house work is slavery, the men doing the breadwinning what is that called?

In a home

A womans job: cooking, caring for kids, child bearing, maintaning the home

A mans job: breadwinning, making money and provision for the family.

Isnt it balanced, OP you are just a simp, ass licking women wont get you anywhere, so you want men to make money and care for the home as women sit down and watch you(their slave) do everything up to washing their undies. Nonsense

What happens in situations in which the woman is the bread winner, she provides and contribute to the family's finances.? Should she be left alone to do her supposed natural roles too?

Palema007:
A woman with standard,self esteem and source of income can not be enslaved. It is either she kick out the archaic man's ass or the Man conform with her set standards. For example a woman who owns and uses washing machine and other house chores gadgets can not be expected to wash clothes with bare hands or do things traditionally by any Man.

You are responsible for how people treat you.

Lazy wife.

Probably just 1/2 yard of wife material

Toks2008:


Most!

Are you sure?

Yes.

Hashtagged: stop being silly. This is the 21st century. Life isn't black and white.
What about women who work alongside their husbands? What those whose income provides sustenance for the family? You make it seem as though there are no female doctors, bankers, executives, engineers, etc.
Even the petty traders; the women with hair salons and stores. Aren't they sharing the responsibility of the breadwinner?
Nowadays, several women support their partners by earning. If they do that (which is expected seeing as you all complain about Nigerian women's financial dependency) how is the scale balanced?
Most men believe domestic chores are beneath them. Don't you find it odd that they expect a woman to "cook, care for the kids, bear children, maintain the home" as well as go to the work?

Palema007:
What happens in situations in which the woman is the bread winner, she provides and contribute to the family's finances.? Should she be left alone to do her supposed natural roles too?

Exactly, they are so narrow minded. They use that "bread winner" phrase to exonerate themselves. As if women aren't earning nowadays.
Some even take over completely when their husbands lose their job.

Palema007:
What happens in situations in which the woman is the bread winner, she provides and contribute to the family's finances.? Should she be left alone to do her supposed natural roles too?

Then the man does the babysitting and caring for kids

Although i havnt seen female breadwinners or they are extremely rare

AfroKnight:


Lazy wife.

Probably just 1/2 yard of wife material

Lol.... I'm very Lazy oooo. 1/2 yard is too much, them never see raw resources to produce my own material.

i think the wife material demands or the slave as a wife are mostly seen online written or posted by kids or single bachelors for life that aint married and dnt know what it takes to be in marriage because everyone this days with Internet have opinion..
the fact is that when you get married, both would adapt to the basic needs of the House when it comes to chores or the workload because no real man would like to see a wife that he truly loved being a slave for him..
if you notice this days we do see some men in the kitchen, taking and bringing thier kids from school and also some men do household shopping maybe because the wife is busy or stressed unlike back then during the days of our fathers...
all am saying is that both have to understand each other for the marriage to work, and this your wife material post isn't a factor for a successful marriage but instead is just a jibe for some guys to remain bachelors for life because they wont be happy seeing thier own sister playing such role..
dts ma opinion...

Dew04:
Yes.

Hashtagged: stop being silly. This is the 21st century. Life isn't black and white.
What about women who work alongside their husbands? What those whose income provides sustenance for the family? You make it seem as though there are no female doctors, bankers, executives, engineers, etc.
Even the petty traders; the women with hair saloons and stores. Aren't they sharing the responsibility of the breadwinner?
Nowadays, several women support their partners by earning. If they do that (which is expected seeing as you all complain about Nigerian women's financial dependency) how is the scale balanced?
Most men believe domestic chores are beneath them. Don't you find it odd that they expect a woman to "cook, care for the kids, bear children, maintain the home" as well as go to the work?

Am not being silly if only the man is breadwinning the woman should do the chores and care for kids.
If they both breadwin EQUALLY then they can split the chores.
But seriously how many women have you seen providing(finicially) for the family, please answer sincerely and not cause you want to support ladies, i have seen women with jobs and stores, yet the man still provides solely, And even if the wife was to provide in place of the man for even a short time like a month, that man would be emasculated and treated like a second rate human.

Palema007:
Lol.... I'm very Lazy oooo. 1/2 yard is too much, them never see raw resources to produce my own material.

Hmmm

Show me a man whose wife contributes meaningfully to the home, who is not pompous, proud and way out of order ... And I will show u a man who is willing to do everything to ensure donestic work doesn't kill her...what we have these days are women who don't want to contribute to the home from their earnings but expect the man to understand that they cant be available to handle domestics at home due to this same work/career

Toks2008:


what is tldr

Too Long; Didn't Read.

Dew04:
Yes.

Hashtagged: stop being silly. This is the 21st century. Life isn't black and white.
What about women who work alongside their husbands? What those whose income provides sustenance for the family? You make it seem as though there are no female doctors, bankers, executives, engineers, etc.
Even the petty traders; the women with hair saloons and stores. Aren't they sharing the responsibility of the breadwinner?
Nowadays, several women support their partners by earning. If they do that (which is expected seeing as you all complain about Nigerian women's financial dependency) how is the scale balanced?
Most men believe domestic chores are beneath them. Don't you find it odd that they expect a woman to "cook, care for the kids, bear children, maintain the home" as well as go to the work?

Are you sure you are responding to this thread?

hashtagged:


Then the man does the babysitting and caring for kids

Although i havnt seen female breadwinners or they are extremely rare

You know just how impossible and untrue that is. Will men do that?
Yes female breadwinners aren't that rare, they exist and are very common.While some hardly show it to cover up for their husbands,some are very obvious.

However, I believe in a home where both parties provide, they should automatically do the chores together. That way no spouse will be over burdened or pushed to limits.

Na Una no
Na money I Dey find.

CorGier:


Too Long; Didn't Read.

As they say, ''If you want to hide vital info from a typical African, hide it in a book and they will never find it''

Cos they are too lazy to read.


If this short thing is too long for you then you wont even read it if i is shortened.

AfroKnight:


Hmmm

Na your type go dey demand make wife use grinding stone over blender.

hashtagged:
if only the man is breadwinning the woman should do the chores and care for kids.

and be treated with respect. She's sharing the responsibility of running the home. He should acknowledge her efforts.

If they both breadwin EQUALLY then they can split the chores.

how many men would wash the dishes or soiled linens if their wives are working alongside them?

But seriously how many women have you seen providing for the family, please answer sincerely and not cause you want to support ladies, i have seen women with jobs and stores, yet the man still provides solely

I've met several women. Majority of the stores and saloons I patronize are owned by women. Where does the money the earn go to?

And even if the wife was to provide in place of the man for even a short time like a month that man would be emasculated and treated like a second rate human

most men don't treat their wives like second rate humans? Why?